Maybe it's because I've basically been locked up for 6 months working from home. Maybe it's because the neighbor just sold out and the new buyer thinks he's going to build a McMansion in my front yard. Maybe I'm just sick of the same old, same old. Whatever it is, I'm about ready to call the auction company, sell everything and set out for new horizons. There's not really anything holding us here other than my job and the house. Both can be replaced. I haven't bought a Vet yet and wouldn't, but most days I'm feeling like life is passing me by and I better get to it before it's too late.

Anyone else BTDT?

Well I'm tired of this dirty old city......

This is a midlife crisis.




What you are describing is an awakening.

Spot on...

You are right , life is passing you by . Buy a motorcycle , your preference as long as it at least 1000cc . Give your neighbor the finger .

And what will you accomplish???? Get off your pitty pot and be thankful everyday for the here and now, smell the roses, take a trip, go fishing, visit friends or family. Just what exactly is it that you think you are missing? A wasted future, with no money and a bimbo for a girlfriend. Doesn't sound like much of a future to me.

I think he should buy the chick in the skirt.

Yep had some of the same thoughts last night. I’ve got it pretty good but am finding myself to be restless and unmotivated professionally. Strong urge to tell them firm to GFY and move along to the next thing

Might not want to buy her, I'd rent her for an hour or so.

for me its doing the stuff i have been saving for most of my adult life. new kitchen, shop out back, nice truck, some tools, toys etc. nothing too crazy. ya i'd like a ZL1 camaro but that is not a high priority. i just need rich friends who can loan me their ZL1 for a weekend here and there. i have gotten to the point in life where i can see landfall. its a bit away but looms closer every day. time to smell a rose or three.

If I was to fill my mid life crisis I would find me a nice vintage car of my choice and do a full mod retro. Looks of yesteryear with the performance and dependability of today.
Or I would just do a whole lot more hunting and fishing with my boys or buddies.

Buy one, you will have zero regrets:)

I'm well past midlife and into my twilight years. I'll say one thing, I'm well beyond "stuff" making me happy let alone defining my life. I'm leaving that to my mostly early retiree neighbors with their various motor toys, etc. Nor am I breathlessly reporting on my latest "build". I have all the guns I need, and it's not that many.

To each his own. Whatever gives you satisfaction and makes you happy.

Paul

Not necessarily a crisis of any kind. Maybe it's just time for a change.

Change can be good.

If I was at midlife, I'd be 152 at the end!

Nope.

Yeah I'd say so too. A little more dangerous than a bike but a lot more fun.........

Mine turned into 11 bicycles on my front porch and 160 lbs of fat loss.

I want a mid life crisis!

Closing time at The Tilted Kilt.

My definition of "mid life crisis" is all about having regrets for things you have always wanted to do, but career, family, and other obligations kept you from pursuing them. If you have the time and inclination, now is the time to get moving. Today, you're the youngest you'll ever be.

We're just cooped up.

Around here fires got the whole place on edge. Every day another one pops up within a few miles of the house and they get it out quick. Another this morning at 6:30 am at Galice just up the road. Can't go outside for long, pollution levels are super high. Guess I'll do some reloading or something.

Damn few people know what makes them happy...

A promotion at work?

More money?

A new handgun?

Nice truck?

Some young pretty Antifa mistress?

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I remember an old picture of Orville Wright in his mid-70s systemically disassembling a clock to study the parts and figure out how it worked and rebuild it better.

Stuff like that has always been my bug.

My crisis was the first 50 years of life just trying to get by. Then came some new toys. Everything paid for and owing nobody. The other pic of the mid life crisis does look sweet. Edk

Somebody famous once wrote: "most men lead lives of quiet desperation". I think he was right. I'm not sure if there actually is a "mid-life crisis"...it may be that at a certain point of maturity when it becomes apparent that there is an end to life, a man becomes introspective and begins thinking thoughts about, how have I spent this valuable time so far? Have I spent it wisely? Should I reset some goals or adjust my expectations to get the most out of the time remaining?
Anybody who hasn't experienced something like this is incredibly stupid or incredibly happy with their lot.

