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Anymore..... After 15 years and 4 children, youngest is 6. She does not think she wants to continue our marriage.She said she still cares for me, but not love. I have a marriage counsel set up for next monday, but it don't look good. She said diff.individual events over the past 10 years have caused her to loose the love. I have not done anything that would warrant a divorce, stuff that most should forgive and forget. I asked about the thousands of great things that I think that I have done for her/us---the family, and I guess its never enough. She has not had to work for the past 14 years, we have a beautiful house, vacation at the beach 3 weeks a year, a pool in the back yard----- a life that I think most woman would love to have------------I am fit, in shape, and have never had a problem in the looks dept. I love her like I have never loved another. Has anyone of you guys turned this situation around?????
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All I'll say is I've NEVER seen one comeback. I've seen people divorced and remarried years later, but I've never seen the divorce stopped.
When they decide, they decide. On average I'd say they've been planning it for at least a year before the words are ever said aloud.
Good luck
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When they're done, they're done...... this....i made myself miserable for 3 years trying to turn mine around....granted i was dealing with an extreme situation as to the why but there really isnt any changing their minds....
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When they're done, they're done...... Yep Be better off acting like it don't bother you, sucks. Good luck
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It can turn around I hope you go to a good counsellor however.
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I've zero experience on the subject, but you could use a bit of optimism. Keep your chin up, talk to the counselor and some prayers. Couples do overcome rough times.
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Some times the fire just goes out. Start protecting assets and tangibles immediately.
If you're a good man, there will be other fish in the sea that have noticed.
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She obviously isn't happy. No matter what happens the kids come first, best advice I know to give....Hope this can work out well
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if you do split, bury your pride and only do what is in the best interest of the kids.....granted dont put yourself in the poor house.....but being vindictive towards your kids mother cause your hurt will do little but hurt your relationship with them in the long run....i have a better relationship with my oldest stepdaughter than she does with her mom because of my behavior versus hers....Kate spent the holidays with me, not her mom cause its what she wanted....
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Anymore..... After 15 years and 4 children, youngest is 6. She does not think she wants to continue our marriage.She said she still cares for me, but not love. I have a marriage counsel set up for next monday, but it don't look good. She said diff.individual events over the past 10 years have caused her to loose the love. I have not done anything that would warrant a divorce, stuff that most should forgive and forget. I asked about the thousands of great things that I think that I have done for her/us---the family, and I guess its never enough. She has not had to work for the past 14 years, we have a beautiful house, vacation at the beach 3 weeks a year, a pool in the back yard----- a life that I think most woman would love to have------------I am fit, in shape, and have never had a problem in the looks dept. I love her like I have never loved another. Has anyone of you guys turned this situation around????? Don't mean to pry but why do you think she is unhappy? Did you bone another chick and it's been buggin' her? Do not answer that question on the internet, forget I even asked.
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Be real careful during any marriage counseling what you say can and will be used against you if at all possible. Been there before and came away with the impression that counseling is nothing but a waste of time and money. But your mileage may vary. I would also advise you to start collecting cash and anything else you can "hide" asap. Best of luck to you.
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When they're done, they're done...... Yep Be better off acting like it don't bother you, sucks. Good luck What he said. Good luck and hang tough. If it is any consolation, there is probably someone out there who is more deserving than she. I hope you find her.
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You would always feel like you're walking on eggs from now on. It's best to let it go and get a Good Female divorce attorney, trust me.
Set aside some cash at your workplace or with a friend. You'll need it eventually.
Usually she has someone else scoped out, and that third party will cause you trouble. Get things rolling as fast as you possibly can, because she is feeling bad and a bit guilty right now. Not so as time goes on.
I'm awfully sorry to hear this and am sure you are a good husband and provider. I've been where you are, and grew up with a dad in Reno NV who was an attorney. Been around it enough to give valid advice.
Best Wishes
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I was waiting for the punchline.
Sorry to hear about your problem. I was married 25 years and mine got cancer and died. Now I don't know if I want to take a chance on another one or not.
I have done some dating and found one who was divorced five times!!!!!
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1 Corinthians 13:4-7 ESV / 43 helpful votes
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Your situation is not an unusual happenstance with women.
So, either God does not know much about women, or she never loved you and was more enamored with the idea of kids, house, dog and security.
Of course, she could be lying and still does love you - but now desires fun and excitement more. Women have been known to take that option too.
You arent the first or last to taste this crap, but it too will pass. Then, you can tell her to kiss your ass.
Take care, good fortune and God bless.
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No matter how things turn out, remember this....youre gonna be ok. It might not go the way you want it to right now, but I promise you, though it probably doesnt make sense right now, you will be fine. God bless.
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No, Samolsen, never stepped out of line. She says the main problem is/was that I never made her feel like we were a team. I work 40-60 hours a week and she stayed home with the kids. I also took care of everything inside/outside the house.I fix everything...cars, tractors,washers..ect... So I ask her if what I do is NOT 50% what the heck is???????? I never said the word NO to her, If she didn't feel like cooking,, pizza was always ok with me, I just dont know. Church on every sunday, other friends or family think were are the perfect family.
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honestly, sounds like she is bored and decided the solution is a divorce, granted this is going on very lil info over all....
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