Well, I decided after being by myself for a while id move one in. We've known each other awhile, and im very happy. Moved her in friday. Inherited a cat too but it seems to be adjusting fine.

We both have a past, just as most do. Neithers been even been close to spotless. Shes been married 3 times, me, never been. Shes just out of a 5 yr relationship, but says she hasnt loved him for the last 2. Ive been runnin women for almost 11 yrs, except for a short stint with one for a few months, she just wasnt happy with me and the outdoors.....sent her down the road when she gave me an ultimatum.

We talked about "us" while she was still with the other guy, and both seem to be on the same page. Shes only been in a few days, and everything is going fine, except one area. I cant understand why, but we both are rehashing questions about our pasts, questions I thought we both answered, many times, since we both started talking way back.

Ive always been the "past is the past" type, and leave any jealous thoughts of those days back there....keep truckin. So why the 20 questions, from both of us, now?

You all are still feeling each other out. You will have to draw a line in the sand, enough about the past, let all that old cshit go.

Good luck

Ain't learned [bleep] about living with one yet obvously. Might as well as why Hoppes smells good.

Good luck.

"past is the past"

Been my experience this is an impossible trait for the female of the species.

But wishing you good luck!!!

Thanks, im gonna need it it seems. Aint never had so many questions in any relationship, ever. Which made me ask a million questions. Almost made me think shes thinkin if she made the right decision. Dont get me wrong, shes been really going out of her way to make me sure she wants to be here. Hell she came from another state to be here. Im just thinking with all the questions, she may not be as sure as she thought. Hell, who knows, day by day.

Move her back out before the boxes are unpacked. I wouldn't give your relationship 2 years.

She has no idea what she wants. Three marriages later, just out of a five year relationship and living with you, talking to you while she was with him, now 20 questions...

well since you're posting this on a public forum, I'll give my .02 cents





I wouldn't unpack my bags.

The past is like herpes...it is always with you...you just get some time between outbreaks.

Thats what bothers me. Least she was out of bed bright and early to go check on a job at the hospital. Aint afraid of work, this one. Had a whole list of "must dos" today to get rooted. Rearranged the kitchen yesterday, cant find my coffee cups, so think shes here to stay. Just....the questions. Like I said, aint ever had that before, specially after we talked for so long.

Forget about the past. Start fresh with the first day you Two met. The rest and best of your lives is ahead of you. Hasbeen

Appreciate it. Think ill go to the range before work, think about some stuff, and see if I get any "where u at, u didnt tell me u were leaving" texts Thanks for the ear fellas!

From the sounds of then, it appears you have a woman who thinks to much. Save the moving boxes.

jorge's philosophy on females (excluding one's mother of course);

1. The BEST one you will ever meet is still a pain in the ass.
2. If they didn't have a hole, there'd be a bounty on them

Mitigating above two; big tits.

If she asks a question, just say, that's the past. Our time is now. Everyday is a good day! They are going to re-arrange things. You can't sweat the small cshit. Tell her you like it.

80%er

Pick the one with the biggest tits you can tolerate the most.

I predict that this will become a thread of epic proportions. Asking these guys for relationship advice is like asking Rosie O'Donnell for diet recommendations.........................

Have low expectations.

Trust issues and seeking a reaction.

I had to laugh with my buddy one day. He says he moved his GF in with him, they bought a new mattress and all. Then one night he said wanted "some". She told him she was tired yada yada. He says to me "now she's started this crap". Typical woman.

WINNER!

Got any pics?

Just like a boxing match. The first couple of rounds she'll test your defenses, then she'll come at you for real.





P

THIS is what you need.

I'd offer some insightful relationship advise, but, you know, it's been pretty well hammered home that I suck at it so good luck chump. I like the advice about picking the one that's easy to look at and you can tolerate the best. Is that about the best you can hope for, does anyone know for sure?

Vegas would open the over/under at 3.

Hey now, my advice is based on years of suffering. I mean years of experience.