Rent it. Then you can say you're paying for her to go away.

Some here get it. I could probably buy anything I want. Pretty much 0 debt and 780+ credit. The mortgage will be paid off this year and the vacation home has been paid off for years. I spent my 20s, 30s and 40s raising a family and trying to build a carrier. Now the kids have their own life and the job gets older by the day. It's not about things. It's about missing out on experiences. Someone once said we'll run out of health before we run out of money. I guess that's where my heads at this week.

And as good as JSTUART's idea looks, I'd buy the Vet before I bought that. The Vet would be cheaper!

Counting your blessings is a great starting point. Maybe putting the effort into improving what you currently have, rather than putting 10 times that effort into a new start.

When I hit my own mid-life crisis I got married and found a steady job. Seems to be a good place to stay.

Buy a sailboat and sail to the Marquesas

From a guy who has walked away from several good paying jobs because I got pizzed off and/or frustrated with some aspect of the job (usually people), do what you gotta do... The only person you have to please is the guy in the mirror when you get up each morning. Having said that, make sure you have your retirement and medical benefits lined up in good order before you jump. BTDT...

My boss explained to me the definition of “mid-life crisis “ back when I was 25.

He told me that, “The thing about sex that bothers him was that Sex didn’t bother him anymore. “

It makes more sense now!!!

The crisis part is if you are confronted with the situation, and unsure of how to proceed.

I like this post! I did a lot of her when I was younger. A LOT. My midlife crisis had me seeking a deeper depth of meaning for the rest of my life. So I decided to simply and get back to more reality, basically away from the damaged people and sick culture that is the norm in America today. My wife and I bought land and a house to meet our desire to dedicate the rest of our lives toward living simply. We will grow much of our food, spend our time doing that with our children until they decide to leave the nest (we had ours late). Then we will live that life alone. I've chased material stuff, I've chased skirts, I've chased adrenaline and other addictive behaviors, I've chased money. I've caught all of them enough to know that they lack meaning for me.

Life is about meaning in the end. Chase meaning, and catch it.

When I get down I'll go bang some 20 something year old escort plenty of em to choose from in these parts. Plane on doing more predator hunting while I'm still able. Just thankful to be above ground no point on dwelling on the past time waits for no one.

Most of you guys here are too old to get your value out of the red head anyway so why not just save that money, not make your wife mad and go sit on the porch imagining you were still young

BTDT on my 50th birthday and got the divorce t-shirt to prove it. Threads like this always bring out my preachy but that said...

"Nothing" will make you happy, or to rephrase that "no thing" will make you happy. At best things provide a temporary distraction from unhappiness. Nothing outside yourself that can be taken away or leave you will bring you real happiness. New house, new job - no matter where you go, there you are since you haven''t changed, you've only changed your surroundings. New stuff does break the monotony but pretty soon the new stuff also becomes monotonous.

Life is passing you by, every day you get one day older so start building things that are not outside yourself like memories. Go on that hunt, take that trip before you get too old. If you have good gear already then stick with it, they are placeholders for memories, and if not then get some and use it until you wear it out.

Now you could go for a full blown metanoia, it's pretty cool if that happens, but you can do the next best thing and enjoy the days you have left day by day. Really enjoy them, live in them (not for them, there's a big difference), be nice to people and do for them, that will bring you happiness or the closest thing to it.

At the very least when you draw your last breath there will be a much shorter list of stuff you wish you'd done.





Fwiw, I also got a 23 year old girlfriend and later on a red motorcycle in the process. It's the journey, not the destination...

It's an incredibly rare occasion when I see "metanoia" used, particularly on social media, and in proper context. Well done, Jim! You're a scholar and a gentleman.

ML crisis is when you move to a quiet,little KY town to retire. Everything starts breaking.

My midlife crisis occurred long before I moved to a quiet little Kentucky town. I think I moved to the country because I looked around at what was going on in the city and my spidey senses kicked in.

They were right.

What many think their mid life crisis looks like:




What it really looks like:

No, that's a mid-WIFE crisis. You've been dumped by one and haven't yet found another. This fills in the gap.

