I dated an older woman for several years. I was 26 and she was 38 when we got together. It was a great time and the ages didn't seem to be much of a problem. Fast forward to now and that twelve year difference would have us at 52 and 64. Still not too bad of a thing, but as age advances, it might become an issue when she's 76 and I'm 64.
Don't walk, run. Away. Young women unless they are daughters, grand daughters or nieces are insufferable. Check back with us in 2 years if you don't take this advice.
Since you are both adults, it's not a sin as long as it's Biblical in the other areas too.
Examples.... Abraham and Sarah Isaac and Rebecca
A girlfriend should be a step toward marriage without the shared benefits that are only appropriate for marriage.
Every relationship has challenges. Age gaps can be one. That doesn't make them wrong.
I know of a couple that had a forty year age difference. The old man was married to a good looking much younger gal. I was told that they were intimate until sometime into his eighties funny enough. She died a couple years after he did, so you never know. She was a very healthy lady and not into taking meds. Regardless, 16 years isn't that much as long as she's the kind of woman who would be faithful. That's true at any age though.
I dated an older woman for several years. I was 26 and she was 38 when we got together. It was a great time and the ages didn't seem to be much of a problem. Fast forward to now and that twelve year difference would have us at 52 and 64. Still not too bad of a thing, but as age advances, it might become an issue when she's 76 and I'm 64.
The biggest issue is that she'll likely be a widow for a long time. This is why social security 1st came about. Men typically married younger women and few lived much beyond 65. Most had no savings or pensions so America had a bunch of widows with no money to live on. SS was originally conceived as a support for the widows. Then, with good medical care, men started living longer. They, too, needed old age income since they'd never been able to save anything so SS became a retirement plan. The early SS fund grew much faster than they'd anticipated and they couldn't keep their hands off all that money so the rest is history.
I was following a real live soap opera in Church Point, Louisiana where Ms. Taylor Richard (that's pronounced reeshard in Cajun) got tired of her husband Philip Jr. and fell in love with Phillip Sr.(AKA Baw Paw) who is old enough to be her father. The Facebook 30 minute confession/justification by Taylor was riveting. There is plenty of love going on right now and 2 of the 3 children are half brothers and also uncles to #1. I think most significantly younger women that hook up with older men aren't there for true love and most have a screw loose. Do we think Melania (24 year difference) was motivated by love?
I was following a real live soap opera in Church Point, Louisiana where Ms. Taylor Richard (that's pronounced reeshard in Cajun) got tired of her husband Philip Jr. and fell in love with Phillip Sr.(AKA Baw Paw) who is old enough to be her father. The Facebook 30 minute confession/justification by Taylor was riveting. There is plenty of love going on right now and 2 of the 3 children are half brothers and also uncles to #1. I think most significantly younger women that hook up with older men aren't there for true love and most have a screw loose. Do we think Melania (24 year difference) was motivated by love?
Actually she isnāt crazy at all . She has a little boy whose Dad isnāt much in the picture
Bob, I'll grant that she doesn't seem crazy....right now.
You and I are not exactly best bro's, but I still wouldn't want to see you get screwed over, so I'll share a few thoughts with you and everyone else with the same options.
I'm guessing she's around 30, hot, and you're mid 40's and have significant assets and income.
Sure, she may not seem crazy now, but that doesn't mean she will stay that way. Depending on what study you believe, 60 to 80% of all divorces are now filed by women. About half of those are filed when women hit their mid-life crisis, perhaps when you are around age 60. That's not a good time to be loosing half you stuff just because a woman thinks she has one last chance to trade up for a better deal. To be clear women are not leaving men due to mistreatment. They are leaving good men because they think they can get something better.
So before you consider co-habitation or marriage, date for at least year or two to insure you have enough data points to properly assess her level of crazy, and see a good lawyer. I'd hate to see you loose half your stuff just as you're getting ready to retire.
