Old thread Teal, but FWIW...
If you have large hands, and XL sized gloves fit you, the Bisley grip may be a better fit for you than the standard Ruger frame.
I'm one of the old guys that likes the SBH with the Dragoon grip, it fits me batter. The Bisley grip points better for me, and just has a better overall "feel" than the standard BH grip frame. As far as recoil, it's subjective, I don't think there is a lot of difference.
I have a Single Six, old Vaquero in .45LC, SBH in .44M with Bisley grips, and like every one of them.
