There is nothing true, honorable, right, pure, lovely or of good report being under a women or gay preacher. To be in either of those congregations is an offense to God and you should exit promptly.
The qualifications of a bishop, elder/pastor come from 1st Timothy 3:1-7
1This is a faithful saying: If a
man desires the position of a bishop,
he desires a good work. 2 bishop then must be blameless, the
husband of one wife, temperate, sober-minded, of good behavior, hospitable, able to teach; 3not given to wine, not violent, not greedy for money, but gentle, not quarrelsome, not covetous; 4one who rules
his own house well, having
his children in submission with all reverence 5(for if a
man does not know how to rule
his own house, how will
he take care of the church of God?); 6not a novice, lest being puffed up with pride
he fall into the same condemnation as the devil. 7Moreover
he must have a good testimony among those who are outside, lest
he fall into reproach and the snare of the devil.
also deacons should be a man: 1st Timothy 3:8-13
8Likewise deacons must be reverent, not double-tongued, not given to much wine, not greedy for money, 9holding the mystery of the faith with a pure conscience. 10But let these also first be tested; then let them serve as deacons, being found blameless. 11Likewise,
their wives must be reverent, not [g]slanderers, temperate, faithful in all things. 12Let deacons be the
husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well. 13For those who have served well as deacons obtain for themselves a good standing and great boldness in the faith which is in Christ Jesus.
the qualifications for elders, pastors & bishops are repeated again in Titus 1:5-9
5For this reason I left you in Crete, that you should set in order the things that are lacking, and
appoint elders in every city as I commanded you— 6if a
man is blameless,
the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of dissipation or insubordination. 7For a bishop must be blameless, as a steward of God, not self-willed, not quick-tempered, not given to wine, not violent, not greedy for money, 8but hospitable, a lover of what is good, sober-minded, just, holy, self-controlled, 9holding fast the faithful word as
he has been taught, that
he may be able, by sound doctrine, both to exhort and convict those who contradict.