If you had a daughter who turned 16 two days ago, would you allow her boyfriend to move in with the family? There is mom, 18 year old son, and the daughter in the home. Says he has to sleep on the couch. What say you? I suspect ya'll might be able to guess my thoughts on this......
What's the rest of the story? How old is he? Is he a good kid getting abused at home? Are they already having sex? I graduated HS in 1971 and a bunch of the 16 year old girls were having sex then. Complicated situation you have there.
Surely you’re asking for a friend, as you, as a parent, would know better! A 16-year-old is still a child, a minor, in many states. What state are you in? Do your research. The “it” who is posting should protect the minor child, at all costs!
Dollars to donuts they’re already bumping pee-pees, but you don’t have to facilitate it. Boy needs to find other quarters, regardless of his situation.
Is he going to pay room and board? Teenage boys are walking garbage disposals….
How often are both you and your wife gone from the house for more than a few minutes. Pretty soon you’re gonna have a pregnant teenager in the house. You don’t have to help…..
Dollars to donuts they’re already bumping pee-pees, but you don’t have to facilitate it. Boy needs to find other quarters, regardless of his situation.
If you had a daughter who turned 16 two days ago, would you allow her boyfriend to move in with the family? There is mom, 18 year old son, and the daughter in the home. Says he has to sleep on the couch. What say you? I suspect ya'll might be able to guess my thoughts on this......
If you had a daughter who turned 16 two days ago, would you allow her boyfriend to move in with the family? There is mom, 18 year old son, and the daughter in the home. Says he has to sleep on the couch. What say you? I suspect ya'll might be able to guess my thoughts on this......
No fuucking way. If he wants to marry her, and then have access to her at home, he can do that, but no way I'm allowing that bs in my home. I'd probably take him shooting and explain all this stuff to him.
I knew a guy that let an 18 year old friend of his daughters move in with him and his family. His wife took a shine to the kid and welcomed him into manhood and the divorce went smoothly on my friends side.....
If you had a daughter who turned 16 two days ago, would you allow her boyfriend to move in with the family? There is mom, 18 year old son, and the daughter in the home. Says he has to sleep on the couch. What say you? I suspect ya'll might be able to guess my thoughts on this......
Why would you let her date a loser, you know, someone who couldn't maintain a stable residence?
Is the BF a minor? If so, just how screwed up is his home life, and why would you open your door to that kind or trouble?
I'm guessing he's not the stable provide type, which leave the exciting bad boy, you know, the kind that ends up with 5 baby mammas. I probably wouldn't let him in my house, let a lone stay for dinner.
And if your wife's not supporting you on this, well, that's something else you should thing about.
No fuucking way. If he wants to marry her, and then have access to her at home, he can do that, but no way I'm allowing that bs in my home. I'd probably take him shooting and explain all this stuff to him.
The first and last sentences are exactly the right way to handle the situation IMO.
Likely not. It would depend on the kid, both of them. But it ain’t for me to tell someone else how to raise their kid.
Your taxes are likely going to be paying for it, might as well have a little say.
In my home it wouldn’t happen.
But I know when I was that age there were some of my peers had a bad home life but were really good kids that were mature for their age because of what life had thrown at them. Is that kind of situation ideal? Of course not. But if the boy has a job and goes to school and has his shît in order, and respects rules of the house until he can find more appropriate digs then I can see how it could be a less bad option out of what was available.
The big question here is how old is he, and why does he need a home? Theres some serious info missing.
As far as everybody saying your daughter will get pregnant, if thats going to happen, it will regardless. Theyre already [bleep], and no amount of parent intervention can stop that. We were all banging our girlfriends at 16. Mine didnt get pregnant. Its called birth control.
If you had a daughter who turned 16 two days ago, would you allow her boyfriend to move in with the family? There is mom, 18 year old son, and the daughter in the home. Says he has to sleep on the couch. What say you? I suspect ya'll might be able to guess my thoughts on this......
If you -- or whomever you're advising -- does something as unwise as moving in the 16 year old's "boyfriend" it is extremely important you/they do something first before he arrives.
