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I am sorry for your loss Hubert. I lost my wife of 52 years just this last march. Not a happy time as after three strokes and a bout with dementia she finally found peace. Paul B.
Our forefathers did not politely protest the British.They did not vote them out of office, nor did they impeach the king,march on the capitol or ask permission for their rights. ----------------They just shot them. MOLON LABE
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I don't want to imagine. God's peace to you. Amen This.
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I’m sorry for your pain. I hope you will soon remember the joy of your marriage more than the loss of your wife. This, Hubert. As we age, those good memories become a mainstay in our lives. Hang tuff, Pard.
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Sorry for your loss. We will have been married 49 yrs 3/11...can not imagine losing her (or her me). Prayers sent for your healing....she is at peace.
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.... Even after 3 years when something happens that is good, my first thought is about telling it to her and then reality kicks my ass............ That's just painful. These things put the unimportant things in life in perspective. Appreciate your and others willingness to share. I'll be more thankful for the blessings I have.
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Hubert, I fully understand where you are coming from. I lost my bride 3 years ago. I was about 2 yrs into my fight with prostate cancer when my wife was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. I lost her less than a year later. I kept hearing it gets "better with time" it doesn't you just learn to live with it. Some days you just try to shut off your brain and simply put one foot in front of the other. Even after 3 years when something happens that is good, my first thought is about telling it to her and then reality kicks my ass.............to live with someone who truly loves you and you love in return is a gift that is to be cherished. I am a year and a half into the loss of my wife of 31 1/2 years, I am just now starting to get my head right. It has been and is the worst thing I have ever had to go through. Prayers for all who have lost a spouse.
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Hubert: I also am sorry for your loss and pain - stay strong and time will help heal. Hold into the wind VarmintGuy
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Sorry for your loss gentlemen. You guys were blessed to have had such gifts.
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Well meaning people often say, just get over it. Well, it doesn’t work like that. You don’t “get over it”, you just move on the best you can.
If you don’t know what to say, just be there for them. Don’t try to fix it, you can’t. Being there is probably the best thing you can do.
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I understand OP. I kissed my wife goodbye before going fishing one morning and was a widower by noon. She died in a traffic accident. Married 40 years. I was in a stupor for several months. Eventually worked my way out thanks to good friends and my faith in Christ. Now remarried and starting to enjoy life again. There is a light at the end of your tunnel. I suggest you find a grief support group such as GriefShare. Best of luck.
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So sorry for the loss and the heart ache.
Hopefully these thoughts may help.
When I’m Gone
When I come to the end of my journey And I travel my last weary mile Just forget if you can, that I ever frowned And remember only the smile
Forget unkind words I have spoken Remember some good I have done Forget that I ever had heartache And remember I've had loads of fun
Forget that I've stumbled and blundered And sometimes fell by the way Remember I have fought some hard battles And won, ere the close of the day
Then forget to grieve for my going I would not have you sad for a day But in summer just gather some flowers And remember the place where I lay
And come in the shade of evening When the sun paints the sky in the west Stand for a few moments beside me And remember only my best
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Condolences from our household.
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I’m sure she would want you to go on “living” Hope you can meet her wishes.
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Indeed, a good spouse wants the other happy.
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Living after your wife has passed away. You were given a wonderful gift, and if you are only patient I do believe you will see her again. Well said. And our condolences
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Living after your wife has passed away. So sorry for your loss
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This post just breaks my heart. My sincere prayers for you, sir.
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Sorry for your loss, Sir. She’ll be waiting for you when your time is here. The best thing you can do is honor her by living your life the best you can.
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