To be married to the same woman?

Askin' for a friend.

Geno

I will let you know in another 5.5 years.

Depends on the woman.... and you....and......

Not to me. We celebrated our 20th in September. If she wasn't such a wonderful woman, and I didn't have a winning personality and rugged good looks, it could have been an eternity.

Staying tuned.

Forty+ here.

Would that be American years or New Zealand years?

Theirs are different, being from south of the equator, no?

Do they spell "color" colour like their British relatives?

Geno

There's a debate going on.

The ceremony was in the Eastern time zone. So there's a 3 hour earlier deal goin on there.

Then there are the intervening Leap Years. Do they add days, or make no difference? Could be they've actually been married even longer? Can that be used as an excuse for not remembering the happy day?

Geno

The first 20 were the hard ones, the second 20 were the broke ones. We're only halfway into the next set, but these are the golden ones.

Yep. Everything is weird. Random U's everywhere.......

Long as it's not a U turn at the wrong time, on the wrong road.

A few extra letters in a word ain't nothing.

Geno

PS, them dang Canucks though, pronouncing "boat" like "boot" though, drive a man nuts if he ain't already there.

Rocky, for the couple in question, the first 10-15 were the broke ones. As in living in crappy RV trailer houses, 100+ year old rentals, driving old vehicles (as in the newest one was 16 years old), and paying off school loans while trying to stay employed year round.

The last 5 or so.............not so bad.

Geno

Double that, add another twelve soon for my bride, and I.

I worked with a guy once that had been married many times. I went to work one day and said that today was my 27th wedding anniversary. He said "WHY".

I should live so long.

We got a late start.

But, today we get to go to a restaurant....................one that even says "Reservations Suggested" in their ad in the local weekly paper.

Geno

Married 33. Ain’t long at all

The first 10 were longer than the next 30...

Said a friend...

Kent

26 yrs of dealing with 4 worthless stepsons is....... 2 meth heads, and oldest one in prison for 14 yrs. one back in the house because of material problems. youngest stepson 32 oldest 42. but they don't do anything wrong in her eyes.

How is your arm/burn?

You mis-spelled "slaves".

Our first twenty flew by.

I couldn’t-wouldn’t have put up with that. They have probably stolen anything that wasn’t tied down

Looking back, I don't know where the time (42 years) have gone.

My wife of 35 years passed away in 2006.. Since that time has been an eternity .. The 35 seems like the blink of an eye...

First 20 we moved 28 times. Second 20 , only 3 times . Last 10 only 2 times. First 20 was a long time. Second 20 just cruised along. Last 10 seems like weeks.

Still doin' my first 20 years hard time.

25 years ago I might of said yes, now after 45 it doesn't seem long at all

Well, I'll make up my mind after a nice anniversary dinner tonight.

An hour in the car together, both ways, can always change my mind.................................and hers!

Geno

With the first one I only made it nine. Twenty would have been a disaster. Second one did 21 1/2. Had ups and downs, but didn't seem like that long. She basically decided she didn't want to be married. To anyone. This one we have been married twelve years, but together fifteen. Seems like it has gone by in a blink. Looking forward to making twenty and then as long as we can after that.

If you have a good one, 20 is nothing. I have a good one!

52 here

I am going on 30, so no---

Roscoe said living with the same woman all the time is akin to scratching a place that don't itch anymore!!

Can't remember what 20 felt like, that was 26 years ago.

I've been alive 34. Been with the wife for 14 of them. Hope for as many as I can get.

A solid 32 years this past June. As I traveled so much due to my career she managed the boys, house, bills, etc. Her son's adore her. I couldn't imagine anything better.

Being married to the same woman for 20yrs may seem like a long time if you cannot resolve your problems.

Everybody has problems, it's how you deal with them that matters.

If you both make sacrifices, 20 yrs will fly by. If only one does, you won't make it to 20.

I'm 3/4 of the way through my second 20. I don't even bother looking both ways when I cross the street anymore.

Actually, it is good. We've had some battles like everyone but we never considered not being together.

Passed that mark last fall

Coming up on twenty years with this wife. Some years were longer than others but things have smoothed out and we're doing well.

With or without puzzy?

Oh, yeah. So, did yer wife say it was a long time?

20 years for me was a blur of happiness and contentment, still grateful for that.

Then she told me one day the person I had known was gone forever, that was six years ago, so far she has proven to be right.

Does she have some type of mental illness? To change so drastically doesn’t seem rational.

Look at the key words in your own post and you answer your own question.

It might not seem rational although there could be a rational explanation.

40 plus here. I worked in the oil patch for half of that either on the north slope or in Russia so the times at home I try and fit into her life rather than her into mine. Seems to work.

Her family believes she does, and they would be more objective judges than me.

It has been roughest on my son, growing up they were close and when he was grown and out of the house they would often meet for lunch. Suddenly that all stopped. One time after not even receiving a text for a month he drove over before work and waited outside her apartment for an hour just to check on her. When she came out and saw his car next to hers she greeted him with a cold and suspicious “How long have you been here?”

Likewise she does not often take the time to see or interact with our granddaughter, which is probably a good thing at this point. One time when she had her she picked up some guy she was seeing, which sent both me and my son ballistic. That was some years back, she ain’t pulled that since.

This person she has become bears no relation to the kind and actively Christian woman who was my wife.

Since this all went down I’ve heard of a few similar cases, I have a coworker who’s mom did the same thing, twenty years later she’s still gone.

My guess is menopause-related personality change, hormonal in origin. Does it rise to the level of a mental illness? That’s a tough one. She still works (nurse) and functions, doesn’t appear to be an alcoholic or druggie, just a lost ability to feel normal human affections.

One thing I will say is beware of toxic friends. Through her dance classes she fell in with The Witches’ Cabal (my term), toxic older women encouraging her to leave. I dunno if hanging with people like that is a cause or a symptom, but if your missus ever does, watch out.

I realize how friggin' lucky I was to have met my wife. The first 20 years went by like a blur. We're closing in on 30 years together now, and I can't wait to see what the next 20 years has to offer. I'm a very lucky man.

Not when you're married to your best friend.

When I asked her she laughed ...................heartily!

Geno

This, married 28 years this September.

24 years seems so long ago I can't remember being single.
I do remember that being with her is better.

On the other hand,
"where has the time gone"?

Should have asked me 23+ years ago .

Can't speak to 20, but 19 has been just fine.

Ask me in October of '20.