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Posted By: ShaunRyan I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
About 3:00 AM Monday morning, Dec 13, my wife of 18 years and my best friend in the world went into sudden cardiac arrest. I was in bed, asleep. Heard her yelling for me, jumped up, called 911. She lost consciousness and I administered CPR for nearly 10 minutes before the EMTs arrived (I'm certified). They got her heart started and put her on oxygen, but she was already gone. All day Monday in the ICU on a ventilator, the DNR questions, etc. Her answer was no in that situation, in writing, years ago. I went home at 7:00 PM, our dogs to look after. They wouldn't pull the breathing tube until I left, although I asked them to so I could be there at the final moment.

They called at 1:56 AM Tuesday to inform me she had passed.

Blood clots in her lungs caused it, they said. Covid negative, non-vaxxed. She had a history of clots though, since her last pregnancy in '89. Plus stage IV cancer in 2015, and 4 rounds of chemo. Any one of those could have been the culprit.

She is with God now.

Victoria was the best person I have ever known, bar none. Honest to a fault with the utmost integrity. She would punch you in the mouth if you deserved it, friend or foe, but would give you the shirt off her back if she thought it would help. She always did the right thing, even when it hurt her to do so. She never lied to me in the 19 years we were together, and not only made me want to be a better man but helped me to be. I'm proud to have known and loved her, and doubt I'll ever meet her like again.

I'll miss her every minute of every day, always.
Posted By: Certifiable Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry to hear brother..
Posted By: Mac84 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry for your loss. I can’t begin to imagine
Posted By: Higginez Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry to hear this man.
Posted By: LBP Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Damn sorry to hear this, you’re in my prayers.
Posted By: Mike_S Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry for your loss.
Posted By: 673 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Life is precious, sorry to hear.
Posted By: Blackheart Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Man that's gotta be tough and you have my deepest sympathy. You will be with her again one day.
Posted By: windridge Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Please accept my sincere condolences.
Posted By: WAM Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sincerest condolences…
Posted By: 270jrk Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Shaun, Victoria sounds like an incredible woman. I hope you manage okay until you’re with her again.
Posted By: DugE Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Praying Supernatural peace over you. May the God of all comfort bless and keep you.
Posted By: MontanaMarine Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Deepest condolences for your loss.
Posted By: Morewood Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Aw man..my heartfelt condolences.

I also have a Victoria.
Posted By: acloco Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry for your loss. Will keep you and yours in our thoughts. RIP!!
Posted By: skeen Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry, Brother.
Posted By: Sprint11 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Condolences. Now, love her the rest of your life.
Posted By: wilkeshunter Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I am very sorry to hear of this. Prayers for you, from us in N.C. There will be a great reunion for you someday.
Posted By: renegade50 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry about your loss.
Posted By: m1919 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22



I once heard that your partner is there as a witness to your life.



My condolences
Posted By: mjbgalt Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Damn. That's awful. Go talk to someone...get a counselor and let them walk you through healing so you can enjoy life again like she would want you to.
Posted By: DMc Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Shaun, God Bless you and Victoria. I can empathize with your loss. Be strong. Lots of members here would certainly lend an ear. Prayers your way.
Posted By: Sycamore Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
very sorry for your loss. what a great tribute you wrote to your wife. prayers from our family to you and yours.
Posted By: Hammerdown Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I can't say any words to bring you peace at this time. I can tell you; I'm truly saddened by this news.

Wishing all the best if possible.

Take care.
Posted By: Oklahomahunter Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I’m deeply sorry for your loss.
Posted By: ol_mike Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Wow very sorry to hear this, sad.

Rest in peace Victoria, gone way too soon.

Condolences to all.

Mike
Posted By: NWRancher Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I'm sorry to hear this. Know with assurance that one day you will be reunited with your Victoria.
Posted By: 5sdad Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Thoughts and prayers for you from Iowa.
Posted By: Gypsy_Wind Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
My deepest condolences.

Victoria sounded like a very special woman. May she Rest In Peace.
Posted By: broomd Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Heart breaking.
Lean on the love of friends and family around you.
Posted By: jeffbird Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Damn, so hard to even read this.

May she rest in peace and know that she is still with you in your heart and memory in all she did with you.
Posted By: BC30cal Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Shaun;
As has been said, it's tough to say anything meaningful at times such as this.

I have no idea what you're going through sir, but you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Dwayne
Posted By: 19352012 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I'm very sorry for your loss.
Posted By: CRJ1960 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry for your loss, prayers sent. Stay strong
Posted By: Fireball2 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Originally Posted by Hammerdown
I can't say any words to bring you peace at this time. I can tell you; I'm truly saddened by this news.

Wishing all the best if possible.

Take care.


This is exactly what I was thinking but you said it better than I would have.

I am very sorry for your loss.
Posted By: tzone Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I’m so very sorry to hear this. Prayers to you and your family.
Posted By: skfullen Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
May she rest in peace. God bless her soul.

