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#6582628 - 06/10/12 10:13 AM Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: saddlesore]
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Originally Posted By: saddlesore
Originally Posted By: Itasca
Thanks all for the replys. They make my decision a bit easier.

Part of the problem is, our son owes me over 15k. Any suggestions?


Tell him that $15K is his wedding present and payment for the wedding also.If he is in debt $15 ,he sure does not need a big bash for a wedding.


Saddlesore nailed it.

L.W.
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#6582997 - 06/10/12 12:20 PM Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: Itasca]
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Originally Posted By: Itasca
Our son is getting married this fall. I know about a fall wedding, busy hunting at that time (LOL).

Any way I paid the vast majority of the wedding when our daughter got married 10 years ago. It turns out that our son's bride parents will only chip in a small amount. I feel the burden is put on me. My wife & son are keeping silent on the issue.
Any thoughts??



My wife and I paid for the wedding. So far we have never asked her parents or mine for any money. I much prefer it this way.
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#6583198 - 06/10/12 01:48 PM Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: Itasca]
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It turns out that our son's bride parents will only chip in a small amount.
Tell 'em they're having a small wedding, then.

I'm paying for my daughter's right now. Gotta go change for it now. I sure wouldn't step in for my son's, unless I wanted to, and I can't see that happening anytime soon.
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#6583345 - 06/10/12 02:55 PM Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: RickyD]
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Thanks all for the opinions. I'll let you know how things turn out.

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#6583795 - 06/10/12 05:55 PM Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: Itasca]
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One of the funniest toasts I ever heard was a guy that said "and above all, I hope that all your kids are born naked"

maybe I was drunk....

good luck!

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#6584015 - 06/10/12 07:04 PM Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: 308scout]
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When my BIL got married, they were struggling to finance the thing. He'd asked several of us close relatives to be groomsmen but he was having a real hard time figuring out how to afford the tuxes. I told him to go with the black suits that we all had and put the money to a better use. It didn't take him long to agree.
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#6584699 - 06/11/12 05:11 AM Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: 16bore]
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Originally Posted By: 16bore
One of the funniest toasts I ever heard was a guy that said "and above all, I hope that all your kids are born naked"

Woulda made for an interesting evening if it was from the step-father of the bride.
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#6584715 - 06/11/12 05:19 AM Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: rost495]
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Originally Posted By: rost495
Originally Posted By: sactoller
My brother told me after he got married, that he figured there are two reasons to get married, love or money....he keeps telling me to go for the money!

laugh


He is wrong.


well getting married for sex is like buying a jumbo jet for the free peanuts
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#6584790 - 06/11/12 05:57 AM Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: Itasca]
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Originally Posted By: Itasca
Our son is getting married this fall. I know about a fall wedding, busy hunting at that time (LOL).


I had a relative get married on the first day of archery season once! eek

And he's a hunter!! shocked

Funny what the bride can talk guys in to...

As for me; my wife & I paid for it. That way, we got to make the rules. wink

Very small (10 people), outdoors, beside Oak Creek in Sedona.

As others have said, weddings are just very expensive parties for your friends and a whole bunch of other people that you barely know.

We put the money in to building a new house, and taking a 10 year (rather than 30 year) mortgage to pay it off. Money MUCH wiser spent than a big elaborate wedding.

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#6584884 - 06/11/12 06:46 AM Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: heavywalker]
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Originally Posted By: heavywalker
I paid for my own wedding so I would say that any amount of money that you or the brides parents kick in would, and should, be a blessing. Pay what you can afford and if they don't like it, they can scale back the wedding.


This is how we handled it as well.
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