And honestly, i feel schitty and really indifferent/ un excited about it

As long as it comes out with all ten and ten, be thankful.

Oh I am Tom, it's just an initial let down I guess

Holy [bleep], don't let your wife know that. Ever.

You'll change your mind about this pretty quick, but your wife will never, ever forget something you say about it today.

They can do all the things boys can do. Ask my wife. Her father was quite the outdoorsman and had three girls�.so she was the "boy"�.went hunting and fishing with him everywhere, and I benefitted from it later, having a wife that took my trophies off the walls to put hers up!

I understand wanting a son, but a Baby is a gift from God no matter what.

Truer words�


When my father was born his mother was openly disappointed about him not being a girl.His older brother became-and remained- the "favorite".

Don't let that happen.

to be 100% honest, i was too when our first turned out to be a girl. but i got over it quick and you will too. every man should have a daughter. mine is almost 22 now and she has been a delight her entire life.

Gender was the last thing I thought of.

Pray for healthy.



Travis

in the end it doesnt matter:

Felt the same way with my girl on the first one and again on the second one. I wouldn't trade either one of them for a boy.

To be honest I was pretty indifferent about my kids until they started interacting with me. I didn't really form a bond with either of them until they were 2 to 3 years old. Moms are different, they love them instantly, dads are genetically programed to not give a fugg.

Girls rock. You're going to have a great time..

What you should feel schitty about is even thinking such a thing never mind posting it. Ick.

Daughters [bleep]in' ROCK. They can do anything sons can do plus they have the added benefit of LISTENING when you talk to them.

Tom

I don't have kids of my own but have two stepdaughters that I wouldn't trade for the world. Interestingly, when the older one announced a grandchild was on the way, my wife just "assumed" it was going to be a girl. When we got the news it was to be a boy, she was visibly shaken and all she could say is "now what am I goig to do?" Having raised only girls, it really threw her off. We now have two grandsons and my wife wouldn't have it any other way. Granted, she is still hopeful that her younger daughter will give her a granddaughter someday...

As others have said - gender would be the last thing I'd be concerned with. I truly hope all goes well for all of you and you have a healthy baby daughter. I'd be tickled to death if I were in your shoes...

Many men have been disappointed at that news. Nobody who has ever had a baby girl would agree.

Even though females are inferior to males, I still like my daughters and I'm thankful they're healthy more than anything.

Medical stuff is very expensive.



Travis

We raised three of each. All three of my girls and two of my granddaughters can all out shoot my boys.

Nothing makes you feel like a raging juggernaut of overprotectiveness like a girl:



I got grandson's for the machismo stuff.

I get them to talk smack, climb stuff, get dirty and filthy, then I release them to their parents.

BAM!

I thought it was Travis that said that if you blow real hard in her nose right after she's born there's still a chance...

Great pic!

In the summer prior to our first daughter being born the world learned about thalidomide babies. We didn't know the gender until the birth but the only thing we could think about was having a healthy child.

We have two daughters one 49 and one almost 55. We refer to them as our two "treasures". A boy might have been nice but we have never regretted the two girls.

Jim

It's too bad you feel that way. Girls are a gift from God(dess).

Let your little girl be herself, don't try turning her into a boy.

Congratulations.

I wasn't rooting for boy vs. girl with either of the grandsons, but do have to admit I was a bit more excited than my wife and stepdaughters when we found out number one was a boy. For my wife's benefit, I was kind of hoping for a girl with number two...

Healthy is everything - first grandson had a dificult birth and came out gray in color and not breathing. They had to rush him straight to infant ICU and revive him - it was a terrible thing to experience.

I have no idea how to teach a girl things like trapping, or being a Linebacker.

hell Kate would play tackle football out on the lawn with her guy friends and was just as aggressive as any guy.....i dont trap so that didnt come up but she was out shooting varmints with me regularly and loved it.....you will be surprised what your daughter will do with you if you include her and dont just brush her off cause she is a girl....involve her and you will both enjoy the hell out of it

hell soon as she has some time off we are gonna go out cause she wants to shoot my AR.....she is 19 and has her own life but she wants to make time to shoot with me....

Those little girls are just too special. Re-visit this page in about 4 years and tell us how you feel then.

Let your daughter be herself. She will teach you what you need to know to be a good Dad. At Irish dance competitions I see some biker type dads at these competitions with tats, piercings and et al who are proud Dads of their little girls.

Chill out your little girl is a precious gift that you will learn to enjoy in ways you can't begin to imagine.