1) "We talked about "us" while she was still with the other guy"

She'll do the same thing to you when the new wears off.

2) "She's been married 3 times"

If she's been married 3 times you need to know some of the reasons they didn't work out. Have you met her Mother? Women usually turn into their Mothers.

3) "She's just out of a 5 yr. relationship"

I bet it wasn't her only live in relationship. Women don't like to tell you about those.

4) "Hell she came from another state to be here."

She moved from another state to be with you? Sounds like she's desperate. I'd get a criminal background check and a financial background check done on her.

5) "Inherited a cat too"

That would be the deal breaker for me. You don't mention kids (another deal breaker) but after 3 marriages seems like she should have some.

If you are never been married single man with no crazy ex-wife to deal with, have a good job, aren't a drug addict or have a criminal record there are lots of really hot divorced women out there looking for you. Be patient.

it has to be 50/50.

If it aint......keep moving.

If it's got tits or tires it's gonna give you trouble! FACT!

It's never 50/50. Somebody always has to drive more than 50% of the time.

Buds advice from years ago. Marry a woman that loves you more than you love her.

Smart money is taking the under.

Addition: Another Bud quoted the tits and tires line often.

Have fun while it lasts.

Nothing is forever. Nothing.

If it cant be 50/50.........maybe its not the womans fault.

Just learn to choose your battles, learn to fight fair, don't dwell on the past chapters, get one where you have some things in common besides the bedroom and learn to say "Yes, Dear" real early. I'd keep that one with three marriages auditioning for a while. Once they hear you say "I do", they don't anymore. Cooking lasts longer than some other things. For a single guy without lots of baggage with a few bucks in the bank, the world is your oyster. I was overseas on business, single and with a US Passport and lots of very nice women want into the USA real badly. You don't have to settle. The Internet dating sites are full of very nice women if you have something to bring to the table.

WTF?

You are probably one of the smartest dudes I've ever talked to on the Internet..........

It is a lot of fun living with woman. When it is not fun get rid of them. Find new fun ones.

Big tits are a precursor for fat ass and other expensive surgical maintenance.

I told my son if he gets serious about being married, he needs to take a long look at her momma, cause that is what he going to be married to in about 25 years.

I find it difficult to respect anything that would sleep with me.




Dave

good luck.

Is it possible that she is seeking reassurance from you with all her questions? Just a thought, but she may be needing a lot of support and reassurance since she has had so many failures before. It's possible she wants to make sure she doesn't make any of the mistakes that caused you to end the relationships with your previous ladies,so she wants to get all the details on what went wrong before her. She may be thinking this might be her last chance not to die alone, and she may be overdoing it.

I struggled to find a woman who was smart, but was not a bitch.
I thought I found one, and have been married 39 years.


But it turns out she has bitchy thoughts.

Hope it works.

Indicators suggest she is gonna further your education....

Sex must be real good if your taking on baggage like that. I suspect that will not be the case for long.

Its always the mans fault, if he breaths.

"get one where you have some things in common"

This was the point at which ALL (yes ALL) my hobbies became just another job.

I remember my first serious girlfriend and being amazed that she was giving "it" to me.

Same thing.

Laffin'. I fear you are correct. It's stupefying just how primitive the human male"s dating/mating instincts are, mine included.

Should have never moved her in. Maybe down the road, but she ain't ready and you need to be on your toes. Trouble ahead. Too many "serious" relationships that went down the crapper. She is the common denominator. Tell her that you want to start going to church (if you don't already) and watch her reaction.

As others have said, save the moving boxes. Theres two things you NEVER talk to women about...One is other women ( past relationships...)


repeat: NEVER


Its none of her business, its past history and its yours.....and its the kind of thing women dwell on and eventually use as ammo.

Especially if the other woman is her sister....

Based on what you posted and asked, am thinking that you already have sifted the contents and calculated an answer. Are you seeking rebuttal from folks here? You may obtain more useful results by asking yourself what you truly want in such a deal, and then answering yourself in a brutally honest manner.

