The son of a friend who went to BYU said that the one thing that bugged him the most was people continually asking him if he was "a member of the church". To which he would reply, "which church?", and get confused looks, as though there was only one church, LDS.
One of my daughter's friends is going to Westminster College which, based on his stories of drinking and debauchery, is about as far from the LDS ideal for behavior as a person could get and still physically be in SLC.