Go through your entire house and garage, every closet, every chest, every bank of shelves, any trunks, and anything with any value that is pawnable, lock it away in storage off your property. Guns, knives, ammo, good fishing tackle and camping gear, jewelry, watches, Sterling silverware or silver dishes, etc. If it has value, store it because if you do not, there will come the day when you come home and most of your stuff will be missing.
Just a suggestion from a member here -- your's truly -- who is a realist about Human Nature.
If you -- or whomever you're advising -- does something as unwise as moving in the 16 year old's "boyfriend" it is extremely important you/they do something first before he arrives.
Go through your entire house and garage, every closet, every chest, every bank of shelves, any trunks, and anything with any value that is pawnable, lock it away in storage off your property. Guns, knives, ammo, good fishing tackle and camping gear, jewelry, watches, Sterling silverware or silver dishes, etc. If it has value, store it because if you do not, there will come the day when you come home and most of your stuff will be missing.
Just a suggestion from a member here who is a realist about Human Nature.
L.W.
Did i miss where he said his daughters boyfriend is black? Cause that changes everything.
If you had a daughter who turned 16 two days ago, would you allow her boyfriend to move in with the family? There is mom, 18 year old son, and the daughter in the home. Says he has to sleep on the couch. What say you? I suspect ya'll might be able to guess my thoughts on this......
The daughter would be pregnant in a month.
Don't be an idiot.
ETA: You need to man-up and make that boy go away.
If you had a daughter who turned 16 two days ago, would you allow her boyfriend to move in with the family? There is mom, 18 year old son, and the daughter in the home. Says he has to sleep on the couch. What say you? I suspect ya'll might be able to guess my thoughts on this......
The daughter would be pregnant in a month.
Don't be an idiot.
Do you really think that not letting them live together will stop them from screwing? Really?
If you had a daughter who turned 16 two days ago, would you allow her boyfriend to move in with the family? There is mom, 18 year old son, and the daughter in the home. Says he has to sleep on the couch. What say you? I suspect ya'll might be able to guess my thoughts on this......
The daughter would be pregnant in a month.
Don't be an idiot.
Do you really think that not letting them live together will stop them from screwing? Really?
If you had a daughter who turned 16 two days ago, would you allow her boyfriend to move in with the family? There is mom, 18 year old son, and the daughter in the home. Says he has to sleep on the couch. What say you? I suspect ya'll might be able to guess my thoughts on this......
The daughter would be pregnant in a month.
Don't be an idiot.
Do you really think that not letting them live together will stop them from screwing? Really?
No, but it might prevent him from getting shot.
All you badasses talking about killing the boyfriend arent accepting reality. Theyre gonna do it. Theyre already doing it. The more dad hates it and tries to stop it, the more theyre gonna do it. Question for you. Were you banging your girlfriend at 16? I bet you were. Was dads disapproval even coming close to stopping you?
Playing devils advocate here. Everybody on this thread is looking at this through the eyes of a father thats protective of his little girl. And i get that. But what were you all doing at 16? Im looking at this through the eyes of 16yr old me. Girlfriends dad would have buried me in a shallow grave if he thought hed get away with it. And again, i get that. But it never stopped us. And we were not trying to be teenage parents. We knew better.
The fact that the kid needs a home, at presumably a young age, means theres probably a [bleep] family there. Maybe the boy is older, and just a deadbeat. Op didnt clarify that. But its entirely possible the boyfriend in question is 16, a good kid, with a [bleep] family. Maybe bringing him into the home would be a leg up for a good kid that drew a bad lot in life. Theres just no telling without more insight from op.
One thing i do know, if those kids want to bump uglies, they will do so, regardless of ops opinions, or anything within his power. So if this kid is just a lazy bum type older boyfriend, sure, get the backhoe out. If hes a good kid with a [bleep] family, op might be able to make a big difference in his life by accepting a bit of a burden. But he sure wont stop the guy from banging his daughter no matter what he decides.
If you had a daughter who turned 16 two days ago, would you allow her boyfriend to move in with the family? There is mom, 18 year old son, and the daughter in the home. Says he has to sleep on the couch. What say you? I suspect ya'll might be able to guess my thoughts on this......
The daughter would be pregnant in a month.
Don't be an idiot.
Do you really think that not letting them live together will stop them from screwing? Really?
No, but it might prevent him from getting shot.