You mentioned she has a kid, and the baby-daddy is out of the picture. Another reason to take things slowly is to make sure he's truly out of the picture. One thing none of us need in our lives is that drama. Another thing you want to watch is how the kid is disciplined, and if this goes long term, your role in that while the kid is in your presence. Last thing you need in your life is an uncontrollable brat regardless of how good she treats you at night.
Actually she isnāt crazy at all . She has a little boy whose Dad isnāt much in the picture
Bob, I'll grant that she doesn't seem crazy....right now.
You and I are not exactly best bro's, but I still wouldn't want to see you get screwed over, so I'll share a few thoughts with you and everyone else with the same options.
I'm guessing she's around 30, hot, and you're mid 40's and have significant assets and income.
Sure, she may not seem crazy now, but that doesn't mean she will stay that way. Depending on what study you believe, 60 to 80% of all divorces are now filed by women. About half of those are filed when women hit their mid-life crisis, perhaps when you are around age 60. That's not a good time to be loosing half you stuff just because a woman thinks she has one last chance to trade up for a better deal. To be clear women are not leaving men due to mistreatment. They are leaving good men because they think they can get something better.
So before you consider co-habitation or marriage, date for at least year or two to insure you have enough data points to properly assess her level of crazy, and see a good lawyer. I'd hate to see you loose half your stuff just as you're getting ready to retire.
You mentioned she has a kid, and the baby-daddy is out of the picture. Another reason to take things slowly is to make sure he's truly out of the picture. One thing none of us need in our lives is that drama. Another thing you want to watch is how the kid is disciplined, and if this goes long term, your role in that while the kid is in your presence. Last thing you need in your life is an uncontrollable brat regardless of how good she treats you at night.
Thanks. We are broās now. I donāt care what Roy says about you .
both my wife and I, had parents that our fathers were 18 years older than our mothers. my dad also got married to a women that was 22 years younger. notice a theme here? it was typically a recipe for divorce. my dad didn't get divorced from his last wife, 22 years younger. (because he was old and she had bad health) but IMO any women that is attracted to a man that much older than they are have issues. typically it means the women had a very poor relationship with their own father. what I would say is depending on where you are at, DO NOT MARRY THEM!! if you wanna just have fun and bang some younger puuu si I get it, by all means. but realize there is an expiration date on the relationship, this expiration date should be under your control because its happening either way. I personally think about 10 years is the max age differential if you are considering getting married to this person.
I would never do that but then it's none of my busiiness what you do.
IIRC the last Civil War widow died just a couple of years ago. A young teenage kid enlisted in the CSA Army and married a young teenage girl when he was in his 80s. The girl outlived him by 70 or 80 years.
both my wife and I, had parents that our fathers were 18 years older than our mothers. my dad also got married to a women that was 22 years younger. notice a theme here? it was typically a recipe for divorce. my dad didn't get divorced from his last wife, 22 years younger. (because he was old and she had bad health) but IMO any women that is attracted to a man that much older than they are have issues. typically it means the women had a very poor relationship with their own father. what I would say is depending on where you are at, DO NOT MARRY THEM!! if you wanna just have fun and bang some younger puuu si I get it, by all means. but realize there is an expiration date on the relationship, this expiration date should be under your control because its happening either way. I personally think about 10 years is the max age differential if you are considering getting married to this person.
Actually she isnāt crazy at all . She has a little boy whose Dad isnāt much in the picture
Bob, I'll grant that she doesn't seem crazy....right now.
You and I are not exactly best bro's, but I still wouldn't want to see you get screwed over, so I'll share a few thoughts with you and everyone else with the same options.
I'm guessing she's around 30, hot, and you're mid 40's and have significant assets and income.
Sure, she may not seem crazy now, but that doesn't mean she will stay that way. Depending on what study you believe, 60 to 80% of all divorces are now filed by women. About half of those are filed when women hit their mid-life crisis, perhaps when you are around age 60. That's not a good time to be loosing half you stuff just because a woman thinks she has one last chance to trade up for a better deal. To be clear women are not leaving men due to mistreatment. They are leaving good men because they think they can get something better.
