Home Forums Hunting & Shooting Hunter's Campfire UNREAL.....Advice needed ASAP.

Post his phone number and WE'LL TELL HIM.

Agree - would have put you in a better place (maybe the only good place, right now) and placed the "explanatory" onus on her.

u need to say nothing ....take him to look at the tapes/cam footage........

Tell your friend you'll probably lose a friend but you'll walk away with a clear conscience.

I saw her car in the parking lot,definatly not an open relationship.

Here is how the story goes by telling the wife first. She very well could've gone to the UK for legitimate business and told the best bud that her trip was a day or 2 longer than it actually was. Then okok sees her and confronts her. She tells best bud she came home early and okok made a move on her and now he is making up this story...or a thousand different ways...

Whore is right....I'm getting more pissed as time goes on...that BIT!H got me involved in this mess.

Don't ever think you mean more to your friend than his wife.

u said it! ......maybe "he knows"....and they are not sharing with u. if u really are buds...u would talk .... i've shared many a tale in a fox hole.

boy that is TRUE.

He's very level headed, I'm leaving tomorrow, so I think I'm going to tell him at breakfast.

Skipping ahead, because who wants to read all this crap, I'd seize a private moment to tell her "I could have sworn I saw you at (whatever the place was) yesterday. Who was your friend?"
My next move would depend on her.

If not that, I'd stay out of it.

Good point!

Yeah, I like ScottTs approach and then let your buddy take it from there. Plane tickets, reservations, credit card receipts, phone records. I mean everything is easily verified nowadays even by a complete moron once you get the heads up that somethings amiss. It sounds pretty desperate for your friend but for his sake you gotta hope there is some explanation you overlooked. I would not like to be in his shoes....

Just remember that by not talking to her directly at the time, that is just your take on the situation, that it was in fact even her to begin with. Regadless of how certain you are it was her.

YES, I saw her car in the parking lot.

Do what you think is best. I don't have a problem with it.




I hope all goes well for and your friend. Let us know what happened ... you can't start story and not finish it.

the sooner you tell him the better it will be.
if you wait til breakfast, good luck sleeping tonight.

Well there is another side. I once was in this position and I told my friend, I thought for sure he'd send her packing. But he didn't, and instead he swallowed his pride. Well the fact that I knew he couldn't man up made it unbearable for him to be around me, so it wasn't him and his wife that went separate ways. [/quote]

Same experiance here. We still see each other semi-regularly though because of mutual friends. I don't regret it, I would want a friend to tell me. He's not mad at me for telling him, He's just ashamed, or atleast thats the vibe I get when I'm around him. Luckly my betterhalf is very cool and doesn't gossip/bicker like alot of females, this makes her kind of a buffer at social functions. This is what I did and I'd do it again, my only advice is to choose my words carefully when talking with him ( goodluck getting alot of sleep tonight with this conversation rolling around in your head). FWIW, when I saw my buddies wife she bouncing ontop of a bass player, what you saw sounded a little bit milder.

I did not read all the replies, but I had a very similar situation happen 20 years ago involving my best friends wife. In fact, I was the best man in their wedding. Long story short, I saw her in a bar clear across town from where they lived making out with some guy in a booth.

I just walked up to the table, looked her straight in the eyes and asked, "are you going to tell him or am I?" She told him the next night and they divorced shortly thereafter.

Mike