All you badasses talking about killing the boyfriend arent accepting reality. Theyre gonna do it. Theyre already doing it. The more dad hates it and tries to stop it, the more theyre gonna do it. Question for you. Were you banging your girlfriend at 16? I bet you were. Was dads disapproval even coming close to stopping you?
Playing devils advocate here. Everybody on this thread is looking at this through the eyes of a father thats protective of his little girl. And i get that. But what were you all doing at 16? Im looking at this through the eyes of 16yr old me. Girlfriends dad would have buried me in a shallow grave if he thought hed get away with it. And again, i get that. But it never stopped us. And we were not trying to be teenage parents. We knew better.
The fact that the kid needs a home, at presumably a young age, means theres probably a [bleep] family there. Maybe the boy is older, and just a deadbeat. Op didnt clarify that. But its entirely possible the boyfriend in question is 16, a good kid, with a [bleep] family. Maybe bringing him into the home would be a leg up for a good kid that drew a bad lot in life. Theres just no telling without more insight from op.
One thing i do know, if those kids want to bump uglies, they will do so, regardless of ops opinions, or anything within his power. So if this kid is just a lazy bum type older boyfriend, sure, get the backhoe out. If hes a good kid with a [bleep] family, op might be able to make a big difference in his life by accepting a bit of a burden. But he sure wont stop the guy from banging his daughter no matter what he decides.
If you had a daughter who turned 16 two days ago, would you allow her boyfriend to move in with the family? There is mom, 18 year old son, and the daughter in the home. Says he has to sleep on the couch. What say you? I suspect ya'll might be able to guess my thoughts on this......
The daughter would be pregnant in a month.
Don't be an idiot.
Do you really think that not letting them live together will stop them from screwing? Really?
No, but it might prevent him from getting shot.
All you badasses talking about killing the boyfriend arent accepting reality. Theyre gonna do it. Theyre already doing it. The more dad hates it and tries to stop it, the more theyre gonna do it. Question for you. Were you banging your girlfriend at 16? I bet you were. Was dads disapproval even coming close to stopping you?
Playing devils advocate here. Everybody on this thread is looking at this through the eyes of a father thats protective of his little girl. And i get that. But what were you all doing at 16? Im looking at this through the eyes of 16yr old me. Girlfriends dad would have buried me in a shallow grave if he thought hed get away with it. And again, i get that. But it never stopped us. And we were not trying to be teenage parents. We knew better.
The fact that the kid needs a home, at presumably a young age, means theres probably a [bleep] family there. Maybe the boy is older, and just a deadbeat. Op didnt clarify that. But its entirely possible the boyfriend in question is 16, a good kid, with a [bleep] family. Maybe bringing him into the home would be a leg up for a good kid that drew a bad lot in life. Theres just no telling without more insight from op.
One thing i do know, if those kids want to bump uglies, they will do so, regardless of ops opinions, or anything within his power. So if this kid is just a lazy bum type older boyfriend, sure, get the backhoe out. If hes a good kid with a [bleep] family, op might be able to make a big difference in his life by accepting a bit of a burden. But he sure wont stop the guy from banging his daughter no matter what he decides.
If you had a daughter who turned 16 two days ago, would you allow her boyfriend to move in with the family? There is mom, 18 year old son, and the daughter in the home. Says he has to sleep on the couch. What say you? I suspect ya'll might be able to guess my thoughts on this......
The daughter would be pregnant in a month.
Don't be an idiot.
Do you really think that not letting them live together will stop them from screwing? Really?
No, but it might prevent him from getting shot.
All you badasses talking about killing the boyfriend arent accepting reality. Theyre gonna do it. Theyre already doing it. The more dad hates it and tries to stop it, the more theyre gonna do it. Question for you. Were you banging your girlfriend at 16? I bet you were. Was dads disapproval even coming close to stopping you?
Playing devils advocate here. Everybody on this thread is looking at this through the eyes of a father thats protective of his little girl. And i get that. But what were you all doing at 16? Im looking at this through the eyes of 16yr old me. Girlfriends dad would have buried me in a shallow grave if he thought hed get away with it. And again, i get that. But it never stopped us. And we were not trying to be teenage parents. We knew better.
