I'm down in Oregon Steelheading for the last 10 days at my best Buds house. He has to work during the day, so I'm mainly fishing and playing with the Dogs. My best buds wife is in the UK on a business trip, so I thought
Here is where it gets slimey...I had to make a trip to Fred Meyers (sort of like a Target store) to pick up some Molley screws. When I entered the store, there is a Peets Coffee cafe, low an behold I see Leslie and some other dude being all lovey dovey They both had their elbows on the table, both leaning over about 6" apart. I'm just SHOCKED!
I thought they had a really good marriage??
I feel physically sick to my stomach, and don't know what to do? She was suppose to arrive tomorrow,infact my bud is suppose to pick her up at the airport. I'm almost 99% sure that she didn't see me. I sat in my truck for several minutes comptanplating to go and introduce myself...but chicken out.
Now I don't know what the hel! to do? Should I tell him? or pretend nothing happened. I'm leaning towards telling him, that won't be easy to do. They have been married for close to 20 years, no kids.
I'm down in Oregon Steelheading for the last 10 days at my best Buds house. He has to work during the day, so I'm mainly fishing and playing with the Dogs. My best buds wife is in the UK on a business trip, so I thought
Here is where it gets slimey...I had to make a trip to Fred Meyers (sort of like a Target store) to pick up some Molley screws. When I entered the store, there is a Peets Coffee cafe, low an behold I see Leslie and some other dude being all lovey dovey They both had their elbows on the table, both leaning over about 6" apart. I'm just SHOCKED!
I thought they had a really good marriage??
I feel physically sick to my stomach, and don't know what to do? She was suppose to arrive tomorrow,infact my bud is suppose to pick her up at the airport. I'm almost 99% sure that she didn't see me. I sat in my truck for several minutes comptanplating to go and introduce myself...but chicken out.
Now I don't know what the hel! to do? Should I tell him? or pretend nothing happened. I'm leaning towards telling him, that won't be easy to do. They have been married for close to 20 years, no kids.
Any advice would be very helpful. GDTFH!!
I'd play private detective and take some pics if I had a camera. If I didn't, I'd run and get a cheap one right quick. I'd follow them to the motel and get some shots too. Make sure the camera has a date setting so it shows the time and date and your buddy knows they were hanky pankying when she was supposed to be in England. Then I'd phone him.
Be advised it may go to hell with your buddy because you know how these things work...bearer of bad news and all. But in the end, you gotta do what you gotta do. The cheating cunnt deserves it.
Telling him is the right thing to do, beyond that let him deal with it and be there for him if he need you. At the end of the day you have to be able to look at yourself in the mirror.
Tell him, and get store surveillance of the event.
Gunner
That's a good idea. I would observe and not engage. Then report your recon intel to your buddy.
Right EE, I helped a Brotha out once in a similar situation, he said it saved him better than 60K a [bleep] year on child support and alimony. fookin whores.
I'm down in Oregon Steelheading for the last 10 days at my best Buds house. He has to work during the day, so I'm mainly fishing and playing with the Dogs. My best buds wife is in the UK on a business trip, so I thought
Here is where it gets slimey...I had to make a trip to Fred Meyers (sort of like a Target store) to pick up some Molley screws. When I entered the store, there is a Peets Coffee cafe, low an behold I see Leslie and some other dude being all lovey dovey They both had their elbows on the table, both leaning over about 6" apart. I'm just SHOCKED!
I thought they had a really good marriage??
I feel physically sick to my stomach, and don't know what to do? She was suppose to arrive tomorrow,infact my bud is suppose to pick her up at the airport. I'm almost 99% sure that she didn't see me. I sat in my truck for several minutes comptanplating to go and introduce myself...but chicken out.
Now I don't know what the hel! to do? Should I tell him? or pretend nothing happened. I'm leaning towards telling him, that won't be easy to do. They have been married for close to 20 years, no kids.
if he's your Bud, you gotta tell him. I had an incident like this about 10 years ago. I see my Buds wife and some guy in a parking lot fooling around outside of the car...kissing fondling etc.
I thought about it for all of about 10 minutes and called my friend. He worked out of town at the time. Long story short, they divorced and he has thanked me numerous times over the years
I'm not telling the OP what to do here, but... How do you think the friend would feel about you later down the line if he finds you that you knew about this and didn't tell him much earlier?
You do have to be careful with that. Many years ago, we noticed that the wife of the couple next door was having a torrid romance with another guy. Loyal to our friend, we let the air out of a couple of his tires one night just 'cause. Turned out it was wife swapping. Our friend was with Romeo's wife at the same time.
But, yeah, I'd tell my bud. Might be that he knows and doesn't care. But then the decision on what to do is his.
You do have to be careful with that. Many years ago, we noticed that the wife of the couple next door was having a torrid romance with another guy. Loyal to our friend, we let the air out of a couple of his tires one night just 'cause. Turned out it was wife swapping. Our friend was with Romeo's wife at the same time.
But, yeah, I'd tell my bud. Might be that he knows and doesn't care. But then the decision on what to do is his.
Gotta be a pretty good friend or OKOK wouldn't know she was supposed to be in England. If it was wife swapping, more than likely the story wouldn't be that elaborate or exist at all. If it's wife swapping, I doubt his friend will get mad. Also, doubtful they'd be in some Target-type store, they'd instead have went straight to the motel room. Likely this is a meet with some dude from her work.
If OKOK doesn't tell his bud, his bud may be in for not only a hard fall psychologically, but financially as well. Sounds like a plan is involved here.
Tell him, and get store surveillance of the event.
Gunner
That's a good idea. I would observe and not engage. Then report your recon intel to your buddy.
Right EE, I helped a Brotha out once in a similar situation, he said it saved him better than 60K a [bleep] year on child support and alimony. fookin whores.
Just make sure your bro doesn't do something counterproductive like shoot them both or beat the shixt out of somebody. Stuff like this takes a cool head to prevail and violence ain't the answer.
If I were him, I'd be cool... pick her up at the airport as planned, ask her about the trip, etc., and then later check her passport for the UK entry/exit stamps. If there's nothing there, you know what's up.
If I had knowledge of my pard cheating I would take it with me to my grave. If I had knowledge of his wife cheating he would know about it with an offer to help in any way I could.
I love my best friend's wife and kids like they are my own and would do anything for them. That said, he was my friend before his wife came along and will continue to be if they ever split. I'll still go to hell-and-back for the kids regardless.....
I'm not telling the OP what to do here, but... How do you think the friend would feel about you later down the line if he finds you that you knew about this and didn't tell him much earlier?
Like someone said before, I would hate to be in your shoes.
On a side note, why the fcuk would someone say they are going to Europe and then stay in the same town with their fling? Not only do you have to fake being in flipping Europe (don't they call each other?)you also highly risk getting seen.
If you knew he was cheating on her, would you tell her?
Kind of a valid question too.
My reply is I'd tell him what I thought I saw, as a friend, and let him take it from there. Because you also don't really know what you saw for sure. Though it seemed obvious.
Tell no one. Delete your post. Erase all from your memory.
Otherwise you could make enemies on both sides.
Just play dumb.
You're a spineless crank-wanker!!
I wouldn't want to tell him but I would definitely want to know if I were him. That beotch could bring home VD/AIDS too so I wouldn't waste any time letting him know so he can protect himself and prepare to protect what's HIS!! Like EE said, if you can get pics - that would be help in more ways than one. Sorry you have to be the one to do it though.....
Amen. That's a conundrum I wouldn't want to have to solve.
Try looking at it like this, okok. If you and your buddy reversed roles, what would you want him to do?
That's the first thing that came to my mind, I would want to know. I don't know if she even went to the UK? Maybe a co worker? THIS SUCKS!
