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Losings parents and grandparents to this slow terrible killer is bad enough, but last year I lost my wife.
Winnie had been so full of life...

Find out what you options are for moving her. Then figure which of them are best. You will not likely get the facility to change their basic behavior.

Been there. Done that. Best of luck.

BIL had Frontal-Temporal Dementia; typically they last about half as long as an Alzheimer. He died at age 77 after around 3 yrs in a facility. He had been affected for a couple of years before getting bad enough to be admitted.

IIRC, the average life span after Alzheimer DX is around 9 years or so, depending on age of onset and general health issues.

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My gosh there are people here who bear heavy burdens.

Amen.

Nothing else I can offer, but perhaps try to understand.

Both of my wife's parents and my father had dementia. They all lived into their 90s. My wife and I have discussed how it was a blessing that they all passed away before this whole pandemic thing because at least they didn't die alone nor were neglected.

Dementia is the worst. There's no upside at all.

My Mom pickled herself, drinking hard until she was too far gone to go out and buy booze. Had in-home caregivers, but her affairs were a mess and it all fell on me. But she was just gone, no rationality left, just a paranoid 5 year old on her best days. She finally fell, busted her shoulder (didn't call 911), the hospital couldn't move her to the nursing home fast enough (over my protests, I was 1000 miles away) and after 14 hours there, she choked to death on potato salad.

I've decided I'm going to have papers written up that if I can't pass certain cognizance tests, I'm done except for palliatives, no food, just water. I see no point in stripping my estate and heirs for pointless "memory care." Screw that, screw the system.

Mark, I’m sorry to hear about your mom. I know all too well what dealing with a loved one with Alzheimer’s is like. It’s terribly hard on loved ones but then this Covid crap came along and made a bad situation worse, almost unbearable for our loved one.

I wish I had a better answer and could offer you some words to help make things easier but I don’t, I don’t think there’s any way to overcome the hysteria that has swept away all logic and compassion. I will however offer my prayers of comfort and peace for your mom and your family.

We lost Dad (my father in law) in June. He survived exactly 1 year from when we could no longer care for him and were forced to put him in a secure facility. It was a beautiful place, new and immaculate and dad took to it after some initial resistance and soon he was happily at home in his mind. We visited often even though it was 175 miles one way (close to mom) and as it happened we visited dad the week before they locked down the country over Covid. We spoke on the phone and we talked to the facility and doctors multiple times each week for updates and to let them know that our forced absence didn’t mean that we weren’t watching. Dad went downhill fast. I spoke to the facility on Saturday when we were leaving mom’s and dad’s house to head home and he was fine, by Monday we were headed back because dad was slipping fast. We all made it over before dad passed and got to visit him and say our goodbyes. The facility allowed “compassionate visits” at the end of life. The facility could not have been nicer or more compassionate and accommodating. We were allowed to visit him in his room in pairs and could stay as long as we wanted. We had to wash our hands at the outside wash basin and wear masks but we took them off once in his room. We visited him 2 by 2 a few times each over the next 2 days, the head nurse gave me his home number and told me to call anytime day or night. We were all together at grandma and grandpa’s house, eating ice cream with grandma and laughing when I got the call.

May God grant you all peace.

Dementia is even worse than it’s already horrible reputation. Prayers for m stevenson and his family.

China Syndrome is just an excuse to bilk the federal government for money and back burner their problem patients..
Sorry that you and her a getting screwed by svc gate....

Never thought I would hear Mom call me a dirty rotten muutherfuuker, but there it was.
We have thrown them in jail, and we are looking to steal their money or just getting rid of them because they are old and a burden.
This paranoia has led to her not taking her meds because we talked the docs into giving them meds that make them compliant. And that’s how we tricked them into signing the lease.....on and on and on.
The hardest part is not being able to get to them. This is due to Whitmer and her cabal threaten to yank the licenses of facilities and bar anyone who works there from ever working in care positions. Evil bitch

Focus on your mother, not your governor. That's your problem and one you can fix.

Thanks, but mind your own business.
Troll all over the rest of this board, but leave this one alone.

Read what I posted (both of them) again.

Thought this was about ol’ dopey Joe.


Sorry for your troubles, mark.

Dementia /Alzheimers scares me

I recently had a run in with memory loss, and having a taste of what its like, it gets to your core and doesn't leave.

Fuqk off beans, be a man for once.

Give it up. You just want to bitch. Mark's path is pretty clear. Been there.

I can certainly sympathize with you. In 2013 my dog, my constant companion for 8 years, suddenly would not leave my wife's side. Months later I started noticing noticing memory lapses with her. It was easily noticeable because she always had a terrific memory. I took her for tests and finally in September of 2014 we got to see a specialist who diagnosed Alzheimers ( a year and a half after my dog had apparently knew something was wrong).

Last Christmas she was examined by a representative of our local Health Authority who said not only should she be in a care home, but should have been in one months earlier. Then Covid 19 hit and I was told that if she went into a care home I would not be able to visit her, until the Covid crisis was over. She's still at home and I am now experiencing the anger phase Alzheimer's patients go through. Like you I am called a f*cking assh*le, a rotten bast*rd and told to go to h*ll on a regular basis. I can't believe these words are coming from someone who before, wouldn't say sh*t if her mouth was full of it.

As I said earlier, you have my condolences and my wish for this anger phase to drop away swiftly. I have been told it will, but I guess anything can happen.

Again best of luck.

Moby I, M. Stevenson, and others who have loved ones suffering from Alzheimer's dementia -- or the other dementias -- here is a link to the videos by Dr. Natili Edmonds, PhD, specializing in dementia patients. Her videos were very helpful to me with understanding what was happening to my wife, and how to deal with her Alzheimer's disorder. I was making many mistakes as I was very ignorant as to what was going on in my wife's mind and just what Alzheimer's really was.

Dr. Edmonds' many videos are on You Tube and are most edifying and helpful. Perhaps they might make things a bit easier on you ... and your loved ones. The videos are not long and take little time to view. Below is just one of many she's made.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sGjuX8WHJLk

L.W.