May you find peace.
Posted By: MGunns Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Very sorry. Hang in there. Praying for you
Posted By: NVhntr Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
What a tribute you wrote. You were a lucky man, many don't get to experience that kind of relationship. Keep her in your heart.
I am sorry for your loss.
Posted By: NMiller Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Dang, that's tough, bless you bro!
Posted By: GreatWaputi Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Hate to read this. Victoria sounds like a wonderful woman. You have my deepest condolences.
Posted By: 700LH Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Condolences.
Posted By: 280shooter Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
My condolences.
Posted By: kolofardos Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I'm so sorry.
Posted By: Cariboujack Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
That had to be tough to go through and just as tough to write. You have my sincerest condolences for your loss. Prayers that our Lord will comfort you in your time of hurting. Focus on the good times. I'm sure she's already looking forward to being with you again.
Posted By: CoRifleman Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry to hear this. Our condolences. Nothing guaranteed in this world. Bless you both.
Posted By: High_Noon Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Very sorry to hear this and I'm sorry for your terrible loss.
Not many men are as lucky as you are to have found such a great friend and mate. You did well my Friend.
Posted By: local_dirt Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
My sincere condolences, Shawn.
Posted By: mart Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry for your loss. You were blessed with a wonderful wife and partner.
Posted By: RUM7 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
My condolences.
Sorry for your loss. Sounds like she was a great wife and friend. I'll be praying for you. Hang in there.
Posted By: SeanD Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sincere condolences
Posted By: Partsman Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry to hear of this, a lot of us will never know that kind of love, cherish the memories and condolences to your family and friends.
Posted By: Lonny Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Very sorry for your loss...
Posted By: keith Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
You and your family are in our prayers!
Posted By: Ben_Lurkin Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
It’s a tough road. I was a widower at 43 - since remarried. Lost my first wife to Leukemia in 2013. She had been sick on and off since age 35. Left me and three kids. With her medical history, there was always that heightened expectation, but it never makes it easier when it finally happens.

Be sure and take good care of yourself. Eat well, get the proper amount of sleep. Get up and get going like you normally would. Get help if you need it. It’s expected that you will be mourning but watch for depression. My wife passed mid-October and the Holidays were the worst thing to get through that first year. We had lots of family & friends around throughout that time, but afterwards they naturally went back to their lives while you are now having to figure out your new normal. Even after nearly eight years, there’s not a single day I don’t think about her. I don’t tell my new wife that though.

Happy to listen if you need a sympathetic ear. PM anytime.

God bless!
Posted By: SCRUBS Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry for your loss, my condolences.
Posted By: Hastings Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry.
Posted By: AKwolverine Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Tough to hear.
So sorry for your loss.
Posted By: huntersdog Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry for your loss my condolences to you and your kids.
Posted By: MMM Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Terribly sorry sir, I cannot imagine. God bless.
Posted By: AB2506 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I can't pretend to know your pain. My sincere condolences.
Posted By: dogcatcher223 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Dang. Sorry to hear that. Time is your best friend in moments like this. Hang in there, sorry for your loss.
Posted By: keith_dunlap Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry to hear about your wife
Posted By: Three30Eight Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I have no good words...and I know that you don't know me...but I am praying for you my friend. Hang tough...I am so sorry for your loss.
Posted By: SCgman1 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Gods peace for you and your family during this difficult time.
Posted By: CCCC Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
How wonderful that you had such a fine mate and that you an tell us such great things about her. I am sorry that she is gone and know that your loss must hurt - a lot. I pray for diminishing grief and helpful loving memories.
Posted By: 805 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry for your loss. Condolences to you and family.
Posted By: Okanagan Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
What a terrible loss. Many of us wish we could bear some of it. You were a fortunate man, and the greater your love the greater the loss.
Posted By: CharlieFoxtrot Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
That first part was hard to get through. You did everything right. My heartfelt condolences. Godspeed.
Posted By: DouginAlaska Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry to hear of your loss, must be very tough to deal with. Prayers for you and your wife.
Sorry for your loss. To lose someone who was your best friend and soulmate would not be easy..
Posted By: KFWA Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
horrible news, I hope for strength and peace for you
Posted By: StrayDog Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
It must have been great sharing your lives in such a wonderful marriage. Prayers for God's presence with you in thorough healing for you and yours.
Posted By: RogueHunter Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22


Prayers sent Northward for you and your wonderful wife.
Posted By: Ohio7x57 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry for your loss

Ron
Posted By: 7mmbuster Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Wow, I’m at a loss for words.
You have my deepest sympathy, and I’ll surely be praying for you.
7mm
Posted By: Strider1 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
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Posted By: Sako76 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry for your loss.
Posted By: 35 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
You have my most sincere condolences.
Posted By: Jim_Conrad Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Very sorry.
Posted By: auk1124 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
My deepest sympathies to you and your family.
Posted By: Rock Chuck Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I'm very sorry to hear that. Losing a long time partner is very hard to take. it is survivable, though. it happened to me about 15 years ago but from cancer, not a heart problem. You'll get over the shock but you'll never get over her.
Posted By: hotsoup Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Very sorry. Praying for you and your family
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Posted By: chris_c Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry for your loss
Posted By: rockinbbar Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
RIP Victoria.

Hang in there Shaun.
Posted By: benchman Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry to hear that. A very good person.
Posted By: dave7mm Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry for your loss

dave
Posted By: CBB Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry for your loss
Posted By: 10Glocks Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I am so sorry to read this. My condolences to you and your family.
Posted By: viking Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry for your loss.

