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I’m sorry for your pain. I hope you will soon remember the joy of your marriage more than the loss of your wife.

I am very sorry for your loss. My wife and I have been married for 30 years and as we age I realize that it is unlikely that we will die at the same time so one of us will eventually be in your situation. You are very lucky though. The only reason you are in so much pain is because of the joy she brought you for so many years. Many people never get to experience this. Just think of all the X-wife stories you read here. Based on what my grandfather told me when he lost my grandmother it's going to take time. I wish you peace.

Been down that road with the love of my life. First, cancer took away the the woman I knew. Then it killed her.

How long ago did yours pass, Hubert?

You have any kids that visit and help any?

I am sorry for your loss Hubert. I lost my wife 9 years ago. The first year is really tough. I had friends come forward to me and they all said don't do anything for a year. Meaning don't sell your house, buy a new car ,etc. Trust me you are not thinking straight. I said to my family the loss of Terry was a tragedy but other families have had to endure worse tradegies. I said to myself I can live the rest of my life in the toilet or not in the toilet. I chose not to be in the toilet. I never had been to church (United) since I was a kid but something drew me into going. That really helped. I looked forward to going every Sunday. Take care and look after yourself and your family. PM me anytime if you want to talk. Jim

I lost my first wife to cancer, l was left with 2 small children that kept me going. Someone told me you never get over it, you just get use to it.
That is the truth. I am very sorry for your loss. It is one day at a time.

I have no words.

Amen Sir.

My condolences.

Hang on, time will ease the pain of loss some. I lost my first wife of 15 years, she was only 37.
I wont worth a cup of cold piss for a year. I finally decided she would have wanted me to go on living and enjoying life. I still think of her at times and even try to look after her elderly mother some since her brother's are almost useless.
Go fishing, stay busy even if its work.
You are in our father's grip even when you feel lost.

We were married for 56 years . her last 5 years were a living hell for her. I had to take care of her like a Baby , I dident mind doing it as I was retired and dident have anything else to do.. She has been gone for 5 years and 2 monthes now and I miss her as much as the day she died.. this time of the year is the worst for me I think of her all my waking hours Christmas was her favorite time of the year... We were married on Christmas eve and there was 2 feet of snow on when we went on our honeymoon... thanks all for the thoughts.

Prayers your way my friend.

That pretty much says it all.

I'm real sorry for what you're having to endure. I can't even imagine your pain. Better days ahead, my friend...

Not much I can add, I would miss my darling wife more than I care to think on.

So sorry you're going through this. Clearly your grief is an indication of how great she was. It's ok to be a little numb right now. Do consider grief counseling or at least have a few friends you can be around. Put off any big decisions for a while. I'm willing to listen if you need to vent.

Losing the partner of a lifetime is tough from what I've seen friends and relatives go through. The longer you've been together the harder it appears to be.

May God bless you and keep you.

That's a sincere bummer.

I can't imagine life without KYHillChick.

You are a good husband and man, alot can be learned from you sir, I will be more understanding of my wife of almost 40 years.
My grandpa and grandma were married for 60+ years after my grandma died the cops took gramps to the retirement home as senility was creeping in on him. He would escape and walk, hitch rides the 100 miles and go to my grandma's grave just to be with her. The cops would bring him back to the home and he would do it again,

Blindshooter has some good advice.
It will get easier, you won't forget her.

I lost my 1st wife to cancer after 33 years. Yes, it hurt. A lot. Everyone's different but in my case, the Lord introduced me to another fine Christian woman. We've been married 11 years now.

my condolences and prayers.