Send her to me, or I can come to you. It will be short, but not necessarily sweet, I have butted heads with other children like your daughter, not easy for them, but completely fixable, then you get to keep up the rules and watch things turn around in behavior.
Not kidding, people seem to come to me for help in this area, not sure if it is a compliment or not.
I always told my kids from early on, "I am the boss, and you aren't, and when you think you are, you won't be living here anymore.
