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Is a miserable son of a bitch. I just watched my FIL fight it for 8 days until he flat lined with my his daughters and mother around him.
His mother is 85 and it this was the last of her 5 children to die. To watch my wife, her sister and their grandmother have to make decisions was miserable.
Viewing tonight and tomorrow morning followed by mass and then a full on Irish drinking wake.
My tip from all of this is whilst it's great to have a living will it does NO good if no one knows where the living will is kept.
I've never been so proud of anyone as I have been of my wife through all of this. She made the tough decisions that her sister couldn't/wouldn't make.
"Dear Lord, save me from Your followers"
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Very sorry to hear of your wife's loss Scott. Sounds like you have an awesome woman there!
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Scott,
Condolences to your wife and her family.
And I will miss your FIL anecdotes a lot.
Steve
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Sorry to hear Scott. Prayers for you and your family.
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Sorry for you and your wife's loss... And I will miss your FIL anecdotes a lot.
Indeed, got lots of humor out of your FIL posts... The Living Will tips is a good one. After losing my Gma recently, I'd also add that folks should make a regular will NOW and make sure it's up to date and legal. It saves the living family members lots of angst in times of grief...
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Sorry to hear to about this, Scott.
My wife knows where my living will is, and my siblings are all on board.
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Sorry for your family's loss Scott.
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Is a miserable son of a bitch.
It is, and one close relative has to take charge and make the tough decisions. Sometimes that causes hard feelings with other family members. It's what the patient deserves though.
Best to all of you.
If you take the time it takes, it takes less time.
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Very sorry to hear this. Kudos for your wife for taking the lead and the heat. Condolences to you and all the family.
Last edited by mudhen; 04/04/14.
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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss Scott.
Excellent advice about the living will.
Sam......
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Very sorry to hear of your wife's loss Scott. Sounds like you have an awesome woman there! Ditto..
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LET'S GO BRANDON!!!
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Tough deal, no doubt. Hope the family stuff smooths out. These things really bring out the worst in many when the tough/right decisions are made. Best of luck.
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My brother died of a stroke a few years ago. He had never married or had kids. He'd preached about wills and living wills to all of us but we could never find one that he'd made himself. I found a DIY will program loaded on his computer but it wasn't used. Our mother is still living and was his sole, uncontested heir so things were greatly simplified. She was in her 90's and left it to my sister and I to decide to pull the plug. It was an easy decision as he'd told us both before that that's what he wanted.
Our situation was FAR easier than most of them. Do your family a huge favor and do the paperwork in advance.
“In a time of deceit telling the truth is a revolutionary act.”
― George Orwell
It's not over when you lose. It's over when you quit.
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Scott,
My condolences to you and your wife.
"Far better it is to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure, than to take rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much" Teddy Roosevelt
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Scott, condolences to your family.
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hate to hear it Scott I was counting on that ole boy to ruffle your feathers for a good while and thus entertain us with your stories relating those adventures to us.
wish the best for the surviving family
life is a funny gig, pretty cool to see you express the admiration for your wife, often it's the tough sledding in life that truly bonds us with one another.
I'm pretty certain when we sing our anthem and mention the land of the free, the original intent didn't mean cell phones, food stamps and birth control.
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Very sorry to hear of your loss. Praying for you and your family...
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Scott;
Please accept condolences and know your family and those left behind are in my thoughts and prayers.
Dwayne
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God bless her grandmother too, she said that Danny (her son, my wife's dad) wouldn't want to be like this.
Wife had it out with her sister when she couldn't/wouldn't make a decision and my wife told her 'No decision is a decision so I am giving the orders to the doctor'.
Seems the sister wanted to hold out for him waking up for just a minute and her to be able to say goodbye to him. I understand that, but I too had to tell her 'It's not about you'
I'm just happy to know that my wife will be able to pull the plug on me when the time comes, maybe even sooner....
"Dear Lord, save me from Your followers"
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