I know the feeling. It wasn't until #4 that we got a boy, and #5 (aka "the last one") is a boy. We love them all. It is fun to have both. There have been days I was fairly serious about trading each of them in on a new model, but seriously they're all keepers.

Pray for a healthy baby and you'll find in no time she'll have you wrapped around her little finger in a way mom can't...and you'll be smiling all the way!

My daughter is a great shot, but she doesn't hunt.

At 13, she can hold her own in a kitchen - she makes a screaming shrimp creole, among other things.

To be honest, I'm sure I wanted a son before she was born, but if I had any misgivings before she was born, they are so far out of reach, I don't even know for sure.

What you should feel schitty about is even thinking such a thing never mind posting it. Ick.

Daughters [bleep]in' ROCK. They can do anything sons can do plus they have the added benefit of LISTENING when you talk to them.

Tom [/quote

EXACTLY !

More likely she's gonna teach you about having tea,pony's and dress up.


You'll enjoy every moment!

Grils are better than boys about taking care of you when you are old. She will probably be better looking than a boy and marry a rich lawyer who has hunting land. Odds are high she will look much better than you. Be thankful for that.

I felt the same way, I didn't have sisters growing up so had no idea what to expect. Just roll with the punches and you will figure it out.

It is laughable that you thought you would know what to do with a boy though. I tell you nothing prepares you for being a parent, except being a parent.

Miss Lynn speaks the truth...although I've had a hard time getting past the eye rolling from my oldest girl (15), but I do know she's listening.

Well, at least you know she's practicing up for marrying a guy.

Well get excited, and while you are doing that, listen to this. Because you can stay the way you are right now and someday be torn to pieces by regret, or you can be the way a little girl's Dad is supposed to be, and be so very thankful for her everyday of your life....

Teach em the same and you will get the same results. Boy, girl doesnt matter. My girls are huntin/fishin fools and I wouldnt change a damn thing.

Beautiful song.

Another point to bring out. I see many disappointed dads who have sons that prefer ballet, singing, playing an instrument, quilting, etc. instead of the manly arts. Each child, whether a boy or girl have their own character and nature and that character and nature may be very far removed mom's and dad's character and nature.

Each child is a unique individual with a unique character and nature and each child has to be allowed to march to their own tune and their own time.

Oh I knew exactly what to do with a boy. Dress him in sunday best and send him towards a mid puddle, free baby sitting for the day, or until the clothes are completely muddy

You would in for a surprise if your future son has a strong feminine soul and does not chose to be a "real" boy. I'm not talking about being gay but that he prefers the gentle arts to the manly arts.

Men always think their boys will be a carbon copy, a clone so to speak, of them and are devastated when that doesn't happen. Makes for an unhappy relationship.

BTW: The youngest foster/surrogate daughter loved to dress up in her prettiest dress and head for a mud puddle. Dress your daughter up in her Sunday best and point her toward a mud puddle and watch the fun.

I grew up camping and fishing. Hunting and shooting with Ken. My sister and I were playing sports, riding bikes, climbing trees with the boys. The only limiting factor was my dad saying girls shouldn't shoot.....he has since rethought his attitude.

Proverbs 22:6
Train a child in the way they should go, and when they are old they will not depart from it.

Was just glad that my daughter got here totally healthy. Her mother (GRHS) was a severe diabetic. We were advised not to try again. She's confiscated a few of my firearms. The only one I really miss is the Model 70 Featherweight SA in 6mm Rem. Loved it when she lords it over the boys at deer camp because she got a 8pt and they got nothing. Then the boys got cute, didn't like that so much. Last deer she got I just hung back and she blood trailed it about 200 yds. to where we found it. And there's been a few times we had to hustle back from a kayaking day trip cause she had a date, GRRRRRR. Gonna miss her this fall. My hunting and kayaking buddy is gone off to college. Course she's at my alma mater so that helps some. CHERISH THOSE LITTLE GIRLS!

Having a penis doesn't mean they'll have like interests.

You can throw that idea right out the fuggin' window.



Travis

Daughters...

After Christmas school assignment...


They love guns too...


More "boy" stuff...


Fishing...




... typically the disappointment that people have in their kids are a direct result of their failures as parents. So be a good dad and things will take care of themselves.

My daughter can best her older brother at just about anything physical. She is the athlete of the family and enjoys the outdoors stuff more.

