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Coming up on twenty years with this wife. Some years were longer than others but things have smoothed out and we're doing well.

With or without puzzy?

Oh, yeah. So, did yer wife say it was a long time?

20 years for me was a blur of happiness and contentment, still grateful for that.

Then she told me one day the person I had known was gone forever, that was six years ago, so far she has proven to be right.

Does she have some type of mental illness? To change so drastically doesn’t seem rational.

Look at the key words in your own post and you answer your own question.

It might not seem rational although there could be a rational explanation.

40 plus here. I worked in the oil patch for half of that either on the north slope or in Russia so the times at home I try and fit into her life rather than her into mine. Seems to work.

Her family believes she does, and they would be more objective judges than me.

It has been roughest on my son, growing up they were close and when he was grown and out of the house they would often meet for lunch. Suddenly that all stopped. One time after not even receiving a text for a month he drove over before work and waited outside her apartment for an hour just to check on her. When she came out and saw his car next to hers she greeted him with a cold and suspicious “How long have you been here?”

Likewise she does not often take the time to see or interact with our granddaughter, which is probably a good thing at this point. One time when she had her she picked up some guy she was seeing, which sent both me and my son ballistic. That was some years back, she ain’t pulled that since.

This person she has become bears no relation to the kind and actively Christian woman who was my wife.

Since this all went down I’ve heard of a few similar cases, I have a coworker who’s mom did the same thing, twenty years later she’s still gone.

My guess is menopause-related personality change, hormonal in origin. Does it rise to the level of a mental illness? That’s a tough one. She still works (nurse) and functions, doesn’t appear to be an alcoholic or druggie, just a lost ability to feel normal human affections.

One thing I will say is beware of toxic friends. Through her dance classes she fell in with The Witches’ Cabal (my term), toxic older women encouraging her to leave. I dunno if hanging with people like that is a cause or a symptom, but if your missus ever does, watch out.

I realize how friggin' lucky I was to have met my wife. The first 20 years went by like a blur. We're closing in on 30 years together now, and I can't wait to see what the next 20 years has to offer. I'm a very lucky man.

Not when you're married to your best friend.

When I asked her she laughed ...................heartily!

Geno

This, married 28 years this September.

24 years seems so long ago I can't remember being single.
I do remember that being with her is better.

On the other hand,
"where has the time gone"?

Should have asked me 23+ years ago .

Can't speak to 20, but 19 has been just fine.

Ask me in October of '20.