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How will I be able to live like that. If your youngest is 6 then be prepared to live like that for 12 years. Try for joint 50/50. I'm not sure if you'll have to pay alimony in PA or not. I got 50/50 custody and I have 75% placement, but we came up with that on our own. See if you can? We wrote our own decree with the aid of a mediator. It was much less expensive. We had very different hobbies, so splitting household items came down to who wanted what furniture. That said, we both had jobs and our own retirements. We split the equity in the house and that was that. It was really that simple for us. now, I'm not saying there wasn't any heartache before we got down to all the brass tacks.
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To the OP- Don't know your situation, but in my experience I have never seen a woman leave any situation not knowing she had a landing spot somewhere else. She may be a rare one in that regard, but I seriously doubt it. Be wary and protect yourself, your assets and focus on your relationship with your children.
Best of luck
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The never working part is scary.
She's gonna go for the gold.
Get a lawyer. Be objective. Be smart. And be as manipulative and full of schit as possible.
I'll keep you in my thoughts.
Travis I'm with Travis on most of this (see strikethrough). But play it straight, don't try to be too smart for your own good. As godogs said, get the meanest female divorce lawyer you can find. Women know how to fight dirtier than men do, best to get one on your side.
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I can't believe You forgot COCK.
Speak for yourself you fuggin' meat-gazer. Clark
Trump being classless,tasteless and clueless as usual. Sorry, trump is a no tax payin pile of shiit. My young wife decided to play the field and had moved several dudes into my house
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If you're not above a little spying, hack her Facebook account and check your cellphone bill. Should be easy to find the guy's name.
Screw alla that! it's over, protect your kids and yourself and move on.
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MARK
I JUST CAME ACROSS THIS. I WILL BE PRAYING FOR YOU AND FAMILY.
SOME TIME EXCUSES ARE THOUGHT UP OR EXAGGERATED FOR REASON ALL THERE OWN.
QUESTION You MAY WANT TO ASK YOUR SELF! WHICH I AM SURE YOU HAVE.
How-ever does she have FRIENDS, NEW? Or Some FRIENDS that have had a RECENT DIVORCE or Or, That May be the Problem, For I Know in my Situation, i'm reminded all the time or hear that, i married to young-her! and i have no Carrier, etc,,and, and and.
So it May not be You, It maybe a outside influence on her.
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I'm with Travis on most of this (see strikethrough). But play it straight, don't try to be too smart for your own good.
As godogs said, get the meanest female divorce lawyer you can find. Women know how to fight dirtier than men do, best to get one on your side.
There are a fair number of men getting neti-potted in their dark roast right now that sincerely wish they hadn't been honest when they spoke to the poh-lease. Remember that. Travis
Trump being classless,tasteless and clueless as usual. Sorry, trump is a no tax payin pile of shiit. My young wife decided to play the field and had moved several dudes into my house
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Not so fast there Quick Draw...
"First, get her to a doctor for a full thyroid workup to rule that out" Whoever scribed that probably likes to be neti-potted in their dark roast. Travis
Trump being classless,tasteless and clueless as usual. Sorry, trump is a no tax payin pile of shiit. My young wife decided to play the field and had moved several dudes into my house
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So you are telling me that I wont have to leave my house. I can make a stand? F'n A right you can.
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There are a fair number of men getting neti-potted in their dark roast right now that sincerely wish they hadn't been honest when they spoke to the poh-lease.
There's a big difference between answering questions honestly vs volunteering information that the poh-lease/divorce court judge don't never need to hear. Having a lawyer to advise you in such matters can be worth a lot of money to you. And I'll be damn if anybody gets to neti-pot my dark roast..
"I'm gonna have to science the schit out of this." Mark Watney, Sol 59, Mars
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Actually, I am just expressing my own opinion here, the independent thought thing.
Come on! We all know women aren't capable of that.
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And I'll be damn if anybody gets to neti-pot my dark roast..