So before you consider co-habitation or marriage, date for at least year or two to insure you have enough data points to properly assess her level of crazy, and see a good lawyer. I'd hate to see you loose half your stuff just as you're getting ready to retire.
You mentioned she has a kid, and the baby-daddy is out of the picture. Another reason to take things slowly is to make sure he's truly out of the picture. One thing none of us need in our lives is that drama. Another thing you want to watch is how the kid is disciplined, and if this goes long term, your role in that while the kid is in your presence. Last thing you need in your life is an uncontrollable brat regardless of how good she treats you at night.
So, my advise is have fun, but cover your assets.
WINNER WINNER CHICKEN DINNER!
Right on ALL points.
I would re-emphasize two points.
1. She has a kid and is looking for a stable meal ticket
2. See how the kid is disciplined because as a step-parent you have ZERO--repeat ZERO input on how the kid is raised, regardless of what she tells you now.
both my wife and I, had parents that our fathers were 18 years older than our mothers. my dad also got married to a women that was 22 years younger. notice a theme here? it was typically a recipe for divorce. my dad didn't get divorced from his last wife, 22 years younger. (because he was old and she had bad health) but IMO any women that is attracted to a man that much older than they are have issues. typically it means the women had a very poor relationship with their own father. what I would say is depending on where you are at, DO NOT MARRY THEM!! if you wanna just have fun and bang some younger puuu si I get it, by all means. but realize there is an expiration date on the relationship, this expiration date should be under your control because its happening either way. I personally think about 10 years is the max age differential if you are considering getting married to this person.
Mormon?
Flave wants to know and asked me to ask for him.
do you disagree with the advice? the mormon thing wasn't a factor here because mormons get married young and stay married, typically. number one factor? horny fathers. women who had distant to none relationships with their fathers,
both my wife and I, had parents that our fathers were 18 years older than our mothers. my dad also got married to a women that was 22 years younger. notice a theme here? it was typically a recipe for divorce. my dad didn't get divorced from his last wife, 22 years younger. (because he was old and she had bad health) but IMO any women that is attracted to a man that much older than they are have issues. typically it means the women had a very poor relationship with their own father. what I would say is depending on where you are at, DO NOT MARRY THEM!! if you wanna just have fun and bang some younger puuu si I get it, by all means. but realize there is an expiration date on the relationship, this expiration date should be under your control because its happening either way. I personally think about 10 years is the max age differential if you are considering getting married to this person.
Mormon?
Flave wants to know and asked me to ask for him.
do you disagree with the advice? the mormon thing wasn't a factor here because mormons get married young and stay married, typically. number one factor? horny fathers. women who had distant to none relationships with their fathers,
The advice thing that you gave on younger cooter is spot on.
Iāll leave the ins and outs of the socio-analysis in your capable hands.
both my wife and I, had parents that our fathers were 18 years older than our mothers. my dad also got married to a women that was 22 years younger. notice a theme here? it was typically a recipe for divorce. my dad didn't get divorced from his last wife, 22 years younger. (because he was old and she had bad health) but IMO any women that is attracted to a man that much older than they are have issues. typically it means the women had a very poor relationship with their own father. what I would say is depending on where you are at, DO NOT MARRY THEM!! if you wanna just have fun and bang some younger puuu si I get it, by all means. but realize there is an expiration date on the relationship, this expiration date should be under your control because its happening either way. I personally think about 10 years is the max age differential if you are considering getting married to this person.
Mormon?
Flave wants to know and asked me to ask for him.
do you disagree with the advice? the mormon thing wasn't a factor here because mormons get married young and stay married, typically. number one factor? horny fathers. women who had distant to none relationships with their fathers,
The advice thing that you gave on younger cooter is spot on.
Iāll leave the ins and outs of the socio-analysis in your capable hands.