Yeah..they REALLY hate that!

woman across the street is one of them that ain't happy unless she is in the middle of some schit - fighting with a neighbor or taking up a cause that only she believes in , raising some crazy ass kids from 3 different daddies with an ex that is stalking her and a hubby that doesn't appreciate her.

some women just want drama in their lives - I guess its better to them than just living the same day over and over again .

My nephew married a woman like that. A day doesn't go by she isn't fighting with someone

I see that crap on social media - always posting something about trust, friendship, what a good man is, how she demands the best of her man, on and on. Can't figure out if she has all the answers how she always end up with a loser.

At my age, there ain't enough hormones in me to make me want to deal with that level of headache.

I can't see any reason why this relationship won't fail miserably, but maybe I'm missing something.

especially after our responses.

I bet he has some questions now too

gonna be alot of questions in that house tonight.

Or brother.

They are pretty picky, I'll tell ya that...

Keep her packing boxes near, in case!

Before you move in with any woman take her to some beach or mountain house getaway for 2 solid weeks. You'll know real fast if living together is a good or bad idea.

Wished I had done that with the last redhead who lived here. I would have known the answer after the first day!

OP I do hope this works out for you. Stay on it!

i can see from the situation where people would say legitimately way too much too quick.
well
once upon a time i met this woman age 37 with three kids just coming out of a 15year marriage. oldest kid was just 10 years younger than me.
within 15minutes of our first lunch date i was twitterpated. took about two years to legalize it.
I remember people telling me because of age difference etc it would not last one year.
little off on the timing thing, been over 40years now and i see no change coming.
Have there been problems, sure, we worked through them.
Would do it over again in a minute.
Another comment on the big tits thing other than it being a kids fascination. you do realize pretty soon they reach the knees.
They have to tie them up.

I'd run this one to the end, which ain't too far off. Then go back to the rental units.

If it Flies, Floats, or F#$ks it's cheaper to rent.

I gotta agree with Victoro here. She's gonna drop you like she dropped her most recent....wasn't "in love" for the last two years? Why did she not do something to fix that instead of finding another fella to "confide in"?

She needs to be able to eat animals you killed and hunt animals too.

Rodeo Sex anyone?

FIXT -LIKE THE INDIANS.


Strange, no mention of kids involved. Some women are good at getting hitched.

Both of y'all !

you should have went on a few vacations first. moving in is serious business. you can damn sure bet she is going through your schit with a fine tooth comb when you ain't there. 3 ex-husbands have seriously dented this one. if i found out somebody was divorced more than twice, i'd steer clear for all but casual encounters. the 20 questions thing is her trying to catch you in a lie. just fold them moving boxes and store them in the garage.

The only thing different about women is their addresses.

Lets see....

Keep boxes stored
Shop Jared
Lock up schit
Screw her sister and brother if she gives me schit

...at work, writing important stuff down as needed. 'Preciate it! 😁

Living with them is one thing, but you're actually trying to have a serious conversation with one?...this won't end well...

Women are like monkeys, they won't let go of one branch until they have a firm grip on another.

Yep. That pretty much nails it.

But considering where you live, I imagine the picking are pretty slim. All the smart girls moved away a long time ago.

Don't forget the "Mac & Cheese" post, you ain't allowed to use logic during an argument !!!

She sounds like the type that cannot live on her own and that's a big danger sign imo

Good luck all it takes is one crazy mood swing and a call to the cops and you could lose all your firearms rights or spend a lot of money trying keep them

What assets does she bring and her credit rating?

Monkey meet branch

We need boob pics

3 dudes have dumped her .

No job.

You're screwed.


mike r

That's the spirit Jorge!

Firm over big any day

I've evolved

Can't believe this hasn't been mentioned yet as it is eternal wisdom from the fire...if lonely...dog...get one. I really do hope it works out for ya though.