For me, motorcycles started when I was a young teen and lasted several decades. I did them until I was done. My last Harley went to finance this.

pic share

been thinking about selling the house and starting over, kids are grown and the old lady hasn't slept in the same room with me in last ten years. luckily the house is in my name only and I bought it before we got married.

Come to South Dakota, you'd be welcome here

Funny. That would be my #1 destination if I had my way. I've loved the Black Hills for 30 years.

Just buy a vette.

Fair to say that more than a few here understand exactly what you’re saying. More than a few do ‘get it.’

You’ve worked for it, planned it well and things came to fruition. Now go forth and enjoy it. Ain’t but so much of life left to live.

You look like you’re home.

Thats a great picture. Really.

#Gatorade
#Babywipes
#Nowater

Yes, it is.

No blacks
No commies
front yard

Nice looking place Bristoe.

Pm me if you got any questions

I figured Bristle to look like Uncle Jessie - beard amd overalls.

Looks like paradise.

If it isn't you can certainly see it from there.

The neighbor's pond!

It's just a little chunk of central Kentucky. It's all over the place around here.

If you shop around a little bit it doesn't cost much either,...as evidenced by the fact that even *I* can afford a chunk of it.

No, she's a solution to a mid-life crisis!!!

funny how some people think mid life is around 60. trouble is you aint living to 120

Were I to have indulged my mid-life crisis desires, I would hope it might have looked like this:

She'd have to be way hotter.

Elbows too pointy

That's the first 44th thing I noticed.

The hell you say!

She only got one leg

That’s kinky

Her stripper heels are half price

Toe thumbs!

Nope.

Mebbe she got them caught in a hay baler......

That isn’t a crisis, it is a reward

Ironically, I have been in somewhat they same circumstances of late. I did just buy my "Retirement" Truck....Ford F350 One Ton 4x4 Crew Cab Diesel. Should pull my Toy hauling travel trailer (when I find the one I want) wherever I want to go in the West when I retire. I think it's more about the change really....new horizons in front of us and old ways left behind. Planning on pulling the trigger in two years when I first hit 62....no use in waiting around and wasting the precious years here at the end.

Oh, and you might want to check out the new Corvette. Stopped for dinner last night at a local cafe and as I was leaving, here came about 8 Corvettes in. Must have been some Corvette club, mostly Senior citizens driving....one of them had a brand new Vette, still had the temporary tag on it...brand spanking new in Race Red....they are a mid engine model and it looked pretty damn good!

IMO a mid-life crisis is about regret or questioning your past choices and where they have taken you: questioning your career, relationships, decision to have a family or not having one etc.. If you are having those kinds of thoughts, then yeah, you're in one. Buying stuff won't change any of that.

For me, life is about finding things you enjoy doing and people you enjoy doing those things with. I have found those things. I have always loved the shooting sports and being around sportsmen. I shoot trap or skeet 3-4 times a week, and enjoy hanging out with people as much as the actual shooting. I've also loved music and later in life, while attending local music venues, became friends with musicians and ended up playing percussion (self taught) in a band. I never thought I'd have the guts to get up in front of people and perform, but I've been in a working band for 13 years now, playing with friends and having a ball. That expanded my horizon some. I also enjoy just hanging out with friends, having a dram or two and chatting with friends while staring into a fire pit.

I've been retired for almost 10 years. I have enough money to buy lots of toys, cars etc if I wanted them and - - - I don't. We live simply cause we're simple people. We have traveled some to Europe and Canada and while I've enjoyed the experiences, I always look forward to coming home to doing those things I enjoy most with the people I enjoy most.

If you're not having fun or don't like what you're doing and especially don't like who you're doing things with, change it up. But you won't find real satisfaction with a new car or a rent-a-chick.

Midlife crisis is something that hits all of us differently. For some of us, it's a matter of getting out of a rut, and rejecting the life we've built for ourselves. For others, it's something that falls on us like a load of brick dropped from the heavens.

Me? I can't say that my divorce from Satan was a mid-life crisis, although it was the defining point of my adult life for years to come.

