Home Forums Hunting & Shooting Hunter's Campfire Marital Advice... Retrospect.

That’s called being in love with the person you think you met.

See how she acts after you piss in the hamper and fall into the pool while grilling.

It was half on and she should treat every firearm as if it’s loaded.

Finger off the trigger.

You missed the compliment in jest.

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I don’t check out other guy’s women.

I get it, but I've been in a bunch of relationships now over the past year and before, and this one is different. I understand your skepticism, but this one is different.

My apologies.

That hits too close..... 😆

It’s not a pool, more like a ditch.

Fine, agreed, but it was the first time she shot, and I have time to train her further. I unloaded it before the pic. It was my situation, and I was in control. Empty firearm can't go off. I wouldn't do that, and neither would you, but she was new. No chance an empty firearm can go off.

And she was particularly good with the muzzle direction. Finger on the trigger pointing at the ground with an unloaded pistol.

Mine was loaded.

No worries man.

I was being a bit crass and should have put a smiley face on there.

It's early in the relationship. Maybe you are right and she really is different, or maybe you are in the early stages of getting "love bombed" by a skillful narcisistic. Before you jump in feet first, there's a few interesting way to find out more about what's behind the cute smile.

When the time is right see how she reacts to the idea of a prenup agreement. Then mention a trust insuring your separate assets go to your kids and not her, or her kids from her previous marriage. And don't forget the 18 to 24 month test. A lot of women can keep up an act for several months, but not nearly as many can do it for a couple of years.

I hope you are right, but if not, it's best to make that discovery before putting your financial future at risk.

You’ve already had my congratulations about your planned wedding. Do remember, as I’m sure you do, that you are about to marry an imperfect person. So is she; because there isn’t any other kind. Most of the catchy posts here are fun but complete BS. Two decent committed people should be able to navigate the rough spots. It sounds like your chances are good. Best wishes.

Yes, they can. I've seen it happen.

I’d like to point out, despite the Captain Morgan and cheerleader reference, I did not write that!

I think you are a very experienced shooter and I know the rules but really, would you not dry fire practice with a gun you’ve personally cleared? Not test a trigger pull except at the range? These would seem to be safe exception and are not something I’d do with a loaded gun. I do agree that pissing in the hamper might be a good test.

Haha, noted!

I appreciate the advice. This isn’t my first rodeo. I’ve dated and been infatuated with many women. This one is different. She's the opposite of narcissistic. That much, I do know.

She has a really nice home completely paid off and is a successful professional. She’s definitely not in it for the money.

Anecdotally, on Mother’s Day, she had us drive out to a former neighbor lady of hers, who has an adult mentally-disabled son. She knew that no one else would give her flowers. We gave the boy the flowers to give her mother. That wasn’t for show. That’s who she is. She’s caring and wonderful as a person. On the flip side, she appreciates the things I do for her. I took her 15 year old son out on Mother’s Day eve to get flowers and a card for her. No one ever had done that for her. Ever. And it’s basic courtesy. She was so grateful, and it’s just basic courtesy.

But the main thing, among many others, is that she is a wonderful person with a wonderful heart. We enjoy the same things; have the exact same sense of humor; make each other laugh with ease; adore each other; work hard at what we need to do; are emotionally and physically compatible; etc. … But she’s just such a wonderful person to others, including me.

I’ve been in numerous relationships that have lasted months and sometimes years. This one is different. I have told her how lucky I am and how I don’t deserve her. She always responds about how lucky she is. I think we’re both right.

It had no ammo in it and was pointed at the ground.

I took control of the unloaded pistol immediately after the pic.



I slept with loaded firearms for months at a time in the Marines. I think I have this down.

If you want to criticize firearm safety, this one likely is more appropriate. Desert Shield, 1991.