The fact that the kid needs a home, at presumably a young age, means theres probably a [bleep] family there. Maybe the boy is older, and just a deadbeat. Op didnt clarify that. But its entirely possible the boyfriend in question is 16, a good kid, with a [bleep] family. Maybe bringing him into the home would be a leg up for a good kid that drew a bad lot in life. Theres just no telling without more insight from op.
One thing i do know, if those kids want to bump uglies, they will do so, regardless of ops opinions, or anything within his power. So if this kid is just a lazy bum type older boyfriend, sure, get the backhoe out. If hes a good kid with a [bleep] family, op might be able to make a big difference in his life by accepting a bit of a burden. But he sure wont stop the guy from banging his daughter no matter what he decides.
Shut up cuck.
Eat my ass, [bleep]. Try arguing any of my points intelligently.
Clarifying details: -it is not in my household, none of it. -I am merely an observer. I readily admit to being a nosey bastard. Bit of a gossip as well. -the boy is 17. Clean cut and polite. In high school and has a job. Drives a truck he bought himself. Was living with his grandparents but something went south, no idea what. -The chances of him finding an apartment, or even a room, are almost non-existent. Housing is high and scarce here. True everywhere I guess. -I have no idea if they are having sex but I know which way I'd lay my bet, pun intended. -I believe living choices are morphing into something different. Multiple room mates the norm, minimalize people sheltering in honeycomb "rooms" ala Japanese style. The contemporary requirements of "first month, last month, month security, good credit" is a high bar for many people. My comments may be construed to sound like a endorsement of the arrangement. They are not. I would't let a young Jesus Christ live in the house with a daughter. Interesting situation. I'm of the mind that a pregnancy is on the radar. Odds are decent I won't be around long enough for it to be of my concern.
If I was 18 and got to move in with my 16 year old girlfriend 25 years later she would still be walking bow legged. The parents would have gotten at least one grand kid. Among other things.
Clarifying details: ... -the boy is 17. Clean cut and polite. In high school and has a job. Drives a truck he bought himself. Was living with his grandparents but something went south, no idea what. ...
Clarifying details: ... --the boy is 17. Clean cut and polite. In high school and has a job. Drives a truck he bought himself. Was living with his grandparents but something went south, no idea what. ...
Danger sign number 1.
I’m sure that was number 100 sign. Maybe he’s a good kid. Needs a family type environment?
Folks I have to apologise for my post leading you to believe it was MY relative and MY household/daughter involved. These are people that I just happen to know. I wish them luck.
Where would you prefer they screw? Cause theyre going to. Take that to the bank.
Yes, they're probably going to be screwing at 16. That doesn't mean you need to help them advertise it to the world. Pretty much every sorority girl working on her Mrs. degree at the University of Alabama was screwing at 16. For the most part there's a zero percent chance they're still with the guy they were screwing at 16 by the time they're 21. Let's say she meets some guy in college from a good family that's just got admitted to law school and they're on a first or second date, one that's a potential keeper. The guy asks "tell me about your high school years". Your daughter answers "well, when I was 16 my 17 year old boyfriend moved in with me with my parents full approval". The first thing the guy is going to think is "holy fugg, what kind of inbred white trash trailer park situation have I gotten myself into and where is the nearest exit".
The priorities for a parent of a daughter are to keep them alive, out of jail, keep them from getting pregnant before getting married, get them an education, and in general try to keep them from screwing up too bad so by the time they're out of school they're on a good path to a decent life. Shacking up with their boyfriend when they're 16 in their parents house is right up there with "I ran a meth lab in my parents garage after school". It is not something any father that's got an ounce of sense would want on their daughter's resume. As far as him being clean cut and in a bind because his grandparents threw him out, I'm sorry but that falls into the not my monkey, not my circus problem.
So same age as the daughter roughly. Still in school AND has a job. Clean cut, polite...
Was living with grandparents says his parents are a joke. The fact that hes still in school and working too, despite that, says volumes on the kids character.
No way a 17yo thats working, and in highschool, could get a lease signed. And if he did, hed have to blow off finishing school im sure.
Sounds like the kid aint all bad. Get to know him. Maybe hes not the worst your daughter could do. Shes gonna have a boyfriend, and theyre gonna do what kids do.