There are no guarantees with boys interests these days. Although I steered my son toward hunting and fishing from birth, he has never really taken to either. Turned out he is a bookworm, deep thinker, history buff.

In short, you don't know what kind of personality you are going to get from either gender and if you enter fatherhood with huge expectations as to their future interests you are likely to be disappointed.

Rookies...



Travis

One extra bonus about daughters is that their pictures get posted in threads about sniper rifles or the 223 AI...

and the flip side, your daughter determines a shillelagh just isn't medieval enough:

You need to spend some time re-thinking that statement and get ready for a ride. Having children is second most fun thing in life. Having grand-children is the best.

I have a daughter that came first and is a true blessing. She doesn't like hunting and as far as I know has never shown an interest in anything that shoots. She doesn't care enough for fishing to go on her own, but if you take her she will out fish you. Her husband is an outdoor person and can name anything in the woods that you care to point to. Their son is 2.5 and knows the difference in a pig and a javelina and we live in Georgia.
My son can out shoot me with a bow and a rifle and probably a shotgun. I can out shoot him with a pistol but that may not last long. He enjoys the outdoors and has already had his son on a shooting mat. His son is one month old.
I never tried to make either an outdoor person or interest them in any activity other than what they showed an interested in. Each was raised as an individual, which is important to me as it probably is to anyone that is a twin. Each was given the opportunity to develop their own interest and direction. Each was interested in sports and school and each excelled. I could not be happier with my children. Set the proper example and just watch them grow.
My prediction is that, if you are half a man, you will live to regeret that comment. I hope you do.

When that kid comes out you will be a changed man, the feelings you are having now Will disappear. Trust me you are screwed pal that little girl is going to have you doing her bidding in short order.

Mark my words.

This.

And one small addendum.

NEVER speak a word of disappointment to baby momma. It will be held against you.

Congrats to you and your better half.

Why would you speak to the mother?

JFC you guys are weird.



Travis

This.

By the way Gitem, it is YOUR SPERM that determines if the fetus/baby is a boy or a girl, just in case you missed that class....

Truer words were never spoken. Wanted 2 boys and 2 girls ended up with 1 girl and 4 boys and lost one it would have been a boy
Cheers NC

My class said it depends on whether or not you "bottom out", but yes, its still up to the guy....

Sitting in town right now waiting for daughter #2 which should be along any day now. Never did have a preference, but I did tell Momma when we found out that #2 was a girl that I was looking forward to the day when I'd have 3 females cooking and cleaning for me...(grin) she got pissed and told me that those girls better be out hunting and fishing.

Momma don't know it but #3 will be along shortly after this one pops out in a few days.

Yep.
Be thankful, period. I think having children is taken for granted.

Gonna go mess with mine now!

Just like you would a son. Trust me, when they would rather hang out with you than with Mom, when they come quietly to you and ask for help with dealing with some of life's hardest problems (for a pre-teen or teenager), when they call you from college and BEG you to take them big game hunting, when they want their "Daddy" just before walking down the aisle, when they just want to talk with their "Dad", and when they make GOOD decisions about their mate because YOU taught them how a man/boyfriend/husband/father should act, you realize that your life wouldn't come close to being the same with a son.

I have one daughter and two sons. I wouldn't trade the world for any of them, but there is something special about a father-daughter bond that cannot be replicated.

My daughter is a much better pistol shot than either of my sons, having wore out my Ruger MKII before she was 16, she isn't much of an angler, but she is into camping, hunting, archery, and she cleans and cooks what she eats.

This initial disappointment will pass, my daughter is the oldest, and I can remember wanting to take the oldest son places and teach him things and then I realized I could work the kinks out of this "Daddy" thing with her. I have never regretted having a daughter and I'm betting you won't either.

Ed

I'm quite aware of basic Biology. Nothing I have done or said has indicated that I think it's my fianc�s fault. Nor do I feel that way, but I am fully entitled to feel dissapointed for a while.

be thankful.....I would not trade a dozen boys for my two daughters.....

That's ridiculous.



Travis

Sorry to hear that you feel that way.
Shortly after that baby girl is born, her mother will, most likely, need to sleep (my wife did anyway.) While mama is sleeping, hold your daughter, watch her, listen to her, talk to her. The emotions that you will experience will be diverse and staggering. Pride, humility, anticipation, fear, and love are a few. I'd be willing to wager that indifference and unexcitement will not.
Best wishes to you and your family.

Years ago I got a women pregnant.


I planned on staying with her until she told me it was going to be a girl.


Adios!