That was the first thing I read this morning, sadly.
Posted By: frogman43 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
It brings sorrow to my heart to hear of your loss.......I will pray for your strength and peace in the days ahead.
Posted By: troublesome82 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I will keep you in my prayers , Brother! You hang tough!
Posted By: Blu_Cs Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
My most sincere condolences.
Posted By: Longbob Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry for your loss and my thoughts are with you.
Posted By: 12344mag Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I'm very sorry to hear of your wife's passing, I can't imagine.

You and your family are in my prayers.
Posted By: EMoore Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Very sorry for your loss, sir.
Posted By: Nollij Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Condolences.
This is very sad news. Please accept my sincere condolences
I can't imagine dealing if it were to happen to my Lisa.
Rest in Pease, Victoria.
Posted By: philgood80 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Such sad news to hear. Prayers from AR
Posted By: rong Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Stay strong during this difficult time. Be the rock for the kids,but take time for yourself.
Posted By: m_stevenson Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
My condolences on your loss. Prayers sent for comfort and peace.
Posted By: TimberRunner Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Oh my. Prayers to you.
Posted By: JTrapper73 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I am very sorry for your loss. You will be in my prayers.
Posted By: lapua6547 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry for your loss Shaun. I can’t begin to imagine....
I’m sure sorry to read this. It must feel overwhelming and grief stricken in the moment but things won’t remain as difficult as they are today.
Posted By: Sasha_and_Abby Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Shaun
There are no words...
Just none.

I don't know you, but you are in my prayers. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Posted By: DigitalDan Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Condolences to you and family
Posted By: Boarmaster123 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry to hear this. Condolences.
Posted By: USMC2602 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Very sorry for your loss.
Posted By: SKane Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Damn. Just, damn.
Condolences to you and entire family.
Posted By: jwp475 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22

Sorry to hear of this 🙏🙏🙏
Posted By: fshaw Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I am so very sorry for your loss. May God give you strength and grant you peace
Posted By: GRIZZ Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Going through a cancer scare with my wife right now nightmarish. Condolences
Posted By: BoltactionMan Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
My Condolences. God Bless you both.

KC
Posted By: NDsnowman Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Shaun Ryan,

Prayers sent.
Posted By: miguel Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
You are in our prayers. My deepest condolences.
Posted By: Osky Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Very sorry for you.

After all God sits thru daily I think it’s refreshing for him when no judging is needed. He always has room for another Angel.

Osky
Posted By: cvmw Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Condolences, My heart hurts for you and your family. Stay strong.
Posted By: blindshooter Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Very sorry for your great loss.

You described a great wife and partner. That don't always happen.

Lost my first wife of 15yrs to a heart defect.

Hang on tight. Sounds like she would have expected you to carry on and be as happy as possible.
Posted By: scottf270 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Stay strong. Continuing to live a good strong life with great remembrance of her is the best tribute you can give her.
Posted By: BigDave39355 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry for your loss. You described a wonderful lady.
Posted By: haazrob Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry for your loss.
Posted By: RNF Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry for your loss. Condolences to you and family!!
Posted By: 163bc Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
prayers offered
Posted By: coobie Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Very sorry for your Loss.
Posted By: Pappy348 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
My deepest condolences.
Posted By: oldcuss Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry for your loss - Time and lots of will
help ease the pain, but never erase it.
Stay strong.

Old Cuss
Posted By: Showdog75 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
God bless you and sorry for your loss. May she rest in Peace.
Posted By: specialK Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Very sorry for your loss. Keep your head up which I’m sure you will.
Posted By: gunchamp Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Nothing i can say would ease the pain. Im so sorry to hear this. Brought tears to my eyes. Try and stay strong
Posted By: Ky221 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry to hear this.

The thought of going through something like this chills me to the bone.

Prayers heading your way from Ky.
Posted By: PintsofCraft Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Lord, I cannot even begin to imagine. Prayers with you & your family. You indeed were a lucky man knowing her.
Posted By: Springcove Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Damn! So truly sorry for you and your family. My deepest condolences.
Posted By: pete53 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
sorry for your loss , prayers sent
Posted By: Sakoluvr Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I think we would have all benefited from knowing her. She sounded like a wonderful person as a wife and friend. May you have God's peace during this trial.
Posted By: wabigoon Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Words fail me, may our Lord give you strength, and may God bless you both.
Posted By: jay Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Condolences and prayer to you and your family. So sorry.
Posted By: EQFD193 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sincerest condolences.
Posted By: CashisKing Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I have no words Shaun... other than I am happy that you knew and loved this woman...

Such love in indeed most rare...
Posted By: Dillonbuck Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Words fail me.


Be strong, it will get better.
Won't go away, just won't hurt as much.
Posted By: Nestucca Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Damn such a tragedy to lose your wife like that. My condolences sir
Posted By: mark shubert Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Prayers sent for you and your family, Shaun.
Please try to dwell on the good times and memories with Victoria.
Posted By: Tyrone Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
God bless you, Victoria, and the rest of your family.

I can't begin to imagine the loss.