Give him a chance. At least hes a known entity. Youre not going to keep your little girl innocent by objecting. Odds of them staying together and marrying etc are close to zero, but this might help the kid out.
Ive known a couple good kids in a pretty similar situation, so maybe im biased. But you wont stop your daughter from growing up. So maybe you could help the boyfriend.
Being protective of your daughter wont change much. Giving a good kid a good home might make a huge difference for him.
Spend sone time face to face, try to ignore the fact that hes sniffing around your daughter, and use your best judgement as to his character. If your gut tells you hes a predator, bury him in the back 40, [bleep] it. But from your description, sounds like hes an okay kid that drew bad cards in life.
Clarifying details: -it is not in my household, none of it. -I am merely an observer. I readily admit to being a nosey bastard. Bit of a gossip as well. -the boy is 17. Clean cut and polite. In high school and has a job. Drives a truck he bought himself. Was living with his grandparents but something went south, no idea what. -The chances of him finding an apartment, or even a room, are almost non-existent. Housing is high and scarce here. True everywhere I guess. -I have no idea if they are having sex but I know which way I'd lay my bet, pun intended. -I believe living choices are morphing into something different. Multiple room mates the norm, minimalize people sheltering in honeycomb "rooms" ala Japanese style. The contemporary requirements of "first month, last month, month security, good credit" is a high bar for many people. My comments may be construed to sound like a endorsement of the arrangement. They are not. I would't let a young Jesus Christ live in the house with a daughter. Interesting situation. I'm of the mind that a pregnancy is on the radar. Odds are decent I won't be around long enough for it to be of my concern.
Clarifying details: ... -the boy is 17. Clean cut and polite. In high school and has a job. Drives a truck he bought himself. Was living with his grandparents but something went south, no idea what. ...
Danger sign number 1.
Depends what it was. Gramps a violent boozer? Grams a holy rolling dried up old bitch?
Or is the kid trouble? Not enough info to offer an informed opinion.
If you had a daughter who turned 16 two days ago, would you allow her boyfriend to move in with the family? There is mom, 18 year old son, and the daughter in the home. Says he has to sleep on the couch. What say you? I suspect ya'll might be able to guess my thoughts on this......
It seems like a bad idea all the way around. A lot of downside for the family, no matter how nice a boy he is, he isn't family.
Kids need parents that set boundaries not parents that are there friends. If he's a good kid help him find other arrangements but don't rubber stamp your 16 year old living with her boyfriend even if it's under your roof and watchful eye. Stick to the principle of not living together until you're married. She may later choose otherwise bit won't later blame you for allowing it when it goes south.
Tradition principles became traditional for a reason. They have generally proven over centuries to be the better way.
Kids need parents that set boundaries not parents that are there friends. If he's a good kid help him find other arrangements but don't rubber stamp your 16 year old living with her boyfriend even if it's under your roof and watchful eye. Stick to the principle of not living together until you're married. She may later choose otherwise bit won't later blame you for allowing it when it goes south.
Tradition principles became traditional for a reason. They have generally proven over centuries to be the better way.
Bb
Your assessment it’s right.
Don’t set that young kid/s up for failure. Not in the same house. Someone is getting pregnant. Last thing any body needs at this time. Don’t do it U-A
We had one of my son’s friends live with us for his senior year in high school. Wasn’t that difficult, we had no daughters.
If we had a teenage daughter, a boyfriend or even just a guy friend of hers staying with us wouldn’t happen, no way. That ain’t salacious it’s just the human dynamic. Common sense.
If you had a daughter who turned 16 two days ago, would you allow her boyfriend to move in with the family? There is mom, 18 year old son, and the daughter in the home. Says he has to sleep on the couch. What say you? I suspect ya'll might be able to guess my thoughts on this......
Teenagers do lots of things they shouldn’t, including having sex, but good parents do not condone and facilitate such behaviors. That’s simply not how morality is taught. Also, allowing this would put undue pressure on your daughter to remain in a relationship with him if and when her feelings for him change, which is likely. Have you considered what happens if and when they break up? What if it’s a nasty break-up? Are you going to boot him out, or allow him to stay when your daughter doesn’t even want to see his face?
I was going to say something on the subject, but I apologize.. I thought you were talking about Schtick finally having some companionship in his life, not about someone's 16 year old daughter.... mY BAD!
