I've owned two .458WM rifles, one custom, one Ruger 77, neither bothered me. Crossfireoops' 8Bore with 240gr of Fg was a handful and so was RIO7's .460 Howell, but they aren't obnoxious.
I shot tex_n_cal's #1 .458WM and I don't want to do that again.
Another friend of mine had a Remington 700 in .30-06 in a 1st Generation Bell & Carlson stock and that thing flat out hurt to shoot.
Stock design, proper gun mount, knowing how to roll with the recoil make all the difference in the world.
Ed