Does anyone actually do this? I was best man at my brother's wedding watching his current wife walking down the aisle with the most miserable look on her face, the first thing I wanted to do was stand up and tell my brother he's crazy if he marries this bitch. I did my best to warn him as well as everyone else. I never saw any signs of affection from her before they got married. Decided I didn't want to risk loosing my brother if I did that so I didn't say anything. Kicking myself in the ass for not doing it now. But I am sure he would have married her anyways and would probably be more miserable because he would have stopped talking to me because of that and lost a brother and still be stuck with the bitch. Not even at the one year anniversary mark
Never seen anybody object at a wedding. But I was at a big fancy wedding in Fort Smith Arkansas once. Fight broke out after the wedding toward the end of the reception. I tried to break it up and a midget grabbed the knife the wedding cake was cut with and tried to stab me. I had my 35 inch inseam arms stick out with my hand on his head and he was swing that cake knife and swinging his fist like you’d see in a cartoon. Funniest thing I’d ever seen in my life. I finally pushed him back and he ran and hid behind his wife that was dang near as tall as me. I’ll never forget as long as I live. He was poking his head around her big ass and she was yelling at me. Leave my husband alone you big monkey wrench son of a bitch.
Was a lot more to the story than this but that’s the short version.
I've officiated a couple of weddings. I don't ask. It hasn't been asked at the majority of weddings I've been to as a guest. Makes for great TV though.
Not at a wedding but after. Sometimes well after. My maternal grandmother did not approve for my first wife and harassed her to the point she divorced me. It didn't help much that my wife's mother hated my guts. one unhappy disaster.
Granny disapproved even more so of my second wife. She wasn't successful trying to get rid of wife number two.
The problem stemmed from Granny wanting me to marry a girl I was dating in high school and after. Guess we were together a little over 5 years and everybody thought we'd tie the knot sooner or later. It probably would have happened but I felt I could never give her the life she wanted and walked away.
I'm thinking in answer to the OP's question, yes, if granny had been present at either wedding she would have objected vehemently. PJ
My youngest son, a pastor, was officiating a wedding in AR. He was just about to announce the couple Man and Wife when he asked the objection question. To everyone’s surprise, a beautiful young lady in the back of the church, got up with a toddler and headed to the front. A pregnant hush fell over the assembled crowd. Finally Bro Randy asked her if she had any questions. She replied, “Oh no, I just couldn’t hear in the back and wanted to take some pictures. The look on the couple’s faces was priceless and the crowd soon got back in a festive mood. Randy was relieved beyond belief cos you never know what people with say or do. At his own wedding, his bride hand wrote her vows on a piece of paper and tucked them in her bosum for safekeeping as the wedding dress had no pockets. A rather tense moment insued when it was time to retrieve the vows. She had to dig deep. They are still teased about this, all on video for prosperity.
Dad’s uncle, guessing this was in the 20’s-30’s time frame. When they asked if anyone had objections the father stopped the wedding and told them he was the soon to brides real father, had been banging her mom on the side. The uncle took off to Oregon and no one heard from him again. One day in the 70’s Dad’s brother gets a call from an attorney out there then the guys ashes show up. The attorney was told to send them to any relative they could find back in Va and have them bury him with his mother. The old man and my uncles go together and buy an urn, head for the family cemetery in W.Va with a post hole digger and the urn. They pop a small hole in over the grave about 3’ deep and when they drop the urn in it’s a tight fit. My uncle takes a tamper and starts pounding it in the ground. Dad swears this little kid was visiting another grave with family and said “mister, if you put him in the ground that tight, how’s he ever gonna get out to get to heaven?!”
Was at wedding for my wife’s uncle. Bride got drunk during a delay to the ceremony. Came down the aisle doing Hitler goosestep gets super mouthy at the altar. Finally the Justice of the Peace says I’m done and leaves.
Guy we hung around with got married so we went out of town for the wedding. Bride was kind of [bleep] and we didn’t like her much. The ceremony was in a small chapel only maybe 30 people there. They get to that point in the ceremony and the whole group turns to look at us. My Buddy just looks back and says “What ?”