My good friend let his 16 year old girl fly to Tx to see her boyfriend. That started the downward spiral where she's been raped, gang raped, raped by black guys, and is a complete mudshark with low self-asteem.
But, yeah, encouraging your 16 year old to live with her boyfriend is a great idea.
If you had a daughter who turned 16 two days ago, would you allow her boyfriend to move in with the family? There is mom, 18 year old son, and the daughter in the home. Says he has to sleep on the couch. What say you? I suspect ya'll might be able to guess my thoughts on this......
If you had a daughter who turned 16 two days ago, would you allow her boyfriend to move in with the family? There is mom, 18 year old son, and the daughter in the home. Says he has to sleep on the couch. What say you? I suspect ya'll might be able to guess my thoughts on this......
If you had a daughter who turned 16 two days ago, would you allow her boyfriend to move in with the family? There is mom, 18 year old son, and the daughter in the home. Says he has to sleep on the couch. What say you? I suspect ya'll might be able to guess my thoughts on this......
Had a friend of my wife allow it. Daughter was preggo by the second month.
If you had a daughter who turned 16 two days ago, would you allow her boyfriend to move in with the family? There is mom, 18 year old son, and the daughter in the home. Says he has to sleep on the couch. What say you? I suspect ya'll might be able to guess my thoughts on this......
Had a friend of my wife allow it. Daughter was preggo by the second month.
If you had a daughter who turned 16 two days ago, would you allow her boyfriend to move in with the family? There is mom, 18 year old son, and the daughter in the home. Says he has to sleep on the couch. What say you? I suspect ya'll might be able to guess my thoughts on this......
The daughter would be pregnant in a month.
Don't be an idiot.
Do you really think that not letting them live together will stop them from screwing? Really?
No, but it might prevent him from getting shot.
All you badasses talking about killing the boyfriend arent accepting reality. Theyre gonna do it. Theyre already doing it. The more dad hates it and tries to stop it, the more theyre gonna do it. Question for you. Were you banging your girlfriend at 16? I bet you were. Was dads disapproval even coming close to stopping you?
Playing devils advocate here. Everybody on this thread is looking at this through the eyes of a father thats protective of his little girl. And i get that. But what were you all doing at 16? Im looking at this through the eyes of 16yr old me. Girlfriends dad would have buried me in a shallow grave if he thought hed get away with it. And again, i get that. But it never stopped us. And we were not trying to be teenage parents. We knew better.
The fact that the kid needs a home, at presumably a young age, means theres probably a [bleep] family there. Maybe the boy is older, and just a deadbeat. Op didnt clarify that. But its entirely possible the boyfriend in question is 16, a good kid, with a [bleep] family. Maybe bringing him into the home would be a leg up for a good kid that drew a bad lot in life. Theres just no telling without more insight from op.
One thing i do know, if those kids want to bump uglies, they will do so, regardless of ops opinions, or anything within his power. So if this kid is just a lazy bum type older boyfriend, sure, get the backhoe out. If hes a good kid with a [bleep] family, op might be able to make a big difference in his life by accepting a bit of a burden. But he sure wont stop the guy from banging his daughter no matter what he decides.
This is the stupidest [bleep] I've ever read. Really, nothing tops it.
You think it's OK to take what might be an occasional thing and make it a daily thing?
I hope you never find yourself in the situation where some boy wants to move in with you & your daughter. Because you are absolutely defenseless. A natural victim.
Not just NO but HELL NO! For one thing 16 is too young to be in a “committed relationship” for either sex. Young girls that become “boy crazy” wrap their entire self-worth, their self-esteem and their individual value into whether they have a boyfriend or not. I think it’s devastating for young women to place such value on guys because it doesn’t foster a strong, independent spirit but instead creates a co-dependent, obsessive young lady that feels she NEEDS a boyfriend in order to be complete….she doesn’t!
