Lordie Petes you all make solitude sound like a bad thing, and here I been wishing I could be alone.....try being locked down in a household of 7......
probably kind of tough living where you do. i don't know the area at all but it sounds kind of rural. sometimes friends can be found through your kids friends. my kids inadvertently introduced me to several people who i would call friends. not close friends, but close enough for me. theres only one guy who i would call a close friend and we only see each other once a month or so.
I’ve seen pictures of Jim’s most excellent family. A man doesn’t need much more...
Bingo!
Me and the China Doll are pretty tight. Together all day, every day, and it never gets old. We both have offspring, but mine are busy living, and hers is on the other side of the world. No matter. We are having a blast right here at home. Hunkered down is our natural state, not at all something we dread.
Yrs ago a great bud died. Also got divorced. Figured out I was going to be alone. Have friends I guess, still work, have kids......but really am actually alone.
First week of covid quarantine was an adjustnent. 2nd was fine. Me and my orange cat just chilled.
Alone aint a problem. Not having stuff to do is. Best have hobbies and or good weather.
Alone doesn't have to mean lonely. Immerse in your hobbies. Some day a broad will show up, shake her little ass and screw up all your hobbies and free time...
Jim, there has been some darkness in your posts lately, and I am truly concerned for you. I hope you are well brother. I'll post more to give you both more reasons to laugh and more reasons to celebrate your fortunes.
I only have few good friends, and most of them live an hour or two away. The product of having moved so often for most of my life.
All my friends are married...I have a reloading bench in my living room. Different worlds...
I hate parties. The noise is deafening, and drunk people are rarely interesting. If I want to yell at someone to be hear, I'll call my 85 year old mother.
I have several very close friends and quite a few good friends. Talk to them all fairly regularly and go out to breakfast or put shorting or rambling in the woods a couple times a month.
Whoever said “to have a friend you must be a friend” nailed it. The very close friends I’ve had have not always been friendly friendships and I’ve had to overlook their flaws as much as they’ve had to overlook mine, and there have been times I was convinced that equation showed I was the better friend but this “f you I don’t need you I’m a man” stuff woulda hurt me in the long run.
These guys have helped me move, helped me through loss and success, told me when I was being an ass and been there to reinforce fatherly wisdom to my kids when they wouldn’t listen to me. They make me a better man because they genuinely want what’s best for me and are even willing to fight me when I have a different idea.
Pretty awesome; can’t say how grateful I am for them all. Especially in trying times like these.
this time of year is tough on me for sure. i hate the short days and cold weather. i can see why old people move south for the winter. my parents did. but this is also a time for reflection and anticipation for better weather, more daylight, leaves on the trees, fishing, etc. now i sound like friggen dr phil.
Aside from good friends i ve had that died,i m down to one solid guy i go waaaaay back with.other than that,i m good.its very hard to find guys around here that are into guns and shooting or going fishing or any non "lets get as wasted as possible"activity. I would like to have a couple of friends that were into re loading and shooting to hang with and go to the range with.i ve talked to guys at the L.G.S. most of them are nut jobs,so i go it alone.
Awww hell dude... You got friends in Tn you aint never met FTF. Me and Slumlord got your back if ya ever show up down here in Clarksvegas. Cici,s Dogs Shooting Ammo hunting Pawn shopping for guns Deer hunting Turkey hunting Dove hunting Roadside repair assitance cell phone away schitt. Hang out with ya at appts. Give ya some uplook insted of down. Arrowhead hunting Slumlord makes excellent BBQ stuff. Me and you can fugg up some beefaroni ( outta da can) Help ya do needed chores with 0 strings. Give ya some brutally frank no holds barred discussion and expect the same in return.
Just the whole gamut man..... You got buds ya never even met dude....
I have damn few, they always want something, can you fix my plumbing, can you weld this for me, can you bring your tractor over and do some mowing for me, will you build me a bbq pit, I need help, I need this, I need that. I never ask anybody to do cshit for me. I don’t need no help. I guess I’m selfish, but I will only help my family members.
I’ve tried being friends, but I always get taken advantage of, cause I can’t say no when they ask.
I can honestly say that I only have two true friends. They have never come to visit me at all, as I always go visit them, so I guess a guy could say they're not as good of a friend as I make them out to be. I have lots and lots of acquaintances though that I like and get along with, but I don't 100% trust them. They'll help me out if I really need it, but only if it is not real inconvenient for them. I've been burned too many times over the years by going way the hell out of my way to help someone out, only to not have that favor returned.