Keep in mind the pain you feel is the opposite side of the love you you have. No loss, no pain; great loss, great pain. But it's a beautiful thing.
Condolences!

Rest in Peace Victoria!

God Bless!
Posted By: CrowRifle Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Mu prayers and thoughts are with you. God bless.
Posted By: tater74 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Dang! I'm so sorry.
Posted By: CrimsonTide Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry to hear of your loss. May God keep her and wrap you in His peace.
Posted By: pullit Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry to hear about your loss.
Posted By: flintlocke Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
A thousand brothers you've never met share a tiny fraction of your pain, soldier on brother.
Posted By: STRSWilson Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Peace be with you and your family during this difficult time.
Posted By: Whelenman Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry for your loss! I can only imagine! Prayers sent for you and your family!!
Posted By: WV_Airedale Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Heartfelt condolences, I pray God's peace will be upon you and your family.
Posted By: Dutch Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
You honor Victoria with this wonderful tribute to her and your life together. You honor her with your grief. My prayer for you is that you will keep honoring her memory, through remembering, through living well, and some day, when the time comes again, by loving again.
Posted By: SockPuppet Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I am so very sorry for your loss, brother.
Posted By: kaywoodie Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
My deepest condolences to you and your family.
Posted By: Seafire Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sincerest and deepest condolences. That is a tough thing to deal with.... and then you will feel her being gone every day in your future.

May the Good Lord be with you thru this difficult time.

Just this past Friday, I had to attend a wake of a friends wife, who I've known for 15 years or so... she was 54.... Covid, and unvaxed.

The hardest thing about it, was to watch her three boys stand there and trying to deal with it.... 35, 30 and 27 years old...

May God Bless your loving wife... and God Bless Susie, who's wake I attended Friday evening...
Posted By: WhiteFawn Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Life just hangs by a hair most of the time and we don't realize it until something like this happens. May the Good Lord bring you peace and pleasant memories.
Posted By: MtnHiker Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Prayers for you.
Posted By: saddlering Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
RIP Victoria, sorry Brother!
Posted By: Ridgewalker Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry for your loss
Posted By: rc82bttb Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Very sorry for your loss. She sounds like a wonderful woman
Posted By: country_20boy Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry for your loss. Prayers for you during this difficult time.
Posted By: asheepdog Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Truly sorry for your loss. My condolences and I hope that you have a good support system to get you through this trying time.
Posted By: ACTDad Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry for loss. Praying God will grant you strength and comfort in this time
Posted By: BlueDuck Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sad and sorry to hear this.
Posted By: Crappie_Killer Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I cannot even imagine what you are going through. You have my condolences.
Posted By: jaguartx Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry to hear this. Yes, she is in paradise and yes, you two will have joy again.
Posted By: barm Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I am truly saddened for your loss. You and your wife are in my prayers.
Posted By: JGRaider Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry and sad for your loss OP.
Posted By: cfran Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Prayers sent . . .
Posted By: Raeford Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry to hear, may she RIP
Posted By: Mannlicher Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
nothing I write here could help, but prayers will. You have those.
Posted By: LRoyJetson Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
My condolences sir.

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Honest to a fault with the utmost integrity. She would punch you in the mouth if you deserved it, friend or foe, but would give you the shirt off her back if she thought it would help. She always did the right thing, even when it hurt her to do so.


Tell us more about Victoria when you can.
Posted By: rost495 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Thoughts, prayers and condolences. About all one can offer. Sure hate to read posts like this.

Glad you had 18 great years

Jeff
Posted By: Paul39 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry for your loss. Condolences to you and your family.
Posted By: MTGunner Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
We will keep a good thought for you and your family. MTG
Posted By: Cheyenne Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I am very sorry to hear of your loss. I can't begin comprehend how you must feel. Please stay strong, cherish the memories and the ways that you have become a better person because of your relationship, and carry on to the best of your ability.
Posted By: Starbuck Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
My relationship statistics are very close to yours, as are my feelings towards my wife and the life I've been fortunate enough to share with her. My heart breaks for you and what you're going through.

Thanks for sharing such a beautiful tribute. It's a testament to a great person and a great relationship. Reminds us all to be thankful for and make the most of the time we have with those we love.
Posted By: Magnum_Bob Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sincere condolences Shaun may you heal. Mb
So sorry. I know how you feel..
Posted By: David_Walter Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Praying for you and the family.
Posted By: Brad Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
There's not much a person can say... what a beautiful and heartfelt tribute to an obviously wonderful woman. Bless you my man, so sorry for your loss.
Posted By: hanco Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I’m very sorry, may she Rest In Peace. I’d be lost if something happened to Wifey.
Posted By: Jim_Knight Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I'm so sorry for you Brother. While we always rejoice when a loved one goes to be with Lord, we also know they "are not here" with us, and that's the pain of it. Its OK to grieve that pain too...God give your strength!
Posted By: Tarbe Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
God bless you Brother, and all who mourn.

What a blessing to have known, loved, and been loved by such a fine woman.



Tim
Posted By: 4winds Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I'm sorry for your loss, may she Rest In Peace.
Posted By: Al_Nyhus Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry for your loss.

Like you, I lost my wife in my 50's. One day at a time, sir.

