Never enough time or money, but dang we sure love each other...To paraphrase Willie Nelson, loving her is the easiest thing I do. I really need to tell her that more often.
Not to say we don't fight, and we had to work hard at keeping it together in the early years, but it's all been worth it.
A man can be made or broken by his choice of spouse and God blesses me immensely when He gave me my wife. We’ve been married for over 20 years and have 5 incredible kids, 1 great son in law, and one grandson.
Been with my current for 43+ years and wish there was enough time on the clock of life to spend 43 more years together......I guess you could say I'm happily married.
I was married 11 years to high school sweetheart. We didn’t get along well, both quick tempered, both hold grudges. We are good friends now. She married a laid back guy 35 years ago. I married a laid back girl 33 years ago. She is an engineer, way smarter than me, easy to get along with as long as I take her dancing every other weekend and I don’t leave crap laying around she has to pick up.
40 years coming up, 43 together, first boyfriend/girlfriend for both of us and we just kept going from the start. We can piss the chit out of each other like no one else can and have in the past both been to stubborn to call it quits when we might have. There are some things I would change at certain points, more patience, less harsh words... but I wouldn't change her for another woman... though she's going to be pissed I left my dirty cloths on the floor this morning...
Very happily married here. The key to a good marriage is understanding marriage and women. I highly recommend this series of books. It's a 26 volume set. Very worth it in my opinion.
I honestly am. First marriage showed me how empty life feels when you're not loved. Twenty years into my second marriage, and I've never felt that for one day.
I out kicked my coverage with my choice of a wife and have been very blessed and happy since. She's much better than I deserve but she stays with me regardless. A wonderful mother, partner and lover. She's perfect.
Married the prettiest girl I ever met. 38 years so far. Kindest person you've ever seen and zero (I'm serious) snakes in her head. Shes still got a tiger in the tank too. No way I'm messing with the deal I've got.
I out kicked my coverage with my choice of a wife and have been very blessed and happy since. She's much better than I deserve but she stays with me regardless. A wonderful mother, partner and lover. She's perfect.
There's lots of talk about marriage here on the Fire lately.
Some good. Some great. And some not so good.
You can't pick your family. But you CAN pick your spouse...
How'd you do?
Are you happily married?
I married the most beautiful girl in my high school. All women are crazed, but she is less so than most. I love her. I am happily married. I hope she is too.
I know I can't provide the wittiest rejoinder on the thread because Kaywoodie has already been on here. That said...When OJ had to go to prison, they put him in a cell with Iron Mike Tyson, who was already there.
OJ is like, "How's it goin'?"
Mike says, "Here's some free advice. The only way a guy can get by in jail is gay sex. You got to have you a prison bitch or prison wife."
OJ doesn't really like where this is going, but he says, "Okay."
Iron Mike says, "We're cellies so which do you want to be, the wife or the husband?"
Thinking fast and also that he hasn't had any pussy for awhile and Iron Mike's ass doesn't look so bad, OJ says, "I wanna be the husband"
Iron Mike gets out his ten inch blacksnake and says, "Sounds good. Now get over here and suck on yo' wife's big black dick!"
Yes, on #3 now. 1st died on me, 15 great years. #2, gold digging lying stealing bi tch. Wish #3 had jumped the line....she is great, 6 plus years. Both parties have to participate for it to work.
45 years for me so far. health issues lately, but i made a promise to remind her daily how much she meant to me. married her at age 27, she was 37 with three kids. At the time the bet was it wouldn't last one year. best thing i ever did. I try to tell her that daily.
38 years and yes....with the following caveats: 1. The BEST ONE you will ever meet and probably marry is still a PITA (and an Alien) 2. If they didn't have a hole, there would be a bounty on them
I out kicked my coverage with my choice of a wife and have been very blessed and happy since. She's much better than I deserve but she stays with me regardless. A wonderful mother, partner and lover. She's perfect.
This
The greatest honor of my life is being the husband of my bride.
