Home Forums Hunting & Shooting Hunter's Campfire Boy, my Dad would have STILL been in jail.

My Mom used to send my twin sister to the orange grove to pick a suitable switch when I transgressed. Sis never failed to find one that suited Mom just fine.

true, my father also quit drinking shortly after that, so that went along way in it stopping, we're all a very close family now. my dad lives with me and will for the rest of his days.

There's something wrong when a father disciplines his child for being disrespectful to an adult and he has to defend his actions. There would have been an imprint in the drywall had I done so growing up. Another fine example of what is going wrong in our country.

And yet, when public canings are suggested, the idea has no merit. Go figure.

Back in the day, the judge would've insisted that the kid appear in court to testify.

So he could give the kid an ass-whuppin too.

....and had I cussed a adult as a eight year old, my ass would still be sore 40+ years later!

No normal person wants to see an 8 year old get hit. But unfortunately that's all they understand sometimes. They remember that a lot longer than a lecture and a time out. Authorities don't want parents disciplining their kids with a little force, but later in life when they act out from the lack of discipline they have no problem slapping them with felony records to screw up the rest of their lives.

Mann, I bet that led to some good sibling rivalry.

she laughs about that to this day. Me, not so much.

I was the oldest of 12--I was 13 when 12th child was born. I was expected to set the example so I got more lickin's than any of the rest.

Mom would grab your arm and paddle your butt on occasion--didn't hurt much but was quite a shock.

Major transgression required the belt from Dad--he made a big spectacle out of taking it off and making you bend over the couch--then he would proceed to beat hell outta the couch--didn't hurt at all--but it did make a lasting impression on ya.

I'm sure my father went to his grave very proud of the fact that his children were well behaved in public.

In public 'Children are to be seen but not heard'--I grew up thinking that was a law or something handed down from God to Moses or something.

ever since my son was a young age, his wrong doings were not responded to by being hit or spanked, they were responded to by we talking about making a right choice or a wrong choice.. and if he had to do it over again, which one would he make...

That has worked out pretty well...it bothers me when I see adults being physical on kids... they learn that is the way to do it, and they do the same thing when they grow up to their kids...

sounds like a real 'liberal environment'? not really.. my son is a very conservative kid, and all of his teachers and adults he has been around, have always commented on his level of maturity and reliability compared to others.. and how he knows how to be very respectful to adults...

He didn't get yelled at either... I was that mad, I walked off until I calmed down...and we had level headed discussions on doing life the right way or wrong way...

same worked with my wife's boys from her first marriage.. they were little brats to beat the band.. that changed by not hitting them, but by talking things out and when they did something good, I'd ask them how did that feel? they'd answer "pretty good".. and when something wrong they felt bad, and they would say so...and my response was 'see how all this stuff works?'

they responded to it...

In Scouting, we can't breathe wrong on a kid... so I discussed 'the problem' with kids when they were being an issue to deal with.... at first, you'd get these wiseazzes that would tell me "you're not my dad! you can't tell me what to do!"

My response was " you aren't being told what to do, you're being shown how to make a right choice, instead of a wrong choice....
and your first choice is...you and me can have this conversation... or you, me and your dad can have this conversation... which one do you want?"... none ever seemed to want their dad as part of the conversation...

but you can show the kid the right way, most will respond to it.. they crave consistency and crave feeling like their opinions matter...and they personally matter... the need to do so is an opportunity as an adult or parent...

do I think parents need to end up in front of child services? not in many cases that they are called over....

but many kids are the product of what their parents have created... and many of the parents I see with kids who have discipline issues... its the parent ya feel like beating the crap out of.....

When a child does wrong, how many have ever taken the path of hugging the child, telling them you love them.. telling them they are NOT in trouble... but that you and they need to talk about what they just did... and maybe another choice would have been better.....

always worked with the kids I have been around and my own...

Don't recall spanking my kids. Certainly not a belt.

I am first to say that, in its way, I probably deserved everyone one I got, but I can also say that those memories taught me more about being a different type of parent than mine were.

Not that they were wrong, or I am right. Or vice versa.

Just different.

i never had to hit my kids, the fact i was disappointed in them was enough.

My dad spanked me and I'm thankful he did. I still get chills when I pull my belt thru the loops real quick. I spank mine. Not fun to do. I don't just walk in and start whackin away at them because I had a bad day, but sometimes it is necessary. Spare the rod, spoil the child. And as a teacher I've seen the lack of spanking by the "enlightened" parents and the results are an entire generation of buttholes with a few quality specimens sprinkled in (usually the offspring of parents that give a rip about their children as a PARENT, and not their kid's friend).

I know that if I had cursed an adult, or for that matter cursed in general (within earshot), my dad would half killed me. TWICE!!

I remember having to do that as well. Trying to pick one JUST good enough to satisfy my dad, without getting one TOO good. In my case, we had an australian pine in the back yard, and, if you're not familiar with them, new trees sprout off of the roots of the existing tree. Man, those saplings stung!

I definitely don't like having to spank any child, and much prefer to discipline them by talking. However, some times, with some kids, that just does not work. The 5 at home now, I very seldom ever have to do more (rarely at that), than tell them that they better straighten up, or get a date with Woodie ( my paddle). My oldest boy, grown up and moved on, was a different story. When he had his mind made up to not behave, the ONLY thing, that would persuade him otherwise, was a couple of swift licks on his butt.

And that's all it took.
Sounds like a good man!

Sometimes a kid does need a whack, and if you don't discipline your kid while they are young and easily corrected, they'll be a terror when they are older.

As far as kids turning you in, that's pretty easy to deal with. I pick up the phone and say, go ahead and call them. If you think your standard of living is going to be better in foster care, go for it.

that was my mom. had a peach tree out the front door. and if you came back with a 6 inch twig it added to the sentence. didn't affect me, affect me, affect me,
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