Go for it. I was banging one at work who was 34 years younger. She pursued me why I'll never know. A little crazy but most are especially Latino girls. Sweet while it lasted...
Go for it. I was banging one at work who was 34 years younger. She pursued me why I'll never know. A little crazy but most are especially Latino girls. Sweet while it lasted...
all women are crazy, its just a matter of how often and how bad
both my wife and I, had parents that our fathers were 18 years older than our mothers. my dad also got married to a women that was 22 years younger. notice a theme here? it was typically a recipe for divorce. my dad didn't get divorced from his last wife, 22 years younger. (because he was old and she had bad health) but IMO any women that is attracted to a man that much older than they are have issues. typically it means the women had a very poor relationship with their own father. what I would say is depending on where you are at, DO NOT MARRY THEM!! if you wanna just have fun and bang some younger puuu si I get it, by all means. but realize there is an expiration date on the relationship, this expiration date should be under your control because its happening either way. I personally think about 10 years is the max age differential if you are considering getting married to this person.
Mormon?
Flave wants to know and asked me to ask for him.
do you disagree with the advice? the mormon thing wasn't a factor here because mormons get married young and stay married, typically. number one factor? horny fathers. women who had distant to none relationships with their fathers,
The advice thing that you gave on younger cooter is spot on.
Iāll leave the ins and outs of the socio-analysis in your capable hands.
Going to be following this. Last Labor Day a friend of mine, suggested I ask his (adopted) daughter out. She's 20 years younger, lost her father at a young age and her mother about 10 years ago. At first I was reluctant but in January I told him I would take her with me if she wanted to go watch her daughter play basketball, her daughter (frosh) and mine (senior) are on the same team. His reply was "OK son I'll let her know. She did have a date with someone but I'm not a fan."
Most instances of such around here, she is pregnant before leaving high school. A friend's daughter, who was a real cutie with tons of potential, left home and dropped out of school on her 18th. Was pregnant within a month. With 3 kids in three years, things did not work out well for her. Maybe her chance at life will come around when she hits 40 and the kids are gone.
Were it me, I'd do my best to discourage such. The younger set needs to see some of world and gain experiences outside of the immediate neighborhood.
Six years difference here as I did service time and subsequently met the wife in college. Two a 1/2 years passed before we married. The awkward era was when I retired and Cookie kept working for another six. Would like to have spent that time on the road.
MY FIL , in his late mid 60's married an Asian woman who was a registered nurse in her early 40's.
She drove him crazy but she doted on him and took care of his every need while bringing in about 70K a year in income while he piddled around in the yard every year.
I told my wife he knew what he was looking for in a wife to ride it out. She (the nurse) was at his side when he died 15 years later.
Bob my ex wife was 13 years younger than me. It wasn't the age difference but our expectations in life. She was 23 and just getting started to live her life. I was 36 and had mine well under way. That's what separated us but age was why we were at different stages. My biggest regret was not following my own gut feeling and not have asked her to marry me. Not that either of us was wrong but I could have saved us both the heartache of divorce. Looking back we should not have married. Divorce is a scar that never goes away. We were fortunate in that we still respect each other and neither of us ever say anything unkind about the other. Not all end that way. I imagine you have already had that gut check. Don't ignore it.
Methinks if you have to ask?????? Hell what doI know? Married twice, divorced once and widowed the last time. I'm pushing close to 83, was messing with a cute Latina about 30 years younger than me. Didn't last though. She was bat chit crazy. Near as I can tell a manic/depressive. When manic a dream to be with but when the depressive kicked in, well I decided to cut and run. So the hunt goes on. My advice to the OP. Do what your gut tells you.I've been right more often than not when I went that way. Paul B.
A different way to ask the question. Youāre 40, your daughter is 18. Are you ok with a 34 year old to dating her ?
The 18/34 would describe my parents, and to this day my brothers and I can't understand why her parents let it happen. Not only the ages, but different socioeconomic backgrounds as well. They were married about 30 years before she divorced him. It was clear that she planned it years before, but held out until my youngest brother left home.