No doubt your position sucks. If it helps you any - if I was your buddy and it was my wife you saw with another man, I'd damn sure want to know.
11-12 years ago I saw my girlfriend driving through town with some guy in her passenger seat. The passenger seat of the vehicle that I put gas in on occasion, the vehicle washed for her and changed the oil in. When I caught up to her you can bet your azz that I confronted her. She, of course, feigned innocence, claiming it was just a lunch date. She was stunned a little while later when I broke up with her for good.
It sucks having to rock your bud's world, but IMHO, he needs to know.
I had a feeling my ex was [bleep]'n around but decided it was not working so we divorced peacefully; I had a plan and that plan was to get custody without a fight.
My daughters said they hated their mom's boyfriend for screwing up the family, that is when I figured out they knew about the [bleep]'r and before I did. They were young, between 7-9 so understandably, they are at no fault in my eyes.
I would not cover for my best bud's wife over our friendship, no chance.
I'm down in Oregon Steelheading for the last 10 days at my best Buds house. He has to work during the day, so I'm mainly fishing and playing with the Dogs. My best buds wife is in the UK on a business trip, so I thought
Here is where it gets slimey...I had to make a trip to Fred Meyers (sort of like a Target store) to pick up some Molley screws. When I entered the store, there is a Peets Coffee cafe, low an behold I see Leslie and some other dude being all lovey dovey They both had their elbows on the table, both leaning over about 6" apart. I'm just SHOCKED!
I thought they had a really good marriage??
I feel physically sick to my stomach, and don't know what to do? She was suppose to arrive tomorrow,infact my bud is suppose to pick her up at the airport. I'm almost 99% sure that she didn't see me. I sat in my truck for several minutes comptanplating to go and introduce myself...but chicken out.
Now I don't know what the hel! to do? Should I tell him? or pretend nothing happened. I'm leaning towards telling him, that won't be easy to do. They have been married for close to 20 years, no kids.
Any advice would be very helpful. GDTFH!!
That sucks. You're between a rock and a hard place.
How about telling her what you saw. You can tell her to fess up, or you will tell him.
Bitch.
This.
My only concern would be it gives her time to cook up some sort of bullchit story and she can deflect and play him off as the bad guy "Your best friend knew and he didn't come to you" (in shrill, whiny-azz biotch voice).
I'm down in Oregon Steelheading for the last 10 days at my best Buds house. He has to work during the day, so I'm mainly fishing and playing with the Dogs. My best buds wife is in the UK on a business trip, so I thought
Here is where it gets slimey...I had to make a trip to Fred Meyers (sort of like a Target store) to pick up some Molley screws. When I entered the store, there is a Peets Coffee cafe, low an behold I see Leslie and some other dude being all lovey dovey They both had their elbows on the table, both leaning over about 6" apart. I'm just SHOCKED!
I thought they had a really good marriage??
I feel physically sick to my stomach, and don't know what to do? She was suppose to arrive tomorrow,infact my bud is suppose to pick her up at the airport. I'm almost 99% sure that she didn't see me. I sat in my truck for several minutes comptanplating to go and introduce myself...but chicken out.
Now I don't know what the hel! to do? Should I tell him? or pretend nothing happened. I'm leaning towards telling him, that won't be easy to do. They have been married for close to 20 years, no kids.
Any advice would be very helpful. GDTFH!!
You don't know whether to tell your friend he may be tasting some other dude's dick?
Man up this is a best buddy? Tell him what you saw and how it made you feel. That you didn't know how to play it out but you knew you had to tell him what you saw. As you are best buddies.
The right answer and the easy answer have no relation usually.
If you honestly think that was her canoodling, then would tell my bud, "Hey, it's possible I hallucinated or am wrong, and you know I'd never want to cause trouble in your marriage, but I swear to God unless your wife has a twin I saw her with some guy in the cafe. Isn't she in England? I'm as confused as [bleep]." Then after a few beers, however he wants to address it, stay out of the way but for the being a friend part. Put it respectfully, and hope to be wrong is about all one can do, isn't it?
#1. Take friend out for some beers to pay him back for letting you stay at his place. #2. Pose him a hypothetical question. "If someone saw your wife cuddling up to another dude, would you want them to tell you"? What would your friend want and what would he do? #3. You buddy gives you the answer to your question, and he can't really get mad at you for following his own advice.
#1. Take friend out for some beers to pay him back for letting you stay at his place. #2. Pose him a hypothetical question. "If someone saw your wife cuddling up to another dude, would you want them to tell you"? What would your friend want and what would he do? #3. You buddy gives you the answer to your question, and he can't really get mad at you for following his own advice.
1. Wait a day (If she comes home early and says her trip ran short, then maybe there's nothing to worry about and you misread what you saw.)
2. If she comes home from the airport tomorrow, tell your buddy that you saw something. All he has to do is check her passport to confirm if she ever did go to the UK. If there's nothing there then he has solid proof a trip to the UK didn't happen, she's been caught in a lie, and you have what you saw.
You can't call yourself his friend if you don't tell him what you saw. He'll have to make his own decisions from there, but at least he won't be making them in the dark.
Being a true friend ain't always easy. That's why we have so few true friends in life.
How about telling her what you saw. You can tell her to fess up, or you will tell him.
Bitch.
That can backfire on the OP and his best friend too. It gives her a chance to make up a counter story, maybe even something involving the OP, and also a head start to clean out bank accounts, grab credit cards, and whatever else she can get her hands on. Lying and deceitfulness always play a major role in the cheating game.
The OP might also want to consider how he would personally deal with the part he played in this if some form of violent act were to result from him tipping off his best friend. It could and sometimes does happen.
I'd also make sure any gun he has in the house is removed, along with bow's and knives. I'd then have an EBT card on the table that was filed down to be a shank.
I'd start out with "Man oh man buddy, I swear I saw Leslie, drinking coffe down at Fred Meyers today. Does she have a twin sister?".
Play it by ear from there...
That's what I was thinking too. Let him know what you think you saw in a very casual way, and let him decide what he wants to do without any pressure from you (even inadvertent influence).
The right answer and the easy answer have no relation usually.
If you honestly think that was her canoodling, then would tell my bud, "Hey, it's possible I hallucinated or am wrong, and you know I'd never want to cause trouble in your marriage, but I swear to God unless your wife has a twin I saw her with some guy in the cafe. Isn't she in England? I'm as confused as [bleep]." Then after a few beers, however he wants to address it, stay out of the way but for the being a friend part. Put it respectfully, and hope to be wrong is about all one can do, isn't it?
This type approach is good.
Do NOT accuse anything. If there is some rational explaination for the incident, you won't be the bad guy. If you wrongly accuse, she will never let the relationship be the same again.
The right answer and the easy answer have no relation usually.
If you honestly think that was her canoodling, then would tell my bud, "Hey, it's possible I hallucinated or am wrong, and you know I'd never want to cause trouble in your marriage, but I swear to God unless your wife has a twin I saw her with some guy in the cafe. Isn't she in England? I'm as confused as [bleep]." Then after a few beers, however he wants to address it, stay out of the way but for the being a friend part. Put it respectfully, and hope to be wrong is about all one can do, isn't it?
This type approach is good.
Do NOT accuse anything. If there is some rational explaination for the incident, you won't be the bad guy. If you wrongly accuse, she will never let the relationship be the same again.
I would also plan a vacation starting the day after you tell him. That way he can't pester me about details.
You do have to be careful with that. Many years ago, we noticed that the wife of the couple next door was having a torrid romance with another guy. Loyal to our friend, we let the air out of a couple of his tires one night just 'cause. Turned out it was wife swapping. Our friend was with Romeo's wife at the same time.
laffin.. How do you accidentaly do that? Is like your shoe lace comes untied going down a set of stairs and kicks off a stream of uncontrollable events?...