She’s a money honey, her biz is fantastic, but that’s way down the list of what makes her wonderful
I happen to be married to one of the finest people I’ve ever met
Gave her every reason to leave many times, but she stayed. Thought kids were my saving grace and they prolly helped
But it’s not why she stayed. Turns out she loves me deeply. 🤷🏻♂️ It amazes everyone, but no one moreso than myself.
I've been married for over 49 years. It has not been all smooth sailing, as there have been bumps in the road along the way..........but, I am convinced it was meant to be, and that the Lord put us two together. She is my anchor, and I'd be lost without her. So, yes, I am happily married. Very much so. I believe she would say the same thing.
Yes sir, just over 20 years now. I stumble a bit periodically but continue to move in the right direction. Someday I'll be worthy of her. She claims that I am but I simply don't think it's possible just yet.
I'd say I have a great marriage but in the last month our teenage daughter who is off at school has been having problems and those problems are causing issues in our relationship - because two parents vehemently disagree on what the best course of action is.
22 years of just getting along great and in the the course of a month its rocky ground. I'm sure we'll return back but not until we fix this problem and it could last 2 or 3 years.
Closing in on 30 years with my beautiful loving wife. I definitely married up. She's lost 100 lbs. in the last year and has that head turning "Yeah Baby" look again. Life's been very good to me.
This coming June will be 30 years! Married my High school sweetheart and we still get along maybe better than ever. I will admit I married WAY above my head! She is a great mom to our daughters and has a great job that she finally deserves!
All is good here in Elk Country! looking forward to the next 30!
I’ve been married twice. But I’ve only had one real wife. The first was a dud. This December will be 38 years. I struck the Jackpot will a Christian women. Hasbeen
I guess I'll go against the grain here and say .... No, been married 12 years now, first 5 were good the last 7 not so good. oh well, life sux and goes on.... sorry to bring the mood down.
Ahhhh crap, I gotta buy her a birthday present in 2 weeks.
Might get her a new vacuum. One that doesn't make so much noise while I'm trying to sleep.
Dude PM me! My wife picked up a new vacuum at Costco the other day and she loves that thing. She's been vacuuming every damn day. I ain't never seen anything like it. This is the gal that grew up with maids doing everything for her.
Ahhhh crap, I gotta buy her a birthday present in 2 weeks.
Might get her a new vacuum. One that doesn't make so much noise while I'm trying to sleep.
Mine wants one of those robot sweepers for Christmas. I don’t see a downside...floors will finally be clean and she may have a little free time during the day 😀
Recently divorced after 25 years of marriage. I should have ended in 10 years ago. A loveless marriage to someone that didn't like me. At least I have two awesome kids from the marriage. Son 19 and Daughter 22.
NOW, I couldn't be happier. I Have a girlfriend and she has set the bar on how a relationship should be, she is a wonderful person and I am very fortunate to have met her. I can see myself growing old with her.
An overall state of happiness seems subjective and relative due to occasional variations. But, I would bet that we are way up on the positive end of the happiness scale - married as young college students and now in our 59th year. Another big celebration next summer - if I make it that far.
Yes, but it's an 'eyes open ' kind of marriage. She became her Dad, which was not ideal. She is a different person than the girl I married. She has a lot of health problems, she will not live a long life. Her medication has her on edge all the time. I treat her like the weaker vessel that she is, but her rudeness makes that a challenge. She is very talented with organization and finances, I value her very much. We are doing great financially because of her, I would spend every dime having a good time. She has made my life better in many ways. God gave me a love and patience with her. He knew what He was doing, she is a great woman.
Ahhhh crap, I gotta buy her a birthday present in 2 weeks.
Might get her a new vacuum. One that doesn't make so much noise while I'm trying to sleep.
Dude PM me! My wife picked up a new vacuum at Costco the other day and she loves that thing. She's been vacuuming every damn day. I ain't never seen anything like it. This is the gal that grew up with maids doing everything for her.
Mine likes to vacuum and then come show me all the debris in that clear cylinder like it's some type of trophy catch.
She be all like "you see this, look at this FFFILTH...., this is what's in this house"
wtf
...i gave her the one Rudy clap the other morning.
