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Don't waste your time pondering, go do for his kids. Sorry to hear about your friend, my heart goes out to you and your family. As far as moving forward, I'd take that advice. 
Biden's most truthful quote ever came during his first press conference, 03/25/21.
Drum roll please...... "I don't know, to be clear." and THAT is one promise he's kept!!!
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Sorry to hear about your friend. Prayers sent for the family and friends.
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This will be my last post! Flave 1/3/21
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My heart goes out to you, that's a tough one.
It's something you just have to accept and move one. Do what you can for the kids and his ex as an acknowledgement of your friendship, but try not to let it hurt you too much.
Mercy ceases to be a virtue when it enables further injustice. -Brent Weeks
~Molɔ̀ːn Labé Skýla~
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Truly sorry you lost such a close friend, they are rare. You will never understand his thoughts if he didn't share them. Don't take this on, it isn't yours to carry.
His boys will be needing manly input, sounding board, and being that ear that they know and trust is very important.
“You never need fear a man, no matter what his size. When danger threatens, call on me, and I will equalize.”
Samuel Colt.
�Common sense is genius dressed up in work clothes.� - Ralph Waldo Emerson
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Why is a crooked letter that no one has ever been able to straighten out.
Best bet is to be there for his kids and family.
Sorry for your loss.
Me
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Was there a note left? There often is.
"Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life." (Prov 4:23)
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Sorry to hear the news,
Being a good "Uncle" for the kids is about the best you could do.
If and when they're ready
"Camping places fix themselves in your mind as if you had spent long periods of your life in them.
You will remember a curve of your wagon track in the grass of the plain like the features of a friend."
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I am completely confused. He had two kids and his wife and he separated about a year ago but it seemed amicable and just saw them together last week and they seemed happy. Now this. He acted like nothing was wrong. There is no why and I'd not focus on it or worry about it, because it will get you NO WHERE. Do what you can for his kids and live a good life. I believe this is best. Sad face
Randy
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There is no understanding suicide...
Ditto
Its all right to be white!!
Stupidity left unattended will run rampant
Don't argue with stupid people, They will drag you down to their level and then win by experience
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Just don't understand it. He let no one know he was in trouble.
I am truly sorry for your loss. My cousin committed suicide just before he graduated from high school. Good grades, popular, no girl, money or drug trouble....no one ever figured it out.... As others have said, be there for his kids, whether it is now, ten years from now, or both.If nothing else, they will like to have that connection with their dad...
"...the left considers you vermin, and they'll kill you given the chance..." Bristoe
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So sorry for your loss
Always tough to lose a good pard. Even tougher in instances like these
I'm pretty certain when we sing our anthem and mention the land of the free, the original intent didn't mean cell phones, food stamps and birth control.
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they don't feel like hanging around au contraire..... sorry for your loss.
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I've never been able to really wrap my bread around suicide. It just doesn't make any sense.
I've known a few who have gone that route. At times it has made me angry, sad, confused....other times I realize we all are part timers and leaving this mortal coil soon enough. I figure it's an individual's right to go out like they see fit.
One universal is suicide is so much harder on the survivors. The guilt on loved ones can be crushing. The fact is that only he is responsible for his actions.
As mentioned, be there for his kids as much as you can be.
“Life is life and fun is fun, but it's all so quiet when the goldfish die.”
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Sorry for your loss. As others have said, there is no answering why unless they leave notes or clues. Health issues, relationships, mental well being, they all affect people different.
Sean
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Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other the person to die ......
"When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, "I used everything you gave me."
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My condolences. Remember the good times. Depression is a killer.
I've always been different with one foot over the line.....
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My condolences to you. Tough situation.
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There is no understanding suicide...
Unfortunately this is the bottom line. The hardest cases to try and understand are those where the person acts completely together and as if nothing is wrong. Take the time to grieve. Realize that this will never make sense.
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One universal is suicide is so much harder on the survivors. The occasional suicide among students is an occupational hazard of high school teaching Had a nephew hang himself too, no one ever really gets over it.
"...if the gentlemen of Virginia shall send us a dozen of their sons, we would take great care in their education, instruct them in all we know, and make men of them." Canasatego 1744
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Sadly, we simply do not know what others struggle with. Just be assured, it is not on you. God's peace.
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