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Okay, this doesn't have anything to do with lever actions, but I'm a lever action guy, and I'd rather share this with other lever action folks than the dorks in the other forums.

I am saving every last penny for an engagement ring. Yep, found the woman that I want to aggravate for the rest of my life. When I decided that she was the one...actually, when I realized how much a ring would cost...I commited to myself that I wouldn't buy another gun until I got the ring out of the way.

Can you predict what has happened? Of course! Once I've committed to no more guns, I happen across one or two that I've been looking for for years! Just the very sight of them caused me physical pain and mental anguish. I considered scrapping the plan and getting at least one of them. I considered taking out a loan, so the ring fund wouldn't be affected. I considered reducing the amount I would spend on the ring. It was ugly. In the back of my mind I know I will survive without them and that I will stumble across them again in another few years, but...you know how it is.

I'm gonna be a good guy and stay my course, but she better appreciate this @$@*!&@ ring.

Have you considered buying her a levergun in place of a ring? <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

If you are buying her a ring, you can rationalize the matter by buying yourself a gun at the same time. Therefore, you are both getting something. Don't go nuts on the ring, a spectacular one will make her happy (and give her bragging rights with the other girls she knows) but a good one does the same thing and will still look great. Shop around for the ring, you can spend a lot or a little but it is easy to over do it on diamonds and spend too much on the ring. Just don't buy a really cheap one if you can avoid it because you'll never hear the end of it. Anything cheap is, well.. usually just cheap.

Save up a little longer, compromise on the ring and the gun and see that you both get something out of it. Remember, after you get married, the gun is her's too. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

See if you can put the rifles on lay-a-way. A little money towards the ring a little torwards your rifles.

Have you considered something in the Diamonelle/Zirconia line for the ring?....just kidding of course!

A cheap ring will haunt you like cheap optics. Best to get it right the first time!

It will work out. If you want something badly enough, you will find a way to make it happen.

Congratulations on your impending marriage! While many will tease you to the otherwise, marriage is NOT a bad thing! I've been single and I've been married, and marriage is better. Being lonely sucks!

In our home, the viable plan is that Mrs. Hogger gets what she wants first. It's not like I don't want her to have stuff, so I get her what she has hinted strongly about, and whatever I want is soon to follow. - With no ill will whatsoever. We usually indulge each other about this time of year when we get our tax refund. She's getting a diamond, and I'm getting an 1894CCL 32-20. It's a win-win thing.

Best wishes in your marriage! She will have the things she wants, and so will you! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> SW

TPD, I can relate to the "Bad Timing" scenario, only in my case I was getting hit on by gorgeous women, who never even looked at me.....until after I was married! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
The previous suggestions all have some merit, especially the use of layaway. It's not easy, but if you can put equal amounts toward each desired piece, you'll both get what you want at about the same time. And like others said, don't skimp on the ring. Women NEVER forget things like that!
And by the way, congratulations! I'm working on my third future ex-wife right now! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
PJ

TXpitdog:

The secret to a long and happy life is a good marriage. Good Job passing up on the rifles. They are fun, but terribly unimportant by comparison.

You have passed the first test, you put your marriage ahead of your toys. You will have several hundred more tests before you are through.

Compromise in a marriage is important, compromising you marriage is foolish.

The guns will come around again. Or your desire for them will fade. A good woman only comes around once. That desire never fades.

Good Luck,

God Bless,

BMT

TXpitdog, you are a gentleman for passing on the guns. I've been married for fixin to be 20 years. I have averaged about 1.5 newguns a year. There were ones I thought I couldn't live without that I wound up trading. Never traded Lucy Belle though. If I got another wife she might not appreciate my abilty to go to town to buy a gallon of milk and come back with another gun. I have had the sickness when I would run up on a gun I always wanted but found my piggy bank on the low side. I know it is real. I finally get over it then in time I find another gun I always wanted. Thats just the way it works. Congrats on your engagement. Teach your wife to shoot and hunt and you will have the best of both worlds. reflex264

First: moisonitte(sp?)/zirconia...bad idea to save money for a gun. You will get busted faster than you can spit. When my sister got married every last one of her girlfriends inspected that ring like it was their sole purpose of existence.