Our 16 year old daughter is a beautiful, fit, highly intelligent young lady that has been taught since birth to be independent, strong and self-assured. She’s had countless young men pursuing her, a couple of whom I really liked. Good, clean cut hardworking farm boys that are extremely polite and respectful, 1 of whom told our daughter that he’s going to “court her” and wait for however long it takes. She has told them all that she enjoys her freedom and doesn’t want to have anyone feel like they deserve her attention. She has plans for her bright future and no “relationship” is going to interfere with her plans. My wife and I often have to pinch ourselves to make sure we aren’t dreaming, especially when we see the drama some of her girlfriends are going through with their boy problems….she wants none of that ridiculous drama, thankfully. 😁
If you had a daughter who turned 16 two days ago, would you allow her boyfriend to move in with the family? There is mom, 18 year old son, and the daughter in the home. Says he has to sleep on the couch. What say you? I suspect ya'll might be able to guess my thoughts on this......
I don't have kids and am not a parent but I wouldn't go for this arrangement.
Oddly I'm in my 50's and live at my parents home. Maybe I'm a loser? 😁😁😁 I moved in to take care of my dad till he died from parkinsons and I still live with mom. I hate to see her alone.
I don't have kids and am not a parent but I wouldn't go for this arrangement.
Oddly I'm in my 50's and live at my parents home. Maybe I'm a loser? 😁😁😁 I moved in to take care of my dad till he died from parkinsons and I still live with mom. I hate to see her alone.
Oh Hell No! He would not be moving in my house. Where is his folks at? A lot of questions for me to ask. You know what is going to happen. She will get knocked up fairly fast and you are going to foot the bill. When they are under your roof, you are the boss so act like it. Put your foot down and do not give. If your wife is all for it, give her arse the boot too. Man up and make good decisions. Letting him in your house will cause CHAOS and you will suffer the most.
I don't have kids and am not a parent but I wouldn't go for this arrangement.
Oddly I'm in my 50's and live at my parents home. Maybe I'm a loser? 😁😁😁 I moved in to take care of my dad till he died from parkinsons and I still live with mom. I hate to see her alone.
Tell yourself what you must.
Yes, yes you are a loser. Acceptance is the first step.
Clarifying details: -it is not in my household, none of it. -I am merely an observer. I readily admit to being a nosey bastard. Bit of a gossip as well. -the boy is 17. Clean cut and polite. In high school and has a job. Drives a truck he bought himself. Was living with his grandparents but something went south, no idea what. -The chances of him finding an apartment, or even a room, are almost non-existent. Housing is high and scarce here. True everywhere I guess. -I have no idea if they are having sex but I know which way I'd lay my bet, pun intended. -I believe living choices are morphing into something different. Multiple room mates the norm, minimalize people sheltering in honeycomb "rooms" ala Japanese style. The contemporary requirements of "first month, last month, month security, good credit" is a high bar for many people. My comments may be construed to sound like a endorsement of the arrangement. They are not. I would't let a young Jesus Christ live in the house with a daughter. Interesting situation. I'm of the mind that a pregnancy is on the radar. Odds are decent I won't be around long enough for it to be of my concern.
If you had a daughter who turned 16 two days ago, would you allow her boyfriend to move in with the family? There is mom, 18 year old son, and the daughter in the home. Says he has to sleep on the couch. What say you? I suspect ya'll might be able to guess my thoughts on this......
Someday maybe I'll share what happened one morning after staying overnight with my girlfriend and her mother (who hated me) in a one room cottage.
Lol, you shagged her mom didn't you.
No.
So you didn't' shag just her mother. You let both of them have their way with you.
I'm only saying this to illustrate what a stupid idea it is to have a boy stay overnight in your house much less live there. I screwed my girlfriend on the floor where we were sleeping within 3 feet of her sleeping mother.
Someday maybe I'll share what happened one morning after staying overnight with my girlfriend and her mother (who hated me) in a one room cottage.
Lol, you shagged her mom didn't you.
No.
So you didn't' shag just her mother. You let both of them have their way with you.
I'm only saying this to illustrate what a stupid idea it is to have a boy stay overnight in your house much less live there. I screwed my girlfriend on the floor where we were sleeping within 3 feet of her sleeping mother.
Either way, one or both, you still won, and yes yours is a very valid point.
Good think your GF wasn't a screamer, or at least not that night!
I wouldn't care what the situation was. He wouldn't be moving in my house. Not saying I wouldn’t try and help him out in some way. Just not that way. But how much and what kind of help would depend on the situation and him.
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