You need to get the approval of the teacher online here that dates his students. If you get that, you're good to go......
Birdwatcher?
Mike didn't date any student.
Having lunch with him tomorrow.
Never made a move on a student, before or after graduation. Turned any away who came looking back when I was young and handsome. Lots of teachers got similar stories.
As to the topic of this thread, all the applicable caveats have been put out there. I would guess in our society after a woman hits her mid-twenties she's old enough and has seen enough to make her own decisions.
Last summer a hot 29yo woman I met through cycling, hearing that I walked my dogs in the woods by moonlight, asked me if I would take her and her dog along. In the actual event she showed up with a friend, I'm glad she did. I'm early sixties and stay reasonably active, them two twenty-somethings left me in the dust without even breathing hard. If it was just me and her and we had got it on back there, it most likely woulda been just like that, except more embarrasing. At least I was left with a shred of dignity
Nothing wrong with the age difference. But WHATEVER you do; get a prenup and don't adopt jr! I had a co-worker years ago who was dating a drop-dead gorgeous lady! She could have passed for Liv Tyler. She had a few kids in tow and was just the nicest gal, the kids were pretty well disciplined it seemed. Anyway, they tie the knot and all goes well and she convinces him to adopt the kids. Well, he does and about the time the ink was dry on those adoption papers she divorces his ass! Too bad he now has to make child support payments on kids he didn't get to make; in ADDITION to the two that he did from his first marriage! Poor sob was living in a trailer in the back of a friends place he was so broke! Found out later she had another boyfriend on the side and that she, the kids and the new man were in a trailer house fifty miles south of there living and doing drugs off of his child support payments!
Moral of the story, don't think with the wrong head; or ever get divorced in Utah!
When I was 50 I had a beautiful 23 year old half Mexican/half French girlfriend, smart as a whip and in the full bloom of young womanhood. I got nuthin' to add to this conversation, I just like recalling that....
I married a 16 year old when I was 18, lasted 12 years. We are still close, have Thanksgiving at her house most years. She called me yesterday, wanted to know vaccination felt, didnāt think Iād ever get her off the phone. She married a wonderful man 12 years older than her almost 40 years ago. He could put up with her moodiness better than me.
A different way to ask the question. Youāre 40, your daughter is 18. Are you ok with a 34 year old to dating her ?
The 18/34 would describe my parents, and to this day my brothers and I can't understand why her parents let it happen. Not only the ages, but different socioeconomic backgrounds as well. They were married about 30 years before she divorced him. It was clear that she planned it years before, but held out until my youngest brother left home.
I wouldn't wish a loveless marriage on anyone.
It works both ways. I knew 2 different girls in college who married guys who openly said that they were going to get married, have their wives put them through school, then divorce them. That's what happened to both of them. Both worked to put their husbands through and then were tossed out the door. Both figured it wouldn't happen to them.
I don't know how old you are but I'm sure you're old enough that the age difference doesn't matter at this point. Enjoy and have fun while it lasts. Just don't make any stupid decisions.
Was out east hunting geese with a cousin in January. He's divorced and 56 yo. Was dating a Cuban honey that was 36 I believe and she had four kids. She was pretty hot, said good for you!
Go for it. I was banging one at work who was 34 years younger. She pursued me why I'll never know. A little crazy but most are especially Latino girls. Sweet while it lasted...
all women are crazy, its just a matter of how often and how bad
. . . . She has a little boy whose Dad isnāt much in the picture
That's what's been a problem for me. After all the late night/early morning diapers and feverish foreheads and puking is winding down, baby daddy decides he's ready to be a responsible man and " do what's right " and take his family back. Woman says it's not making any difference, but deep down inside she's secretly thrilled that so-and-so is ready to come back, and starts making excuses for so-and-so running off when junior was a baby. So-and-so eventually manages to put himself back in good by buying the birthday cards and gifts and Christmas stuff, and by and by the angel of a kid turns into a young demon and mama chews your head off for the least infraction whether real or perceived. The kid no longer behaves decently because " daddy always lets me do what I want when I'm over there. . " Not to mention the " Ain't none a my kids callin' another man daddy. . "
It can be a great thing if so-and-so doesn't gum up the works. But it'll only happen if sweet thing allows it to
I was 16 when I got married, wife was same age. Yes, the marriage failed......but, still made it work for 19 years, Well, 16....the last 3 were pretty ārockyā!
