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Got the news this afternoon. Just don't understand it. He let no one know he was in trouble. This is really hard to comprehend. He was like a brother to me, I loved him, been friends since high school for almost 40 years. I'm just sick.
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Sorry to hear it, squirrel. That's a rough one.
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Sorry for your loss, but nothing One can do, don't beat yourself up About it.
No one knows what is going on inside a person, just try to comfort those that need it, and be there if they need anything.
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I am completely confused. He had two kids and his wife and he separated about a year ago but it seemed amicable and just saw them together last week and they seemed happy. Now this. He acted like nothing was wrong.
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Mental illness many times go un treated, the results can be devastating to many more than just the one thats ill .
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I'm very sorry to hear of your loss and the loss to his family.
Despite what we like to think, we don't always see any signs that something is amiss.
RIP.
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Andy,
sorry to hear of your loss....lost a family member to the same thing 46 years ago yesterday, on March 26, 1970....
was a senior in high school... still haunts me every year.. making it hard to fall asleep last night and tonight... I was the one who found them and cut them down from a rope at 4 in the morning...
I understand why people do this.. but its hard to rationally explain...they just get to a place in a depression that life doesn't seem worth it...I don't think its always a mental defect....but far back in their lives, they were taught that their value isn't worth much or even worthless.. and at times of depression, they just give in to it and remove themselves from the planet... or combine that with they are dealing with enough negativity in their lives, they don't feel like hanging around and dealing with it anymore...
drugs or alcohol can potentiate it... I've talked multiple people down from it, being on the verge of it... during my lifetime...I think understanding where their head is at, and being able to talk them thru, giving them purpose and letting them know we all feel overwhelmed at times, or just feel like screw it.... but the sun will rise tomorrow one way or the other....
and the real damage is to those they care about who are left behind...
may the Good Lord be with you and your friend's loved ones during this tragic time....may his spirit find the peace he was seeking...
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I am completely confused. He had two kids and his wife and he separated about a year ago but it seemed amicable and just saw them together last week and they seemed happy. Now this. He acted like nothing was wrong. There is no why and I'd not focus on it or worry about it, because it will get you NO WHERE. Do what you can for his kids and live a good life.
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I am very sorry to hear of this news. Prayers for all involved in this tragedy.
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Prayers for those left behind.
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Prayers for those left behind. This.
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I hate to here that. All you can do is try and be there for his family and maybe do the things with his kids that he would have done on occasion. We don't always know what is going on inside someone. Sometimes the people that seem to be doing the best are hurting the most. Prayers for his friends and family. Sorry for your loss.
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A woman can completely wreck a guy. My guess is it had to do with him being replaced.
So sorry for the loss of your buddy. Makes you realize how close to the edge we live at times. Make the most of each day.
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There is no understanding suicide...
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I lost a friend and colleague almost 4 years ago the same way. As far as I know, even his family had no idea what was going in in his mind. His son was to be married in a week and he just up and hangs himself from a tree in the woods and leaves everyone behind. I can't make sense of it even all this time later. Like Scott said, all the wondering proved a waste of time.
Grieve, help the family and take a lesson from it and live well.
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Sorry to hear this news. Prayers on the way.
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If he could have seen the turmoil he is leaving in his wake, he probably would not have done it.
Just remember, you were not responsible and don't start playing what if games in your head.
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Sorry to hear of your bud Squirrel. Do as Steelhead says, Don't waste your time pondering, go do for his kids.
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