I guess that really depends on the woman.

For example, my ex-wife and mom did not have the hand strength to rack the slide of a semi-auto. Neither had any interest in learning techniques that would allow them to rack the slide easier.

They both were intimidated by the semi-auto as well. They both were attracted to my double action revolver, 4"GP100. It was a little heavy for them, so perhaps getting S&W K-frame, or Ruger SP101 or that new LCR I keep hearing about.

BTW, they both could easily handle the 38spec but refuse to shoot any 357mag after shooting a few rounds.

So for them, a revolver would be a good choice.