Home Forums Hunting & Shooting Hunter's Campfire Get married or shack up?

the question changes if something happens to your spouse and they die or disappear….

Dating when you are older sucks, and even though there are a lot of women, some say most of them have issues

A man of means that bathes regularly can get married any given day of the week .

As told to me by a minister.

It's called COMMITMENT. Get your little feelings out of the way and stand up. 38 years and counting. It aint easy. Not every male can do it. Real men can.

Even if she is a psycho bitch and uses the courts to clean you out financially..... yeah a real man

Again, so much for your “happy traditional married couple”.

And to think,,,she was “good enough” to take your name.

Can’t argue with that logic, can we?

They don't. Marriage, IMO, is a mutual, private contract between two people. Our ceromony in front of the Bishop and the state paperwork we did to me is irelevant. 43 years here, following a year long live-together.

Gender does not matter (am I "woke"? ). I don't give a chit - but I don't like homo-pairings to be artificially stuck in my face. Cross gender pairings don't do that, in my perception. But I could be indoctrinated....

Government and/or religious ceremony/ paperwork is extraneous. It does make things easier on the legal front.

If they ain’t worthy of marriage they’re probably not worthy of shaking up. If crazy is just waiting to rear it’s ugly head no amount of shaking up will change this.

Little confused on which part to argue with? tradition or taking your last name?
The taking of the last name was not my post.
The traditional relationship was my post..... point being the educational system is feeding liberal feminist ideas to women and that is toxic to a traditional relationship. Do you dispute this?

I was committed to my 1st.
She was not committed to me.
after 12 years of a signed paper marriage she decided she wanted what was suppose to be my best friend.
So I let her go.
I even packed up all of her stuff and moved her out.
the last year of our so called marriage was shear Hell for me.
I purchased a home after i moved her out and a bit more than a year after that I started seeing my current partner.
about 9 months to a year after we were going together she moved in with me.
No Papers need to be signed as far as I and her are Concerned.
She was beaten for 20+ years in her 1st marriage and it took al long time for her to get past that part of her life.
We have been together for over 25 years and I have put 2 rings on her finger.
I set the stone in the first one I gave her and about 2 years ago I surprised her with a new one 3 times the size of the 1st one.
She still has the 1st ring in her drawer.
I may be screwed up but I personally do not think you have to sign some stupid paper to show your Commitment to someone.
We have had our tensions in the past and we will have more in the future but we find a way to get past those tensions some how.
With out the signed paper.

It’s a contract or commitment between two people….legally, mentally, etc. Shackin’ up is just a way to give yourself an “out”….getting the milk without buying the cow.

We dated or were engaged for 2 1/2 years before we graduated and tied the knot. Plenty of time for escape for either if it wasn’t going as it should and there were no kids or assets to worry about and not many surprises.

It’ll be 50 years next summer.

Argue?

The present tradition of traditional marriage is a 50% divorce rate. Do you dispute that?

You were in agreement with BGG’s post of taking one’s name and what a woman is who would not . Do you dispute that?

It ain’t exactly earth shaking news of what the media has done and continues do by attacking any once sacred tradition, I don’t dispute that.

Now you can parse and mince while nitpicking any thing you want that’s been said here.

Your first “traditional marriage”, how’d that work out? What was the end result of it?

We "shacked up" for three years prior to marriage. Smart move that we both agree. We have now been happily married 34 years.

The Christian religion calls marriage Holy matrimony.

They don't call shacking up Holy shacking up. I believe they call it adultery.

If shacking up was such a great thing, why did you marry?


Gotta say, at 52, I font think I would ever re-marry.
Wouldn't move one in either.

But I might fornicate.
It's been 26 years, but I remember it being fun.

Sure hope to never have to worry about it.

So true. Dating is exhausting. The vast majority have some real issues - especially Caucasian women.

I remember when bastard and illegitimate chillruns was/were a big deal.
Big conversation at the barber shop.

Because we wanted to. Simple, eh? Why the puhuck do you care what we did?

The 59% divorce rate has nothing to do with with traditional marriage, that is a by product of the left and feminism.
As for taking a mans name.... if a woman won't, again she has drank the feminist cool aid.
As for my traditional first marriage , I was traditional, she was not, so it didn't work out.
So wtf is your point?

The 50% divorce rate counts a lot of people that didn’t really know what a marriage was before they went through with it. I bet people that think of a marriage rather than a wedding end up doing a lot better.

I suspect that you’re right. There’s more than a few mile markers in life that we don’t know the full measure of until we get into them.

Maybe why many are deferring marriage or forsaking it all together.