How about telling her what you saw. You can tell her to fess up, or you will tell him.
Bitch.
This.
That's not a bad option.
That is a REALLY BAD OPTION. Forewarned is forearmed, and trust me she will cover her ass in the blink of an eye, and if that does not work, an absolute tear filled meltdown leading to hot sex might just break the ice between them, long enough for her to come with another angle. The perfect option of course will be for her to convince him it was all his fault one way or the other.
Not all women pull this crap, BUT KNOW, all women have the crafty ability.
Should have sat down at the table with her and asked when she got back.
I would have turned the table over, then told her she has 24 hrs to tell him herself.
Flying [bleep], why would you give some bittch who is [bleep] your buddy over anything? Sometimes doing the right thing ain't easy, but it's always right.
I'm not telling the OP what to do here, but... How do you think the friend would feel about you later down the line if he finds you that you knew about this and didn't tell him much earlier?
Well there is another side. I once was in this position and I told my friend, I thought for sure he'd send her packing. But he didn't, and instead he swallowed his pride. Well the fact that I knew he couldn't man up made it unbearable for him to be around me, so it wasn't him and his wife that went separate ways.
I'm down in Oregon Steelheading for the last 10 days at my best Buds house. He has to work during the day, so I'm mainly fishing and playing with the Dogs. My best buds wife is in the UK on a business trip, so I thought
Here is where it gets slimey...I had to make a trip to Fred Meyers (sort of like a Target store) to pick up some Molley screws. When I entered the store, there is a Peets Coffee cafe, low an behold I see Leslie and some other dude being all lovey dovey They both had their elbows on the table, both leaning over about 6" apart. I'm just SHOCKED!
I thought they had a really good marriage??
I feel physically sick to my stomach, and don't know what to do? She was suppose to arrive tomorrow,infact my bud is suppose to pick her up at the airport. I'm almost 99% sure that she didn't see me. I sat in my truck for several minutes comptanplating to go and introduce myself...but chicken out.
Now I don't know what the hel! to do? Should I tell him? or pretend nothing happened. I'm leaning towards telling him, that won't be easy to do. They have been married for close to 20 years, no kids.
Any advice would be very helpful. GDTFH!!
stay out of it
Stay out for sure. He may already know. If not, he doesn't want to hear it from you.
Tell him! If ya don't you're not much of a friend. It's gonna be hard as he11 and hurt like he11 but you have a obligation as a friend to let him know.
I'm not telling the OP what to do here, but... How do you think the friend would feel about you later down the line if he finds you that you knew about this and didn't tell him much earlier?
Well there is another side. I once was in this position and I told my friend, I thought for sure he'd send her packing. But he didn't, and instead he swallowed his pride. Well the fact that I knew he couldn't man up made it unbearable for him to be around me, so it wasn't him and his wife that went separate ways.
The sad reality of it is the bitch will lie her way out of it at this point.... Wasn't me or we were just having coffee yada yada You need to tell him what you saw and let him put the pieces together
How about telling her what you saw. You can tell her to fess up, or you will tell him.
Bitch.
This.
My only concern would be it gives her time to cook up some sort of bullchit story and she can deflect and play him off as the bad guy "Your best friend knew and he didn't come to you" (in shrill, whiny-azz biotch voice).
George
Yup. I wouldn't involve myself with the female at all, just straight up and in simple terms tell your buddy what you saw and why you told him. If a buddy of mine saw or heard of anything along those lines he'd tell me. The guys I consider friends would tell me, elsewise they would be acquaintences not friends. The earlier you tell him the less potential splatter on you.
okok--It sounds like your best bud has been a great friend, to you.
Re-examine your facts. You need make no accusations. All it takes is something along the lines of: "I thought your wife wasn't returning until today?" Whatever follows will be OK, as long as you are open and honest with your friend.
Does't matter that it is the truth or not, he's going to hate you for telling him. Don't let him know it is you, but let him know what his wife is up to. She should have return ticket stubs from the UK if in case you made a mistake.
Like someone said before, I would hate to be in your shoes.
On a side note, why the fcuk would someone say they are going to Europe and then stay in the same town with their fling? Not only do you have to fake being in flipping Europe (don't they call each other?)you also highly risk getting seen.
She actually goes to the UK often, maybe she went and got back early, I don't know what to believe.
You are going to feel damn stupid if it turns out to be a case of mistaken identity, and you will probably make 2 enemies if you accuse someone and turn out to be wrong.
There are a few folks who look so much alike that it is almost impossible to tell them apart.
Here is how the story goes by telling the wife first. She very well could've gone to the UK for legitimate business and told the best bud that her trip was a day or 2 longer than it actually was. Then okok sees her and confronts her. She tells best bud she came home early and okok made a move on her and now he is making up this story...or a thousand different ways...
Tell him, and get store surveillance of the event.
Gunner
That's a good idea. I would observe and not engage. Then report your recon intel to your buddy.
Right EE, I helped a Brotha out once in a similar situation, he said it saved him better than 60K a [bleep] year on child support and alimony. fookin whores.
Gunner
Whore is right....I'm getting more pissed as time goes on...that BIT!H got me involved in this mess.
I'm not telling the OP what to do here, but... How do you think the friend would feel about you later down the line if he finds you that you knew about this and didn't tell him much earlier?
Well there is another side. I once was in this position and I told my friend, I thought for sure he'd send her packing. But he didn't, and instead he swallowed his pride. Well the fact that I knew he couldn't man up made it unbearable for him to be around me, so it wasn't him and his wife that went separate ways.
He really wasn't much of a friend then.
Don't ever think you mean more to your friend than his wife.
Just make sure your bro doesn't do something counterproductive like shoot them both or beat the shixt out of somebody. Stuff like this takes a cool head to prevail and violence ain't the answer.
He's very level headed, I'm leaving tomorrow, so I think I'm going to tell him at breakfast.
Skipping ahead, because who wants to read all this crap, I'd seize a private moment to tell her "I could have sworn I saw you at (whatever the place was) yesterday. Who was your friend?" My next move would depend on her.
How about telling her what you saw. You can tell her to fess up, or you will tell him.
Bitch.
This.
My only concern would be it gives her time to cook up some sort of bullchit story and she can deflect and play him off as the bad guy "Your best friend knew and he didn't come to you" (in shrill, whiny-azz biotch voice).
Yeah, I like ScottTs approach and then let your buddy take it from there. Plane tickets, reservations, credit card receipts, phone records. I mean everything is easily verified nowadays even by a complete moron once you get the heads up that somethings amiss. It sounds pretty desperate for your friend but for his sake you gotta hope there is some explanation you overlooked. I would not like to be in his shoes....
Just make sure your bro doesn't do something counterproductive like shoot them both or beat the shixt out of somebody. Stuff like this takes a cool head to prevail and violence ain't the answer.
He's very level headed, I'm leaving tomorrow, so I think I'm going to tell him at breakfast.
Just remember that by not talking to her directly at the time, that is just your take on the situation, that it was in fact even her to begin with. Regadless of how certain you are it was her.
Well there is another side. I once was in this position and I told my friend, I thought for sure he'd send her packing. But he didn't, and instead he swallowed his pride. Well the fact that I knew he couldn't man up made it unbearable for him to be around me, so it wasn't him and his wife that went separate ways. [/quote]
Same experiance here. We still see each other semi-regularly though because of mutual friends. I don't regret it, I would want a friend to tell me. He's not mad at me for telling him, He's just ashamed, or atleast thats the vibe I get when I'm around him. Luckly my betterhalf is very cool and doesn't gossip/bicker like alot of females, this makes her kind of a buffer at social functions. This is what I did and I'd do it again, my only advice is to choose my words carefully when talking with him ( goodluck getting alot of sleep tonight with this conversation rolling around in your head). FWIW, when I saw my buddies wife she bouncing ontop of a bass player, what you saw sounded a little bit milder.
