You might be "burdening" them by not allowing a funeral.
That is a fact in my area. When my mother died at 98, she had told us all not to have a funeral. She meant it, so my brothers and sister and I had her cremated and we scattered her ashes where she was born and grew up on my grandfathers homestead.
She was well liked and kind of a local historian and to this day, since 2015, the townspeople are still hurt that we didn't have a funeral. Some of course just missed the free chow!!
Something to think about!