I contend that many people are āneverā mature enough to get married......no matter the age! memtb
Actually the child is the biggest deal by far in this situation.
It can be rough on a kid seeing mom keep company with some guy.
Evil #2 brought a 13 year old girl along. She thought I was the devil for a while before figuring out I was a lot more forgiving than mom or bio dad. And yes, she is as crazy as her mom.
Actually the child is the biggest deal by far in this situation.
It can be rough on a kid seeing mom keep company with some guy.
I don't know. I think they understand most of what goes on. Like when they ask " why don't you and mama fight and scream like her and daddy used to. . ?"
I never had any problems myself until the baby daddy tried to step back in the picture. But again, it goes south because sweet thing lets it
Wife is 30 DAYS younger then me, but then our girlfriend, who lives with us, is 20 YEARS younger then both of us. Been working out fine for last 9-10 years. If everyone is emotionally mature and communication is open and honest, then actual age number shouldnāt matter none.
Wife is 30 days younger then me, but then our girlfriend, who lives with us, is 20 years younger then both of us. Been working out fine for last 9-10 years. If everyone is emotionally mature and communication is open and honest, then actual age number shouldnāt matter none.
Only read first couple of pages . Here is the down side that stands out to me . If you go as far as getting married and you turn 66 and she is 10,12,14 or16 years younger and you retire . And she has become housewife dependent on you , you now have all those years of no health insurance for her unless your pockets are lined pretty good . Kenneth
Only read first couple of pages . Here is the down side that stands out to me . If you go as far as getting married and you turn 66 and she is 10,12,14 or16 years younger and you retire . And she has become housewife dependent on you , you now have all those years of no health insurance for her unless your pockets are lined pretty good . Kenneth
Much nicer if your pockets are lined pretty good no matter what the situation is.
I only read the first page so not sure what has been covered. Just want to add my .02.
When I was 36 I dated a divorced 22 year old with two boys, ages 2 & 4. Unbeknownst to me, the whole dating process was a ājob interviewā. You see, she needed a partner and the boys needed a father figure in the home. I was not the right candidate for that role, but I sure had fun while it lasted! Iām 55 and dried up now, but I have some wonderful memories.
I only read the first page so not sure what has been covered. Just want to add my .02.
When I was 36 I dated a divorced 22 year old with two boys, ages 2 & 4. Unbeknownst to me, the whole dating process was a ājob interviewā. You see, she needed a partner and the boys needed a father figure in the home. I was not the right candidate for that role, but I sure had fun while it lasted! Iām 55 and dried up now, but I have some wonderful memories.
To the OP, I say go for it!
The sooner a man realizes that he is a means to an end, the better.
My 72 yr. old sister has a 35 yr. old live in Cuban boy -toy who "claims" to have been a doctor in Cuba, but now washes dishes at Panera Bread. I call BS on the whole scene, but they've been together for two years. It's her life...
It is not too young. It all depends on what you both want out of the relationship. Here is my 2 cents worth:
If you are only in it for sex, make it quick and don't go back.
If you think she is someone worthy of a relationship, you need to decide if you both want more children. If you do, then I think it helps your chances of staying together if raising children is a common goal.
If you want a younger girlfriend with baggage IMHO it will eventually end and probably badly.
Wife is 30 DAYS younger then me, but then our girlfriend, who lives with us, is 20 YEARS younger then both of us. Been working out fine for last 9-10 years. If everyone is emotionally mature and communication is open and honest, then actual age number shouldnāt matter none.