Second: Being single myself, but rapidly closing in on marriage....I say get the basics of whatever you may even consider for the long run (aka TOYS) before you get married. Having a bass boat and buying a bass boat are totally different things after you are married. Trading up on something will make things a whole lot easier on a new wife than explaing why you "need" a $1200 shotgun. The trade-ins seem to go over so much easier.

Don't know anything about her, but I've heard it said that with most women, it's a lot easier to get forgiveness than permission! I just ordered a $1200 rifle yesterday, still working on the right time to let her know about it. 2008 sounds like a good year........ <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
The problem is, once my son finds out about it, that cat is out of the bag for good! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />
PJ

TXPITDOG, I am not a lever gun guy, I own a Winchester by default only. As far as wether to buy the guns or the ring well here is how it worked out for me. I went for the ring....wrong decision I was given the word either the guns go or I go. So after some 15 years of marrige I got me a new gun case as I was rapidly out growing the old one. Had I bought the guns in the first place I could have had a third case full in those 15 years. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Bullwnkl.

Good choice. Marriage is a gift from God and not to be messed with.

You might consider buying both rifles, one being for her. My wife had never fired or even touched a gun before we met many years ago. Now we argue as to who owns which ones. She claims everything that doesn't kick too much, and all revolvers. All the "boomers" and auto pistols are mine. You can turn this into a shared hobby, which is a good thing.

And, looking to the LeverGun Thread was the right decision. We do know better ! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

LeverMan

Thanks for all the advice, understanding, and razzing! My girl is pretty understanding about my love of things that go boom. She's learned that when I speak of my "babies", I ain't talking about children, I ain't talking about the dogs, I sure as hell ain't talking about her cat or the goldfish. I'm referring to my guns....and the occasional 1.3G fireworks barrage!

I'll never forget the look on her face when I told I had to go pick up a few rifles from my parents' house "because I missed them". hehehe, I think that was the day she realized the gun cabinet will eventually become a closet and will eventually become a room!

I have to give her credit. She gives me room to clean, maintain, and reload for them, and she has never given me grief for going to the range.

Enough of the suspense!!! What were the guns you saw???

Just kidding, congratulations in advance!

Tough decision I'm sure. Fortunately my wife didn't want a big diamond. We went for wedding bands at first, and much later she picked out the diamond ring she wanted, but din't feel comfortable asking for 25 years earlier!
My wife has always been pretty tolerabe of my gun purchases. It's sort of a joke around our family and friends, so she rants about them in public, and I bemaon how hard I have to talk to get her to let me make a purchase. It's all an act, as she knows I have a sickness that can't be cured. Of course the bills, etc. must be paid first, and I wont go in debt to buy a gun, but as soon as I have saved, I'm on the hunt for another one! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Papajohn,
You wouldn't happen to be the same guy who emailed me about a model 1891 or 1892 Marlin .22 for sale are you? I was bidding on an item at one of the auction sites, under my auction site name. I sent you pictures of three rifles tonight, if you are the same?

Any woman who would not understand why you chose a firearm instead of a few extra points on the diamond is probably not worth marrying.
Truth is, my wife wanted to buy the house we were living in sin in before we got engaged.
I looked her in the eye and gave her the choice; a nice engagement ring or a house.
She got a 2 carat heart cut cubic zirconia ring with real diamond baguettes on both sides on a real 14K gold setting, and a house now worth an easy 1/2 million.
Her ability to see our future beyond a piece of crystallized carbon is one of the reasons I married that gal.
While many times guns can be had down the road, the one thing I have learned and that is for certain, is IF you are lucky enough to see that firearm again, it will always cost more than when you saw it originally.
Diamonds lose value as soon as you pay for them in full.
Long story short, buy the guns, make her wait a month longer for the ring. It is your call when you propose.
If she truly loves you, she will understand.
Ranger

Every single time I walk into my local gun store I find a gun that just makes me SICK!



Then I buy it and I feel much better...

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Regards,

Dan