Home Forums Hunting & Shooting Hunter's Campfire I have to sign final divorce papers tomorrow...

Yep. Telling the truth to a four year old has to be age appropriate and filtered correctly. I didn't say anything about bashing her. But don't think you can hide alot from a kid, they pretty much get things going on.
If you lie you're disrespecting and under-estimating the child. Being honest obviously has to be done appropriately. Only the campfire would jump to conclusion that I suggested to the contrary.

"Mommy was a slut and was screwing a police officer while daddy was working during the day. Mommy is screwed up because she's been used by men and had daddy issues from when she was your age."

it sucks, went through it last spring...no biological kids but my oldest stepdaughter chose me and spent the holidays hanging out with me and my family if that tells you anything bout my ex....as someone pointed out even after the papers are signed she may still try to phug with you....mine did her damndest to keep me from getting employed but did finally land a job that pays a fair bit more than i made working with her....infact out of town right now "on business" with a paid for hotel room and going out drinking with my brother tonight to see what entertainment is around...

the first while of all this phuggin sucks but it doesnt last if you dont let it.....

That is exactly what I did. I never hid the fact from the kids that I was a young and stupid young sailor and married the wrong woman for me. By the time they were six and nine they understood who was the bad guy and who was the good guy without my ever having said a word. Even at that young age they knew the constant flow of drunks spending the night and their mother being anything but a loving mother was not the way it was supposed to be. They were with me since I stole them across a bunch of state lines and they were the ones who initiated the stealing. Kids ain’t stupid.

Go fishing!!!

Congrats and put 100% of your love and energies into that young man! And I mean that.

Oh yeah I forgot....also, treat yourself to one those new pizzas wrapped in 3.5 feet of bacon for crust!!

BS. Yeah, it failed because he didnt fullfil all her dreams and make her eternally happy? It failed because he was not perfect?
Typical liberal bull crap. There is no right or wrong, right?

The vows didnt say to love cherish and honor unless your spouse is perfect or until you are tired of it or until you find a bigger stick.

only thing i blame myself for is not cutting and running when the girls did, when they gave up on their mom i should have too and got an 18 month head start on where i am now.....it is quite possible to not be the guys fault at all, in my case her own daughters lay the blame on her and not me.....

I know it sucks for now, I've been there and done that! But someday you'll look back and say it was probably the best thing that ever happened to you.
Put your trust in The Lord and make the transition as easy as possible for your son.
Kids are usually the ones that suffer the most from their parents divorcing.

This^^^. They are suffering more than you, as i did when my dad ran off for a whore lesving my three little brothers and sisters at home while i had one more year at college for my doctors degree.

There was no part his fault and my moms. Ohl i guess she could have snapped her fingers and been 20 years younger and with a big bank account left by a prematurely dead guy, but she didnt, so i guess it was partially her fault.

He made it two years with the biotch with a big house and big diamond rings.

That wasnt enough to be worth the nightmares i sufferd over my young siblings left without a father when i couldnt go home to help mom take care of them.

Some people are chitt walking on two sticks.

in late teens or early 20's (don't remember exactly when) I went through a bit of heartburn for my mom never telling me what a selfish dick my dad could be.


her answer was "he was to me, but I always hoped he'd love you kids enough that it wouldn't be that way with you, and if he was I didn't want to poison that relationship for the hurt I endured because of him"


never heard her speak ill of him the whole time I was growin up


she's a very nice lady that deserved a better son, if I could go back in time I'd kick the livin chit outa me for how I acted when I was a teen.

ain't nobody perfect, including my mom, but she's close enough for me.

was lucky to have her and grateful for some of the things I learned from my dad

but he was just a guy that seldom loved anyone as much as he loved himself.

but damn he knew how to party!

You will use this time as a reference point. You will refer to it later when you measure how much the rest of your life doesn't suck!

For now, treat each day as a survival challenge. Get through each day and they will become easier and better.

Bob

Thanks for all the input. I'm still alive...

any guy that has been thru a divorce in this country, feels for you...Women have it made... and men get screwed by the courts, especially if they are middle class white Caucasian...

I hope you make out well thru it all Dogcatcher... and kudos for wanting to hang onto your son...my ex managed to essentially take my kids away from me...strictly being a b-itch.. and the courts let her do anything her little heart desired...

you and your son will be in my prayers this evening...