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You are going to have to post a picture of her boat and motor before I make an offer.

She’s in too good of shape to run for Senate so that’s off the board!😂

We looked after my Mom's best friend (my "second mom") until she passed away at 97. She was mentally sharp until her last day and was always ahead of the curve. She gave me her car keys on her 90th birthday. Around that time she left her home and moved to a retirement home, but chose to buy one of their cottages (a nice two bedroom, fully equipped duplex). She could walk across the parking lot to the main building for meals if she wanted, but mostly made her meals at home. We took her shopping, to the doctors appointments and to the book store as she loved to read. She passed away one day after falling and breaking her hip. In our travels (and especially in the doctor's waiting rooms) we had many discussions about old age, dying and death. So I understood when her last words to me were, "just because I'm dying, doesn't mean that I have to feel pain."

So my thoughts to you. Have a lot of good discussions with her regarding end of life care and then support her desire for independent living for as long as that is reasonable possible, for her and for your wife.

She’s quite the lady and full of life. Let her live in it on her terms. I’ts all about quality of life. I spent 14 months in specialty hospitals and a nursing home after Covid - closest I’ve ever been to being incarcerated. Everybody wants to go home - earthly or heavenly. Found out health care is a money making business and it’s not in their best interest to rehab you or get you healthy. I met some wonderful caregivers and friends along this journey but I ‘ll do everything in my power not to die in one. You lose every shred of dignity. Dying is a part of living and is a transition. You will live forever- somewhere. You have a choice as to where. Billy Joe Shaver said best in his song “I’m Gonna Live Forever “. PS Ask her lots of questions about family that you always wanted to know before it’s too late.

My mom will be 90 at her birthday, She still mows her own grass with a push mower ....The women is tuff as nails and Hard headed...

Good for her and looks like she's got plenty of fuel left in the tank! God bless her!

I have enjoyed reading about the grand lady and many of the comments in this thread are golden. You will do the right things with and for her.

Let her be.

All she needs is looking after.
Get her the "Help I've fallen and can't get up" thing. If she will use it.

Maybe call her at bedtime, have a phone at the nightstand.
So you can sleep better.😉

If she want to go to an assisted place, encourage it.
If not, be quiet as long as possible.

People are so unique you can't make good decisions for others in these cases.
Some folks buy into these communities in their 70s and absolutely thrive on
the comradery anc activities. Others (more introverted?) Feel isolated and
are always homesick.

Mom is 84.
Can't really garden anymore, gets tired after a couple canners full...
She and 80 year old Dad would wither in a place like that.
Nothing to build, nothing to fix, no wood to cut, not welder, torch....
Dad would lose his mind.



Brutally honest time.
Looking after her is a PITA once in a while, I'm sure.
But it's right, you know it's right.
If you all pushed her into another place and it wasn't all roses.
If she degraded for any reason.
It would eat your conscience long after she is gone.

She sounds like a treasure!

dementia is a freaking nasty disease

Thoughts? Seems you guys are all doing things right. Thoughts on what, exactly? Keep up the good work?

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