A wise friend once told me "that relationships are like garage sales, they seem interesting until you get in there and realize it's all a bunch of crap that you really don't need". And secondly, they all have an expiration date, except when you meet them, you don't know if you ended up with a gallon of milk or a box of Twinkies.......

Most certainly agree with that, but so far with with me I have been able to go 32 years with very few and thankfully minor out breaks.

Ok, dog fugker.



Dave

Hey...sex is sex!!

That's what they say in Arkansas.

And prison.





Dave

isn't that the point ?

I'm sure her having been married 3X be says nothing...

Carry on

Don't forget, due to MOST residency laws, in a very short time it will be illegal to make her leave.
She will have the same right to stay in your house as you do.

The first piece of mail she gets at your house will have a notation on the back of it saying....

"YOUR TOAST"

Get rid of the foocki ng cat.

Then there's THIS...

PENNSYLVANIA COURT STRIKES DOWN ORDINANCE LIMITING NUMBER OF CATS PER RESIDENCE

Cat laws

Update......shes history! Made it 4 weeks....lol. Everything was great first 3. Last week she was sick and I tried to call her twice. Never answered. Came home from work and she said she never got the calls. Showed me her phone. The calls didnt go through. No problem. Next day I said honey we need to get you another phone provider so we dont have this problem again. She went off! Said " I had this line for 10 yrs and I aint paying more than $35 for a damn phone! Further more I aint ever going on another guys phone plan!!" I said I never asked you to go on my plan, but sob I wanna get through to ya when I want to. Then she said wtf did you wanna get ahold of me for? I said I just wanted to check on ya and make sure you were ok.

Next day I told her I didnt care for the attitude the night before. If ya ever get like that again you might as well pack your bags. She said dont threaten me! I didnt, I meant it, and she was gone within an hour.

Dont know what her problem is, but shes no longer my problem. Friends for 7 yrs and in one month she turned into a bitch.

Most of y'all were right. Guess ya never really know someone.

Sorry to hear. It's never easy.

No need be sorry. Is what it is. I mean, hate to lose a friend, hate it didnt work, but id rather her gone now than get screwed bigtime later on ya know?

Well...bye...

Really, sorry how this one turned out. Hang in there, there will be others.

Should have got the dog...

Dog hell...im goin for big tits this time

Better it happened now than later down the road.

I'm reminded of 'rodeo sex'.

Yup.

All in all it just took up a month of your off time, you got your house cleaned and hopefully had some good nookie. Not too much invested and you got her out without too much drama.

I'll second the idea of going for the big tits next time

Maybe a dog with big tits. Works for the A-rabs. Well...I mean, if a goat is a dog. They are kinda alike.

Wife has a sister that has been married 5 times, twice to the guy she's married to now. She was married to him five years the first time, divorced him and shortly after moved some dumb hick in. He wouldn't do any chores around the house so she moved him out. She's been married to her "ex" now for about 15 yrs. now, he let her quit her job and now she runs around with her unmarried sister spending money like it's going out of style. Oh well if it works for the guy, she's had her share of health problems currently she's piled on 70+ pounds and is going blind so she's a real prize. The guy always has let women's chit roll off his back, dismissing it as "that's just the way women are". I've been married to her sister for 30 yrs. and totally agree with women turning into their mother's not long after getting married. Best part about this one is that she neither drinks nor smokes and wouldn't ever consider cheating.

"We talked about "us" while she was still with the other guy"

My buddy always likens them to monkeys in this respect...they don't let go of one vine until they have a firm grip on another.

Also his sage advice is bang the hell out of them, but bore them to death if you want them to leave. Don't shop, go to the movies, travel, or otherwise spend any money. Then, they'll WANT to leave, and will grab the next vine.

He knows I have a big trash pump and a pond and tells me to fire that thing up and fire hose them off the front porch. As I get older, I find I really don't need a woman around as much...my kubota does more work, and my kayak is more fun.