Sincerely, Al Nyhus
Posted By: huntsman22 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Dang. Just dang....
Posted By: g5m Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I'm very sorry to hear of this. My sincere condolences.
Posted By: bluefish Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Shaun,
Please accept my condolences for your loss. Words are not enough I know. I pray for you and your family.
Feel free to PM If you ever need to talk with someone.

God Bless you.
Posted By: ROMAC Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
My deepest sympathies to you and your family.
Posted By: pahick Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry for your loss.
Posted By: Aviator Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Prayers sent
Posted By: crittrgittr Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sincerest condolences on your loss sir.
Posted By: centershot Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry to hear that. Prayers sent.
Posted By: cra1948 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry to hear this...way too early...don't know what to say
Posted By: Offshoreman Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Having gone through similar circumstances, I extend my sincerest sympathies for the loss of your soulmate. If I may suggest, search out a grief counselor - I was at the state of simply imploding when a close friend more or less said that if I didn't go, he and couple of big goons would come get me and make me go. It was the only way I survived. You have a lot of living left, and your wife would want you to make the best of all the opportunities that come your way. But you have to grieve before you can go on, and then you get the point when you begin celebrating her life instead of mourning her passing. Some of the strongest guys I know, never could get past this step and only grief counseling made it possible for them to go forward. I hope that time brings healing to you and your family.

Most respectfully,
Py
Posted By: navlav8r Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry for your loss. Don’t know what I’d do without mine.
Posted By: TheBigSky Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I'm so very sorry for you loss.
Posted By: Idaho_Shooter Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry to hear this Shaun. You have my sympathy and condolences. She sounds like a wonderful lady, and I am sure the world is less with her gone.
Posted By: bruinruin Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
What a horrible shock. I'm very sorry for your tragic loss. She sounded like a wonderful person.
Posted By: Steve Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Heartfelt condolences. I hope you have people close to you that you can lean on.
Posted By: hasbeen1945 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry for your loss. Hasbeen
Prayers for comfort for you and your family.

Mike
Posted By: gregintenn Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Man, I don't know what to say. We joke about them, but the truth is I'd be lost without my wife. So sorry to hear this.
Posted By: smokepole Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Condolences Shaun.
Posted By: rte Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I'm sorry to read that you lost your Victoria.

May God give you and your family the strength to triumph over this tragedy.

Posted By: Caplock Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Condolences ! Still living through the loss of my wife of 51 years......not an easy road so find help if you need it and you will.
Posted By: Pharmseller Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
God’s peace upon you.
Posted By: HTDUCK Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
My deepest condolences.
Posted By: Valsdad Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Damn Shaun, just getting on the computer.

Condolences from NE Cali.
Posted By: jmp300wsm Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
VERY VERY SORRY for your loss!!
Posted By: byron Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry to read this sir. Sounds like your wife was a lot like mine, and I don't know what in the world I would ever do without her,I hope she rests in peace, and that you stand strong and resolute to try and be happy in life as I'm sure she would want you to.
Posted By: TnBigBore Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry for your loss.
Posted By: JPro Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
It sounds like she was, is, and will be a blessing to you. Will say a prayer for your family.
Posted By: kk alaska Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
You and your family will be in my prayers
Posted By: JohnnyLoco Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Prayers up man
Posted By: 4xbear Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I am deeply sorry for your loss. No matter where life takes you from now she will always be a part of you. Bear
Posted By: Deans Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
My condolences to you and your family. May God rest her soul.
Posted By: UncleAlps Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
God Bless you Shaun. Try to focus on the good things about her life. Going to be a tough time ahead.
Posted By: shaman Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers are on the way.
Posted By: BayouRover Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Condolences to you and your family.
Posted By: Redneck Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
My condolences - I'm so sorry to learn of your loss...
Posted By: superlight17b Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry for your loss,i can't imagine what you are going through,but i send all my best to you.
Posted By: TRnCO Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
man, so sorry to read this. My condolences. May you find the strength to carry on and know some day you shall meet again.
Posted By: ironbender Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Damn, that’s young. Sorry to read this.

Condolences to your family and may she RIP.
Posted By: efw Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Dang man I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. Prayers for the comfort of the Holy Spirit I can’t imagine being in your shoes.
Posted By: Ghostman Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I lost my wife of 42 years to Covid this past September. My deepest condolences to you and your family.
Posted By: Rock Chuck Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
While you often read obits that say the family was at their side, more often than not they were gathered but not physically in the room. It's very common for a family to be sitting around waiting for a person to die but they don't until the family for some reason isn't actually in the room. In my brother's case, we'd been there for several hours after he was taken off life support but he didn't die until 30 minutes after we all went to lunch. From what I've heard and read, this is very common. It's like the person really doesn't want anyone there and they keep hanging on until they're alone.
My wife died of cancer. We had her in a hospital bed in the living room. I heard her coughing at 3am but when I got up at 6, she was gone, sitting in a chair. I think she'd been to the bathroom and couldn't make it back to bed so she just sat down there. My 92 yo dad was in a hospital. The nurse had been there checking him out and joking with him. She left for 20 min and he died in that time.
So, don't feel bad about not being there at the last breath. You aren't alone.
Posted By: Huntz Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Nothing I can say will make you feel better,but I am truly sorry for your loss.Now she is in a place where none of the petty earthly things matter.A much better place than here.Huntz
Posted By: Skankhunt42 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Prayers for you and your family. I can't imagine.
Posted By: Dave_in_WV Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I'm sorry for your loss. Prayers for comforting and strength.
blessings, Dave
Posted By: thumbcocker Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry for your loss. Godspeed!
Posted By: Rug3 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
My deepest condolences to you and your family. Your love for Victoria is obvious in your post here. I'm reminded of these words recently spoken by one who had lot his wife. "The physical is gone. Ah, but Love, Love lives on, nurture Love."
So sorry for your loss and certainly am/will be praying for you.
Jim
Posted By: elephantrider Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry for the loss man
Tragic news. Very sorry to hear it.
Posted By: rainshot Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
My deepest condolences. So sorry to hear. May she Rest In Peace.
Posted By: Winchester21 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sincerest condolences and Godspeed to your lovely wife.
Posted By: J23 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I'm so sorry Shaun.

