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What kind of mother "walks" out on her child? That's unusual. That is what has floored me the most. Now she wants to take him to her parent's this weekend, and I said no. Her behavior is too erratic to trust her with him.
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rarely such a thing as a "friendly" divorce. Get started while guilt prevails. The child is your family now, and the wife and yourself are now "in the business of raising a child." . Not sure if those words are of help, they were said to me 18 years ago. They DID help, and I raised my son by myself. He is now in his second year of college and thriving. I wish you and yours the same.
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Sorry DC - thoughts and prayers with you and your son.
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rarely such a thing as a "friendly" divorce. Get started while guilt prevails. The child is your family now, and the wife and yourself are now "in the business of raising a child." . Not sure if those words are of help, they were said to me 18 years ago. They DID help, and I raised my son by myself. He is now in his second year of college and thriving. I wish you and yours the same.
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What kind of mother "walks" out on her child? That's unusual. That is what has floored me the most. Now she wants to take him to her parent's this weekend, and I said no. Her behavior is too erratic to trust her with him. In that case, you better double down on getting the attorney ASAP. You'll want some clout if she feels compelled to go law on you.
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Old guy told me that, " theirs an ass made for every seat ". the new love of your life is just around the corner. I did the divorce thing after 3 kids and 20 yrs. I stayed single for 3 yrs., and remarried. that was 30 years ago. It still works. Shame on her, and don't let the door hit her in the ass on the way out. Gird your loins once she gets a lawyer. She ain't your friend anymore.
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if you don't approach the court about your boy today she will and soon probably today or Monday.
Life sux right now do yourself a favor and help yourself all you possibly can
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Wish you the best. Sorry to hear this sad news.
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Go seek legal council NOW, TODAY, Protect yourself and your relationship with that child, ASAP.
It's 1:20 your time, right? Get on the phone now and line up a divorce lawyer. Do everything the lawyer says, and don't write your wife any emails, or to anybody else who knows her. Best not to share any details on the 'Fire or any other internet forum. Like from this moment.
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Sorry. Did she give reasons?
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And avoid like the plague any face to face opportunity for disagreement. If she finds a shyster lawyer he will not be above advising her to push an argument to the point it can be called domestic violence.
A push, moving her arm out of the way as she tries to block your exit, a little extra spittle spray during a loud argument. Anything at all that can be blown all out of proportion gives her tremendous advantages in who lives in the home, has custody, etc. It is just meant to paint you as the devil but it ends up costing you your firearms forever!
Have a witness every time you are together.
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Sorry to hear that. Mine did the same thing back in '98. Blindsided. Keep your chin up, get ducks in a row and protect yourself and your child.
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Yep. 14 years down the drain, 3 year old son. Sorry to hear that.
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Damn, sorry to hear that. If you ever make it back down to these parts, there's a beer and/or a place to crash for ya. Dave
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Sorry to hear that. I hope you and especially your son the best. Just from what I experienced with my parents divorce, I'd follow much of the advice you've been given.
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Sorry. Did she give reasons? I'm trying to get him to stop posting.
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Yep. 14 years down the drain, 3 year old son. NOT down the drain, you've got a son out of the deal. Focus all the emotions your feeling right now into doing what's best for you and him. You've got lots of ears here....
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Sorry for your pain brother. I understand the advice that others are giving regarding getting a lawyer and you should take it.
I just want to tell you that I was divorced 15 years ago and luckily it was friendly. I paid child support for a couple of years and I was my own man again. It took awhile to pay off the accumulated debt but I made it.
12 years ago I married a beautiful, loving woman that has enriched my life in too many ways to count. These days coming will be dark and tough but you will come through it fine. Hang in there and we are praying for you.
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You've got lots of ears here.... Just as long as he quits open posting about it.
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Very sorry to hear this. Wishing the best for you and your son.
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