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I saw a video of a ghetto mother whoopin' her teen age son with a belt. Hailed as a stern mother, that's all good, right? No, it's not. To me dad should be whoopin' him.
My parents came out of the mountains around Grundy Virginia in the mid 50's. My sister was born in Virginia in 1955 just before they moved. My older brother in 1957, me in 1959 and my younger brother in 1961. My parents essentially stayed in that Appalachian mindset as much as the could their entire life. They associated with Appalachian people mostly, others more distantly.
From birth until 9-10 years old us boys belonged to mom, nurturing and discipline, dad only whooped us occasionally. At 9-10 we became dad's. Big program change, the nurturing part was over for the most part and dad owned your azz. Discipline was hard, being with dad was like walking on egg shells. He didn't use a belt or paddle, he had a 5 foot hickory switch that he peeled, fire hardened and rubbed down with linseed oil. That thing would raise welts through your clothes and on bare skin could make you bleed a bit. Dad used to say, " This house is mine, that dog is mine and you are mine."
We started working with him at 9 years old. Every summer, after school sometimes, and every Saturday. He was a residential building contractor. On the job discipline was with a 4-5 foot 2x4. By the time I was 13 I was expected to know the tasks I was given and to do a man's days labor. The good side of that is when I was 16 I went to another contractor and made $7 and hour. $7 and hour for a 16 year old in 1976 was damn good money.
At 16 one evening at dinner I told my dad, " Monday I'm starting with Bob Masley" . I had expected to take a bit of a whoopin', didn't happen, but I was determined I would go no matter what. My dad said, " Did I say you could get another job?" I said "Nope" looking right at him. He just said, " You better work good for Bob." You see, in our family a son could tarnish the fathers name and his reputation.
So how does that stack up against how you other Appalachian guys were raised.
The older I become the more I am convinced that the voice of honor in a man's heart is the voice of GOD.
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I'm not Appalachian, but it sounds like your Dad did a good job. I agree with him about sons reflecting on their fathers.
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Trump being classless,tasteless and clueless as usual. Sorry, trump is a no tax payin pile of shiit. My young wife decided to play the field and had moved several dudes into my house
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My dad was a drunk, a gambler and a womanizer. I worshiped him.
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My Dad Was a Hands off kind of Guy....He was just the man that showed up after 5 and switched the TV Channels no matter what you were watching............
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That actually doesn't sound too far off of the way the ancient Spartans raised their sons.
In different words, your Dad was telling you, "Come back with your shield, or on it."
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My dad was a drunk, a gambler and a womanizer. I worshiped him. You got some Saturday Night Fever going on there?
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Sounds alot like my Dad! but he was off a Farm in Tenn. we worked alot, but didnt get hit unless we did something wrong!
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the appalachian country is where i grew up, down on dusty red dirt road.
worked a lot of minimum wage jobs paying high school costs, and through college.
usually had two jobs when in college, one during the week and the other on weekends.
and the summers were all work, all of the time that one could. plenty of folks still like that.
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I respected my dad so much that he didn't have to whip me. All he had to do is look at me with disgust and I was shamed and sorry. He did spank me a couple of times when I was young, but it didn't do much. They knew things I considered punishment, such as staying inside instead of playing with my buddies, and that was worse than whipping to me. Oh yeah....we are from a long line of mountain folks. I spent my life trying to be like Dad, and raise my kids the same way he did. It has worked so far!
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I worked too from a young age, a big right fist from a former marine drill Sargent hurts. I learned to do exactly what he said, when he said to do it.
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I saw a video of a ghetto mother whoopin' her teen age son with a belt. Hailed as a stern mother, that's all good, right? No, it's not. To me dad should be whoopin' him.
My parents came out of the mountains around Grundy Virginia in the mid 50's. My sister was born in Virginia in 1955 just before they moved. My older brother in 1957, me in 1959 and my younger brother in 1961. My parents essentially stayed in that Appalachian mindset as much as the could their entire life. They associated with Appalachian people mostly, others more distantly.
From birth until 9-10 years old us boys belonged to mom, nurturing and discipline, dad only whooped us occasionally. At 9-10 we became dad's. Big program change, the nurturing part was over for the most part and dad owned your azz. Discipline was hard, being with dad was like walking on egg shells. He didn't use a belt or paddle, he had a 5 foot hickory switch that he peeled, fire hardened and rubbed down with linseed oil. That thing would raise welts through your clothes and on bare skin could make you bleed a bit. Dad used to say, " This house is mine, that dog is mine and you are mine."