Ahhhh crap, I gotta buy her a birthday present in 2 weeks.
Might get her a new vacuum. One that doesn't make so much noise while I'm trying to sleep.
Dude PM me! My wife picked up a new vacuum at Costco the other day and she loves that thing. She's been vacuuming every damn day. I ain't never seen anything like it. This is the gal that grew up with maids doing everything for her.
Mine likes to vacuum and then come show me all the debris in that clear cylinder like it's some type of trophy catch.
She be all like "you see this, look at this FFFILTH...., this is what's in this house"
wtf
...i gave her the one Rudy clap the other morning.
Keto is eating her gray matter
Yeah I know right?!!!
Look at all this cat and dog hair and I just vacuumed yesterday.
That's great honey, cant wait to see what tomorrow brings, that'll be exciting. Maybe I can chase the animals around with the broom later ta knock some more loose.
I always wanted to invent a vacuum jacket you strap on your kritter and it works up the loose hair and sucks it right offa 'em. It'd be a great seller until the first time someone tried it on a cat. Then I'd be sued outa existence.
I was very happily married for 15+ years to my college sweetheart. Folks always said we were perfect together, a marriage that they looked to as perfect and it showed. Really happy, but sadly she got killed in a car accident. I was left single with 3 young kids. Spent a couple years alone without dating but finally decided I had to get out there and start seeing other women. Weird, but the third Woman I dated was everything I always wanted(she was divorced, also with 3 kids). Had 2 dates that first night and now, 23 years later, we are still remarkably happy. We have renovated 3 homes in that time, built a business and worked together, and now, being retired, we spend hours together and love it. I think unhappiness in marriage is a result of one of the partners or other wanting/expecting marriage to be a great cure for something that is either missing or lacking.
I think unhappiness in marriage is a result of one of the partners or other wanting/expecting marriage to be a great cure for something that is either missing or lacking.
Truer words were never spoken. If you can't live in your own skin you ain't gunna like being married.
Yes. Almost 28 years. We've been through some tough times and some amazing times. The key is both of us just being too hard-headed to quit. Too many folks quit when times get hard and never discover how awesome it can be on the other side. Unfortunately, she's got stage 4 breast cancer that has spread to her brain, so we don't have many (if any) anniversaries left. But we're making the most of the time we have left. If you are married, try to remember that life is fragile and tomorrow isn't guaranteed. Make the most of it.
Hookset: Prayers done for your Mrs. - your words are profound. I think I will give the VarmintWife a big hug when she gets home from work this afternoon? The VarmintWife and I have been together for nearly 50 years now and married for 44. Life is precious - indeed. Hold into the wind VarmintGuy
Yes. Almost 28 years. We've been through some tough times and some amazing times. The key is both of us just being too hard-headed to quit. Too many folks quit when times get hard and never discover how awesome it can be on the other side. Unfortunately, she's got stage 4 breast cancer that has spread to her brain, so we don't have many (if any) anniversaries left. But we're making the most of the time we have left. If you are married, try to remember that life is fragile and tomorrow isn't guaranteed. Make the most of it.
Yes I was very happy for 31 1/2 years,I lost my wife Aug 13 last year to stomach cancer that made it to her spine.Hookset that is spot on. Life is fragile and tomorrow isnt guaranteed. Ps Cancer sucks.
Thought long and hard about this thread, and the question posed all day. Some folks have different ways of dealing with things. Ergo some of my answers. But the bottom line is no. I’m not happy. Mater of fact I am completely phuqing miserable. And there’s really not a damn thing I can do about the situation except deal with the anger, bitterness, vitrol, and negativity as it comes and try to do as much damage control as I can.
Yes, I'm very happy being married. 41 years and counting. We have two children and four grandchildren. Life is great for us. I'm so blessed. Thank you Lord.
There's lots of talk about marriage here on the Fire lately.
Some good. Some great. And some not so good.
You can't pick your family. But you CAN pick your spouse...
How'd you do?
Are you happily married?
very happy to have a "Proverbs 31 wife". advice to young men; never think it is or should be "50-50". It is not. It is 2 that together make 100%. The two shall become ONE flesh. Kid, out.