I did not read all the replies, but I had a very similar situation happen 20 years ago involving my best friends wife. In fact, I was the best man in their wedding. Long story short, I saw her in a bar clear across town from where they lived making out with some guy in a booth.
I just walked up to the table, looked her straight in the eyes and asked, "are you going to tell him or am I?" She told him the next night and they divorced shortly thereafter.
laffin.. How do you accidentaly do that? Is like your shoe lace comes untied going down a set of stairs and kicks off a stream of uncontrollable events?...
You go to a neighbor's to hang out. A guest is there with short shorts. She believes your bullschit and thinks you're wonderful. You did not plan on her being there, wearing short shorts, or believing your bullschit.
The selfish side says don't tell him, they may have to sell this new home on 3.5 acres on the Clackamas river...lol
Just kidding..I'm telling him in the morning, just kills me I'm in this postion...FCK!
and he's gonna ask you why you didn't say something sooner. at least with you there you can talk to him. don't drop the bomb on him and leave, especially since you've known this long.
That brings up the most important question that needs to be answered in this thread ...
Catchin' any?
The fishing has been pretty slow..I've gone 3 for seven, all Hens, so I have a lot of roe. The water is super low and the water temp is around 47.There's probably a lot of fish stacked in the Willamette, waiting for some rain.
to use an overused term, been there and done that. saw my buddies wife in a car in the park getting cozy with somebody else. they had 3 kids and i was really torn. i ended up telling him and he started crying and told me he was pretty sure already. they divorced, he got hosed and it f'd his life up for close to a decade but he is past it and happy these days.
Does't matter that it is the truth or not, he's going to hate you for telling him. Don't let him know it is you, but let him know what his wife is up to. She should have return ticket stubs from the UK if in case you made a mistake.
Not a chance...were pretty close, I've known him for 18 years.
Does't matter that it is the truth or not, he's going to hate you for telling him. Don't let him know it is you, but let him know what his wife is up to. She should have return ticket stubs from the UK if in case you made a mistake.
Not a chance...were pretty close, I've known him for 18 years.
18 years?!?! Holy [bleep]! You have a "friend" for two decades and you don't want to tell him the hatchet wound he munches on has been slayed by Mandingo?
Do you urinate in the chair at job interviews too? I hope your "friend" punches you in the balls for lack of decisiveness.
I had a buddy/roommate in college tell me he thought my chick was stepping out. I thanked him, and ignored him. He ended up being right. I appreciated him telling me, but disregarded it. Had he known and not told me I'd have whipped his ass. Giving a buddy a heads up is not meddling. Taking pictures, and playing amateur [bleep] detective is meddling.
18 years?!?! Holy [bleep]! You have a "friend" for two decades and you don't want to tell him the hatchet wound he munches on has been slayed by Mandingo?
How do you come up with this..? It's like a "Gift", you should write for Hallmark...have your own line of GFY cards...
18 years?!?! Holy [bleep]! You have a "friend" for two decades and you don't want to tell him the hatchet wound he munches on has been slayed by Mandingo?
How do you come up with this..? It's like a "Gift", you should write for Hallmark...have your own line of GFY cards...
That is it! This is how you should tell him.
Give him a card that says "sorry the hatchet wound you have been munching on has been slayed by Mandingo."
I'm betting that if ages of all the posters were known, us old guys would damn near be unanimous in the " none of your business" category.
Could be that we have seen the hand played out both ways and know the winning strategy.
Keep your mouth shut about it.
Now and forever.
Don't know what age qualifies for being an old guy, but I think I have qualified. And I am calling the keep your mouth closed strategy completely BS.
Flagstaff,
You can be my friend buddy.
Travis
Funny you mention this, because looking at the responders, I was thinking the same thing as I like the way all you guys from Montana see things.
As my Dad used to say, "Doing what is right isn't always easy, but it is always right."
Damn, if I knew my buddy's wife was steppin' out, there is no way I would just "let it go" without at least telling him. What he does from that point is up to him.
Travis, I'm twice your age and I've played all three MALE parts in this little drama at one time or the other.I've been in OKOK's shoes, his buddy's shoes, and I've been the guy across the table from the wife.I've played some of 'em more than once.
In EVERY instance the husband came out ahead when the buddy kept his info and suspicion [that's all OKOK has at this point] of infidelity to himself.
An old Black friend gave me this advice when I was pondering what to do about a situation similar to this, one time.It costs you what it cost me:
"Travis, ask yourself this question; Do I REALLY need any more complications in my life RIGHT NOW"?
18 years?!?! Holy [bleep]! You have a "friend" for two decades and you don't want to tell him the hatchet wound he munches on has been slayed by Mandingo?
Travis, I'm twice your age and I've played all three MALE parts in this little drama at one time or the other.I've been in OKOK's shoes, his buddy's shoes, and I've been the guy across the table from the wife.I've played some of 'em more than once.
In EVERY instance the husband came out ahead when the buddy kept his info and suspicion [that's all OKOK has at this point] of infidelity to himself.
An old Black friend gave me this advice when I was pondering what to do about a situation similar to this, one time.It costs you what it cost me:
"Travis, ask yourself this question; Do I REALLY need any more complications in my life RIGHT NOW"?
It is not as big of a deal as some would like to make it out to be. I have been in the situation too, I told by buddy left it up to him to deal with, he chose to be a dumbass and continue on with the relationship until he couldn't deny it anymore. At that point he called me and I helped him move his schit out of the house. No drama on my end and he knows I was a true friend.
Just tell the guy and leave it at that, he can do with it what he wants.
The difference between "satisfied" and "contented."
Anybody know???
Well, I'll tell ya.
If you were satisfied that your woman was steppin out on ya, would you be contented??
Personally, I would stay out of it. Years ago I told my best friends wife about him carryin' on with a gal and they both hated me. She said ignorance was bliss and had I not told her she would have never known. So I was the villain. Let them sort it out.
The difference between "satisfied" and "contented."
Anybody know???
Well, I'll tell ya.
If you were satisfied that your woman was steppin out on ya, would you be contented??
Personally, I would stay out of it. Years ago I told my best friends wife about him carryin' on with a gal and they both hated me. She said ignorance was bliss and had I not told her she would have never known. So I was the villain. Let them sort it out.
Travis, I'm twice your age and I've played all three MALE parts in this little drama at one time or the other.I've been in OKOK's shoes, his buddy's shoes, and I've been the guy across the table from the wife.I've played some of 'em more than once.
In EVERY instance the husband came out ahead when the buddy kept his info and suspicion [that's all OKOK has at this point] of infidelity to himself.
An old Black friend gave me this advice when I was pondering what to do about a situation similar to this, one time.It costs you what it cost me:
"Travis, ask yourself this question; Do I REALLY need any more complications in my life RIGHT NOW"?
I could give two [bleep] what complications a guy could handle in his life "right now." If a chick you are committed to is sweet on another cock, you want that information. And if you don't? You are a [bleep] chump and do not rate my friendship.
18 years?!?! Holy [bleep]! You have a "friend" for two decades and you don't want to tell him the hatchet wound he munches on has been slayed by Mandingo?
How do you come up with this..? It's like a "Gift", you should write for Hallmark...have your own line of GFY cards...
Travis, I'm twice your age and I've played all three MALE parts in this little drama at one time or the other.I've been in OKOK's shoes, his buddy's shoes, and I've been the guy across the table from the wife.I've played some of 'em more than once.
In EVERY instance the husband came out ahead when the buddy kept his info and suspicion [that's all OKOK has at this point] of infidelity to himself.