My midlife crisis, looking back on it, was a somewhat quiet matter that happened about a decade later. I had been working at the Solder Factory for about 5 years. I had become a Technical Services Manager for a Fortune 500 company. I had the farm. I had managed to get back my house in the divorce. It was looking good. Then the business sold, and I quickly realized that I was in a supreme pickle. The way things were, if I tried to change jobs, Satan would see the shift as a chance to reopen litigation. I could ill afford starting a new job only to get bogged down in lawyers and court. I decided to stick it out under the new owners. Another 5 years later, it all came to ahead. I got laid off. The economy had tanked. I couldn't find a new job in my profession, and 8 months into the unemployment, Satan took me to court for something like $250K.

What I realized, just a short time before I got laid off was that, given the life choices I had at 22 or thereabouts, I'd have probably been facing nearly the same situation. It all kind of converged on a single point. At 22, I could have gone a bunch of different ways. I'd tried Broadcasting and Screenwriting. Newspapers were dying. I'd thought about law school. I finally picked data processing. Now I was 52. It was weird. In a very short time, I watched my friends in Radio and TV all having their careers collapse. My buddies in Film all had tanked. Even the lawyers in town were having trouble. Part of it was due to the aftermath of 9/11. Part of it was the Clinton-era changes in TV and Radio. The Internet killed the newspaper. Part of it was the collapse of the Film Industry. Then there was the Financial Crisis of 2008. That tanked everything. Whatever way I would have picked, I'd have probably ended up in about the same spot.

At some point in all this, I realizef that

1) I had family. A lot of guys had lost theirs
2) I had the farm. No matter what, I wasn't going to starve
3) I had friends. A good number of them were dead already, but those that were still around could be relied on.
4 I had what was between my ears. It had done me fairly well so far
5) I had the will to keep going-- if for no other reason that enjoying the challenge


There was one moment where it nearly all went to $hit. My first job, coming out of this hole was the helpdesk job in Scumsuck-- 50 miles of white-knuckle driving from town. I'd never worked a job where you couldn't touch the other guy's computer. I had to do all this by remote control. My phone skills were good from my radio training. My writing skills were top-notch. I was not so vain as to think being meat-with-a-headset was beneath me.

It was just the sheer volume. I had 80 calls a day -- about one every 8 minutes. Sometime in the first week, I started getting the shakes at lunch. I had a half-hour for lunch, and I just couldn't make it back from the car. I told myself that all I had to do was get to my chair. If I could get to my seat, and stay there, nothing worse could happen. The one thing I couldn't do was leave. They would have to throw me out of the chair. I made it back in. I got settled and worked to the end of the shift. All my time with my vet friends over the years, working through their PTSD with them, had paid me back. It never happend again, and for the next 2 years, I went in feeling I was bulletproof.

That was a decade ago. I'm still feeling bulletproof. If God wants me, he'll take me, but he's going to have to knock me out of chair.

I’m in a similar but slightly different situation. I’m 52 and quit working last November to take care of my terminally ill wife of 28 years.
She passed a couple of weeks ago and now I have to figure out what’s next.
I am retired military so I have a check coming in each month that covers the monthly bills but there’s not enough left over to really retire. I have a really nice house with a barn, riding arena and pasture for horses but that was the wife’s thing. I’m not interested in owning horses again and I’m not interested in providing boarding services for other people’s horses. I may try to lease it out to generate some passive income, but I’m not sure how likely it is that I can find a suitable tenant.
I probably have enough equity in this place that I could sell it and pay cash for something smaller or at least put a big dent in the principle on a new place.
I could go back to work in the ship repair industry and make plenty of money but I don’t think I want to go back to that environment. I could make enough money training dogs or mowing grass to get by okay. I’m hesitant to make any significant decisions this soon after her passing and this is the first time since I was 24 that I don’t have anyone else to take care of.
I think I’m just going to do some hunting and fishing and thinking for a while. I’ll probably do some substitute teaching to augment my income so I don’t deplete my savings while I figure it out.

Good luck to you sir. Take your time and heal. Good things happen to good people.

Or a quarter hour. Less if she's got a minute plan.

When I bought my 'Vette, the salesman assured me it was only a mid-life crisis if you bought one in yellow.