I will pray for you.
Posted By: 78CJ Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
My condolences, sorry for your loss, a true nightmare
Posted By: test1328 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I'll add my condolences and prayers for you and your family. I'm extremely sorry that you had to go through this and I know it won't be easy for you for a long while. As others have said, take care of yourself now and do what you can to move on, but not forget your love and the love you two shared. I pray that the healing takes place in your heart as quickly as possible.
Posted By: atvalaska Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Darn.......
Posted By: markopolo50 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I am very sorry for your loss, Shaun. I can't imagine what you are going through. Take care of yourself.

Mark
Posted By: Jim_Conrad Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Glad you got to be there for it.


Nobody could have done a better or more caring job.
Posted By: RufusG Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Condolences and best to you and your family.
Posted By: duckster Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Sorry for your loss.
Posted By: devnull Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I'm sorry to hear this. Nothing I or anyone else says can provide the comfort you need. Counseling is a solid recommendation. Remember the good times.
Posted By: gunzo Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
My sincere condolences Shaun.
Posted By: ShaunRyan Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Thank you all for taking the time to offer condolences and prayers, especially those who have suffered a similar loss. It means a lot that so many would reach out, even if just to type a few words offered in kindness.

It's been a rough month. The holidays weren't easy.

I believed myself prepared for the eventuality. The cancer thing in 2015 was bad, thought I was going to lose her then. But she beat it for damn near 7 years, which is unheard of with stage IV cancer. Those years were a blessing, and we had many conversations about her leaving this world before me. She figured the cancer would come back and wanted me to be ready for it.

I wasn't.

Yesterday, I got up before sunrise so I could drop our new puppy off at the vet to get spayed. We were going to breed her with our red tri-color male, but there's no way I can look after a litter of puppies now. The dogs are home alone for 11-12 hours while I'm working. Those two took to each other like peas and carrots, as Forest would say, and that makes me smile every time I see them together. Puppies or no, they're mates now. I came home and got the red beans and sausage cooking. Went back to town and picked her up in the afternoon. She was a little groggy, and didn't eat much, slept with me last night. She's outside with the others now, back to normal.

We drove to Fort Cobb, OK to buy this pup on 9/27. 1056 mile round trip. It was our last adventure together. We got one more camping/woodcutting trip to our mountain property after that then settled in for winter.

Anyway, I'm rambling. I don't really know why I posted about my situation here. I'm a private guy, usually keep myself to myself. Something prompted me to. Maybe it was Victoria.

Again, thank you all for your thoughts and prayers.

Shaun
Posted By: Mike78 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
You have lived my worse fear. I am humbled
Posted By: Rooterpig Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I’m praying for you brother.
Posted By: Huntaholic Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Im sorry Im so late to this thread. Im also deeply sorry for your loss. I don't want to even imagine what its like but the older we get, the more we think about it. Id be lost without my wife, she has helped make me the man I am today and I shudder in fear of what I may have became without her by my side for the last 40 years.
Posted By: Mike78 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
PS: I pray no Russians John Wick your dog. Added for humor.
Posted By: chlinstructor Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry for your loss.
Posted By: Jim_Conrad Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Thanks for sharing Shaun.
Posted By: AkMtnHntr Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
My biggest fear, I am sorry you had to go though this and wish you nothing but the best.
Originally Posted by ShaunRyan
Thank you all for taking the time to offer condolences and prayers, especially those who have suffered a similar loss. It means a lot that so many would reach out, even if just to type a few words offered in kindness.

It's been a rough month. The holidays weren't easy.

I believed myself prepared for the eventuality. The cancer thing in 2015 was bad, thought I was going to lose her then. But she beat it for damn near 7 years, which is unheard of with stage IV cancer. Those years were a blessing, and we had many conversations about her leaving this world before me. She figured the cancer would come back and wanted me to be ready for it.

I wasn't.

Yesterday, I got up before sunrise so I could drop our new puppy off at the vet to get spayed. We were going to breed her with our red tri-color male, but there's no way I can look after a litter of puppies now. The dogs are home alone for 11-12 hours while I'm working. Those two took to each other like peas and carrots, as Forest would say, and that makes me smile every time I see them together. Puppies or no, they're mates now. I came home and got the red beans and sausage cooking. Went back to town and picked her up in the afternoon. She was a little groggy, and didn't eat much, slept with me last night. She's outside with the others now, back to normal.