We started working with him at 9 years old. Every summer, after school sometimes, and every Saturday. He was a residential building contractor. On the job discipline was with a 4-5 foot 2x4. By the time I was 13 I was expected to know the tasks I was given and to do a man's days labor. The good side of that is when I was 16 I went to another contractor and made $7 and hour. $7 and hour for a 16 year old in 1976 was damn good money.
At 16 one evening at dinner I told my dad, " Monday I'm starting with Bob Masley" . I had expected to take a bit of a whoopin', didn't happen, but I was determined I would go no matter what. My dad said, " Did I say you could get another job?" I said "Nope" looking right at him. He just said, " You better work good for Bob." You see, in our family a son could tarnish the fathers name and his reputation.
So how does that stack up against how you other Appalachian guys were raised. Sounds a lot like my Dad, you have my condolences.
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That actually doesn't sound too far off of the way the ancient Spartans raised their sons.
Except for the part where the Spartans handed their boys of to pederasts for military training. Dad was pretty strict and handy with a belt. I started driving tractor two four hour shifts six days a week at five. Dad bucked hay bales for all the neighboring farms. Me on the tractor and him loading the trailer and stacking by his self. By 12 I was irrigating, feeding, and milking cows. Milking was a two hour job before school every day. Feeding and milking in the evening was from the time we stepped off the school bus to about 9:00 PM. When I went to work forty hour weeks, it was like vacation.
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I respected my dad so much that he didn't have to whip me. All he had to do is look at me with disgust and I was shamed and sorry. He did spank me a couple of times when I was young, but it didn't do much. They knew things I considered punishment, such as staying inside instead of playing with my buddies, and that was worse than whipping to me. Oh yeah....we are from a long line of mountain folks. I spent my life trying to be like Dad, and raise my kids the same way he did. It has worked so far! Reiver, My Dad was the same way with me, my brothers, and sisters... All he had to do was change the tone in his voice and you knew it was time to listen. I remember being spanked once at about age 6 and deserved it. I loved being around my Dad and there was always lots of work to do when I was growing up, but, on the same token he knew how to have fun with his kids when the time came. Like you reiver, I've tried to do the same type of parenting and I'd say it worked pretty well for my wife and I with our kids.
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My dad was a drunk, a gambler and a womanizer. I worshiped him. so was my DAD. but he was also a moonshiner.
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I can't say I grew up in Applachia, but we had similar experiences and expectations. I wish I had a nickle for every time my dad told me to give a good day's work to get a good day's pay. I started working at about 8 years old. I used to rake leaves for the divorced lady up the street. Other odd jobs too. I started trapping when I was 10. My older brother would wire the jaws open on the traps for me until I was strong enough to set them for my self. I'd lay out the set then cut the wire. 'Rats and coon mostly-a mink once in a while, and beaver when I got older. Money was always tight around the house, and my brother and I chipped in as best we could. I used to pick worms, and seine minnows in the summer to sell to the fishermen going to a lake near us. I also swam the ponds on a nearby golf course and picked up the golf balls, cleaned them up and sold them back to the golfers. I got .35 ea, or 3 for $1.00. The shags we sold to a driving range for .07 a piece. In the fall, we hunted squirrel and rabbit when we weren't running traps. We'd sell squirrel tails to Mepps when we had enough to make it worthwhile. We ate a lot of small game, as we'd be out of venison by fall, and we needed meat on the table.
I'd like to think Dad's proud of the work ethic I've had over the years. I owe it to him. I'm proud to say I've never collected one cent of unemployment benefits, and this while growing up in the northeast Ohio Rust Belt economy. I can't say I'm a real hillbilly, but I sure respect their ability to keep roofs over their heads and food on the table no matter what.
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Discipline or child abuse? If someone struck my child w/ a closed fist or a 2x4 I would kill them. Were I to do the same thing to my kids I would deserve the same treatment. Children that are abused frequently visit the same treatment on their children.
Kids deserve the opportunity to learn to excel, that is best taught in the home by example. To equate brutality w/ discipline is ignorance.
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Discipline or child abuse? If someone struck my child w/ a closed fist or a 2x4 I would kill them. Were I to do the same thing to my kids I would deserve the same treatment. Children that are abused frequently visit the same treatment on their children.
Kids deserve the opportunity to learn to excel, that is best taught in the home by example. To equate brutality w/ discipline is ignorance.
mike r +1
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We are the same age. At 17 I made $2.15 an hour.
You and yours did good.
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Nothing like some good old fashioned kid beatin' to pass the time, and instill the qualities that make a good man......
Yeah, I grew up that way. This is much the reason I have spent the last several years putting folks who treat their kids like that in jail.
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