I am generally an inverted loner anyway and prefer it that way. It makes life simpler.
I can honestly say that I only have two true friends. They have never come to visit me at all, as I always go visit them, so I guess a guy could say they're not as good of a friend as I make them out to be. I have lots and lots of acquaintances though that I like and get along with, but I don't 100% trust them. They'll help me out if I really need it, but only if it is not real inconvenient for them. I've been burned too many times over the years by going way the hell out of my way to help someone out, only to not have that favor returned.
I am generally an inverted loner anyway and prefer it that way. It makes life simpler.
T, I can relate.
Moving around the country for work makes it difficult to maintain friendships. Sometimes I need to go back to a place I was for various reasons, so it's been easy for me to look up a "friend" while there. Most friends from SoCal were not coming to Bummfugg NW PA just because I was there tho. I did have two friends stop by though......................they were passing through on their way to someplace more exciting I think.
For you, I mean really.......................how many folks want to visit the Rock?
Passover is a bit over a month away and I'm already getting the goodies (matzo ball soup, gefilte fish, horseradish, etc.) ready. If it will help Mr. Jim feel that he has friends, I'd be happy to drive up and drop off the delicacies. Of course, those who weren't raised eating this stuff usually describe it as "inedible slimy cat food with unbearable heat", so this may actually seem like a threat. It's not.
Passover is a bit over a month away and I'm already getting the goodies (matzo ball soup, gefilte fish, horseradish, etc.) ready. If it will help Mr. Jim feel that he has friends, I'd be happy to drive up and drop off the delicacies. Of course, those who weren't raised eating this stuff usually describe it as "inedible slimy cat food with unbearable heat", so this may actually seem like a threat. It's not.
Potato pancakes are edible for us Gentiles though.
And the grape juice ain't bad either.
Unleavened bread though? Nothing wrong with crackers for a day or so, but if you've seen my post in the bread thread, there's no way sweeping the counters with feather will get rid of the odd yeast cell..............not in a hundred years.
I can honestly say that I only have two true friends. They have never come to visit me at all, as I always go visit them, so I guess a guy could say they're not as good of a friend as I make them out to be. I have lots and lots of acquaintances though that I like and get along with, but I don't 100% trust them. They'll help me out if I really need it, but only if it is not real inconvenient for them. I've been burned too many times over the years by going way the hell out of my way to help someone out, only to not have that favor returned.
I am generally an inverted loner anyway and prefer it that way. It makes life simpler.
T, I can relate.
Moving around the country for work makes it difficult to maintain friendships. Sometimes I need to go back to a place I was for various reasons, so it's been easy for me to look up a "friend" while there. Most friends from SoCal were not coming to Bummfugg NW PA just because I was there tho. I did have two friends stop by though......................they were passing through on their way to someplace more exciting I think.
For you, I mean really.......................how many folks want to visit the Rock?
Shove it dude.......but ya...........point taken. PM incoming.
I can honestly say that I only have two true friends. They have never come to visit me at all, as I always go visit them, so I guess a guy could say they're not as good of a friend as I make them out to be. I have lots and lots of acquaintances though that I like and get along with, but I don't 100% trust them. They'll help me out if I really need it, but only if it is not real inconvenient for them. I've been burned too many times over the years by going way the hell out of my way to help someone out, only to not have that favor returned.
I am generally an inverted loner anyway and prefer it that way. It makes life simpler.
T, I can relate.
Moving around the country for work makes it difficult to maintain friendships. Sometimes I need to go back to a place I was for various reasons, so it's been easy for me to look up a "friend" while there. Most friends from SoCal were not coming to Bummfugg NW PA just because I was there tho. I did have two friends stop by though......................they were passing through on their way to someplace more exciting I think.
For you, I mean really.......................how many folks want to visit the Rock?
Shove it dude.......but ya...........point taken. PM incoming.
Heck, If I had ever been in the area, I'd have stopped by. Never saw that part of WY. Hope I didn't offend. Awaiting PM.
