My favorite for women, or anyone, is a Smith 360 in 38 spl. The 38's are much cheaper than the 357's and no one shoots 357's in a 12 oz gun anyway. +P 38's are manageable and the gun is very light weight and simple to use. Put a set of laser grips and a Big Dot Tritium front sight on it, and it's an awesome little carry gun. Not sure if they come on pink or purple but they should.