Yep. Married in December 1981. I'm blessed beyond measure. Photo taken at my daughter's promotion ceremony when she made Captain in the USAF a few years ago.
Thought long and hard about this thread, and the question posed all day. Some folks have different ways of dealing with things. Ergo some of my answers. But the bottom line is no. I’m not happy. Mater of fact I am completely phuqing miserable. And there’s really not a damn thing I can do about the situation except deal with the anger, bitterness, vitrol, and negativity as it comes and try to do as much damage control as I can.
Thought long and hard about this thread, and the question posed all day. Some folks have different ways of dealing with things. Ergo some of my answers. But the bottom line is no. I’m not happy. Mater of fact I am completely phuqing miserable. And there’s really not a damn thing I can do about the situation except deal with the anger, bitterness, vitrol, and negativity as it comes and try to do as much damage control as I can.
Good luck Bob.
Hope you get some sunshine on your shoulders soon.
You are in my thoughts often..........says a fellow screwball from Montana!
Not any longer. I think I have an understanding of kaywoodie's answer. For me the struggle ended, but the anger & bitterness remain. It's still difficult to get past that.
Thanks fellas! Much appreciated. I probably shouldn’t have written all that. Like I was bitchin’. But I’m ok. It just all gets real, real old after a while. I try find positive ways to deal with it.
I know there’s lots of folks out there got it lots worse! 😉.
Leaving in the morning for deep south Texas. Be back sunday. That will help immensely!
Not any longer. I think I have an understanding of kaywoodie's answer. For me the struggle ended, but the anger & bitterness remain. It's still difficult to get past that.
that's pretty much how i feel about p. johnson and how he managed to terrorize a nation. we all have our challenges and pitfalls to manuever through. the best we can do is hope to learn and advance in our individual development.
I thank God everyday for allowing me the honor and privilege of spending my life with someone as beautiful and sweet as my wife. I never get tired of being around her and I look forward to many more decades together.
I’ve read through this thread and I’ve said a number of prayers for those of you that are struggling with health issues, marital issues and for those that have lost their loved one.
Some guys took a time or 2 to get it right and finally married the one they’re supposed to be with, others (like me) lucked out and got it right the first time. I’ll only ever be married once because there’s nobody else that could compare to my wife, in my eyes at least.
Thanks fellas! Much appreciated. I probably shouldn’t have written all that. Like I was bitchin’. But I’m ok. It just all gets real, real old after a while. I try find positive ways to deal with it.
I know there’s lots of folks out there got it lots worse! 😉.
Leaving in the morning for deep south Texas. Be back sunday. That will help immensely!
Never enough time or money, but dang we sure love each other...To paraphrase Willie Nelson, loving her is the easiest thing I do. I really need to tell her that more often.
Not to say we don't fight, and we had to work hard at keeping it together in the early years, but it's all been worth it.
Exactly.
Not much else to say. 43 years on the first one, so far.
I wouldn't want to start over new when I'm this close to getting this one trained.
Thanks fellas! Much appreciated. I probably shouldn’t have written all that. Like I was bitchin’. But I’m ok. It just all gets real, real old after a while. I try find positive ways to deal with it.
I know there’s lots of folks out there got it lots worse! 😉.
Leaving in the morning for deep south Texas. Be back sunday. That will help immensely!
Turn dat cell phone off!
Enjoy that trip, too!
Post pics!
Yep, have a safe, exciting & pleasurable trip Bob !
Thanks fellas! Much appreciated. I probably shouldn’t have written all that. Like I was bitchin’. But I’m ok. It just all gets real, real old after a while. I try find positive ways to deal with it. I know there’s lots of folks out there got it lots worse! 😉. Leaving in the morning for deep south Texas. Be back sunday. That will help immensely!
Been thinkin' about you lots, Bob, and hoping for the best. Have a great trip - enjoy the camaraderie and say "Hi" for me.