An old Black friend gave me this advice when I was pondering what to do about a situation similar to this, one time.It costs you what it cost me:
"Travis, ask yourself this question; Do I REALLY need any more complications in my life RIGHT NOW"?
I'll add this ...
I had a bud in high school tell me that he saw my GF making out with a guy at work. I broke up with her was glad that he told me.
I was staying with acquaintances, not friends, and caught wind of the wife cheating. I kept my mouth shut and AFAIK they stayed together for years after that.
If I found out one of my best friend's spouses were cheating, I'd confront her. I was best man at both of their weddings and their wives are my best friends too ... just in a different way.
So ... I have difficult time determining what's the best way to go.
Travis, I'm twice your age and I've played all three MALE parts in this little drama at one time or the other.I've been in OKOK's shoes, his buddy's shoes, and I've been the guy across the table from the wife.I've played some of 'em more than once.
In EVERY instance the husband came out ahead when the buddy kept his info and suspicion [that's all OKOK has at this point] of infidelity to himself.
An old Black friend gave me this advice when I was pondering what to do about a situation similar to this, one time.It costs you what it cost me:
"Travis, ask yourself this question; Do I REALLY need any more complications in my life RIGHT NOW"?
I could give two [bleep] what complications a guy could handle in his life "right now." If a chick you are committed to is sweet on another cock, you want that information. And if you don't? You are a [bleep] chump and do not rate my friendship.
Travis
Exactly 1000% right..
Taking the easy way out is the "I don't want the complication" because it is easy for them. And therefore they are not a true friend. They will always do what is easiest and most convenient for them, and not doing what is right.
My true friends in my life, I would walk through fire for them And I have. And they have for me.
18 years?!?! Holy [bleep]! You have a "friend" for two decades and you don't want to tell him the hatchet wound he munches on has been slayed by Mandingo?
How do you come up with this..? It's like a "Gift", you should write for Hallmark...have your own line of GFY cards...
That is it! This is how you should tell him.
Give him a card that says "sorry the hatchet wound you have been munching on has been slayed by Mandingo." Just place it on the counter before you leave.
Haven't laughed that hard in awhile!
Nothing like some bullschit like this to ruin a perfectly good fishing trip! Good luck!
"Years ago I told my best friends wife about him carryin' on with a gal".
DAMN........... just DAMN.
That's something I couldn't do. I've been blackmailing one of my best buds for over thirty years with my knowledge of his infidelities ... prior to when they got married.
OKOK....Tell him ASAP. Don't say a thing to the cheating woman. This way your buddy has the opportunity to clean out all the bank accounts first. Seriously.
I say tell him asap, so he has time to come up with a plan. No sense in letting her know anything. Give the guy a chance to come out as much of a winner as possible. The deck is already stacked against him in any divorce.
Doesn't he have her flight number and arrival time?
That would be a pretty good trick for her to get in and out of security unless she goes through the trouble of buying another ticket passin through security,and then just coming out with the folks that was on the plane she was supposed to be on.
Maybe your friend should wait right out side the security gate at the airport and see where it goes from there.
Travis' influence is changing my thoughts on this subject.
okok,
Don't be shy ....
Tell your buddy that he needs to double up on johnnies before he taps that bish again and don't kiss her unless he wants somebody else's c*** drool in his mouth.
If he's one of your best buds and you don't tell him, you should get your azz kicked. What the hell kind of friends do people have out there that aren't looking out for them?
I'd suggest playing it off a bit. Make him think it's no big deal. He'll have enough on his plate without you making him feel further humiliated.
You did ask for advise OKOK, sucks to be you...sometimes there are no good choices...and sometimetime the best choice is to sit back and be there in the end, and sometimes there's no ending...it's a never ending river...Oh the Drama
Doesn't he have her flight number and arrival time?
That would be a pretty good trick for her to get in and out of security unless she goes through the trouble of buying another ticket passin through security,and then just coming out with the folks that was on the plane she was supposed to be on.
Maybe your friend should wait right out side the security gate at the airport and see where it goes from there.
if he goes to the ticket counter they will issue a gate pass that will allow you through security, all he has to say is he would like to assist his wife upon her arrival, he goes to the gate and when she doesn't get off the plane he has proof.
Personally, I think you need to confront her first. Tell her you saw her, where, and what you thought you witnessed. There MAY be a valid reason/excuse. You don't want to accuse falsely or ruin a marriage or a friendship over something that MAY be innocent. Either way, it won't be easy.
I asked the Princess what OKOK should do. She said that it is mistaken identidy, women aren't that stupid.
Unless she's a woman that "wants" to get caught.
Either way, the buddy needs to know about it. Like someone else said I would approach it carefully and just say "I have something to tell you and there may be a very good explanation for this but this is what I saw...." Let him take it from there with the passport checks etc.
Dude, if this is a real close friend, keep his personal schitt out of here.
I'd punch my buddy in the nose if he didn't tell me my old lady was messing around but I'd kick him in the balls if he aired my personal schitt all over the country.
mind your own frequin business,stay the hell out of it's not your problem. find some place else to stay. I don't know why some people are so intent on telling someone of such things.
mind your own frequin business,stay the hell out of it's not your problem. find some place else to stay. I don't know why some people are so intent on telling someone of such things.
Travis? Care to explain?
Aw [bleep] it. I'll do it.
If you have a good true friend, the last thing you want is to see them screwed over and made a fool of. If your wife was screwing around behind your back would you want your best buddy to keep it quiet from you or would you want him to tell you? If you found out a year later on your own and then hear your buddy knew about it for a year would you thank him for not telling you or would you be pissed that you had hundreds of conversations and he did not bring it up once?
Dude, if this is a real close friend, keep his personal schitt out of here.
I'd punch my buddy in the nose if he didn't tell me my old lady was messing around but I'd kick him in the balls if he aired my personal schitt all over the country.
You need to shut the fck up, he doesn't know anyone here and is not a member...so shut your pie hole old man.
So your buddy is picking up his wife at the airport tomorrow and her car isn't at home?
Weird
I recall suggestions for the bud to pick her up, but don't recall ever seeing it said that he was planning to, so I'm not sure this is a contradiction yet.
As my Dad used to say, "Doing what is right isn't always easy, but it is always right."
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Flying [bleep], why would you give some bittch who is [bleep] your buddy over anything? Sometimes doing the right thing ain't easy, but it's always right.
Tell him, for sure. If you don't you're the bad guy when he finds out anyway. Just let her hang herself first, as in meeting her at the airport/gate, looking at her passport, etc. There is the chance she has a reason for being home early, and you'll feel better knowing what it is, rather than hating her for the rest of eternity.
When I entered the store, there is a Peets Coffee cafe, low an behold I see Leslie and some other dude being all lovey dovey They both had their elbows on the table, both leaning over about 6" apart. I'm just SHOCKED!
I thought they had a really good marriage??
That is one hell of a blow for your buddy! Are you POSITIVE it was her?
Someday, sometime, somehow, even if you don't tell him, he is going to find out and eventually, somehow he'll find out that you knew. It always happens! What is hidden always comes to the light of truth no matter what we do or don't do. If it were me, I would want to know about it. Go decide!
When I entered the store, there is a Peets Coffee cafe, low an behold I see Leslie and some other dude being all lovey dovey They both had their elbows on the table, both leaning over about 6" apart. I'm just SHOCKED!
I thought they had a really good marriage??
That is one hell of a blow for your buddy! Are you POSITIVE it was her?
I recall suggestions for the bud to pick her up, but don't recall ever seeing it said that he was planning to, so I'm not sure this is a contradiction yet.
First post of the thread stated that his buddy is planning on picking up the wife at the airport
Originally Posted by okok
She was suppose to arrive tomorrow,infact my bud is suppose to pick her up at the airport.
