Home Forums Hunting & Shooting Hunter's Campfire How long did you wait to propose to your girlfriend?

when I reached the age of consent.

P.

You've been living with her for 8 years ago IIRC, thats a wife.... if you didn't know it. Sorry to have to tell you.

My wife does not validate me....no hunting ground, not big well....still the best thing I ever did was commit to her for life. I'd toss all my hunting and guns for her in an instant. yet I will never have to, she hunts, buys her own guns etc... last purchase was glock 20SF....and a 22 upper for plinking with it, plus found her own holster style for its use.

She ask me

The bump was plenty evident as she was about 5 mos. pregnant when we got married

It was our 3rd kid

I still love her & she tolerates me

Knew each other informally at college for a couple of years. Ran cross-country together for a season, started dating, engaged in February, married in...umm...I think it was May.

22 years ago, if my math is correct.

What do you have to do to take it back?

Dated for a year before a year of training minimized the time we had together. Kept dating, but I'd only see her once or twice a week. Didn't know where I was going to be sent, and a few of the options were not compatible with her. Thankfully, I got sent somewhere we could both be happy, but didn't know how she was going to like moving away from her college town and the deep social circle she had there. Moved in February, she came out by March, bought a home in early December, asked her to marry me a couple days before Christmas of that year. So all totaled about 3 years of dating. Plus another year and a half before marriage.

Same as Ace, I KNEW after a few dates. So did She. 6 months of dating and married after a year.

Not log enough..

Less than a month. Feb 19, 2017 will be 45 years ........................

Too long the first time; trying to get finances and all sorted out. Second GF, it just came about as a natural fit, and I am pretty sure the better choice overall. 44 years now, no regrets. That is one of those things where a small difference in path leads to a way different finish.

Not true,it was lunch time before I got there. But then again I did have to come from Alabama.

New her about a month, asked her on out first date. That was 38 years ago.

Six weeks. After being married to her for nearly 32 years, I wonder what took me so long.

John

9 years for me, just to be " engaged" no plan to be married and pay the tax to the state.

I've been married and it was a struggle with an addict. Kinda gave up on that it was a mess.

This time, I've been unable to convince myself of the need for the license. She will always be my girlfriend for life, We have been together long enough to put her on my employees health benefits, and she can also now drive my company vehicle.

We are each others full beneficiaries in all financial and medical requirements, and we each own our own homes. Engagement is likely as far as it will go. However....... the words never and always are often troublesome for me.

Seems like the plan is working and I really do not fully grasp the "marriage" concept when there are no mutually created children involved. Am I to assume that paying the tax to the state gets us anything we don't already share?

Neither of us is ever going to leave the other, However if some kind of catastrophic event occurred, either of us could just walk away with no legal marriage "license" to cause that huge court battle.

As far as "Common Law" well some states may have different ways to manage this. I've watched this play out twice in my life in Washington State with good friends. In neither case was the battle even close to having that marriage license. The couples were sent to mediation to divide up the things they owned mutually, whatever they owned separately remained theirs. Neither man lost any property, or savings, retirement, investments, etc. Actually neither had to even share what he actually had in his personal bank account. With the exception of the joint account that one fella had with his girlfriend.

A third guy that was living with a lady 10 years, but not full time as they both owned homes, had the whole thing thrown out as not relevant to common law. Given my options, I'll choose the common law battle every time over the purchase of the license! Seems to me the court struggles with the concept of common law division of property.

Imagine the simple divide of property. Versus the complicated mess that 35 dollar tax will cause you!

As it is for us, I refer to her as my wife and girlfriend interchangeably. Partner sounds to gay. I must admit those gays really helped with the healthcare and car permission! Our company is politically correct and cannot discriminate against a straight couple now ( us) for health care rights! I was the first one to challenge this when I managed to get her on my benefits.

I have recently started to refer to her as my undocumented wife. That really screws peoples understanding of English up!

Met in March, proposed December, married July. 21 years.




P

My gal is sitll auditioning.................

Born and raised. I guess you could say I had my reasons... married ten years now and wouldn't change a thing. Precious, ain't it...?

I never proposed,she did.I took a long time to answer her.Made sure she understood I was not going to change my hunting,fishing habits.

When my wife and I started dating we both told each other we would never get married anytime soon.

Four months later, we were engaged. Six months later we were married. 25 years later (this July) we are still married.

I got the better end of the deal, and she got stuck with my dumb ass.