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A realistic assessment of your situation tells you that she is leaving so leave kick her out of the nest first and end it as painlessly as possible on your terms. Just tell her that she decided to break up your marriage so you are just taking her at her word.
A good solution for your guns might be to pay a gun smith to hold them for you. They can hold your guns without you having to go thru the background check to get them back. Move your safe with your guns to his shop would be great solution. You can't sell them to a friend for $1 because you have to do a transfer through an FFL.
Get your banks to freeze your accounts, and put a stop on all your credit cards. Take any jewelry and other high value items and lose them at one of your friend's houses. Make sure no loans can be made against you car house or other assets.
I would take your children on vacation for a week or two. Somewhere where she can't find you. Let you lawyer know when you will return. Call your relatives and tell them that you two are separating. Change the locks on your house.
Talk to your lawyer. You could have him draw up the papers and deliver them to your wife while your on vacation.
Leave her a Dear Jane note. I would tell her that you have decided that you should separate, that you will keep the house and children, that you are on vacation with the children and will return on such and such date.
That should make your separation as painless as possible. IMHO.
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the more pleasurable thing, darlin'.
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better get any money out of her grasp.so she can't touch it
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As I so recently learned...that selling to a friend for $1 and needing an FFL transfer...is a California thing...
or, I guess you could say...it's not nationwide...
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I would take your children on vacation for a week or two. Somewhere where she can't find you. Let you lawyer know when you will return. Call your relatives and tell them that you two are separating. Change the locks on your house and leave her a Dear Jane note. I would tell her that you have decided that you should separate, that you will keep the house and children, that you are on vacation with the children and will return on such and such date.
That should make your separation as painless as possible. IMHO.
This is horrible advice... Whatever you do don't take your kids away without your wife knowing. Your kids are not pawns to be used in any separation/divorce. Take the high road and always put your kids first. It will be tough at first, but in the end it will pay off tenfold. Best of luck to you!
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As I so recently learned...that selling to a friend for $1 and needing an FFL transfer...is a California thing...
or, I guess you could say...it's not nationwide... California requires an FFL for IN STATE transfer between individuals?!?
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YES! I just learned this too...crazy huh?
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Check up on her 'training session' for work, and don't let her see you spying. If she's being unfaithful, quietly go home and drop the kids off at their grandparents for a couple of days. Then go to the bank and pull out some cash, go rent a drop dead gorgeous woman, noticeably younger than your wife, and have her at the house for when the wife arrives. She should be topless wearing just a sexy pair of panties/g-string and you should each have a drink in your hand smiling at each other. No words need to be spoken to the wife, in fact just ignore her. When she slams the door and walks out, she'll know that she's been busted......and you'll feel SO MUCH BETTER !!!!!!
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Lately I have become suspicious of my wife of 9 years that she may have started cheating on me.
my wife started talking about going out dancing with a couple of girls from work . I was really happy when she wanted to go out with her own friends once or twice a month for drinks. About 6 weeks ago she when out for the first time in years,the girls stayed out till 3 in the morning but I wasn't worried in the least about her being faithful.
A week after she went out, she sits me down and tells me she isn't happy and want's to separate. I was devastated because it was like out of nowhere.I listened to her feeling and made a complete change. she said the biggest problem was that I didn't help her enough around the house, I have made a complete 180 she hasn't had to wash a dish or sweep the floors sense.So things have be going real good for the past few weeks , she has been letting me stay at home 3 or 4 nights a week.
This past Sunday her actions became very weird to me. First thing that morning she gets a text ,I ask who it was and she said it was her girlfriend asking if she wanted to get are kids to play together that afternoon. Then she gets in the shower when she get out and getting dressed she picks up her phone and starts talking to her mom. So this means that she purposely turned it on silent, not vibrate silent, this seemed very odd to me. So I asked her about it later in the day she said she had no clue about what I was talking about.I also had to check her text messages and the one from her friend sent that morning is deleted .the only messages are from me and her family.
Also that Sunday she tells me that she might have to go to training for work Tuesday-Wednesday out of town.Of course Monday she said that her training is a go for Tuesday. I'm a little skeptical since she never mentioned any thing about this training until Sunday after her text message.
Yesterday I saw a email that were sent to her boss(step-mother) it said "I decided that I would like to take tomorrow (Tuesday) off and Wednesday as well it doesn't look to busy , are these days ok with you"?
Does that sound weird to anyone else, asking for days off if your going to training??
I also had to call the hotel and they didn't have anyone under her name.
Should I confront her?? or am I over reacting and should just let it be?
I'd go fishing. Yeah but your wife would stab you in the leg with a fork!!! (Teri told me to tell you that)
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Women are evil, thankfully there are some of us that are up front and honest about it. I am what I am, but as evil as I am, so too am I loving. Go figure  See, 50 words when Bi-polar would have sufficed. Now, if you will excuse me I am going to do something even more pleasurable with my mouth  Put Duct Tape on it? 
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Sorry to tell you, but I have the EXACT same story. She was cheating. Look for diff. kind of CDs/music in the car--stuff she normally wouldn't listen to. She was supposedly on a bussiness trip with a fellow nurse----I remembered the name and called said nurse at home----she did not go on a bussiness trip the week before. You have enough stuff to go on---don't be stupid when the bomb drops, get ready--its coming. Sorry to hear this. Its hurts for a while. --Till you get some new Kitty. Then it doesn't seem so bad. In my case, it was the best thing that ever happened 15 years ago. I now have a beautiful wife that is 11 years younger, 4 beautiful kids, and happier than I could ever imagine.
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Women are evil, thankfully there are some of us that are up front and honest about it. I am what I am, but as evil as I am, so too am I loving. Go figure See, 50 words when Bi-polar would have sufficed. Duhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, 34 words ![[Linked Image]](http://i78.photobucket.com/albums/j89/Lynn_D_1961/23.gif)
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Only a crazy person would actually count them....
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I call that the Beitch diet!
If you really like something,you better buy two!
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Only a crazy person would actually count them.... Thank you ![[Linked Image]](http://i78.photobucket.com/albums/j89/Lynn_D_1961/5-1.gif)
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Women are evil, thankfully there are some of us that are up front and honest about it. I am what I am, but as evil as I am, so too am I loving. Go figure See, 50 words when Bi-polar would have sufficed. Scott, you could write books. short ones...
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As I so recently learned...that selling to a friend for $1 and needing an FFL transfer...is a California thing...
or, I guess you could say...it's not nationwide... California requires an FFL for IN STATE transfer between individuals?!? AND a 14 day waiting period, when I lived there 10 years ago! Sycamore
...Actually Sycamore, you are sort of right....
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Women are evil, thankfully there are some of us that are up front and honest about it. I am what I am, but as evil as I am, so too am I loving. Go figure See, 50 words when Bi-polar would have sufficed. Duhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, 34 words 35 Mike
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Women are evil, thankfully there are some of us that are up front and honest about it. I am what I am, but as evil as I am, so too am I loving. Go figure See, 50 words when Bi-polar would have sufficed. Duhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, 34 words 35 Mike Steelhead says only a crazy person would count them.
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