Seems weird that she's in town driving her car around if she's supposedly overseas
You said you say her car at the store. I would just tell you buddy, "Dude, it was the weirdest thing. I was at the store yesterday and I saw ****** car at the store yesterday." and leave it at that.
Im going to relate 2 incidences that have happend to me in the last 3 or 4 years.
In early 2010 I suspected my wife of cheating. Things were just not adding up. She was scretive of her e mails, txts, and phone calls. We would be driving some place and her phone would ring and she was ignore it "oh Ill call them back ect". I started snooping and found some gas recipits from a town about 30 miles away, things were JUST not adding up. I was asking pointed questions and getting vauge answers. I could not fathom this and going out of my mind. Finally I blew up about it when me and a buddy were sitting at our regular place having a couple beers. He looked me square in the eye said, put your beer down and be calm.(All I could think about was this is going to be bad for EVERYONE involved). Bryan Spilled his GUTS,,, UM yeah the wife was planning a hugely elaborate 40th suprise party for me. There were a total of 75 family and friends some came from WI, NY and Canada. it was a 1940's theam with everyone dressed up on board WWII Navy LST. I had to promise my friend I would not TELL anyone, it would be our secret.
Second story, I was in the place of the wife in the OPs story. This was just earlier this summer. I was sitting in a little local tavern across from a little blonde number. I was giddy as a school kid, we were laughing, leaning in close to talk, we touched hands now and then as well. WELL someone at the bar apparently though we were "lovey-dovey". I found out later that it was a bar back taht works at both places(they are owned by the same family) The blonde and I were at this particular place becasue they have Guinness on tap(her favorite) which our regular place does not have. Word got back to a bartender friend at the other place and he poped off to some friends of ours. In the end it was a bunch of big drama if they were going to tell my wife or not. The person I was with was a close friend from high school that lives in WI and was in town for a nusing conference. We had not seen eachother in person in almost 7 years. She has known my wife since before we got married.
Sorry for the long stories but Im just trying to point out that things are NOT alwasy what they seem.
Dude, if this is a real close friend, keep his personal schitt out of here.
I'd punch my buddy in the nose if he didn't tell me my old lady was messing around but I'd kick him in the balls if he aired my personal schitt all over the country.
You need to shut the fck up, he doesn't know anyone here and is not a member...so shut your pie hole old man.
I enough respect and loyalty for my friends to not air their dirty laundry all over the internet. Whether anyone knows them or not.
Of course my definition of a friend may be different than others.
A friend for me will come pick me up if I'm broke down 100 miles away at 2 am without bitching about it or come running into an alley to help me fight against 5 brothas because he has more loyalty than brains.
Everyone else is just an acquaintance and their personal affairs are their business.
The difference between "satisfied" and "contented."
Anybody know???
Well, I'll tell ya.
If you were satisfied that your woman was steppin out on ya, would you be contented??
Personally, I would stay out of it. Years ago I told my best friends wife about him carryin' on with a gal and they both hated me. She said ignorance was bliss and had I not told her she would have never known. So I was the villain. Let them sort it out.
Dear Travis,
But see....... this where involving yourself in other folk's romances can lead you to.
I honestly have never known a guy to do this. And I've known my share of azzholes.
I ain't gonna lay it off to being a "Montana thing" since I've been up there a couple of times.
Of course, I was around ranchers and hunters and felt right at home.
But............ it ain't the sort of thing I've ever done, and I wouldn't expect it from Bristoe.
Age doesn't equal wisdom. especially in cases like this.
yes old guys know more about mechanics, wood working well drilling and things like that, but just because someone is crotchety and doesn't want any ripples in their little pond, doesn't mean they are "wise". means they have few friends and just like to be left alone.
based on my experience the wife wants you to keep your trap shut, so does the "other guy" so what does that tell you? if I was your friend I would kick your ass for not telling me yesterday.
Amen. That's a conundrum I wouldn't want to have to solve.
Try looking at it like this, okok. If you and your buddy reversed roles, what would you want him to do?
That's the first thing that came to my mind, I would want to know. I don't know if she even went to the UK? Maybe a co worker? THIS SUCKS!
No doubt your position sucks. If it helps you any - if I was your buddy and it was my wife you saw with another man, I'd damn sure want to know.
11-12 years ago I saw my girlfriend driving through town with some guy in her passenger seat. The passenger seat of the vehicle that I put gas in on occasion, the vehicle washed for her and changed the oil in. When I caught up to her you can bet your azz that I confronted her. She, of course, feigned innocence, claiming it was just a lunch date. She was stunned a little while later when I broke up with her for good.
It sucks having to rock your bud's world, but IMHO, he needs to know.
Hope you had more evidence... wouldn't bother me in the least if she was driving through town with a gal or guy with her. We have lots of friends and lots of work aquaintenances. She did get a call right quick one day when Mary picked me up from the auto shop when I dropped Moms car off... And thats all it was.
Funny how folks can assume things at times.
And I'm not saying you were wrong, just that seeing another in a car with someone doesn't initially mean a damn thing at all.
"No question, I would tell him and then get out of it"
I have very few close friends, but I am certain that each one of them knows that I would want to know asap, as well as the fact that I would tell them asap. If someone I thought was my "best bud" didn't tell me, I suspect he'd had a sample at some point as well. Either way, he would not be a friend any longer.
I gotta go into town for supplies. If an emergency request for advice comes into the "Dear Travis" thread, and he remains absent, well.......... you just need to woman up and give it to 'em.
I gotta go into town for supplies. If an emergency request for advice comes into the "Dear Travis" thread, and he remains absent, well.......... you just need to woman up and give it to 'em.
Get in touch with your "feminine side" first.
Yeah, I'll do it!
I'm willing to man up, get in touch with my feminine side and dish out some heartfelt advice.
This thread is not without redeeming social value. We learned one member ratted out his best friend, and another member kicked his best friend's ass and scolded the girlfriend, thereby saving the marriage.
Guilty of the first count but I plead for a fifth on the reason why.
And I learned from my experience, as a few years later, I caught another friends wife in the act, not only once, but twice. I said not a word and to this day, they seem to be as happily married as any couple could be.
Some say "ignorance is bliss;" I say "ignorance is ignorance" and mind my own business. Probably gonna live longer that way.
This thread is not without redeeming social value. We learned one member ratted out his best friend, and another member kicked his best friend's ass and scolded the girlfriend, thereby saving the marriage.
Well that and there is wife-swapping to be had in Utah.
I am afraid Wageslave is destroying his life boinking fat girls and midgets. I fear the next time he catches AIDS he will not be able to get over it. What should we do?
I am afraid Wageslave is destroying his life boinking fat girls and midgets. I fear the next time he catches AIDS he will not be able to get over it. What should we do?
This thread is not without redeeming social value. We learned one member ratted out his best friend, and another member kicked his best friend's ass and scolded the girlfriend, thereby saving the marriage.
Well that and there is wife-swapping to be had in Utah.
Them Mormons can be a frisky lot !
Wish I could convince my wife of that, well, not really, but you know.
I am afraid Wageslave is destroying his life boinking fat girls and midgets. I fear the next time he catches AIDS he will not be able to get over it. What should we do?
Good........... maybe I'll get to finally [virtually] wear the suit I [virtually] bought to [virtually] go to his [virtual] funeral when he [virtually] died the last time.
Well I just got back home, this thread had me in tears...you guys are a riot Last night me and my buddy went and had chinese food, I sorta wanted to break the ice. I took someones advice about telling him that I saw someone who looked just like Leslie at freddies. I didn't mention anything about the other dude, I was waiting for this morning.
I'm glad I didn't, and you will see why. When we got home he said he was going to skype (sp)? Leslie...early a.m in the UK.Well I saw her picture when he was talking to her, so it wasn't fake or anything..she said her flight was leaving in four hours with a stop in Minneapolis and then Portland.