Mine was a rifle. I'd been shooting my elk with a puny 270 for 25 or 30 years and despite the fact that every elk I'd shot it at ended up in the freezer, I just HAD to have one the new 300 WSM's that had just come out. If the 325 WSM had been out yet, I'd have probably got that instead. After packing it around for 6 or 7 years and shooting a good number of elk with it, I realized that It had never killed anything that a 30-06 couldn't have killed just as well. So, I got a light weight 30-06, saving more than a pound on my back and have been totally happy with it.
I still have the 300 and it's a very accurate gun but so is the '06.

Waking up in the morning occasionally and feeling like you've been rode hard and put away wet the night before is not a bad thing. Repeat as necessary.

the first major sign of a midlife crises is making a thread about it

I'm in a midlife crisis at 62, I commercial fished, hunted and guided for 40+ years. So I never had a real job and did as I pleased for the most part. I thought I wanted off the water so retired and bought cattle, now I'm tied down and miss commercial fishing. My advice is to live life when you can, time waits on no man. Hopefully everyone will find what their looking for.

I really wanted a late 60’s or early 70’s camero, but they are made of gold now days. I found a nice C3 vette pretty “cheap” that just needed everything rebuilt

I agree. Making money, borrowing money, spending money, accumulation, consumption, upgrades, extravagant consumerism...fast forward...a houseful of stuff. That’s the meaning of life to so many people nowadays. That is the direction our culture will pull you. That’s the way most people live nowadays. People live like slaves to all things financial. They don’t have stuff, their stuff has them. People borrow and spend their way into slavery. Money is a much better servant, than a master. There is a difference between standard of living and quality of life. And sometimes one needs to lower one’s standard of living in order to raise one’s quality of life. For so many people, the way we live isn’t suitable for the soul to be happy anymore.

I'm so very sorry for the loss of your sweetheart. You sound like you have your head on straight, especially the part of waiting and letting things settle. When the fog has lifted and you feel you are ready to start the next season of your life, you get to decide what YOUR dream looks like. Getting there will be the least of your worries, there are lots of employers out there that are always looking for guys with your background, and jobs paying a heck of a lot better than sub teaching, and just as rewarding.

When you are ready, you get to dream again.

mid life is 39. you aint living to 124 lol you had a great life that a lot of guys dream off. relax take it easy. I framed houses did concrete and roofing for 46 years. got a lot to look back on. makes me smile. I had wild crazy guys on my crews

screw the 'Vette

I’d disappoint the heck outta’ her.

Pretty sure there is a credit check and asset inventory involved before getting to play with that last toy posted.

UR from KY ?

know these hicks in this movie ?

I doubt he could afford that split tail. LOL

The Kentucky State Government produced that movie to keep the riff raff out of the state.

Yep, whole state is full of Deliverance types, everyone stay away.

didn't help much.....

I did see the movie Deliverence

no prob here.......too many fuggin weirdos east of the Divide

The whole fuggin' Pacific coast is west of the divide,..and you're talking about too many weirdos back east?

Yup.... She likes a 4WD pick'emup truck...

I'm in Utah

I wanna see the top half of the pic......

I'm so damn sick of city life. Smog, hour long commutes to work, people everywhere. Hell, I get home from work and I'm angrier than I was dealing with jerks all day long. 17 months to go and my wife and I are off to eastern Idaho. I won't be in the office a day past my 65th birthday. We bought property in a gated mountain community near Island Park, Idaho and about 40 minutes from West Yellowstone. Gonna build a modest home there and live out our lives. I'll do all the hunting, fly fishing, 4 wheeling and snowmobiling I've missed out on the past 45 or more years. It's gonna be like a little piece of heaven up there. I can't wait.

Lmfao

You're welcome.

I got everything I need;

Paul, is the floor solid wood? It's very pretty.

Richard, it's actually 4'x8' 1/2" standard quality plywood, cut to 8" wide strips, nailed, stained & sealed !

Upstairs was done when we bought, but we did 2 large downstairs bedrooms for less than $500 in materials.

We really like it too.

As I said Paul, it is very nice!

Back to the midlife crisis.