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This!

I had a similar situation many years back, and put all of my effort into getting the kids. I prevailed, and it was the best decision I ever made.

WTF?

You and kamo been sippin' the saki together?

Of course you can step in the same river twice. Get out, step back in.

I think your being surrounded by Pollocks is making you stupid.



Travis

Pussy hurt runs deep in this one.

Ah, so true, Grasshopper. You can step from bank into river more than one time, but what make river?

Bank? No, water make river.

You step in water, it flows by, is gone. Step in again, is new water, not same water. River always new.

There's a great advantage in having an ex who has really exited.
The best thing mine ever gave me is the continuing ability to
know that no matter how bad things are, I don't have to deal with THAT, anymore.
Don't know who said it first, but it's good- "I ain't what I should be, I ain't what I wanna be, I ain't what I'm gonna be,
but, thank God, I ain't what I was".
Even the kids know what she is, now, and one of the best things to them is they know they don't have to be worried, for me.

That is a fact. On my second marriage and just had out 33 aniversary in January. Life DOES go on, and somehow we become better people. God doesn't let anything happen in our life that we can't handle. It's also not what happens to us in life that makes a difference, IT'S HOW WE RESPOND. THAT is all on you. Focus on your son. He needs you. He's just as lost as you are in understanding this whole thing.

Leave it to a fricken Plumber to explain flow patterns,,,,LOL.

A gynecologist would work as well.

ya know, I've done a little doctoring myself......

But I digress....

Get your head on straight. It will take a month or two. You have a few choices. Pick yourself up by the boot straps and move on...or don't. I highly recommend option 1. Take care of your boy, don't talk bad about his mom.

If you're sane, and have a job...you'll be pulling more wool than you ever though imaginable within 6 months.

12 year or maybe less from now your son can have a choice who he prefers to stay with . Never over the next few years talk bad about his Mother when he is in your presents .

I'd answer his questions about mommy honestly.

At age 4? I don't think so. I had the "why" talk with my daughter (21) for the first time over Christmas, 3 years post D. I'm still not sure she was ready yet.

Maybe answering honestly is the right thing, but I would certainly not tell everything, or even most. I would do a lot of dancing around certain issues.

Not at this point.

That's horrible advice.



Travis

When my ex wife's father died she and her husband at that time drove six hundred miles to attend the funeral. On the way home their junker car went down about two hundred miles from where I lived.
They had no money for a hotel and called my son to come and get them, but he didn't have enough to put them up so he did the only thing he could.
He called me and asked if he could bring them to my house. He tried his best to explain how sorry he was.

To this day he has no idea how much I enjoyed that couple of days they were there.
I had gone on with my life, my three kids had come to live with me and we were living damned well.

The low lifes had tried their best to destroy me and had only brought themselves down.
Living well IS the best revenge.

Well, I signed. Now I get to see if she signs too. If not, we go to court. In the end we were fighting over retirement funds, but I am young enough to get it back. I didn't have the motivation or funds to keep going. I spent over $8000 so far on this nightmare. It had to stop. I appreciate all the input. I hope I do rebound and find a woman that stands by her man going forward.

You'll find lots remember the 3 F's rule for a while
Trust me fun times are ahead
Just have fun don't look for the right woman it will happen on it's own

Best wishes to you, dogcatcher. Take care of yourself and that little man of yours.

It IS horrible advice. Tell him something like this:

"Your Mom and I started out as good friends. Then we got married so we could have you.Now we are going back to being good friends again".

That's sort of how I explained the deal to my six year old Grandkids when I split from their Grandmother last year. It satisfied them.

"No man ever steps into the same river twice." Attributed to Heraclitus, as noted in Plato's Cratylus.