I'm not familiar with skype, can the other person tell where you're at? Like a different country? I'm pretty sure it was a case of mistaken Idenity on my part. All along I thought to myself that she wasn't the type of Lady to do this. I'm so glad I didn't have to tell him,especially since it wasn't true. Sorry I didn't have more juicy stuff to add
I stopped at the Cabellas in Olympia, the gun section was pretty bare. They did have most ammo available, with the exception of .223
Well I just got back home, this thread had me in tears...you guys are a riot Last night me and my buddy went and had chinese food, I sorta wanted to break the ice. I took someones advice about telling him that I saw someone who looked just like Leslie at freddies. I didn't mention anything about the other dude, I was waiting for this morning.
I'm glad I didn't, and you will see why. When we got home he said he was going to skype (sp)? Leslie...early a.m in the UK.Well I saw her picture when he was talking to her, so it wasn't fake or anything..she said her flight was leaving in four hours with a stop in Minneapolis and then Portland.
I'm not familiar with skype, can the other person tell where you're at? Like a different country? I'm pretty sure it was a case of mistaken Idenity on my part. All along I thought to myself that she wasn't the type of Lady to do this. I'm so glad I didn't have to tell him,especially since it wasn't true. Sorry I didn't have more juicy stuff to add
I stopped at the Cabellas in Olympia, the gun section was pretty bare. They did have most ammo available, with the exception of .223
Glad everything worked out for the best. Sounds like you handled it in the best way possible.
You can skype anywhere you have a PC set up with a camera. I don't think skype cares where you are as long as you log in, I don't see any way you'd know whether they were in the next room or around the globe.
You can skype anywhere you have a PC set up with a camera. I don't think skype cares where you are as long as you log in, I don't see any way you'd know whether they were in the next room or around the globe.
She called the house and told my bud to meet her on skype, I'm sure her number was displayed on his phone?
They were just hatchery cookie cutters..after catching a thousand of these fish over 30 years, they don't turn my crank. The Native big bruisers are now just getting started, I will usaully take a pic if they're over 15-17 pounds.
You can skype anywhere you have a PC set up with a camera. I don't think skype cares where you are as long as you log in, I don't see any way you'd know whether they were in the next room or around the globe.
She called the house and told my bud to meet her on skype, I'm sure her number was displayed on his phone?
she don't have a cell phone?
Also why would her car be at Freddies but your buddy was going to pick her up, wouldn't her car be home?
Her car was in the local store parking lot and an exact lookalike of her in the coffee shop , but her body was in u.k.?
Either okok is an epic Bullschitter (my bet) or he's such a selfish bastard that he'd rather let his best buddy's wife screw around on him than loose a good fishin' spot. Either way that's big-time POS material right there!!!
I think The_Real_Hawkeye has just found some real competition for this year's 24 Hour Campfire Drama Queen award....
What's with all the spiteful recrimination of the OP? The title of the thread is 'UNREAL........' Everybody responding was forewarned that it was a fiction in bold caps. BigStick was right again. Reading comprehension is a lost art on the [bleep]'s CF.
Her car was in the local store parking lot and an exact lookalike of her in the coffee shop , but her body was in u.k.?
Either okok is an epic Bullschitter (my bet) or he's such a selfish bastard that he'd rather let his best buddy's wife screw around on him than loose a good fishin' spot. Either way that's big-time POS material right there!!!
I think The_Real_Hawkeye has just found some real competition for this year's 24 Hour Campfire Drama Queen award....
If I were him, I'd be cool... pick her up at the airport as planned, ask her about the trip, etc., and then later check her passport for the UK entry/exit stamps. If there's nothing there, you know what's up.
Eric
I don't think there are stamps anymore. I think they are scanned, microchip thing now.
I am not Dr. Travis but if he were here he would tell you to bang Leslie, the made up slut. Oh yeah, since okok made her up, she likes it up the azz. okok seems preoccupied with that.
....he's such a selfish bastard that he'd rather let his best buddy's wife screw around on him than loose a good fishin' spot.
Now THAT is an interesting rhetorical question....
OK, we all said tell your buddy, but what if there were some fishing hole/deer hunting/dove hunting spot whatever that you would LOSE ACCESS to if your Buddy split up with his wife?
This makes everything different.
I say, what the heck, what my buddy doesn't know aint gonna hurt him
OK, we all said tell your buddy, but what if there were some fishing hole/deer hunting/dove hunting spot whatever that you would LOSE ACCESS to if your Buddy split up with his wife?
Sir, you fergot to include the " " when you quoted me.
Anyhoo... POS? Hey, friends come and go but good hunting spots are eternal.
Since this is all rhetorical anyway, howabout if the friend's wife, instead of canoodling with some random guy, were in fact in that cafe cavorting with an entire visiting Algerian soccer team AND a guy in a clown suit?
....he's such a selfish bastard that he'd rather let his best buddy's wife screw around on him than loose a good fishin' spot.
Now THAT is an interesting rhetorical question....
OK, we all said tell your buddy, but what if there were some fishing hole/deer hunting/dove hunting spot whatever that you would LOSE ACCESS to if your Buddy split up with his wife?
This makes everything different.
I say, what the heck, what my buddy doesn't know aint gonna hurt him
Birdwatcher
Mike, yer a guy after me own heart... LOL!
I saw this thread minutes after the OP was posted, and thought to meself, "Hmmmm... this smells like a fish story to me..." I'm glad I had too much to do over the w/e to follow it all the way.
Anyways, so far you an' Bristoe have the only posts that I agree with. Except for Miss Lynn and Travis bein' so darn sexy, of course...
I don't see the big deal in a guy concocting a fabricated story that gets everyone riled up and in the end nobody gets hurt ... other than a few feelers. It was an epic internet CF version of "You just got punk'd".
I don't see the big deal in a guy concocting a fabricated story that gets everyone riled up and in the end nobody gets hurt ... other than a few feelers. It was an epic internet CF version of "You just got punk'd".
Don't you guys have a sense of humor?
lol. what a skirt............... ok, he is a 'baby fat, drama queen' aka, a packer fan. lol
I don't see the big deal in a guy concocting a fabricated story that gets everyone riled up and in the end nobody gets hurt ... other than a few feelers. It was an epic internet CF version of "You just got punk'd".
Don't you guys have a sense of humor?
No argument from me on this one! I've had no end of amusement this morning from this thread.
I don't see the big deal in a guy concocting a fabricated story that gets everyone riled up and in the end nobody gets hurt ... other than a few feelers. It was an epic internet CF version of "You just got punk'd".
Don't you guys have a sense of humor?
But..but.. but Travis REALLY don't like us anymore.
Which begs this question; ....... who did Ann Landers go to with HER problems?
I don't see the big deal in a guy concocting a fabricated story that gets everyone riled up and in the end nobody gets hurt ... other than a few feelers. It was an epic internet CF version of "You just got punk'd".
Don't you guys have a sense of humor?
But..but.. but Travis REALLY don't like us anymore.
Which begs this question; ....... who did Ann Landers go to with HER problems?
What makes you guys think I don't like you any more?
But me an' Travis have an understanding. The kind of understanding that comes from workin' in small towns on the northern plains for too many winters... the kind of experience that makes you look at sheep and chubby native chicks with a whole new appreciation...
But me an' Travis have an understanding. The kind of understanding that comes from workin' in small towns on the northern plains for too many winters... the kind of experience that makes you look at sheep and chubby native chicks with a whole new appreciation...
Precisely.
And if your friend's ewe is [bleep] the ram you have the decency to tell him. Hypothetical or not.
But me an' Travis have an understanding. The kind of understanding that comes from workin' in small towns on the northern plains for too many winters... the kind of experience that makes you look at sheep and chubby native chicks with a whole new appreciation...
