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My mother is still alive at 73. I am exactly like her, right down to the completely inappropriate sense of humor. We talk on the phone a lot and she is welcome to move in but for now she lives alone.
I am so sorry for the pain some of you have gone through with parents dying young and in some cases awful parents. I had wonderful parents that I didn't deserve. If anyone deserved bad parents, it's me because I was the worst kid. I made my parents into better Christians, they were praying about me day and night. Wow, was God watching out for me.
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My Mom passed less than a year ago and my Dad will be spending his first Christmas without her in over 63 years. I'll never forget what Dad said to me a couple days after she passed: "I lived with my parents for 21.5 years and I lived with your Mom for 62.5 years". Then I realized he'd never lived alone his entire life until now. On a more positive note, he will be making the trip out to spend Christmas with us for the first time. Mom's high school graduation picture:
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Make Gitmo Great Again!! Who gave the order to stop counting votes in the swing states on the night of November 3/4, 2020?
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It’s been 13,years since my mom passed , miss her every day!!
Well we're Green and we're Gold, and we play better when it's cold. All us Cheese heads have our favorite superstar. We love Brett Favre.
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Those of you that still have a Mom or Dad are very lucky. I only saw my real father a couple of times. My mother died 50 years ago this last summer. I was 16 years old.
If you have parents, go see them if possible.
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Mine just passed this September at 86. Christmas will never be the same. Enjoy and treasure every moment, because they are not unlimited.
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There is nothing harder in life than losing ones mother.
Son of a liberal: " What did you do in the War On Terror, Daddy?"
Liberal father: " I fought the Americans, along with all the other liberals."
MOLON LABE
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Get Lewis Grizzard's book, "Don't Forget to Call Your Mom, I Wish I Could Call Mine"
Really, get it, you will be fighting tears on every page.
Imagine a corporate oligarchy so effective, so advanced and fine tuned that its citizens still call it a democracy.
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Mom would have turned 97 this past August. Lost her in 1968 to breast cancer. I have spent my entire life trying to figure out how her early passing (age 46) was supposed to benefit me. On the selfish side of the coin, I have missed her dearly, and lamented the fact that my children never had the opportunity to know her. The only solace I have found, over these many decades, is that for me to have the chance to see her again I must maintain our shared faith in the power of Jesus the Christ, who was raised from the dead by the Father of all creation, and sits at the right hand of God, receiving all of us who drink the Living Water of his Word. Oh to have just one more Christmas to perform all the things the OP mentioned with my mother. Amen.
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I never knew I was a momma’s boy until she was gone.
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Son of a liberal: " What did you do in the War On Terror, Daddy?"
Liberal father: " I fought the Americans, along with all the other liberals."
MOLON LABE
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Not close to my parents. They dont bother me and i dont bother them. Theyve always kept busy doing their own thing. Proly why we arent close. I dont see it as a plus or minus, just what it is.
My ol ladys parents were dysfunctional and liked drama.
Ive got no time or tolerance for that crap
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I sure could go for some $2.50/gal gas and a mean tweet!
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TRUMP 2020
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If your mom is an angel and youre close, good for you. I wont socialize with anybody thats a jerk, family or other. Holidays is an excuse for some to get close to do damage.
My ol ladys sister is an absolute piece of chit.
She and the kids will go for the big fam dinner. I go rabbit hunting.
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Son of a liberal: " What did you do in the War On Terror, Daddy?"
Liberal father: " I fought the Americans, along with all the other liberals."
MOLON LABE
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If your mom is an angel and youre close, good for you. I wont socialize with anybody thats a jerk, family or other. Holidays is an excuse for some to get close to do damage.
My ol ladys sister is an absolute piece of chit.
She and the kids will go for the big fam dinner. I go rabbit hunting. I completely understand this.
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To those who are blessed enough to have their mother this Christmas, please remember to soak every last bit of it in.
Please remember to hug her so tight, that the way she smells is locked into your nose. Listen to all the stories you've heard a million times, like you've never heard a single one. Help her, even if it seems completely silly to you, help her mix that cake. Laugh, oh please laugh. Laugh at all her corky ways, at the way she mispronounces words, tries to be hip and use new-found lingo, or how she cusses when she forgot to get the rolls out of the oven but quickly asks the Lord for forgiveness.
Remember her laugh, etch it into your brain. Make her happy, if she wants to go riding around looking at Christmas lights down the same streets you've gone for years, do it. Don't fuss, take her advice, agree to just disagree on things. It's not worth it. Most importantly, remind her over and over how much you love her.
Because unlike you, I'm not able to see my mom on Christmas. I'm not able to see her on birthdays, Thanksgiving, or any other occasion. My time with her is up.
Death is the most permanent heartbreak.
How I long to hear her voice, her laugh. To feel her tight embrace. Smell — oh God, what I would give to just be able to smell her. I kept her pillow just to have her smell present as long as I could. I would absolutely love to go riding around for hours while she "oohs" and "ahhs" at every single house we pass. If I had the opportunity I'd tell her just how much I love her again, over and over, how I'm so thankful for all the sacrifices she made for me. In fact, I'm not sure I could ever tell her enough.
Some days I wake up and it still doesn't feel real. Others, I panic trying to remember exactly how she sounded. Because I don't want to forget. I don't want to forget a single characteristic about her. Not one.
Take time, not just on holidays, or special occasions to be with your mom. Even if it's just you two piled up watching reruns of her favorite shows, soak it in.
You only get one momma. Nobody could ever take her place. Thank you for the poignant reminder, and my condolences on your loss. You inspired me to visit my parents today. They are both in nursing, my mom has advancing dementia and my dad is not far behind her and has had broken hips, etc.. I usually only see them on the weekend, but your post caught me in a good way. I made a pickled cow's tongue sandwich for my dad (one of his favorites, with everything homemade, including the pickles and sauerkraut) and got my mom some of her favorite candy, and dropped by unannounced this afternoon. I took a few hours off work and it was well worth it. Thank you again for your post.
Eliminate qualified immunity and you'll eliminate cops who act like they are above the law.
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These premises insured by a Sheltie in Training ,--- and Cooey.o "May the Good Lord take a likin' to you"
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There is nothing harder in life than losing ones mother.
evidently you never met anyone who lost their Rolex or got a scratch on their Ferrari. jokes aside, the hardest think would be a mother who has to bury her child.
-Bulletproof and Waterproof don't mean Idiotproof.
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My mother buried my older brother, and died before her mother.
These premises insured by a Sheltie in Training ,--- and Cooey.o "May the Good Lord take a likin' to you"
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