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BTDT
It’s very hard at times. Just try to remember that you’re the “parent” now, and keep your cool. It’s okay to just walk away when it gets too bad; he won’t remember that either. We used to bring my father some special food and that became the focus for him while we were there instead of whatever else he was “up to”, like escape plans.
What fresh Hell is this?
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Just went through this the last month +. MIL was 97, on hospice at home out in
the boonies. All her kids were there. All she asked was not to be put in a nursing home.
Her wishes were honored. I used to catch chit when my mom thought I was my dad.
I feel for you Roger.
--- CAUGHT IN THE CROSSFIRE --- A Magic Time To Be An Illegal In America---
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It's hard dealing with my dad. I was given some good advice when my dad was in his final decline. A good friend told me that parents will take all you have to give and then expect more. His advice was to give all you can and realize that’s all you can give. You also have a life to live. They will suck the life out of you if you allow it. Give all you can and be satisfied with yourself that you’ve done all you can. I will pray for you and your father for peace and understanding.
There are 2 rules to success:
1. Never tell everything that you know.
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Prayers on the way from Oregon Roger...
its hard I know...
"Minus the killings, Washington has one of the lowest crime rates in the Country" Marion Barry, Mayor of Wash DC
“Owning guns is not a right. If it were a right, it would be in the Constitution.” ~Alexandria Ocasio Cortez
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Good luck Roger... sometimes it's a blessing my parents are already gone I guess.
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Ambulance just left with him, been up since 2 am with him, he's in so much pain that he would pass out when I tried to get him up so he could pee.
God bless Texas-----------------------
Old 300
I will remain what i am until the day I die- A HUNTER......Sitting Bull
Its not how you pick the booger..
but where you put it !!
Roger V Hunter
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Ambulance just left with him, been up since 2 am with him, he's in so much pain that he would pass out when I tried to get him up so he could pee. 🙏🙏🙏
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Ambulance just left with him, been up since 2 am with him, he's in so much pain that he would pass out when I tried to get him up so he could pee. Damn. Sorry. Don't miss those midnight ambulance trips...
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“When debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser.”
- Socrates
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You've got it, I'm praying. I can relate as five years ago this week was my dad's last on Earth. He passed that October 18th, at 87 y/o. My sisters and I did 24/7 in-house care for him for his last 6 weeks or so. It was really challenging and draining but looking back/reminiscing this week I'm glad I did it. Now I just reflect on what a great dad he was to me and for all that I'm thankful. Will see him again one day in eternity, so I have that going for me!
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They did a GI scope today found two bleeds in his stomach they fixed, he called me twice in the last hour, not there mentally giving the nurses hell, my brother is on his way over there.
God bless Texas-----------------------
Old 300
I will remain what i am until the day I die- A HUNTER......Sitting Bull
Its not how you pick the booger..
but where you put it !!
Roger V Hunter
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been dozing off driving, need a break.
God bless Texas-----------------------
Old 300
I will remain what i am until the day I die- A HUNTER......Sitting Bull
Its not how you pick the booger..
but where you put it !!
Roger V Hunter
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I feel for your situation. We have gone through it twice. .It takes it's toll on you, but stay strong for him and for you and it will be rewarding. I am pretty sure this disease will get me too. I hope I make it easy on the ones who have to deal with me.
Prayers on the way and I am glad you asked.
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More Prayers sent !
Hang in there Roger !
"Allways speak the truth and you will never have to remember what you said before..." Sam Houston
Texans, "We say Grace, We Say Mam, If You Don't Like it, We Don't Give a Damn!"
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Very difficult dealing with aged parents that are at life's end. I'll add not everyone can cope with it. When my Mother was at death's doorstep I just couldn't go in there. She wasn't aware of anyone or anything and her body was in the final stages of shut down. I did all the heavy lifting in Mom's last several years and thankfully my sister stepped up and was happy to be with her in the final stage when breathing stopped. Prayers and best wishes sent to the OP.
living the good life every day
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Very difficult dealing with aged parents that are at life's end. I'll add not everyone can cope with it. When my Mother was at death's doorstep I just couldn't go in there. She wasn't aware of anyone or anything and her body was in the final stages of shut down. I did all the heavy lifting in Mom's last several years and thankfully my sister stepped up and was happy to be with her in the final stage when breathing stopped. Prayers and best wishes sent to the OP. Dealt with my mom and my old lady's mother, so not my first rodeo, but will be my last with my parents and that's what gets me.
God bless Texas-----------------------
Old 300
I will remain what i am until the day I die- A HUNTER......Sitting Bull
Its not how you pick the booger..
but where you put it !!
Roger V Hunter
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