My family had to be whistleblowers in a church situation a few years ago. The intel was a slam dunk but guess who paid the price? Our family and two others who were party to the whole fiasco. It turned out to be politics over the truth so we had to leave. We as well as the other families lost every friend we had there after decades of attendance. In the end God had the final say and things worked out for the MUCH better down the road. He got the glory and the dog still loves me.
oh a gotta few good friends in different states some friends very close , i just had a nasty back surgery that requires me to wear a big back brace to be wore 24 / 7 for 6 months and house bound for 6 - 8 weeks and friends call and some friends even come over. >> if i had a Hank Williams JR. party right now it would kill me but what a way to go with those young ladies !
JC, you being a huge Alpha male who chooses not to fit in a common slot may put many off. People that flock tend to seek out those w/ common lives. I would guess that you and your family are respected by your neighbors. You have plenty of friends here, small comfort but better than nothing.
You have mentioned your personal hygiene regimen...hmmmm
Passover is a bit over a month away and I'm already getting the goodies (matzo ball soup, gefilte fish, horseradish, etc.) ready. If it will help Mr. Jim feel that he has friends, I'd be happy to drive up and drop off the delicacies. Of course, those who weren't raised eating this stuff usually describe it as "inedible slimy cat food with unbearable heat", so this may actually seem like a threat. It's not.
No potato Latkes? Damn those are good. My girlfriend's Mom used to make them for me
Having no friends kinda sucks. No friends during the covid is worse!
No trouble understanding and agreeing with what you say there. Not in the least imagining that you are in such condition - does not seem you would be there - at all. Intended in the most positive way.
I can honestly say that I only have two true friends. They have never come to visit me at all, as I always go visit them, so I guess a guy could say they're not as good of a friend as I make them out to be. I have lots and lots of acquaintances though that I like and get along with, but I don't 100% trust them. They'll help me out if I really need it, but only if it is not real inconvenient for them. I've been burned too many times over the years by going way the hell out of my way to help someone out, only to not have that favor returned.
I am generally an inverted loner anyway and prefer it that way. It makes life simpler.
I just realized I have a brother like that. About 10 years ago, I just decided to not call or visit anymore, see what happens. Been quiet ever since.
I really only have two "close" friends. Not counting the Redhead. One 6,000 miles away, the other 11,000. Talk to both every couple of months or so, which is plenty. Things don't change fast at our age.
Jim, you seem like a great guy. You're witty, and likeable. Get some vitamin D or sunshine and text me your number. We may never meet, but give me give me that number and I'll bullchit with anytime you want.
I read most of your posts and comments and it seems lately you been feeling down.
Couple of things. You are pretty popular here at the fire so I'm thinking the ones who forgot to give you the big invite may not be keen judges of good people.
It is also my observation that [bleep] runs in strings. Rough strings feel like they will never end but they do.. Good strings never last long enough. To get to a good string you just have to stay in the game long enough for the rough string to run it's course.
Count your blessings, From your posted pics i see many.
I read most of your posts and comments and it seems lately you been feeling down.
Couple of things. You are pretty popular here at the fire so I'm thinking the ones who forgot to give you the big invite may not be keen judges of good people.
It is also my observation that [bleep] runs in strings. Rough strings feel like they will never end but they do.. Good strings never last long enough. To get to a good string you just have to stay in the game long enough for the rough string to run it's course.
Count your blessings, From your posted pics i see many.
Ok Jim , the smart azz remark I made regarding 30-30 shells and gophers was uncalled for..... sorry.... I would be your friend even without those things.... I have to warn you, I bring nothing to the table....
FWIW I have Jim's address on file(on a box in my garage) and if anyone is interested in sending a care package I would be more than happy to share it with strangers.
Ok Jim , the smart azz remark I made regarding 30-30 shells and gophers was uncalled for..... sorry.... I would be your friend even without those things.... I have to warn you, I bring nothing to the table....
FWIW I have Jim's address on file(on a box in my garage) and if anyone is interested in sending a care package I would be more than happy to share it with strangers.
FWIW I have Jim's address on file(on a box in my garage) and if anyone is interested in sending a care package I would be more than happy to share it with strangers.
FWIW I have Jim's address on file(on a box in my garage) and if anyone is interested in sending a care package I would be more than happy to share it with strangers.
Easy Rod......easy Rod!
Thanks fellas....I okay today!
No need to do anything for me......please!
Anybody that can roll out a super troopers line has got to be ok
FWIW I have Jim's address on file(on a box in my garage) and if anyone is interested in sending a care package I would be more than happy to share it with strangers.