We drove to Fort Cobb, OK to buy this pup on 9/27. 1056 mile round trip. It was our last adventure together. We got one more camping/woodcutting trip to our mountain property after that then settled in for winter.

Anyway, I'm rambling. I don't really know why I posted about my situation here. I'm a private guy, usually keep myself to myself. Something prompted me to. Maybe it was Victoria.

Again, thank you all for your thoughts and prayers.

Shaun



This place feels like family after awhile! I told my wife when I go, make sure and come on here and tell everyone. Everyone I've met from this board in person has been a jam up guy or gal.

Mike
Posted By: nyrifleman Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Very sorry Shaun.
Posted By: POKERFACE6 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
No words could help ease the pain , but prayers for you and your family at this time.. Joe
Posted By: jmdriver Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Originally Posted by Mike78
You have lived my worse fear. I am humbled


This. Sorry Shaun.
Posted By: Beaver10 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
No words...only condolences and a prayer.

🦫
Posted By: RS308MX Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Shaun, saying sorry for your loss seems so inadequate, but it's all I have to offer. God bless you.

Bob
Posted By: Bristoe Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Some people don't believe it, but I definitely *do*. This life we live here is a burden. It doesn't seem like such a burden because we have nothing to reference it against.

But your wife has escaped the burden. She knows more than she's ever known. She feels better than she's ever felt, and she's more than she's ever been.

Someday you will be there too.
Posted By: jdunham Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
My condolences Shaun. Godspeed to your wife.
Posted By: goalie Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry for you loss. 😟
Posted By: MarkWV Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I’m so sorry for you and your family OP. Sounds like she was a wonderful woman. May she rest in peace.
Posted By: strosfann Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Shaun,

We’ve never met or spoken but having read your post I almost feel like I know you. I’m just a couple years older than you but I’ve known my wife since I was 16 and can’t imagine life without her. I would imagine that during Victoria’s bout with cancer you had to let your mind wander to where you are now but it isn’t something you can really prepare for. You just have to look back on all the time you had together as a gift. Those pups will be valuable company in the time ahead and will probably even get a little spoiled! Hopefully the posts here can provide some nuggets of hope and a ray of light in this dark time for you.

Prayers and condolences,

Stros
Posted By: Diesel Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Oh Shaun, It breaks my heart to hear this news even though I don't know you. It is a loss you can't recover.

I have had some near misses with mine the last couple of years. It is hell and crushes your world. I can feel the agony of your loss and hope you have family and friends that buck you up. Stay strong and don't forget you have purpose. I am so sorry.

Nick
Posted By: Tyrone Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Originally Posted by ShaunRyan
Anyway, I'm rambling. I don't really know why I posted about my situation here. I'm a private guy, usually keep myself to myself. Something prompted me to. Maybe it was Victoria.

Again, thank you all for your thoughts and prayers.

Shaun
Thank you for sharing this, Shaun. People like you show the rest of us how life is done right. It's obvious Victoria was a great woman and the entire World is much poorer for the loss.
Posted By: Hudge Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
My condolences for your loss. She sounds like she was a great person.
Posted By: BigPine Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
deepest condolences Shaun
Posted By: travelingman1 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Our prayers are with you.
Posted By: moosemike Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Very sorry for your loss
Posted By: Davelefty Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
May God provide you with some peace and years of fond memories.
Posted By: HawkI Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Shaun,

Prayers for your loss
Posted By: Ndbowhunter Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
sent a prayer that you re heal ur broken heart
Posted By: captbutch Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Very sorry for your loss
Posted By: roverboy Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Prayers for you brother.
Posted By: VarmintGuy Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
ShaunRyan: My heart is breaking for you!
I am saddened to the max.
I am so sorry for your unexpected loss.
I am sending some of my strength to you to try and help with your pain.
You and Victoria have had way more than your shares of hardship and heartache - I wish I could do more than just pray that she is now resting in peace.
Thank you for sharing.
Hold into the wind
VarmintGuy
Posted By: MontanaMan Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
I really don't have the words except to say God rest her soul & my sincere condolences to you & the rest of your family as well.

There's just no way that there is justice in the world, sometimes.

MM
Posted By: jaydub in wi Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
So sorry for your loss, Shaun. I'm the same age as you are, and I've been married about as long as you. I have a difficult time imagining what you're going through. I'll say a prayer tonight for you and your family
Posted By: CashisKing Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/18/22
Originally Posted by ShaunRyan


Anyway, I'm rambling. I don't really know why I posted about my situation here.

Again, thank you all for your thoughts and prayers.

Shaun


There is a process in that rambling...

I am all over the map on stuff like that sometimes...

You will find a way...

The one thing for sure... is that you Loved your wife with great conviction.

Not everyone has that... nor can understand it. There is great Honor and Pride in deep Love.
Posted By: ShaunRyan Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
Originally Posted by strosfann
Those pups will be valuable company in the time ahead and will probably even get a little spoiled!


Ha! They're already spoiled.

