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#6582599 - 06/10/12 Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: heavywalker]  
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Originally Posted by heavywalker
I paid for my own wedding so I would say that any amount of money that you or the brides parents kick in would, and should, be a blessing. Pay what you can afford and if they don't like it, they can scale back the wedding.


Well said; neither of our parents were able to help and we wanted no debt so we eloped. Ain't no thang.


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#6582621 - 06/10/12 Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: woofer]  
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My wife and I paid for everything ourselves, and did it under $5,000. We were engaged for about a year, and all along the way, people offered to help. Brother-in-law owned a restaurant and gave us beer for the reception. Uncle had a ice cream parlor and got us soft drinks. Grandmother wanted to do flowers, so we just let her roll with it. Wife's aunt wanted to do hair and made the gals a breakfast. Her dress was off the clearance rack for $100 and she had modifications/alterations done and it was beautiful. We put up a monster tent on their farm for the reception. So on and so on...In about a year all the pieces fell into place. People would offer to do something, and we'd just let them. It made for a great day....

I've been to weddings where most of the guests were from Daddy's office and Mommy's sewing circle and they flat out sucked. The B&G were nothing but stressed the entire time like it was a [bleep] presidential gala. "oh we have to go shake hands with this person...blah, blah"

My feeling is that if you have to introduce your wife to a new face on your wedding day, they prolly shouldn't have been on the guest list to begin with..





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#6582628 - 06/10/12 Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: saddlesore]  
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Originally Posted by saddlesore
Originally Posted by Itasca
Thanks all for the replys. They make my decision a bit easier.

Part of the problem is, our son owes me over 15k. Any suggestions?


Tell him that $15K is his wedding present and payment for the wedding also.If he is in debt $15 ,he sure does not need a big bash for a wedding.


Saddlesore nailed it.

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#6582997 - 06/10/12 Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: Itasca]  
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Originally Posted by Itasca
Our son is getting married this fall. I know about a fall wedding, busy hunting at that time (LOL).

Any way I paid the vast majority of the wedding when our daughter got married 10 years ago. It turns out that our son's bride parents will only chip in a small amount. I feel the burden is put on me. My wife & son are keeping silent on the issue.
Any thoughts??



My wife and I paid for the wedding. So far we have never asked her parents or mine for any money. I much prefer it this way.


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#6583198 - 06/10/12 Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: Itasca]  
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It turns out that our son's bride parents will only chip in a small amount.
Tell 'em they're having a small wedding, then.

I'm paying for my daughter's right now. Gotta go change for it now. I sure wouldn't step in for my son's, unless I wanted to, and I can't see that happening anytime soon.


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#6583345 - 06/10/12 Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: RickyD]  
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Thanks all for the opinions. I'll let you know how things turn out.

#6583795 - 06/10/12 Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: Itasca]  
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One of the funniest toasts I ever heard was a guy that said "and above all, I hope that all your kids are born naked"

maybe I was drunk....

good luck!


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#6584015 - 06/10/12 Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: 308scout]  
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When my BIL got married, they were struggling to finance the thing. He'd asked several of us close relatives to be groomsmen but he was having a real hard time figuring out how to afford the tuxes. I told him to go with the black suits that we all had and put the money to a better use. It didn't take him long to agree.


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#6584699 - 06/11/12 Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: 16bore]  
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Originally Posted by 16bore
One of the funniest toasts I ever heard was a guy that said "and above all, I hope that all your kids are born naked"

Woulda made for an interesting evening if it was from the step-father of the bride.


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#6584715 - 06/11/12 Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: rost495]  
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Originally Posted by rost495
Originally Posted by sactoller
My brother told me after he got married, that he figured there are two reasons to get married, love or money....he keeps telling me to go for the money!

laugh


He is wrong.


well getting married for sex is like buying a jumbo jet for the free peanuts


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#6584790 - 06/11/12 Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: Itasca]  
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Originally Posted by Itasca
Our son is getting married this fall. I know about a fall wedding, busy hunting at that time (LOL).


I had a relative get married on the first day of archery season once! eek

And he's a hunter!! shocked

Funny what the bride can talk guys in to...

As for me; my wife & I paid for it. That way, we got to make the rules. wink

Very small (10 people), outdoors, beside Oak Creek in Sedona.

As others have said, weddings are just very expensive parties for your friends and a whole bunch of other people that you barely know.

We put the money in to building a new house, and taking a 10 year (rather than 30 year) mortgage to pay it off. Money MUCH wiser spent than a big elaborate wedding.

#6584884 - 06/11/12 Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: heavywalker]  
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Originally Posted by heavywalker
I paid for my own wedding so I would say that any amount of money that you or the brides parents kick in would, and should, be a blessing. Pay what you can afford and if they don't like it, they can scale back the wedding.


This is how we handled it as well.


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#6585154 - 06/11/12 Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: tzone]  
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We got married in the Lutheran church.
The only expense was the preacher's fee,we all went to a steak house for a meal after.
Things went well after eating,we were at home when my little brother came knocking at the door.
He was to late to interrupt anything.

#6585166 - 06/11/12 Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: Itasca]  
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Tell your son and his bride a justice of the peace wedding will cost less than $100, and they want start their life together in the hole for a several thousand dollar party.

#6585182 - 06/11/12 Re: Weddings (whats fair) [Re: StrayDog]  
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I don't know why so many brides want to impress everyone with the size and pomp of their weddings. Saturday afternoon I photographed the wedding of a friend's daughter. She didn't have much money, so she made the decorations and kept everything simple. I was more impressed by her use of ingenuity that by the use of $$$ in so many other weddings. At the end of the day they were just as married as the other couples and the costs were negligible. I have seen weddings so expensive that the couple could have paid for a Hawaiian honeymoon with less.

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