Then I suggest you learn to lie when people ask you questions! SONOFABITCH! Dave
Trump being classless,tasteless and clueless as usual. Sorry, trump is a no tax payin pile of shiit. My young wife decided to play the field and had moved several dudes into my house
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I'm with Travis on most of this (see strikethrough). But play it straight, don't try to be too smart for your own good.
As godogs said, get the meanest female divorce lawyer you can find. Women know how to fight dirtier than men do, best to get one on your side.
There are a fair number of men getting neti-potted in their dark roast right now that sincerely wish they hadn't been honest when they spoke to the poh-lease. Remember that. Travis Even more importantly, make sure YOU call the police before she does. Getting neti-potted can start out consensual, but turn weird real fast. Then it's important to be the first to call in as the victim..................
Socialism is a philosophy of failure, the creed of ignorance, and the gospel of envy, its inherent virtue is the equal sharing of misery.
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Well said. The OP said hard work 40 to60 hours a week to provide big house with pool. Things do not make us happy nor do things have anything to do with love. Amen ! Never met a dollar that made me happy, but I can think of many shared walks and talks and laughs and even tears that have.... It's easy to say when you have money. If you're working too many hours to support the family the wife wants you home more. If you are home more and barely paying the bills the wife wants you working more. Remember who you are talking to. I raised six kids and hardly had two pennies to rub together at the end of the week. Worked two jobs at least half my life. But things don't make you happy. Deciding to be happy is about ninety percent of happiness.
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Most couples start experimenting with the Neti Pot and forget to agree on a safe word. That NEVER ends well........
Socialism is a philosophy of failure, the creed of ignorance, and the gospel of envy, its inherent virtue is the equal sharing of misery.
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Anymore..... After 15 years and 4 children, youngest is 6. She does not think she wants to continue our marriage.She said she still cares for me, but not love. I have a marriage counsel set up for next monday, but it don't look good. She said diff.individual events over the past 10 years have caused her to loose the love. I have not done anything that would warrant a divorce, stuff that most should forgive and forget. I asked about the thousands of great things that I think that I have done for her/us---the family, and I guess its never enough. She has not had to work for the past 14 years, we have a beautiful house, vacation at the beach 3 weeks a year, a pool in the back yard----- a life that I think most woman would love to have------------I am fit, in shape, and have never had a problem in the looks dept. I love her like I have never loved another. Has anyone of you guys turned this situation around????? I was EXACTLY where you are in your life 12 years ago. I wasn't able to turn it around. You can't build a wall high enough or a fence strong enough, or love her more if she wants out. Don't beat yourself up about that. It ain't you dude. As hard as it is, you got to let her go. She obviously has something broken, I would venture a guess that you have been keeping the lid on the boiling pot for a long time, and it finally boiled over. It ain't you. It is her. So while you ain't perfect, don't beat yourself up about her decision. If she is anything like mine, she will try projecting the blame on you. 12 years later, my kids realize now that while I am not perfect, it was their Mom who is the damaged goods. While not bad, she is messed up as a soup sandwich, and they see that now. And the foolish choices and statements she makes. Point being, in time, the kids will see what is messed up. So will her family and all your friends. Don't speak I'll of their Mom - ever, and they will see you were the one with class and character and she was the one who doesn't have those things. I wish you the best. It is awful. I wouldn't wish what you are going through on my worst enemy. This exactly mirrors my experience and what I went through 10 years ago with one exception - no kids were involved. I have to agree 100% with everything flagstaff posted here...
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Most couples start experimenting with the Neti Pot and forget to agree on a safe word. That NEVER ends well........ Ain't that the truth....
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Did any one mention getting a really good lawyer yet? Remember to smile when she's taking it in the dark roast. It will be glorious.
Then take your goodlookin', pool havin', hardworkin' azz out and start having fun.
Remember- If it floats, fuggs or flys.....rent it.
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