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How do you apologize to someone for something you did, when you don't even know what it is you did in the first place. Seriously. On average it probably would not bug me as much, but I hold so much respect for this person, it is just driving me nuts.

Lynn

Ask what you did and if it deems necessary to apologize do it.

Speaking for the crew, we don't know much about women.

Good because it's a man, and he's stubborn.

Lynn

Men are not genetically capable of being stubborn.

You can't apologize for something you are not aware of. You have to open a dialogue with, "have I offended you?" and take it from there. From there you should find out if you have to apologize and if your respect is warranted.

Not knowing what you did is perplexing, particularly so if you ask and find out that the very act of having to ask places you in an even deeper hole. Sometimes the problem belongs to the other person rather than to you. Hope it works out. Best, John

I've been in that situation before and usually tell the person, it appears I have offended them and cannot remember when there was a time that either I was aware I did so nor a time I intended to do so, so I am sorry for the offense and would be very willing to discuss it further if they would also like to do so. Then I forget it and never mention it again unless they chose to do so, knowing if they don't, either it or I mean little to them.

What ? I spewed coffee all over the screen and the keyboard when I got to this

Okay, not stubborn, pig headed

Lynn

Men aren't stubborn. We are tenacious.

Honestly if you dont know first I would ask. Maybe it is just a simple mis-understanding.

It is hard when the person won't allow you the opening to talk about it.

I would do anything to make it right, whatever it is. Their friendship is of value to me, and in turn I thought mine was too.

But maybe not.

I'd start with "What the [bleep] is your problem" and continue in the same tactful manner in the ensuing discussion.

As advised above, you simply ask what you did to offend. We can't read minds and nor do we expect women to do so. Though I've known many a girl that expeced me to read her mind.

Just ask him what's got his panties in a wad.

ML, most times it is just a misunderstanding, just ask them/him if you offended them/him in any way and like I said earlier if it is valid apologize.

What have you done that needs apologized for? If the answer is nothing then the answer is you don't.

Just wanted to add this thought. If your attempts to make things right are not accepted, I would say that your respect for the individual needs to be reevaluated.

Couldn't get me in any deeper than I am could it ?

Lynn

Guys tend to be more direct.

? I have apparently unknowlingly, unintentionally offended you. I value your respect and your friendship to mutch to let this come between us. Please allow to right my wrong. What have I done.

Something along the above lines with your own words. Been their, done that and realized best to bring it out in the open. Less you say is better, listen-listen-listen.

Living with a female makes you more aware of the " not knowing what you done or said that offended in the first place." Also helps to realize that nothing is corrected until both parties discuss it. Good luck. GW