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Oldest is married and only 40 miles away.
Lives down the road from her half sibling, so their mom does a double pretty easy.

Kids out of state is a hassle. But if theyre happy and making money, have at it.

If all mine stay in state I might split LOL

No you gotta learn how to fly.
You cant stay here for the rest of your life.
Learn to fly and do for yourself.
Go get some white feathers on your noggin.
And come back for holidays and a visit if ya want.
3 to 7 days max.
You got your own adult ways and independence then.

My high school friend, Charlie, was tall, blond and good looking. Starting flanker on the football team. Smart as could be, he was admitted to Ga. Tech.

And fifty years later he was still living in Mommy's basement. Never moved out. Got up by 11 am and had a joint for breakfast. At age 70, that's what Charlie was doing.

It may be painful to get that kid out, but, get his ass out! Got to go out into the world and live his own life.

Dad threw my ass the F v CK out when I turned 19. For real. Did the same thing to my boy and he’s doing all right.

LOL

It’s the natural progression but that doesn’t mean you can’t miss them and the times you had.

Pharm,
Is he a Duck or a Beav?

One of mine joined the Marines on a delayed entry part way through his Senior year. All of a sudden the pierced ear rings disappeared. He wasn't in much trouble either. Ended up Heavy Weapons in an SOC group. That's before the name MARSOC was coined and used. He's doing OK and I just has a Great Granddaughter here for five days earlier. Be Well, RZ.

Pharmseller: It's called "empty nest syndrome", if I recall correctly.
I have had to deal with it 4 times!
The "nest" has been completely empty for 14 or 15 years now.
It IS awfully quiet around here.
Sometimes the "better" colleges are NOT close to home and indeed two of my VarmintChildren started and finished their college educations out of state and 675 and 400 miles away respectively.
Both have EXCELLENT jobs now with EXCELLENT benefits so I guess it was worth "it".
By contrast the VarmintGrandDaughter is going to college 2 1/2 miles from my home but 675 miles from her mothers home!
In fact I was just informed that the VarmintGrandDaughter and her freshman, dormitory required, roommate will be coming over for Sunday night pot roast dinner this weekend!
"They will be back" - you can count on that if only for holidays and vacations etc.
You will appreciate them greatly when they return - I know, been there done that.
Hold into the wind
VarmintGuy

He lives about halfway between Duck and Beav country - Platypusburg, I think.

Yep - our oldest just moved to Iowa last month to begin teaching public school and our youngest went back to college in Iowa for his junior year. If nothing else, I get my naked room back for a few months.

I tried college for a year and hated it. I was 19 when I left the house and joined the Army. It was a great decision.

kwg

Yep. I get it.

My son turned 18 on a Tuesday, bought a plane ticket Wednesday, and flew out Friday. LOL

That makes me the smartest dad in the world.

That empty nest syndrome is a bunch of bullsheit. I raised mine right, they're out on their own and doing well for themselves. I love seeing them, spending time with them, and talking to them, but I'm glad they're gone. It's been awesome for me and the wife doing wtf we want to do. Now, the two grandboys are different, they can stay here all they want.

I agree 100%.

Young adults shouldn’t want to live with middle aged adults and middle aged adults shouldn’t want to live with young adults.

This ^^^^^ about sums it up...

Older stepson went to college in PA at the same time we moved down to SC. (He's doing well, crushing the classes....will finish his bachelor's degree this (his third) year because in HS he went up the hill afternoons and took courses at the university and he's taken extra courses online summers and breaks. He'll come down here for his graduate work at Clemson or USC. His younger brother is in his second year at The Citadel. His battalion is a two minute walk from where we live (in faculty housing.) Kind of nice to have him home once in a while...also his buddies, outstanding kids, all of them. Some weekends we'll have a houseful. Nice to have a bunch of young men and women around the dinner table who don't have piercings, weird-colored hair, or dipshit cartoons inked into their skin...who are clean, smart and polite, conservative values and can carry a conversation.

Both boys were home for the summer. They both had really good summer jobs and it was great having them here. It was also great having them gone so my wife and I didn't have to get dressed to walk around upstairs and afternoon sex returned to our lives.

I had a coworker tell me when he was 17 he wasnt getting along with his dad and they finally went for the gusto in the front yard in front of the whole neighborhood. His dad threw him out that day and he said it was the best thing that ever happened to him

I didn’t ask mine if they want to stay. I gave them the tools. Time to use them.

I re-sided a house for a guy about 10 years ago who said he prepped his kids for leaving by telling them he was going to break their dinner plate when they turned 18. He said he started about the time they became teenagers.

The first two weren't too much of a problem and took flight but the youngest was a daughter that developed some kind of a blood disease a year or so before she turned 18. He said he told her he would cut her some slack and wouldn't break her plate. But he said "I told her I could see a crack in that plate so she had better get busy."

He said all three of them turned out to be highly productive and useful citizens and none seemed to have any hard feelings.

I was working on another house about 40 years ago when the old man next door came over to chat. He said he had come to Montana when he was 16 years old. He rode a mule, traveling by himself all the way from Missouri or Iowa, somewhere in that region.

I guess an independent streak can do a feller good sometimes.