Saying "Relax, sez me. No point in getting all worked up about something you can't control anyway." is what you say when someone tells you "My husband is screwing the priest"
You dont belong and are not welcome here is what she should be hearing.
Feel free to say to her whatever's on your mind. Me, I believe in freedom of association. If you have the freedom to choose whom you'd like to associate with, then you also have the freedom to choose whom you wouldn't like to associate with.
My choices might be different from hers, and I might think they're better than hers, and I might have actual evidence for that as well; but I'm not going to disrespect her choices and opinions because of that.
Hence, I haven't seen any reason why she wouldn't belong or be welcome here.
"But whether the Constitution really be one thing, or another, this much is certain--that it has either authorized such a government as we have had, or has been powerless to prevent it. In either case, it is unfit to exist." --Lysander Spooner, 1867
