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I know a guy, that had 2 relationships with women that were married, one was an affair while he was married himself and the other the women duped him into thinking she was single but was actually married. That was over 20 years ago for each and both are still married to the husbands they cheated on. I have a couple other friends that had a swinging relationship with some people at the job they worked at. again one couple got divorced, the other is still married 20+ years later.
I think its universal everyone is saying NO don't let her back. I would say what is the point of letting her back if all she wants to be is a roomie. you didn't mention if she is asking to be back together for real. I will cut a bit against the grain here and say this. people are tempted to do various things. their ability to change and not do it again depends on the person they were before the situation. Are they grounded in religion and faith? Do they have morals and wish to attend church? I would say its more likely you have problems with her again, another buddy had his wife move out and into a guys house that was a coal miner in the town. later she confused to [bleep] the guy at the archery shop. so again more was done than originally thought!! he forgave her and I think it prolonged their marriage about 3 more years. At which point she left him for good. same thing that I am saying here, she was a HORE, before they married, during and after. nice guy but honestly all his friends knew his wife was a hooch.
so it depends, you have 31 years with her. another thing/side note. I personally believe a women only ever loves one man in their life time. I believe they are only capable of ever loving one man, now its very possible that who they married to previously they never really loved, but if they ever did love that man, they will never fully give their heart to anyone else in the future and will secretly always hold something back for their one true love. or rather true to them love. look at how many women are bitter and never get over divorce. I think most. So I guess what I am saying is after 31 years your wife will want to come back and will likely still love you. prepare yourself for that. BTW I know this sucks. I hope the campfire can make you fill better during this crappy time. #spellcheck
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I would try to stay on good terms until divorce was final. 100% chance it's gonna go further south than it already has WAY before it's final. Quit worrying about feelings.
Molɔ̀ːn Labé Skýla!
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Most of this has been covered ad nauseam. No point in piling on. But WTH has she been doing for five weeks? I assume she’s fully capable of full-time work. She won’t be out on the streets if she’s working and that cuts down any alimony. You’re being played if that’s what she’s telling you.
Yours in Liberty,
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Your marriage is over and no judge is going to entertain who is at fault. He will divide your assets including your retirement funds. And who knows, after about thirty years of presumably living up to her end of the deal and birthing and raising some guy’s kids, that might not be entirely unfair. Whatever, guys had better be prepared for that.
"...if the gentlemen of Virginia shall send us a dozen of their sons, we would take great care in their education, instruct them in all we know, and make men of them." Canasatego 1744
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DNA everyone in the house.
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Your marriage is over and no judge is going to entertain who is at fault. He will divide your assets including your retirement funds. And who knows, after about thirty years of presumably living up to her end of the deal and birthing and raising some guy’s kids, that might not be entirely unfair. Whatever, guys had better be prepared for that. It’s not popular but I agree. I can only speak from my own experience, but if my wife left me tomorrow, I’ll admit right now she’s entitled to it. But my wife is better than most, if what is posted on here is true.
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And who knows, after about thirty years of presumably living up to her end of the deal and birthing and raising some guy’s kids, that might not be entirely unfair.
Whatever, guys had better be prepared for that. WHAT? You make it sound like she’s some kind of surrogate, completely disconnected. Aren’t the children she gives birth to hers as well? WTF
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I feel really sorry..for any man that has to come on here, or any public forum and ask for marriage advice.
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Camp is where you make it.
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I would try to stay on good terms until divorce was final. Smart move!
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There's always a Democrat's advice handy...
Igitur quī dēsīderat pācem, præparet bellum
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WHAT?
You make it sound like she’s some kind of surrogate, completely disconnected.
Aren’t the children she gives birth to hers as well?
WTF FIGURE OF SPEECH ( noun) : A word or phrase used in a non-literal sense for rhetorical effect. 🙄
"...if the gentlemen of Virginia shall send us a dozen of their sons, we would take great care in their education, instruct them in all we know, and make men of them." Canasatego 1744
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WHAT?
You make it sound like she’s some kind of surrogate, completely disconnected.
Aren’t the children she gives birth to hers as well?
WTF FIGURE OF SPEECH ( noun) : A word or phrase used in a non-literal sense for rhetorical effect. 🙄
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This thread is pure gold.
Tops for fire stupidity.
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This thread is pure gold.
Tops for fire stupidity. Callnum have you ever felt the touch of a women? No not one you had to pay for, but one that wanted to be with you willingly??
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Then STFU. The rest of your statement is superflous bullshit with no real bearing on this discussion other than to massage your own ego. Suckin' on my titties like you wanted me.
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This thread is pure gold.
Tops for fire stupidity. Everyone knows you're a fake azz bitch calls4cum.
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Your gonna do what your gonna do
All I can say its cheaper to always rent.
Never been into the whole marriage thing
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I dont know about other states, but in Ohio alimony stops the second that she shacks up with another man, either one moving in with the other. Might be in your benefit to hope she moves in with some guy "friend", as much as that hurts like hell.
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Your marriage is over and no judge is going to entertain who is at fault. He will divide your assets including your retirement funds. And who knows, after about thirty years of presumably living up to her end of the deal and birthing and raising some guy’s kids, that might not be entirely unfair. Whatever, guys had better be prepared for that. Wait a second you propped up your mexican mezito wife financially for years on end and paid for her to live with her boyfriend and chit.. How them tax benefits and no water heater work out for ya while not having a pot to piss in hoping she would come back to you?
Then STFU. The rest of your statement is superflous bullshit with no real bearing on this discussion other than to massage your own ego. Suckin' on my titties like you wanted me.
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