Precisely.
And if your friend's ewe is [bleep] another ram you have the decency to tell him. Hypothetical or not.
But me an' Travis have an understanding. The kind of understanding that comes from workin' in small towns on the northern plains for too many winters... the kind of experience that makes you look at sheep and chubby native chicks with a whole new appreciation...
Precisely.
And if your friend's ewe is [bleep] the ram you have the decency to tell him. Hypothetical or not.
That's a sick and disgusting thing to say. I am shocked. Shocked, and appalled! And deeply, deeply disappointed...
At least it wasn't ram on ram. After this thread I'm pretty sure there's a pretty large ramo y ramo contingent here on the fire. Scary but not altogether unexpected.
That's a sick and disgusting thing to say. I am shocked. Shocked, and appalled! And deeply, deeply disappointed...
At least it wasn't ram on ram. After this thread I'm pretty sure there's a pretty large ramo y ramo contingent here on the fire. Scary but not altogether unexpected.
After this thread?
Dude, you're apparently overdue fer yer gay-dar booster shot...
I'm down in Oregon Steelheading for the last 10 days at my best Buds house. He has to work during the day, so I'm mainly fishing and playing with the Dogs. My best buds wife is in the UK on a business trip, so I thought
Here is where it gets slimey...I had to make a trip to Fred Meyers (sort of like a Target store) to pick up some Molley screws. When I entered the store, there is a Peets Coffee cafe, low an behold I see Leslie and some other dude being all lovey dovey They both had their elbows on the table, both leaning over about 6" apart. I'm just SHOCKED!
I thought they had a really good marriage??
I feel physically sick to my stomach, and don't know what to do? She was suppose to arrive tomorrow,infact my bud is suppose to pick her up at the airport. I'm almost 99% sure that she didn't see me. I sat in my truck for several minutes comptanplating to go and introduce myself...but chicken out.
Now I don't know what the hel! to do? Should I tell him? or pretend nothing happened. I'm leaning towards telling him, that won't be easy to do. They have been married for close to 20 years, no kids.
Any advice would be very helpful. GDTFH!!
Make sure to pre-drill holes for the molly screws.
so given the circumstances, had OKOK taken the advice of many here,
1. his friend would have punched him in the mouth for saying his wife was a whore
2. his friend would have accused his wife of cheating, she would be pissed, hurt, and then proved she didn't. She'd also probably tell her husband not to let his [bleep] friend come back.
and then OKOK would have got punched in the mouth.
here is what I've learned - maybe a friend should tell another friend - assuming he has good vision - what he saw, or maybe he should just keep his mouth shut and mind his own damn business
but either way - asking for advice on the internet is going to result in many people telling you to do whatever creates the most drama, and in turn, the best entertainment they will have all day. To think they have your best interest in mind will always be overruled with the "I'm bored, let me start some chit on the internet". The dead giveaway is when they say something like "by god this is what I'd do if I were you and you're a pussy if you don't" and then they follow up with "come back here after you do it and tell us what happened!"
The words of Percy Sledge ring true
When A Man Loves A Woman by Percy Sledge
When a man loves a woman Can't keep his mind on nothing else He'll trade the world For the good thing he's found If she's bad he can't see it She can do no wrong Turn his back on his best friend If he put her down
When a man loves a woman Spend his very last dime Tryin' to hold on to what he needs He'd give up all his comfort Sleep out in the rain If she said that's the way it ought to be
Well, this man loves a woman I gave you everything I had Tryin' to hold on to your precious love Baby, please don't treat me bad
When a man loves a woman Down deep in his soul She can bring him such misery If she plays him for a fool He's the last one to know Lovin' eyes can't ever see
I don't see the big deal in a guy concocting a fabricated story that gets everyone riled up and in the end nobody gets hurt ... other than a few feelers. It was an epic internet CF version of "You just got punk'd".
Don't you guys have a sense of humor?
No argument from me on this one! I've had no end of amusement this morning from this thread.
Yep, some people/religions/groups have to have an enemy. Sometimes they rotate their enemies every few months, or even longer. I've seen guys spew hatred and backstabbing towards one single person for a while, then change to a different person and actually "like" the first guy...until something causes them to rotate enemies again. They don't even know they do it. Maybe their mothers were hookers and they feel shame for some reason; so they feel the need to push their hurt onto others, and thus make themselves feel "big".
On the other hand, some may strongly disagree with what someone else did or said but does not discount them as worthless humans and can later find reason to associate with or agree with.
okok's prodigal Leslie is for real. In fact, Leslie was recently reported in flagrante mudsharkum criso delicto in a demo garden shed at a SC Home Depot.
okok's prodigal Leslie is for real. In fact, Leslie was recently reported in flagrante mudsharkum criso delicto in a demo garden shed at a SC Home Depot.
I'm down in Oregon Steelheading for the last 10 days at my best Buds house. He has to work during the day, so I'm mainly fishing and playing with the Dogs. My best buds wife is in the UK on a business trip, so I thought
Here is where it gets slimey...I had to make a trip to Fred Meyers (sort of like a Target store) to pick up some Molley screws. When I entered the store, there is a Peets Coffee cafe, low an behold I see Leslie and some other dude being all lovey dovey They both had their elbows on the table, both leaning over about 6" apart. I'm just SHOCKED!
I thought they had a really good marriage??
I feel physically sick to my stomach, and don't know what to do? She was suppose to arrive tomorrow,infact my bud is suppose to pick her up at the airport. I'm almost 99% sure that she didn't see me. I sat in my truck for several minutes comptanplating to go and introduce myself...but chicken out.
Now I don't know what the hel! to do? Should I tell him? or pretend nothing happened. I'm leaning towards telling him, that won't be easy to do. They have been married for close to 20 years, no kids.
I couldn't remember if this was a fig-newton of someones imagination severely diluted with alcoholic beverages or not.
Gunner
I can easily give a man a pass for being shatfaced and posting garbage. Hell, I do it alla' time. What I can't abide is a shameless liar posting pathetic fantasy dilemmas. Someone ask OkeyDokeyArtichokey to post up a pic of himself, doing *anything*, *anywhere* from *anytime*. I dare ya!
If I had knowledge of my pard cheating I would take it with me to my grave. If I had knowledge of his wife cheating he would know about it with an offer to help in any way I could.
I love my best friend's wife and kids like they are my own and would do anything for them. That said, he was my friend before his wife came along and will continue to be if they ever split. I'll still go to hell-and-back for the kids regardless.....
okok, after reading through this entire [bleep] thread, I feel compelled to tell you that I've been doing your ole lady. I mean, like, doing her hard. Real hard. Unless, your story is actually true (which I doubt), in which case I have not been doing your ole lady. But, if it's not true, I've been spanking that ass and making her call me rancho loco. Sorry dude, it is what it is. Hopefully one of your best buds will clue you in.
And by the way, other than making a decent play on an underthrown ball, Sherman had a completely unspectacular game. [bleep] the seahawks!
I'm not going to read the whole thread but I'm going to tell you what happened to a friend of mine in a similar situation. He saw his buddy's wife cheating on him and told his buddy. He was actually pretty good friends with both the husband and the wife. So, of course, he lost one friend because the wife immediately hated him. Then, after several months, husband and wife reconciled and soon, husband wouldn't talk to my friend either. So, he lost two friends over the deal and gained nothing...not even gratitude for telling his friend.
Just make sure your bro doesn't do something counterproductive like shoot them both or beat the shixt out of somebody. Stuff like this takes a cool head to prevail and violence ain't the answer.
Ocock is nothing more than a pussy, never has posted a photo of anything he has killed or caught or of himself. nothing more than a coward. i know there are a couple of people on this forum that know his contact info and local. i wish they would forward it.