Not my group but a business acquaintance told me he had a friend who was getting married and they hated the bride. At the Bachelor party they got the groom pass out out drunk and stuck him on a bus. He came to a couple of states away on his wedding day.
My Mom saved me from marrying ex gf, I am forger grateful to her. Not at a wedding though but she never approved of her and with time i saw the reasons.
The biggest financial decision you will ever make is who you marry. Not to mention your overall mental health and happiness. The good news is that marriages are trending away from romantic pairings to more practical pairings and as a result divorces are trending down.
Honestly, I am surprised more people don’t object.
Look how much regulation and paperwork is involved in buying a house. Would it be bad if I told my kids to require an inspection, appraisal, credit check on a future spouse?
I was the best man at my friend’s wedding, so I stood next to him during the vows. At the “objection” part, the bride very pointedly inclined forward to look around the groom at me, as if to say, “Well?”
I walked my wife's daughter down the aisle at her outdoor wedding. the whole time I was whispering that she shouldn't be marrying that dumb ass and there was still time to walk away. It didn't even last three years. Nobody ever listens to me anyway
I walked my wife's daughter down the aisle at her outdoor wedding. the whole time I was whispering that she shouldn't be marrying that dumb ass and there was still time to walk away. It didn't even last three years. Nobody ever listens to me anyway
I was the best man at another wedding. On the way to the church, the groom was driving, I told him that the freeway we were on would take us to Mexico. I had $800 cash in my pocket and said we talked about this in college, working at some resort in Mexico, being bums, nailing chicks. We can still do it. Just keep driving, leave everything. I was serious.
For one awesome moment I thought he’d say yes. Nope. Married her, had a couple of kids, divorced years later.
But man, the way he looked when I said just keep driving haunts me to this day.
My wife of 37 years told me when I proposed that she would not agree to the promise to obey, this has caused some ups and downs over the years. She talked of divorce after a disagreement once and I told her that I wouldn't agree to be gang raped by her and two lawyers. Never has been anymore talk of divorce. As to the object part at the wedding, probably best to MYOB.
No, though I should have. Friend married a nut job. He was engaged before I had a chance to ask if he had REALLY thought it through. Hated to approach it at that point. Long story. My job at the wedding was to keep his folks from losing their [bleep].
Marriage lasted about a year. Nearly killed him. Wrecked his credit.
The wife and I had some concerns about this before our wedding, her being a Pentecostal Pastor’s daughter marrying an Episcopalian. Our Pastor assured us that anyone can object but there has to be a credible reason to stop the proceedings that would be discussed privately between the objector and himself.
My wife’s father walked her down the isle, 22 years later he and his wife are living next door on a parcel my wife and I own.
I never saw that, but, at a buddy's first marriage, we really partied the night before. The groom was really hung over. All of us sat on the front row. During the service the groom was barely making it and had his head hung down, just trying to survive. The bride told him to, "Look at me"........ On the third time of her saying this, he looked up and said pretty loudly, "I know what you look like Bi$$$!" Everything stopped! The minister didn't know what to say. The guests froze. And we just sat on the front row and broke up laughing. He married and divorced her twice......
I performed the wedding for a buddy of mine that I used to squirrel hunt with. They were having a small outdoor ceremony with just friends and family. Before the wedding I sat down with them to go over how it would be done and what to do and thought to ask if they wanted me to leave out the part of asking if anyone objected (its optional). They both got wide eyed and gave a resounding "Yes." Apparently they were worried about someone there and after the ceremony I'm fairly certain it was his mother.
I'm also surprised my mother in law didn't object at mine and the wifes wedding. That bìtch hates me.
No but I saw the brides father make a very bizarre toast at the reception. Just before the reception, the groom, Eric and his groomsmen were in the bar attached to the venue drinking shots. Anyway the father stands up and goes on a rant on how he against the marriage but by the time he sat down he would be good with it. It was a very quiet reception. It didn't last 3 years.
Tried to talk a friend out of it at his wedding but he wouldn't listen. He'd only known the skank for a few weeks and she was pregnant with some other guys kid. It lasted till after the baby was born and he had signed the birth certificate as the father. She skipped a few months later and he spent the next 18 years paying child support for a half brown kid that has no respect for him at all.