Not sure what ended up happening to either of them.

Can't quite wrap my head around that...

Congrats on the bairn. Healthy is the only thing that matters git.

TFF Sam!

This is so spot on. I've got three boys, we wanted a girl badly but after three the odds (and lack of cash) were stacked against us. I would NEVER trade any sex healthy baby for one that wasn't healthy.

Seriously - it isn't 1950 - girls are far more powerful then boys are. Just look what we all do to get laid!



Congrats by the way.

Maybe you were. I wasn't.

As long as you make the pig shoot, all is well.

Girls are great its women I have a problem with. Think about this, if she is brought up in the goose blind and fishin with you she probably will end up marrying someone you like or at least can tolerate. And girls love their daddy more than momma most of the time. You just have to learn to deal with all the emotional $hit, but boys become kinda brain dead at the onset of teendom. You won't be to disappointed once you hold her.

the original post says a lot about the poster.
I have a daughter, that i adopted when she was 30 for various reasons.
We were dove hunting yesterday, and i never had more fun. She let the ol fahrt sit in the chair and bird dogged the doves for me. And I guarantee she smells better than boys, and when we got home i had three days of dinners made by her. Best thing i ever did is marry her mother and inherit her. Only issue is she thinks too much like me.

as mine say
"Girls rule, boys drool".........

I can see where Gitem_12 is coming from, and from my own experience.....

With our first child we decided not to find out if it was going to be a boy or a girl. Like any first time father I hoped for a boy, mostly because of all the reasons every father wants his own little boy, it is just the way some guys are wired.

8 months or so later, after the babies room had been painted and all of the "stuff" was light greens and other gender neutral colors, out squishes this little person, all covered in icky stuff. The docs plopped that goo covered little person on my wife and said "ITS A GIRL!!!!"

For about 30 seconds I admit to thinking "ugh a girl" ..........then I got to hold her. I am guessing you will follow a similar path.




BTW, when the doc finally gives mom the all clear for extracurricular activities.............be careful.........I got twin boys 14 months after the girl child showed up.

That really isn't important - she will guide you as to what she needs you to teach her. Welcome/embrace it - you have an incredible opportunity awaiting you...

Teach her just like you would a boy. They can do everything a boy can do - don't kid yourself. My two are now 11 and 9, help me reload, cast bullets, target shoot, hunt with me, help me gut deer, butcher everything we shoot, catch fish, load the boat, play in fish guts, fillet fish, catch frogs, play in the mud,bake bread, make breakfast, lunch, and dinner. They earned their black belts in Tae Kwon Do in June. They also are highly skilled pianists and singers (mom and I are both trained musicians with music education degrees), love to play with our dogs, love to play with dolls, make art projects, braid each other's hair, paint fingernails and toenails and do everything that normal girls do. But they also do everything the boys do - and usually do it better. They are at the top of their class in every imaginable way. Don't be disappointed - be excited about learning new stuff with her and be her DADDY!!! One of my favorite quotes is this. "Any human being with the right combination of chromosomes can be a father. It takes a man to be called 'daddy'". Never, ever, ever, ever resent that she is not a boy - you'll regret it for the rest of your life - but you won't know your regret until it's too late.

Chiming in as one with 3 sons and 1 daughter. My first 3 are boys, all of them like Mama more than me. But my last, Baby Girl is MY baby... She wants to spend all her time with Dad.

Girls are wonderful for dads, trust me. She will shoot like her brothers, I'm sure of it.

My daughter is more interested in football and shooting than my son. Part of it is she's older, the other is that she likes hanging with Dad.

My son just likes screwing around, which he hasn't correlated blasting stuff with the fun he has running stuff over....and I have rules.

My wife has two older sons from her first marriage who were ghetto and un American. When she gave birth to our second baby girl the doctors tied her tubes. It was that or she would die if she became pregnant again. She wept as they rolled her into surgery and said in her broken English Third World accent, "I'm sorry for not giving you a son."

I said, "That's okay. After meeting your two I don't want any."

If I could post photos you would see an angel with a pink .22 and a matching fishing pole. Girls are great if you are good to them.

Right as usual, Travy.

The sire supplies an X or a Y, but there are enzymes and pH factors that determine the viability of each.

In other words if the pH is high, you might call that repository a "basic box".

Gitem-

All the attributes that you anticipate in a son can be found in a lot of girls.

there are girls that are great students, athletes, hunters, fishers, and can kick a lot of boys asses too.

Ask me how I know!