Yes. Almost 28 years. We've been through some tough times and some amazing times. The key is both of us just being too hard-headed to quit. Too many folks quit when times get hard and never discover how awesome it can be on the other side. Unfortunately, she's got stage 4 breast cancer that has spread to her brain, so we don't have many (if any) anniversaries left. But we're making the most of the time we have left. If you are married, try to remember that life is fragile and tomorrow isn't guaranteed. Make the most of it.
I don't even know what to say but god bless you both.
Quite often a common impression of men, perhaps even more so of manly men, would be that they could not or would not share their feelings so openly. It is very nice to see that this is not true all the time. I am not married yet. I do hope that when I find my other half, that I will be blessed to find a man who will love and respect me as much as some of you do your wives
Thanks fellas! Much appreciated. I probably shouldn’t have written all that. Like I was bitchin’. But I’m ok. It just all gets real, real old after a while. I try find positive ways to deal with it. I know there’s lots of folks out there got it lots worse! 😉. Leaving in the morning for deep south Texas. Be back sunday. That will help immensely!
Been thinkin' about you lots, Bob, and hoping for the best. Have a great trip - enjoy the camaraderie and say "Hi" for me.
Thanks Paul. Small hunt this weekend. Young son and ranch owner. Appreciate it!
Yes. Almost 28 years. We've been through some tough times and some amazing times. The key is both of us just being too hard-headed to quit. Too many folks quit when times get hard and never discover how awesome it can be on the other side. Unfortunately, she's got stage 4 breast cancer that has spread to her brain, so we don't have many (if any) anniversaries left. But we're making the most of the time we have left. If you are married, try to remember that life is fragile and tomorrow isn't guaranteed. Make the most of it.
Prayers being sent for your wife. God bless her, you and your loved ones during this difficult time and always.
Thought long and hard about this thread, and the question posed all day. Some folks have different ways of dealing with things. Ergo some of my answers. But the bottom line is no. I’m not happy. Mater of fact I am completely phuqing miserable. And there’s really not a damn thing I can do about the situation except deal with the anger, bitterness, vitrol, and negativity as it comes and try to do as much damage control as I can.
Thought long and hard about this thread, and the question posed all day. Some folks have different ways of dealing with things. Ergo some of my answers. But the bottom line is no. I’m not happy. Mater of fact I am completely phuqing miserable. And there’s really not a damn thing I can do about the situation except deal with the anger, bitterness, vitrol, and negativity as it comes and try to do as much damage control as I can.
You are not alone.
Hang in there.
Sorry to hear that boys. I hung on 'till the kids were out of school then bailed. 12 1/2 miserable years.
Quite often a common impression of men, perhaps even more so of manly men, would be that they could not or would not share their feelings so openly. It is very nice to see that this is not true all the time. I am not married yet. I do hope that when I find my other half, that I will be blessed to find a man who will love and respect me as much as some of you do your wives
some realize that most cases women marry beneath their station, men if lucky marry above their station. my wife and i have had some pretty serious things the last couple of months, health wise, that i hope resolve themselves. she made the comment today if something happens to her, i should find another one. I am sure she knows as i have told her enough times that is impossible, could never duplicate what she has been for me. If something does happen, most likely i will just become a hermit.
Pretty rocky at times but still going strong at 35 years. It's the second marriage for both of us. She's the kindest woman I've ever known. I'm lucky to have her as my wife.
Quite often a common impression of men, perhaps even more so of manly men, would be that they could not or would not share their feelings so openly. It is very nice to see that this is not true all the time. I am not married yet. I do hope that when I find my other half, that I will be blessed to find a man who will love and respect me as much as some of you do your wives
some realize that most cases women marry beneath their station, men if lucky marry above their station. my wife and i have had some pretty serious things the last couple of months, health wise, that i hope resolve themselves. she made the comment today if something happens to her, i should find another one. I am sure she knows as i have told her enough times that is impossible, could never duplicate what she has been for me. If something does happen, most likely i will just become a hermit.
Prayers for you both that things resolve themselves. God bless you both.
I was happily married until she passed away 4 years ago. Nearly 23 years together and suddenly, we weren't. Took me about 3 years to think about dating again, now I'm seeing someone and it seems to be working out.