The young'n will be riding shotgun with me at work for a few days while she heals from the surgery. She's doing well but I don't want her rough-housing with the other dogs while I'm gone. And I can make sure she doesn't fuss with the incision.

Our fuzzy children . . .
Posted By: Gringo Loco Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
Real sorry to hear about this.
Posted By: Waders Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
Sorry that I am late in saying so, but I'm real sorry to read your sad news! Sounds like your wife was awesome! I'm sorry she had to go so soon.

I wish you all the best, Shaun. Really.
Posted By: JimR Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
I am sorry to learn of your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Posted By: Lockhart Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
My deepest condolences.
Posted By: Rick n Tenn Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
Im sorry to hear about your wife . Im praying for you and your family .
Posted By: TNrifleman Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
Sir, I am very sorry for your loss.
Posted By: Fastback65 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
Brother nothing is tougher She is with God now i will pray for you and your family so sad my friend.
Posted By: kenacp Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
Sorry for your loss. Prayers sent.
Posted By: dale06 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
I feel for you, man.
So sorry for your loss.
Posted By: jackmountain Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
Same age here. Can not imagine what you’re going through, but hope you can find peace at some point.
Posted By: Birdwatcher Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
You had a wonderful gift, and were smart enough to treasure every single day. Your wife knew how much you loved her. Now you just have to be patient until you are with her again.

I am so sorry for your loss.
Posted By: kingston Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
I’m so very sorry Shaun. I couldn’t imagine the loss.

God takes the best ones first.

You have my deepest sympathies and heartfelt condolences.

I raise a glass to your Victoria tonight.
Posted By: oldtrapper Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
My sincere condolences on your great loss. Your wife left you and your family a wonderful legacy of integrity and love. God's peace and Godspeed.
Sorry for your loss.
Posted By: wabigoon Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
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Posted By: Dale K Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
Peace, Strength and the Grace of God be with you and yours in this time of sorrow.

It will be 7 years ago in May that my wife passed away at age 52. I've walked the same path you are on now. It's a tough one but you can travel it. Back a few pages, someone suggested a grief counselor. My church sponsored a grief group. I attended and eventually became one of group leaders. I would have survived without attending but it certainly helped.

Dale
Posted By: wabigoon Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
This place at it's best. May the Grace of God be with you.
Posted By: acy Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
Very sorry to read your sad news. You have my sincere condolences.
Posted By: blanket Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
You will get though, heart felt sorrow for you
Posted By: SamOlson Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
Very sad news, sorry man.
Posted By: worriedman Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
So very sorry to hear this. May God give you Peace...
Posted By: sidepass Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
My condolences.
Posted By: Kenneth Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
May the Lady rest in peace. So sorry for your loss.
Posted By: OldGrayWolf Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
Your post hurts to read, ShaunRyan. Will be praying for you and yours.
Posted By: Docbar Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/19/22
She sounds like a wonderful woman. I’m sorry for your loss.
Posted By: Rooster7 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/20/22
Just saw this now.

Man, words escape me...

I'm so sorry for your loss.
Posted By: Cigar Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/20/22
So Sorry.....
Posted By: grouseman Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/20/22
Sincerest sympathies man, I can't imagine what you're going through. You have to look at it that you were blessed to have her in your life as long as was allowed.
Posted By: Nebraska Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/20/22
Very sorry for your loss Shaun, my heart goes out to you and your family. 😞
Posted By: Old Ornery Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/20/22
Sorry for your loss.
Posted By: Happy_Camper Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/20/22
Shaun,

Your wife would be very touched by your eulogy.
That kind of pain is greater than can be described. I'm praying for you.






"Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need."
Posted By: kennyd Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/20/22
All the above. Respect to you. And other good mates.

The rest of us should make sure every day our wife knows we love them, our turn will come.
Posted By: AcesNeights Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/20/22
I haven’t been on in awhile but I logged on today and just saw this….wow! I’m terribly saddened to hear this. No words can express how sorry I am that you’re faced with such an unexpected and profound loss. I pray you’ll find comfort in the memories of the love you shared and the time you had together!

All my best Shaun.
Posted By: H5farm Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/20/22
Idont have the words. Praying for you brother.
Posted By: savage62 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/21/22
Sorry for your lost .You had 18 years of great thought of her and you . Good luck
Posted By: sourdough44 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/21/22
Very sorry to hear this.
Posted By: Virginian2 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/21/22
I'll be praying for you. I lost my wonderful and beautiful wife and best friend 2 years after 34 Blessed years. I miss her every day and I cannot tell you how long it takes for the pain to ease. I guess God needed another Angel.
Posted By: Dntnddb Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/21/22
So sorry for you loss.
Posted By: 19rabbit52 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/21/22
With tears in my eyes I send my condolences. I also was in your shoes 4 years ago when my wife of 30 years died. It will get easier with time. The good memories will shine thru with time. God Bless.
Posted By: dennisinaz Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/21/22
God bless
Can't imagine how that would be
Posted By: rainshadow1 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/23/22
Really sorry for your loss. Best to you.
Posted By: Toddly Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/23/22
Victoria sounds like a wonderful person.
Posted By: fishingnut71 Re: I'm a Widower at 50 - 01/23/22
I hope the best for you.
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