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Hang in there Tommy. I remember my first divorce. Dayum, that was tough.
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Tommy:
Do not - DO NOT - post one more single thing about divorce, your marriage or your wife on this forum or in any other social media.
When you wake up, call a divorce lawyer. (And he'll tell you the same thing.)
Good luck.
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Good move, Tommy, on not driving. Sorry to hear about the dissolution. With time that will pass. Like Eyeball said, the Bible sure helps...it helped me. A friend recommended I start with the book of James. All the best,
RH
What part of "shall not be infringed" do you not understand?
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Find an LEO vehicle to whack and that'll get you a little more attention!!
Even birds know not to land downwind!
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Tommy:
Do not - DO NOT - post one more single thing about divorce, your marriage or your wife on this forum or in any other social media.
When you wake up, call a divorce lawyer. (And he'll tell you the same thing.)
Good luck.
This is also good advice.
What part of "shall not be infringed" do you not understand?
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You can learn alot during your 1st divorce.
Good luck. Even more during your 2nd and after the 3rd you'll be a Rhodes Scholar I recall coming into a Denny's once up in Seattle and seeing a bunch of guys I knew from a church activity I was part of... being by myself, they insisted I come sit with them... must have been 12 to 14 guys there already... they were busy trying to counsel one of the guys who was considering getting divorced from his wife of 20 years, because he had started banging this 20 something chick that worked at the dance studio he owned... That lead him to start finding fault with everything his wife did, no matter how small, and the conversation just migrated in that direction.. guys complaining about women and being married... I just sat back and watched the floor show.. Finally one of the guys who was always MR "Lady's Man" at the church chimes in with his 'wisdom'... he goes off on his 'expertise' on the subject since no women from the church were around... So after we endure a 15 minute lecture from him, I have to make a comment, that I don't think he is offering the guy, or anyone else any good advise.... and what makes him such an expert on the subject of women? he gets all pissed off and announces to the group.. " I know all about women, there isn't a thing about them I can't tell ya! I've been married and divorced 3 times!!" I couldn't resist... so I tell him, "That is like you claiming to be THE perfect driver, and your reason being, you've own and wrecked 3 cars"... everyone started laughing, and he just turned red, told me "F.U." and walked out... sorry but that is just how I saw it...
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Leo Tolstoy wrote in his famous first line of his novel Anna Karenina:
"Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way."
By that sentence, Tolstoy meant that, in order to be happy, a marriage must succeed in many different respects: sexual compatibility, agreement about money, children/stepchildren, religion, in-laws, and other vital issues. Failure in any one of those essential respects can doom a marriage even if it has all the other ingredients needed for happiness.
We tend to seek easy, single-factor explanations of success in all areas of life, but particularly in marriage. But success actually requires avoiding many separate possible causes of failure; or if they can't be avoided, learning how to fix those failures so the rest of the good aspects of the marriage can be maintained.
"I'm gonna have to science the schit out of this." Mark Watney, Sol 59, Mars
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never let a woman make you a drunk, to many of them available to cry over one.
A Doe walks out of the woods today and says, that is the last time I'm going to do that for Two Bucks.
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never let a woman make you a drunk, to many of them available to cry over one. Amen. P.S. Getting them drunk and trying them out first is a good plan, though.
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Find an LEO vehicle to whack and that'll get you a little more attention!! That's what this is all about.
The Mayans had it right. If you�re going to predict the future, it�s best to aim far beyond your life expectancy, lest you wind up red-faced in a bunker overstocked with Spam and ammo.
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I'm thinking most habitual drunks don't walk home when they have a vehicle. Do they Travis?  I don't know sir. I don't fraternize with that ilk. Travis
Trump being classless,tasteless and clueless as usual. Sorry, trump is a no tax payin pile of shiit. My young wife decided to play the field and had moved several dudes into my house
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Good luck on that upcoming event Travis!  It will be a success. She already understands I don't listen to anything unless I'm saying it and I've only been wrong once. Travis She got a sister under 300lbs? Just what the world needs. Another picky sumbitch. Travis
Trump being classless,tasteless and clueless as usual. Sorry, trump is a no tax payin pile of shiit. My young wife decided to play the field and had moved several dudes into my house
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We tend to seek easy, single-factor explanations of success in all areas of life, but particularly in marriage. But success actually requires avoiding many separate possible causes of failure; or if they can't be avoided, learning how to fix those failures so the rest of the good aspects of the marriage can be maintained.
Excellent post! We are working through just that, even after over twenty years of marriage. Marriage requires constant adjustment as each partner changes. Eyeball has some great advice there, along with tjm10025. You post that you "believe you are getting ready for your first divorce". That speaks volumes about what "may" be and what "will" be. I hope you can find some wise counsel there. As good as friends are, they probably aren't the ones to give the best advice because their point of view is "subjective", not "objective". Best wishes. Ed
"Not in an open forum, where truth has less value than opinions, where all opinions are equally welcome regardless of their origins, rationale, inanity, or truth, where opinions are neither of equal value nor decisive." Ken Howell
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We tend to seek easy, single-factor explanations of success in all areas of life, but particularly in marriage. But success actually requires avoiding many separate possible causes of failure; or if they can't be avoided, learning how to fix those failures so the rest of the good aspects of the marriage can be maintained.
What a crock of horseschit. Relationships should not be work. If it is, get out. Travis
Trump being classless,tasteless and clueless as usual. Sorry, trump is a no tax payin pile of shiit. My young wife decided to play the field and had moved several dudes into my house
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Relationships should not be work. If it is, get out.
On this I agree with Burgundy... I always hear people talk about how much "work" it requires to maintain a marriage. While I agree marriage is a fluid, changing thing, it for damn sure shouldn't be a job!
She never made it past the bedroom door, what was she aiming for...?
She's gone shootin..
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Man, I just can't help but shake my head at the self righteous
asshats here. I don't believe smugness is a virtue.
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Man, I just can't help but shake my head at the self righteous
asshats here. I don't believe smugness is a virtue. There are some real ass holes out there. Travis
Trump being classless,tasteless and clueless as usual. Sorry, trump is a no tax payin pile of shiit. My young wife decided to play the field and had moved several dudes into my house
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Man, I just can't help but shake my head at the self righteous
asshats here. I don't believe smugness is a virtue. Ha! It ain't just this thread brother. And we're all guilty of it at some point. Unless we're talkin 270 vs 30-06. Then there's a definite right and wrong answer.
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Well reading this after one wakes up without my coffee yet has me scratching my head thinking, what was i thinking?#! Never really had a drinking problem but my buddy and I decided to cut loose last night. I remember typing this discussion but the intent was to say thanks to the fine folks at the fire. Not sure why i decided to post what i am going through here. Never the less i know my journey in life will have its ups and downs but it is through faith that i am at my crossroads in life.
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