Whoa, we need more info here!! Don't leave us hanging bro!
I don't remember where I heard it but: Divide your age by 2, add 7= the youngest you should go for. Not sure there is any science to it but it accounts for an age gap that increases with age.
One the other hand you mention she has a child(only read page 1). If she's a woman, she's a woman. The rest is for y'all to figure out.
oh one other thing, I personally believe a women is only ever able to truely love one man in their life. if they were ever truly in love with their first husband, they will never give you all their heart. Yes "next" relationships can work for women but if you held a gun to their head, they would admit holding back something for their first husband if they ever loved him. This is usually pretty easy to see in most women as many are never happy again after a divorce. others move on get married again, tell others they are happy, but are really holding their noses so they don't have to get yet another divorce. men are a different story, they can love unlimited amounts of time and not have the baggage women do.
Ok folks....I came back and seen all the grief I was getting, so I went and reread everything.....ummmmm ok, seems I might be the āuneducatedā one here.....I had originally mis read what was said.
I thought Jaguartx had said something directed at me, when it was directed else whereās.....sorry Jaguartx...
As far as being educated as in schooling.....I have no doubt at all that Jaguartx has more schooling this old clown, but I can say I do have plenty of knots on my head from the school of hard knocks.
oh one other thing, I personally believe a women is only ever able to truely love one man in their life. if they were ever truly in love with their first husband, they will never give you all their heart. Yes "next" relationships can work for women but if you held a gun to their head, they would admit holding back something for their first husband if they ever loved him. This is usually pretty easy to see in most women as many are never happy again after a divorce. others move on get married again, tell others they are happy, but are really holding their noses so they don't have to get yet another divorce. men are a different story, they can love unlimited amounts of time and not have the baggage women do.
I was hanging out with a buddy at a bar and this dime-piece walks by. I was amazed! I told my buddy to take a look and he says, āyeah, if she was 10 years olderā. I ask him, āyou think sheās only 8 years old?ā
oh one other thing, I personally believe a women is only ever able to truely love one man in their life. if they were ever truly in love with their first husband, they will never give you all their heart. Yes "next" relationships can work for women but if you held a gun to their head, they would admit holding back something for their first husband if they ever loved him. This is usually pretty easy to see in most women as many are never happy again after a divorce. others move on get married again, tell others they are happy, but are really holding their noses so they don't have to get yet another divorce. men are a different story, they can love unlimited amounts of time and not have the baggage women do.
I agree with this and I'll say this is the main reason it's so dangerous to get involved with women who have been pincushions. After multiple partners they're not able to fall in love, even if you marry them they just view you as the one buying the groceries right now, they lose the ability to pair bond and will toss you over for a better deal in a heartbeat. There's a reason that historically women got married at 14-16 and had one husband all their lives. The modern system of women staying single until 30 and screwing everything that walks results in damaged women that are incapable of truly loving the man they end up marrying. It inevitably results in a failure of the marriage.
Ok folks....I came back and seen all the grief I was getting, so I went and reread everything.....ummmmm ok, seems I might be the āuneducatedā one here.....I had originally mis read what was said.
I thought Jaguartx had said something directed at me, when it was directed else whereās.....sorry Jaguartx...
As far as being educated as in schooling.....I have no doubt at all that Jaguartx has more schooling this old clown, but I can say I do have plenty of knots on my head from the school of hard knocks.
Since you are both adults, it's not a sin as long as it's Biblical in the other areas too.
Examples.... Abraham and Sarah Isaac and Rebecca
A girlfriend should be a step toward marriage without the shared benefits that are only appropriate for marriage.
Every relationship has challenges. Age gaps can be one. That doesn't make them wrong.
I know of a couple that had a forty year age difference. The old man was married to a good looking much younger gal. I was told that they were intimate until sometime into his eighties funny enough. She died a couple years after he did, so you never know. She was a very healthy lady and not into taking meds. Regardless, 16 years isn't that much as long as she's the kind of woman who would be faithful. That's true at any age though.