I knew a man that had been married to 4 out of 5 Daughters in a family. Said it kept him from breaking in a new Mother-in-law. Dead now from a car wreck. miles

Go get another one. There is plenty out there.

Good idea

It don't count if he was their brother too...

I wonder who was driving the other car?

This was an easy one

This chit pizzes me off............how some guys escape so cheap/easy.

Now go find her hotter sister, and move her in for 5 weeks and then kick her to the curb..........should sit very well with the former.

i predict she'll be back. my buddy is going through this now. he's a great guy but the poontang gets him everytime. i made the mistake of letting him know what i thought the first time it went south and now its a little cool between us, especially when she's around. but its only a matter of time before she goes Misery on him again.

A wise choice...

Poetic justice? Sounds like the guy's life was one big car wreck.

Throw your magic 8 ball out, shes not coming back. 1st, right now I do miss her, I wanted it to work, but I been down that road before with someone else. Shes not welcome here anymore. 2nd, when a relationshio goes belly up, she turns into an ice queen. I saw how she acted when she got divorced the last time. I no longer exist to her. If anyone asks what went wrong, she'll say the same thing she always has, it was a mutual split, which is total horsecrap.

Right now ill guarantee shes eyeing up a new pecker to ride. Just the way she is. And im not sitting on my ass either. Yeah it hurts I lost a friend of 7 yrs, but im not gonna sit around boo hooing, I wanna have fun. Which means huntings here, the mountains are calling my name, and theres 3 new blondes and one brunette just started in at work. Time to get friendly with somebody new.

At least she's not leaving with "half" your stuff!

Glad to hear that you were able to get out of the situation relatively quickly. I am not making any judgements here, but in my opinion, there were numerous red flags you should have seen before getting involved with a such a woman. In my estimation, you already knew the answer. You began this thread for a reason. Your conscious, your "inner voice," knew this is was a mistake. Your heart was attempting to overrule your brain/conscience. Should you be faced with a similar situation in the future, my advice would be to listen to your conscious. Failure to do so can lead to complete and utter misery. There's a reason her 3 marriages failed as well as her last 5-year shack-up. Your conscious is there for a reason, listen to it.

Sorry it didn't work for you but did you really, really expect it too? Lotta baggage there. Find one with a smaller suitcase..............

MM

Find a widow. They are usually lonely, can cook, are single through no fault of their own and ended up with all his stuff including his bank account.

I don't think it was his heart doing the overruling.

Indeed. That was my attempt to phrase it politely.

Perhaps it was a hearing issue and "hard" became "heart".

It sounds like the OP knew the writing was on the wall and just wanted to check himself out with the Campfire boys. 2 days after he started this thread, she was gone.

There were definitely some red flags with this one.

Wow.

Coming here for relationship advice.

You have to ask yourself. "Maybe it's me?"

No!!!! Not someone you work with. Not a good idea!

Waylon on women....

those used /recycled women there is a reason they can`t stay with one decent man ? there nuts ! get rid of her! I have been there and done that . your better off alone and just sleep with a few once in while.

In the future, make that your first hint.

Haven't seen a woman worth a chit yet that didn't have the tits to leave a bad man or relationship before starting another.

Have a buddy that keeps fallin' into that trap. It's always the same thing "yeah, she's still married technically (or still together...whatever) but they don't sleep in the same bed, and she is going to leave him when she can". I always ask him "do you go down on her" Well, of course he does. I then always ask what her husband's / boyfriend's d!ck tastes like....because if she's "with" him "technically" chances are she's still fuggin' him and as far as he is aware, things are all rosey at home and her stepping out is probably the furthest thing from his mind.

Cheating. If they do it WITH you, the will eventually do it TO you (once you're her new azzhole and she "hasn't loved YOU for years". Best early indicator of a weak woman is one who will screw you while she's still with someone else.

Exactly.

And not one you would want long-term. Take what you need and move on down the road - the faster the better.

Little head thinking for the big head....

Maybe next time you'll try dating first.