24 years. Or as I like to say when ask, "24 years, but, With the wind chill, It feels like 40."
I say that in front of my wife. I say all kind of crap at work, because it's funny. Really funny to see those who don't know me look like I just slapped their mother.
It works, because it's total BS. Those who know us laugh. Because they know what a good woman I've got. Her sense of humor is one of her attributes. She lets me run my mouth, then she finds a way to flip it right back. Not nasty, fun.
Honestly, if I didn't have her, I don't think I would want another woman. I see what needy, catty, domineering, demanding bitches most of my friends serve, ain't happening with this cat.
I just hope she continues to stay happy with me, she deserves better.
For those who are less fortunate, I wish you success.
February 1979, was when this journey started. Through a lot of challenges and some very physically, emotionally and financially draining years, we are still in love. 40 years, hmm, seems like yesterday, and always been at the same time. I'm blessed beyond measure with the woman God brought into my life.
My prayers for those here that are struggling with life's challenges, and may the good Lord bless you.
47 years, she has endured a somewhat different life and my long absences and raised 4 great kids. I am proud to have earned her loyalty and affection. She is blessed with a weirder sense of humor than mine and is smart and tough. I am pretty lucky.
54 years old and never married. There were two prospects years ago but fortunately the relationships never advanced to a marriage; either one would have been a disaster.
I’ve been with the same gal for over 10 years now. We each have our own place and live about 4 miles apart. It works well for us. Neither of us has been married or had children.
Thought long and hard about this thread, and the question posed all day. Some folks have different ways of dealing with things. Ergo some of my answers. But the bottom line is no. I’m not happy. Mater of fact I am completely phuqing miserable. And there’s really not a damn thing I can do about the situation except deal with the anger, bitterness, vitrol, and negativity as it comes and try to do as much damage control as I can.
My wife's way better than I deserve. She's beautiful a great mother and works her butt off for our family. As a matter of fact, she's painting in our living room as I type this!!
I was married for 42 tears, the first 35 very happy. She decided her social life was more important than her family and after two years of separation she filed for divorce. Two years later she passed away. I have laid awake many, many nights trying to replay how things got so wrong that started so right. Still have no answers. I am now married again since a year and a half ago and could not be happier. We are not just husband and wife but are the best of friends. Still in a learning curve but the future looks bright.
Second time around has been a pleasure. No multiple personalities and always even tempered even though my stupid moments. We take very good care of each other And enjoy doing it.
My marriage went about 20 good years plus a couple not-so-good. The menopause years were rough on her and whatever got into her drove her to abandon everybody, son and granddaughter included. I’m grateful though for the years and family she gave me, I had the good sense to treasure every minute of it when I was in it, I still do looking back.
Anyways congrats to you guys still happily married 😎, there ain’t no better way to live.
For the last 40 years I have been married to the best woman I know. Still, it hasn't always been easy. We are very different in our interests and desires. They say opposites attract and then drive each other crazy. That is us. The secret has been a willingness to let each be ourselves without pressuring the other to change.
Sorry to hear this, I was absolutely tortured for 5 plus years... took another 5 to fully get my mojo back and dig myself out of a financial train wreck but I did... hope you have the same good fortune.
Originally Posted by kaywoodie
Thought long and hard about this thread, and the question posed all day. Some folks have different ways of dealing with things. Ergo some of my answers. But the bottom line is no. I’m not happy. Mater of fact I am completely phuqing miserable. And there’s really not a damn thing I can do about the situation except deal with the anger, bitterness, vitrol, and negativity as it comes and try to do as much damage control as I can.
My buddy proudly shows his wife is saved in his cell phone as “First Wife”. Tells her if she gets out of line he will add a second one. She doesn’t take much crap beyond that though.
Long as get my bacon sandwich every morn, I'm mostly good.
She does dream up a lot of off the wall bullshît to keep me busy. Like scraping that damn nasty marrow outta that country ham we just got. That and her 500+ tomato plant garden. Grrrrrrr!!!
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