FWIW I have Jim's address on file(on a box in my garage) and if anyone is interested in sending a care package I would be more than happy to share it with strangers.
I got something I can send him.
#slightlyused
lol
Prepaid UPS shipping! I have one of those kits just waiting for action.
FWIW I have Jim's address on file(on a box in my garage) and if anyone is interested in sending a care package I would be more than happy to share it with strangers.
I got something I can send him.
#slightlyused
lol
Prepaid UPS shipping! I have one of those kits just waiting for action.
No wonder Jim is feeling blue.... with friends like this....
Friends are people I sit around a campfire with, inevitably discussing things as the occasion progresses and sharing stories and insights, be it lighthearted humor or deeper subjects. I have no desire to mingle with a bunch of non-like-minded folks and pretend to enjoy it.
I'll help anyone out, my best buddy always said, add a person add a problem. I've lost two good friends and my best dog in the last few years. And to be honest I don't have the time or energy to have anymore.
I have two friends that would roll with me if we were pretty damn sure we weren't coming back. Might be three, working on another now. A man doesn’t need too many if the ones he has are exceptional. At another level, my wife is that loyal, and would die right next to me if it came to us. Hell, she lives right next to me, dying there would be easier.
Man with a family like Jim’s shouldn’t be in any danger. He’s got it all to live for. Those kids, hell, I don’t even know them, but I would be running to help if they needed it. Smiles like that are too precious. Parents have to be good folks, and are in my good folks list.
That must be why no one invites us to these otherwise well attended parties....
Jim this virus has changed allot of things. We used to have family here at our house for Sunday dinner. Now they won't get out. Don't want me around either. I think the virus has been an excuse at times though. I am on one side of many things some of my family dislikes. I'm conservative and believe in making my own way so the current slime in charge really bothers me. They know that and that's why the stay away. I've decided staying away is fine now.
Then the friend part. I might have more than I realize. Most likely you do too. All this political stuff happening has stressed that. I haven't changed though and don't understand why they have or seem to. But the clincher is looking ahead. I see our nation in for a bad time and our values are under attack. It's okay for a pervert to go into the girls bathroom but if I drag the dirty piece of trash out by the hair of the head I likely get arrested. Sometimes I feel like my world is closing in all around me. What do I do, I take long walks and talk with God about it. That's been my refuge for years. When it all breaks loose and the shooting starts we'll likely be on the same side.
Grandpa used to tell me to be encouraged. I'll pass that on from him to you.
I prefer to keep my association with others distant and superficial these days. Lack of a social circle doesn't bother me one bit.
You have a pretty wife, a Labrador retriever and an 8N Ford tractor to drive to the liquor store and some broken shot guns needin' some fixin'. You have it all.
I prefer to keep my association with others distant and superficial these days. Lack of a social circle doesn't bother me one bit.
You have a pretty wife, a Labrador retriever and an 8N Ford tractor to drive to the liquor store and some broken shot guns needin' some fixin'. You have it all.
kwg
Like I said. I'm happy with a very limited social circle. None, actually.
FWIW I have Jim's address on file(on a box in my garage) and if anyone is interested in sending a care package I would be more than happy to share it with strangers.
I got something I can send him.
#slightlyused
lol
Prepaid UPS shipping! I have one of those kits just waiting for action.
Me too!
Had it for two weeks now. Keep thinking I need to do it, but, "Awwww schdit, it can wait!"
Having an abrasive personality, I had few friends for years. My folks used put a beef bone in my pocket so the dogs would play with me. But then I got a nice ocean going fishing boat...wow, had friends beatin' my door down.
Having an abrasive personality, I had few friends for years. My folks used put a beef bone in my pocket so the dogs would play with me. But then I got a nice ocean going fishing boat...wow, had friends beatin' my door down.
Still got that boat?
I've got gas money next ablie season. I can meet you over on the coast or at your place and I'll ride over with you.
FWIW I have Jim's address on file(on a box in my garage) and if anyone is interested in sending a care package I would be more than happy to share it with strangers.
I got something I can send him.
#slightlyused
lol
I just call them on the phone, no need to mail a sample, and they tell me I'm all in the clear and that I'm juss full of crap...
Farmers /ranchers are like retired folks except they have to work every day................but every day could be Monday, or Thursday. Makes no nevermind, eh?