Maybe a better example regarding what sin might be or not, is that Jacob fathered the boys who became the 12 Tribes of Israel with 4 mothers.
How awkward is it when the lady in line at the grocery store, ask: āIs this your daughter?ā
That's not as awkward as when I asked a lady out in the grocery store line and she smiled and told me she was a lesbian!
You should have replied.... OH, we have that in common.
To say the least I was flabbergasted and speechless. What made it worse was that several heard her reply. That's what happens when you get too bold in walmart!
Since you are both adults, it's not a sin as long as it's Biblical in the other areas too.
Examples.... Abraham and Sarah Isaac and Rebecca
A girlfriend should be a step toward marriage without the shared benefits that are only appropriate for marriage.
Every relationship has challenges. Age gaps can be one. That doesn't make them wrong.
I know of a couple that had a forty year age difference. The old man was married to a good looking much younger gal. I was told that they were intimate until sometime into his eighties funny enough. She died a couple years after he did, so you never know. She was a very healthy lady and not into taking meds. Regardless, 16 years isn't that much as long as she's the kind of woman who would be faithful. That's true at any age though.
Maybe a better example regarding what sin might be or not, is that Jacob fathered the boys who became the 12 Tribes of Israel with 4 mothers.
God moves in mysterious ways.
š. He sure does.
That is an interesting and sordid family issue. He gave one woman for one man as the example we know. Last time I read that, it reminded me that God is the Author of the Bible. Nobody would write family bios and autobiographies of their sins that wouldn't make it on the Jerry Springer show. God uses what He has to work with....very imperfect people.
One thing I would recommend to myself and anyone is that there's lots of marriage advice. I'm speaking about doctrine/teaching. Not all of the descriptions of marriages in the Bible should be examples to live by. They are accurate examples of humanity. We all should learn the first step (link below) . Before seeking a relationship for marriage, that relationship should be solid and the instructions followed.
BobBrown says,.."She was wheeling down a Walmart aisle,...steering that electric scooter with one hand and eatin' a foot long meatball sub sandwich with the other. The clouds parted,..angels started singin',..it was all I could do to keep from dropping' down on one knee right there in the Rubbermaid household department and asking' for her hand. But both of her hands were busy. I followed her up one aisle and down the other until she finished her sandwich,...took her hand,...licked the marinara off her thumb,..then asked her to go see the Star Wars marathon with me down at the cinema,...told her that $40 worth of buttered popcorn was part of the deal. It's been bliss ever since."
Too young? Fine if youāre over 50. Problematic if youāre under 30. Or married. Or her cousin. Like most everything else, context, context, context.
I didnt have a GF til college. Shouldnt have then. Id have a better truck, more money in bank and more than 2 safes packed w guns. Proly have a couple boats too. Puzzy aint worth the price.
I didnt have a GF til college. Shouldnt have then. Id have a better truck, more money in bank and more than 2 safes packed w guns. Proly have a couple boats too. Puzzy aint worth the price.
I didnt have a GF til college. Shouldnt have then. Id have a better truck, more money in bank and more than 2 safes packed w guns. Proly have a couple boats too. Puzzy aint worth the price.
In my own case, my first serious GF is now my wife of 35 years. Far better than I deserve, she leads the list of things I value more than life itself. Canāt really imagine a life without her, but itād prolly suck. Sorry it hasnāt worked out for you.
Question on the age/2+7 thing. If your age is an odd number, can you round down?
And, what's the order of operations on that equation? Is it 2+7=9, *then* divide your age by that number? If that's what it is, it explains the prophet Mohamed! I didn't know we had Moslems on here!
Question on the age/2+7 thing. If your age is an odd number, can you round down?
And, what's the order of operations on that equation? Is it 2+7=9, *then* divide your age by that number? If that's what it is, it explains the prophet Mohamed! I didn't know we had Moslems on here!