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Shiit man... Tough deal, wonder what age they'll let a child choose who\where they wanna go\be with?? Luck man.
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sad parm. hope it works out in your way
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Damn, that’s tough. Being raised by two good parents and wife and I doing same for our two, it’s hard to imagine.
Don’t know why the father has not met his 11 yo son. If by his choice, that’s pretty telling.
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Hard to being to even guess what's best without knowing something of the circumstances.
For a father to never have met his child seems unusual if in fact he knew the child existed.
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Hard to being to even guess what's best without knowing something of the circumstances.
For a father to never have met his child seems unusual if in fact he knew the child existed. ^^^^This in spades^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
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The kid is lucky that he has you guys, I wish the best for all involved. My condolences, it’s not easy losing a sister and a mother.
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Dad may be fine...sTay open minded...if there was a divorce many times mom has nothing nice to say about dad..the kid grows up thinking dad is no good...it happened to my brother and the kids never figured it out till they were older...he probbly di serves a chance..
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If the father of the boy has never met him I have to ask did he pay your SIL child support all these years?
I suspect not. Which tells me a lot about his character.
The boy is much better off with you and your wife. If that's what the boy wants I'd fight for him.
FWIW - the wife and I took in two kids when their parents (our good friends) were killed in a murder/suicide. We never officially adopted them, the grandparents refused to allow it, but we raised them in our home for many years. Now, 20 years later, both of those kids are grown and married with little children of their own and they call us Grammy and Grandpa.
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Dad may be fine...sTay open minded...if there was a divorce many times mom has nothing nice to say about dad..the kid grows up thinking dad is no good...it happened to my brother and the kids never figured it out till they were older...he probbly di serves a chance.. this far too often dad's are demonized and refused contact with there kids. If I didn't have family support and a good lawyer, my ex would have done anything to keep me from my kids.
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We're meeting with a family lawyer on Thursday and should have some answers I hope. It'll all work out one way or the other and if he ends up here, we'll take good care of him. That's all we can do. It's obvious you've got both your heart, and your head, in the right place. Godspeed to you all. FC
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Well after 26hrs of traveling, we finally made it home at about 3am today with an extra kiddo in tow. Got him all registered for school then getting some school supplies. I didn't think a short trip could be so long! After the dust settles it's time to go caribou hunting. I'm ready to get out and have some fun!
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Well after 26hrs of traveling, we finally made it home at about 3am today with an extra kiddo in tow. Got him all registered for school then getting some school supplies. I didn't think a short trip could be so long! After the dust settles it's time to go caribou hunting. I'm ready to get out and have some fun! Good for everyone concerned! Glad that worked out!
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Seek council--
Child custody can be a real problem
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Seek council--
Child custody can be a real problem We met with a lawyer in Maine, now going to meet with one here. The father who hasn't even met the boy, never showed up. He's not even on the birth certificate. Everything is moving along as best as it can at the moment.
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Good luck, I hope he grows into a fine man.
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We met with a lawyer in Maine, now going to meet with one here. The father who hasn't even met the boy, never showed up. He's not even on the birth certificate. Everything is moving along as best as it can at the moment. Kudos to you for taking the boy on, I'll guarantee you he will never forget. I'm damn proud of you!
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Good on you 2 for stepping up and helping the young lad out from a bad situation.Speaks volumes of you+ the Mrs' charactor
Keep his mind busy so he doesn't dwell on the negatives he's been thru.
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My hat’s off toy you and your wife. I can’t imagine a much greater responsibility one could assume than raising another’s child.
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